Grieving Yorkie

[Dudley's Mom]

My poor Dudley ( 2 1/2 years old) and his little brother (5 months old little poodle) are having a really hard time. My husband died Feb. 24th and they just can't seem to accept that Dad isn't coming home. They sit at the door and watch, jump up every night to see where Dad is at bedtime, and lay around and look sad. I am trying to spend more time with them and holding them close to comfort them, but it seems like they just can't come to grips with it all. Of course I'm am not the bravest person at this time, He was my soulmate and I miss him too. Any ideas how I can help these little guys?

[Patti]

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. I think thry have to have time to grieve as well. Time will help.

[rengaw]

I am so sorry for you loss. When my Mom's husband passed, their mini-pin (Tessa) went through the same thing. I'm sorry, I don't have any brilliant ideas to help you or your baby's through this tough time, but I do know Tessa quit eating and became very sick. Just something to keep in mind and watch for. Lots of time and lots of love, that's all you can do right now to help them.

[londonteatime]

I'm so sorry to read of the death of your husband! How hard that must be on all of you! Did he have any special rituals with the doggies, like a special cuddle time or game or snack? If he did, maybe you can keep the tradition going and it will provide a bit of comfort for all of you!



Julie

[scrapindee]

Sorry for your loss. Maybe if you have a t-shirt or something the dogs can cuddle with your husband's scent it will help them.

[Sugar's Mom]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I also would suggest maybe a shirt or something for the dogs thathave your hubby's scent on them. Other than that, I don't know. I know our little ones do grieve over beloved owners just as we do.

[deb4air]

AWW thats so sad ..guess time is the only thing that will help ..that and endless love .

[dianne]

My heart really aches for you at this time.I can hardly see to write this through my tears.It must be hard enough for you let alone trying to comfort your fur kids,the only advice I would say is talk to an animal behaviourist if you are worried as they might be able to give you some advice on how to comfort them, but most of all take care of you.

[teri88]

Oh you poor thing. I am so sorry that you've lost your husband. I'm glad you have your babies to help you through this time. They will be ok, especially with you there to help each other. What did they do with your husband? Can you do the same things? I'm not sure what else to suggest, only time heals. I'll keep you in my prayers.

[red98vett]

I am so sorry to hear you lost your husband...Please accept my condolences and how hard this time must be for you and then to worry about your little guys .... I wish I could help too but I did like the idea of putting down something of his for them to smell...I don't know what to say except how sorry I am....I hope you all get thru this hard time and each day will bring you more and more peace....

[Baby Blessing]

Originally Posted by scrapindee

Sorry for your loss. Maybe if you have a t-shirt or something the dogs can cuddle with your husband's scent it will help them.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I was going to suggest what scrapindee just said, I think it will help them. I know how difficult a time this is for you, my prayers for God to give you comfort in your loss. What a caring lady you are I am sure they will be ok in time.
Sincerely, Patti and Jack ~~Baby Blessing~~

[Jaspermom]

I too am so sorry for the loss of your soul mate. My hubby and I were having one of those frank discussions today about what I need to do if he passes before I do, and it dissolved me into tears. He is my soul mate, and I have no idea what I would do... therefore I grieve for you upon the loss of the love of your life.

Your pups will need time to grieve, just as you do. Time does heal all wounds, though at this time you probably feel yours will never truly heal, but will hurt a bit less as time goes by.

I wish you all the best. Take care, and please give those pups some hugs from me.

[kim_yorkiemom]

I'm so very sorry to hear about the passing of your husband and Dudley and brother's dad. That is so incredibly sad. And it is probably doubly sad for the pups because they don't understand why he hasn't returned. I suggest trying to keep them distracted at their most worrisome times, perhaps with a walk or a trip to the park. The change in routine would probably be good for you as well. Please let us know if we can be of any help to you in these difficult times.

[livingdustmops]

Your note was so beautiful and how amazing that you can move beyond your own grief and realize your two little furballs miss him also. Your little ones are so lucky to have you and all you can do is hold them and love them. I too would put a shirt or robe down for them to lay on and in time their hearts will heal as will yours. I also know there will be mornings that you won't want to get up but I can tell you love your two dogs to much to stay in bed. The three of you will heal together. You and your little ones will be in my thoughts.

[alisonJ]

I too am sorry for your loss. Grief is something you have to allow your pups and yourself to experience before you can get on with some semblance of a normal life. It IS difficult, and you will find that some of your human friends will feel uncomfortable being around you because they are trying to pretend things are normal. THINGS ARE NOT NORMAL for you. You and your little ones are dealing with the most difficult of life's challenges--it should be expected that you will be sad and depressed. Don't be anxious about it--just experience it.

Your little Yorkies will take many of their cues from you. I am so glad you have them to love and to love you back. I am sure they will make your grieving easier. They will get back to their normal routine fairly soon, I feel reasonably certain of that.