I think getting a 2nd dog was a mistake!

[tbradley]

I think I made a mistake getting a second dog. Bailey has always been such a good dog and Lili has been one obsticle after another. First, she pees every where and we had to take out all our carpet and put in new carpet and tile..so our house doesnt smell like a kennel.
Then, I noticed today that she has put a whole in our new carpet and I've even caught her chewing holes in our walls.
She eats a LOT! ...I love her but she is making life sooo hard! i spent a lot of money on her and really want her to stay in our family but today for the 1st time I thought about giving up. Its not her fault she is just being a puppy but I can only handle this much longer. Ive recently lost my papa (basically my father) not to mention all the other every day stresses..it all feels like too much. I need some advise!!!

Lili is about 7mo.

[JeanieK]

That has to be tough. I know sometimes it feels like the whole world is on you shoulders and you can't take one more problem.

It's hard to go from having a well behaved, no problem, dog to getting the "dog from hell". Just like children. You can have one baby that is so patient and easy and then along comes one that screams and demands constantly. But that's life.

You can't give your children away, but with the dog, if you really believe you can't deal with it then I would look for a good home for her. But it might just be that for a short while it does seem overwhelming, and I'm sure things will get better. They always do.

You don't want to make a decision that you will regret later. But only you know how much you can take.

[crycket27]

Obediance School. Or Crate. But please don't give up just yet, she is still just a baby. She will calm down soon. If you must give her up, please let me know, I would definately be glad to fly whereever you are and adopt her. But I hope you don't give up quite yet, I know you have been through alot, I'm sorry for your loss. She will get through this soon though. I just dont want you to make a mistake you will regret, maybe there is someone that can take her for a little while, until things calm for her. Then they would give her back. Please keep us posted. And definately PM me if you want me to come get her, cuz I sure nuff will...

Good Luck!
Jessica

[sandraj]

Great advice jeaniek.

Things are difficult right now. Try to get through the next few days and to a calmer place where you can make a decision about what to do.

Positives-do Lili and Bailey get on?
-do they sleep well at night?
- do they have fun together?

How old is Lili now? How are they left when you go out? Can you keep Lili off the carpet area unless she has just wee'd in her proper place? Can you keep them both in a puppy pen when you are out,so there is no damage to walls etc?

I am about to clean my carpets today,as my pup at 7 months is still unreliable and I am frustrated too.
It will be harder with two. It takes so much time and patience with some of these babies.If they are good friends,look forward a few months and think of how it might be when Lili is older. However,if you decide to rehome her, I am sure you will find her a lovely home.So good luck whatever you decide.

[Baby Blessing]

Originally Posted by tbradley

I think I made a mistake getting a second dog. Bailey has always been such a good dog and Lili has been one obsticle after another. First, she pees every where and we had to take out all our carpet and put in new carpet and tile..so our house doesnt smell like a kennel.
Then, I noticed today that she has put a whole in our new carpet and I've even caught her chewing holes in our walls.
She eats a LOT! ...I love her but she is making life sooo hard! i spent a lot of money on her and really want her to stay in our family but today for the 1st time I thought about giving up. Its not her fault she is just being a puppy but I can only handle this much longer. Ive recently lost my papa (basically my father) not to mention all the other every day stresses..it all feels like too much. I need some advise!!!

Lili is about 7mo.

I wish we lived closer and if you decided to find a new forever home we could get her, we are looking to get another yorkie for Baby Blessing and they are just about the same age. We had all new carpeting installed couple years ago and I really watched her in training her and she has done great, 0 accidents but I guess we are the ones trained in the beginning, she is potty trained to the pee pads, and for quite a few months I only let her run around just when I would be there to play and watch her, problem is she is so spoiled now and she expects mommie to play with her all the time so we definately are looking to get another. Have you tried confining her to a small area and working with her on the pee pad and gradually giving her more space within your home. Funny thing is she uses her pee pads and then gently folds them completely up to say hey get rid of this thing, I want a clean one. We do go through quite a few but they are worth it Patti

[oceanair27]

I have been thru exactly what your going thru,except the chewing on walls part. This is what we did, and are actually in the process of right now. We pulled out the carpet in the kitchen and bathroom and are replacing it with ceramic tiles.This way if she pottys on the floor its easy cleanup and no stink. We are going to gate our 2, we have a Bichon and a Yorkie in the kitchen until they are pretty much housebroken. Our Bichon is the one we have had the problems with, and our oldest. So we have done things a little differently with our yorkie,by pinning her in the window seat with bed and food and water on one side, and a potty pad on the other (large window seat)and she is allready at 6 months almost completely potty trained. I guess what I'm trying to say is mabie try ceramic tiles. BTW I used to live in Lakeland Fla, and miss it very much. Still have family down there, the Sorrels.
Good Luck!

[peanut]

Don't give up yet there's still hope...I have a maltese/yorkie mix that is 7 years old and just got a yorkie about 3 months ago that was 4 months..Peanut always had a problem with going in the house alot, drove me crazy, I would take him out and as soon as we came in he would go..Sometimes I think he did it to see how far he could push me, anyway when I got Lexie she started using puppy pads, so did peanut, and when Lexie goes outside I make it a big deal to tell her what a big girl she is, so now Peanut is doing it to and waits to hear me tell him the same.. what I am trying to say is maybe she will do what he does and praise him, make a big deal about it and then she will want the same..I swear I think it is a yorkie thing....

[Nomiland]

It does get easier! Nomi is now a year old and accidents are at a minimum and she has amazingly turned into more of a lap dog than the wild animal that she was before. I believe that with age, dogs do calm down. You may just need a break from her! My inlaws will sometimes take our dogs for a weekend. When they return we both remember why we fell in love with them in the first place. Hang in there.

[chachi]

It will get easier she is right at the chewing age but will outgrow it. Mine were destructive at that age but now at one year old they rarely chew anything they are not supposed to

[red98vett]

She's a baby still - this is normal and she should grow out of the chewing stage...and yorkies really don't eat that much - Are you just wondering if you are bonding or are you really getting upset ? I'm only asking because sometimes people can really lose their tempers and end up taking it out on the puppy - and it's really not the puppy's fault. It sounds like you may want to keep telling yourself - she will grow up ....

I love the puppy stage but it's not for everyone.

[deb4air]

Hang tuff~

[tbradley]

Originally Posted by oceanair27

I have been thru exactly what your going thru,except the chewing on walls part. This is what we did, and are actually in the process of right now. We pulled out the carpet in the kitchen and bathroom and are replacing it with ceramic tiles.This way if she pottys on the floor its easy cleanup and no stink. We are going to gate our 2, we have a Bichon and a Yorkie in the kitchen until they are pretty much housebroken. Our Bichon is the one we have had the problems with, and our oldest. So we have done things a little differently with our yorkie,by pinning her in the window seat with bed and food and water on one side, and a potty pad on the other (large window seat)and she is allready at 6 months almost completely potty trained. I guess what I'm trying to say is mabie try ceramic tiles. BTW I used to live in Lakeland Fla, and miss it very much. Still have family down there, the Sorrels.
Good Luck!

How nice that you are from Lakeland..it is great down here!

[tbradley]

To tell you the truth I was not sure how the posts would reply back to my situation but thank you all for not judging me. Another problem that I have not mentioned was that we are having a pool put in so our dogs no longer have a doggie door, so I'm very understanding to the fact that all our lives have been temporally changed. I do not get angry at the dogs in fact...I have been concerned b/c I usually just clean it up b/c I know that they have no other place to go. Its really not the potty training that has me up set it is the fact that I had tile installed (for the dogs) and Lili just put a hole in the one place we installed new carpet, our room. You spend a lot of money on something and it gets destroyed...I dont care who you are..your going to get mad. we have maybe 300-400sq.ft of carpet in our house and she decided to tear it up.... Look im still not over it...but I do love her and will keep her..she is our baby...I was just upset when i wrote this post...

[Patti]

Glad you feel better. CAli chewed 2 holes in the wall and a hole in the carpet that is pretty big. I just picked out new carpeting because ours was old. I'm probably crazy but i have been saving for this for awhile and I want it done. I know I will be more upset if she chews the new carpet than I was with the old. They are so darn cute that you can't get mad at them for long.

[SnowWa]

Jeanie (2nd post)... I really like your answer.

If a puppy causes a lot of stress for a person or family -- I see nothing wrong with finding it a new loving home. Dogs (especially young dogs) adapt very quickly to a new and loving environment.

But - you also mentioned that there may be improvement in time and wouldn't want anyone regreting later that they rehomed a little puppy.

Every situation is so different -- some of us have better environments to accomodate puppies - making it easier for them to go outside more often, etc. So, I think with "no guilt" we should do what is best for us, our family, and our pup.

AND - I certainly do agree that "two dogs" are three times the work - at least for a while. I'm about ready to replace some area rugs for the same reason.

Good luck! Carol Jean