Staying home from Christmas Eve dinner to prove a point!

[Kimbers Mommy]

MERRY CHRISTMAS ALL!
I don't know if you remember my post a few weeks ago asking if I were overprotective or not. It seems the past couple days have been like "pass the puppy" and I feel horrible for my baby.

Anyway - last time my mothers side of the family was over, they were tormenting the puppy. One of my aunts let her lick cake off her plate and then theya ll laughed at me when I got angry about it. They wanted her to jump off places she shouldn't, etc.,etc.,etc.

SO TONIGHT is a dinner for that side of the family. My aunt actually called here saying two of my cousins hadn't seen the puppy yet and to make sure that I brought her. I was going to go to the dinner, leave my baby at home to make sure she would be okay. I knew they might bug me for not taking her - but after that phone call, I defnitely knew they would not drop it. My mom was on the phone with her and I said "NO I AM NOT BRINGING HER" and my mom would say to my aunt "OHHH OKAY I'LL TELL HER TO BRING HER" like she's not a TOY! If I brought her, she would want to sit with me - b/c she's never been to this house before, but then I woul dbe mean for not letting anyone hold her. I know that they would let her eat their food and maybe even step on her (there would probably be about 40 people there)

So I am not going. I think my mom understands, as after the last time I was so upset with the way they acted. My older sister has a rottie - when he was a puppy, did they get mad if she didn't bring him around? NO! My baby is not a toy and I am standing my ground tonight (even though it sucks I'm missing a family dinner)... but I gues sif that's what it takes, I have to.

[Amber_lv]

I don't blame you at all they don't understand how fragile these babies can be! Good for you for sticking it out!

[Rae Rae]

I'm sorry to hear that your family is still acting like she's a toy. I wouldn't want to bring my puppy if my family was like that either. How come you still won't go and leave the puppy at home for a couple hours though? That way if you go and they say "Where's the puppy" you can say exactly why you didn't bring her.

[Kimbers Mommy]

I don't really know how to describe the harassment if I don't take her. These people seem to be totally stupid when it comes to small dogs. When they were here last time I finally picked up Miss Kimber and went into the living room so they would leave her be. They then proceeded to tell me how I was too overprotective and I shouldn't be that way.

Last time two of my cousins (who are like 15 - not that young) wanted to dress her up. My mom actually brought her clothes to them and I had to freak out to get them to leave my pup alone and then all I heard about was how overprotective I was.

I don't want to deal with their harassment tonight I guess.

[pepe mint]

Good for you!! I would not take my baby either. I just got my first yorkie pup and have waited for many many years to get her. There is no way I would let people do that to her. I'm glad you are standing your ground and if they ask why you are not there, just tell them. I would make sure they understood how you felt about it because I am sure you don't want to avoid every dinner they have frome here on out.

Hope things get better

Mandee

[abbie's mom]

Originally Posted by Kimbers Mommy

I don't want to deal with their harassment tonight I guess.

Then, don't. It is a shame to be pushed to making a choice between family time and the safety of a pet who depends on you for her safe-keeping. But, sometimes life just hands us situations that demand those decisions. If / when asked why you would miss a family function "over a dog", smile sweetly and say - "Welllll.....I don't have the $$$ for vet bills should she be stepped on, dropped, or be overly-stressed. Do you? When the family learns to treat her like the living creature she is, and will respect my judgments concerning her - then, maybe we all can enjoy her."

[rox626]

If you don't want to deal with their harrassment, don't go but you have every right to enjoy your evening and every right to leave your puppy at home in a safe place if you chose to do so. If some one wants to see your puppy you can invite them as a guest in your home if you chose. You have to stand up for and protect your puppy. If you don't, who will?

I think you should go and say just what Abbie's Mom suggested. So what if they think you're a kook and overprotective. They need to respect your wishes.

[Gracie2006]

I don't blame you one bit. I am going to a friend's house tonight, she asked me to bring Gracie. Now granted, this is just a mother and twenty one year old daughter we are talking about. The last time I brought Gracie, they did not agree with me keeping her on a leash at all times (that is part of her training and still is). They wanted me to take her sweater off of her. It seemed nothing I did with Gracie was right in their eyes. They treated her gentle and let her get away with murder. I am now debating whether or not to take her. She just had surgery last Wednesday and is still on activity restrictions. I don't want to leave her and I don't want to take her either. I half wish I did not say I would go over there tonight. Would they treat our babies like that if they were skin kids?

[Kimbers Mommy]

You know what - it's all so funny. Nothing I do is right in anyone's eyes. They always seem to think there is something they know about yorkies (no one I know has a dog under 20 pounds!) that I don't.

I'm not bringing her or myself tonight because of the phone call from my aunt. I was totally planning to go until she called, and even when Isaid no she insisted I bring the puppy. I told my mom that my cousins could stop by and see her over the holidays.

I just want to say thank you to ALL Of you for your replies. I find that every time I havea problem I can come on Yorkie Talk and my friends here will help me with my decisions. I would keep posting all night - but I'm on dial-up and it takes like 10 minutes to load a window! haha

Merry Christmas to EVERYONE!
from Shannie & Miss Kimber

[yorkiegirl2]

It stinks to have to choose like that..
I would go ahead an go to the dinner,
Leave your pup at home .
Just take a picture of your baby , print it off, for them to see.
And tell them that to much excitement is not good for her ,
so you left her at home.

[rox626]

Yorkiegirl's suggestion is great. Go and leave your puppy at home. I'm sure your aunt will have better things to do than harass you all evening over it. These people are supposed to be your family and if you need your puppy to gain admission to the dinner party, then screw them. People can only mistreat you if you allow them to do it. If you stand up for yourself and your puppy they may be a bit put off but they'll learn to respect you.

I'm sure we'll all be checking back to see what you ended up doing. Have a Merry Christmas.

[red98vett]

I think you should just go - NOT going is silly and Christmas only comes once a year. For her sake, with that many people... I'd leave her where she's safe and just tell them it's not a good time to bring her. Have fun - I hope you change your mind.

[browniesmom622]

either way dogs are not toys to pass around !!
i agree with V tho let them say what they want at least you baby is home safe

[FlDebra]

I am late chiming in here but I too hope you go to the dinner and leave your little one for a couple of hours. Family is important and they do not all act like we would like -- but they are still family. Just go -- If asked about why you did not bring you Yorkie, say it wasn't a good time, smile sweetly and move on to someone else.

[shalynn65]

You have to do what you are comfortable doing. Your baby is just that, a baby. Not a toy. I totally agree with you not taking her, and what you decide to do about yourself is totally up to you. Enjoy the holiday and give that baby lots of kisses.