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Joedag1 · 05-29-2017, 06:41 PM

I have had my boy Beau for three years now, he has been an absolute pleasure. He is the sweetest dog. There isn't a mean bone in his body. He is very social with people and other dogs. He has never growled or raised his lip ever. Our breeder called two days ago and said she had a twelve week old girl reddy to go. She is Beau's niece . I have been wanting a companion for Beau for a while so I jumped at the chance. We went to the breeder to get the pup, took Beau with us. He met the pup, and his mom, all was fine. We leave for the trip home and we could see Beau's whole demeanor changed. When we got home he actually growled raised his lip and almost bit the puppy. We were in shock. He's a big boy almost nine pounds, the puppy is three pounds. He could kill her. Does anyone have any advice for me I don't know what to do. The breeder offered to take the pup back , but I can't wait too long. I'm heart broken, Don't know what to do, please help.

teasell · 05-29-2017, 07:48 PM

Keep them separated this is pretty normal. He should get used to the new addition in a few weeks.

Congrats on the new addition. Supervision when they are together is greatly advised....

Joedag1 · 05-29-2017, 08:27 PM

Thank you answering my thread. I really don't want to return the puppy, she is adorable . Her name is Bella and we love her already . I guess we will have to give it time, keep them separated, and show Beau that we still love him. I just was not expecting Beau to behave like this. It was a little shocking. We love yorkies, they are awesome dogs. I'm hoping for the best.

yorkietalkjilly · 05-29-2017, 08:39 PM

Yea, just separate them until Beau comes to gradually accept her. He could probably bite and scare her pretty bad should he get her in a tender place so I'd watch him like a hawk until he proves a good record of tolerance. Likely right now he feels it's his job to protect you and his territory from this 'invader'. Focusing intently on her with staring, wide eyes, ears up, alert, mouth and body tense, tail erect or straight out, maybe wagging slowly are good indicators he's about to pounce on her so watch him and stop that type of behavior the very instant you see the first sign by quickly saying 'uh oh', (save saying 'no' for after after he learns appropriate behavior but breaks the rules) standing up, staring at him and snapping your fingers as you point at him, walking quickly toward and into his space to back him down, staring and still pointing at him until he turns and leaves. At that moment, you instantly relax to show him that's all you wanted, him submitting to you, case closed. This will show him that you and not he, decides what pack behavior is acceptable and who gets accepted into your little family pack.

Quickly redirect him to another positive activity and don't forget to show him love and affection and favorite treats when he's once again behaving appropriately, but not so quickly after redirecting him that he conflates your affection with approval for his hostility toward the new baby. No doubt he'll need extra cuddle time, longer walks and play sessions with you to keep him feeling positive about the whole new-baby experience.

Keep close-encounters between the two short and sweet and closely monitored for the time being. Any time he is nice to her, instant praises and treats but stern backing him off if the very instant he shows a hint of aggression or hostility, then relaxing the moment he submits. He'll get the message and accept her over time. Dogs are pack animals and he'll grow to adore having one of his very own kind.

Wylie's Mom · 05-30-2017, 02:33 AM

It will be okay...just give it time. Our Wylie was 2 when we got our 2nd yorkie, Marcel. Wylie was definitely anxious, nervous, insecure, needy...for a good while...he didn't know what to think of this new "creature" in his house

!

But with time, everything normalized. Give lots of attention and TLC to Beau, but don't overdo it either. Separate them when you're gone - that's normal for any puppy situation.

matese · 05-30-2017, 03:45 AM

I agree with above postings, I have gone through this numerous times with each new puppy I bought home with my older girls, although they did not show signs of aggression, they stayed away from the puppy, it took 6 to 8 weeks for them to accept the new kid, before they would stay on the floor with her. I kept the puppy in a safe gated area when I could not supervise them. It just takes time for most only child fur kids to accept a new kid, you will see, shortly they will become BFF. Show your boy more attention, make him first in everything, first to be greeted when you return home, first one to have his bowl of food, first one to get a treat.

Congrats on your new baby Bella girl.

Lovetodream88 · 05-30-2017, 06:13 AM

It just takes some time. He needs to have a space away from her. You also need to make sure you still give him lots of attention.

BayleighL · 05-30-2017, 08:35 AM

When we get new pets we have a special area for the new pet until the other pets quit "tracking" on the smell. This worked well when adding a cat to a dog house. It was harder bringing a puppy into a dog house. And yorkie babies really need their people. I would suggest having some time during the day that is just you and Beau with lots of exercise and using training techniques that work well for Beau to encourage good behavior. We also protected the older dog's toys, bedding and food bowls from intrusion at first. As soon as the new puppy knew what was "theirs" and what wasn't this became less of an issue. But you want to avoid developing guarding behaviors. We do this by letting the pets know that actually it's all OURS and we let them play with it, too! In the end, given that Beau is such a good pup, he'll help train Bella. So, happy you found a new companion for you and Beau.

RustysMom · 05-30-2017, 10:00 AM

When we got Cheyenne, Rusty was 4 years old, and totally ignored her for a year! He would not even look at her! If she walked into a room, he walked out without looking at her. Funny now, but not funny then. Beau will get used to her, especially at treat and toy time.

JennaPenny · 05-30-2017, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Joedag1

I have had my boy Beau for three years now, he has been an absolute pleasure. He is the sweetest dog. There isn't a mean bone in his body. He is very social with people and other dogs. He has never growled or raised his lip ever. Our breeder called two days ago and said she had a twelve week old girl reddy to go. She is Beau's niece . I have been wanting a companion for Beau for a while so I jumped at the chance. We went to the breeder to get the pup, took Beau with us. He met the pup, and his mom, all was fine. We leave for the trip home and we could see Beau's whole demeanor changed. When we got home he actually growled raised his lip and almost bit the puppy. We were in shock. He's a big boy almost nine pounds, the puppy is three pounds. He could kill her. Does anyone have any advice for me I don't know what to do. The breeder offered to take the pup back , but I can't wait too long. I'm heart broken, Don't know what to do, please help.

Oh, it's fine!!! Keep them separated- for sure. He's used to being the spoiled boss, and he's going to be a bit upset at this carpet shark interloper usurping his Kingly throne.

I know my father was telling me recently that his neighbor who does seasonal travel to AK to beat the heat got a yorkie boy, and a poodle boy. We were in stitches when the guy said they can't get along. It's not that, it's just these guys are so darn opinionated! We forced chews to see dogs on a weekly basis because she had a yorkie mix basically cowering when she was just five months. She sat on a dog four times her size and just whizzed on it's head. These yorkie dorkies crack. me. up. Just give them time and I'm so happy for you!!!!

scrapindee · 06-01-2017, 03:11 PM

How are things going now?

Joedag1 · 06-03-2017, 10:19 AM

Beau is starting to get a little better. He has not growled or tried to bite the puppy. He seems to be in the stand offish phase. I caught him half way into the pups crate sniffing and checking it out. I can see that this is going to be a process. Thank you for all the helpful replies from everyone. I will keep everyone posted on the progress, and try to post pics of the fur babies.

JennaPenny · 06-03-2017, 04:07 PM

My daughter has a caption for your picture- this is for Beau. "When you've been stood up at your own wedding."

Shicks · 06-03-2017, 05:21 PM

Both your babies are adorable. I only have one Yorkie, so no advice. Mine is 2 years and I have wanted another for a while. Just can't find a breeder.
Best of luck.

Russpilot · 06-04-2017, 01:02 PM

Yorkie politics! As soon as they each know their "place" in the pack it will all blow over and then the fun begins!

05-29-2017, 06:41 PM	#1
Joedag1 YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Nov 2014 Location: NJ Posts: 5	I don't know what to do! I have had my boy Beau for three years now, he has been an absolute pleasure. He is the sweetest dog. There isn't a mean bone in his body. He is very social with people and other dogs. He has never growled or raised his lip ever. Our breeder called two days ago and said she had a twelve week old girl reddy to go. She is Beau's niece . I have been wanting a companion for Beau for a while so I jumped at the chance. We went to the breeder to get the pup, took Beau with us. He met the pup, and his mom, all was fine. We leave for the trip home and we could see Beau's whole demeanor changed. When we got home he actually growled raised his lip and almost bit the puppy. We were in shock. He's a big boy almost nine pounds, the puppy is three pounds. He could kill her. Does anyone have any advice for me I don't know what to do. The breeder offered to take the pup back , but I can't wait too long. I'm heart broken, Don't know what to do, please help.

05-29-2017, 08:27 PM	#3
Joedag1 YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Nov 2014 Location: NJ Posts: 5	thank you Thank you answering my thread. I really don't want to return the puppy, she is adorable . Her name is Bella and we love her already . I guess we will have to give it time, keep them separated, and show Beau that we still love him. I just was not expecting Beau to behave like this. It was a little shocking. We love yorkies, they are awesome dogs. I'm hoping for the best.

05-29-2017, 08:39 PM	#4
yorkietalkjilly ♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas Posts: 22,140	Yea, just separate them until Beau comes to gradually accept her. He could probably bite and scare her pretty bad should he get her in a tender place so I'd watch him like a hawk until he proves a good record of tolerance. Likely right now he feels it's his job to protect you and his territory from this 'invader'. Focusing intently on her with staring, wide eyes, ears up, alert, mouth and body tense, tail erect or straight out, maybe wagging slowly are good indicators he's about to pounce on her so watch him and stop that type of behavior the very instant you see the first sign by quickly saying 'uh oh', (save saying 'no' for after after he learns appropriate behavior but breaks the rules) standing up, staring at him and snapping your fingers as you point at him, walking quickly toward and into his space to back him down, staring and still pointing at him until he turns and leaves. At that moment, you instantly relax to show him that's all you wanted, him submitting to you, case closed. This will show him that you and not he, decides what pack behavior is acceptable and who gets accepted into your little family pack. Quickly redirect him to another positive activity and don't forget to show him love and affection and favorite treats when he's once again behaving appropriately, but not so quickly after redirecting him that he conflates your affection with approval for his hostility toward the new baby. No doubt he'll need extra cuddle time, longer walks and play sessions with you to keep him feeling positive about the whole new-baby experience. Keep close-encounters between the two short and sweet and closely monitored for the time being. Any time he is nice to her, instant praises and treats but stern backing him off if the very instant he shows a hint of aggression or hostility, then relaxing the moment he submits. He'll get the message and accept her over time. Dogs are pack animals and he'll grow to adore having one of his very own kind. __________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis

05-30-2017, 02:33 AM	#5
Wylie's Mom Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 35,889 Blog Entries: 2	It will be okay...just give it time. Our Wylie was 2 when we got our 2nd yorkie, Marcel. Wylie was definitely anxious, nervous, insecure, needy...for a good while...he didn't know what to think of this new "creature" in his house ! But with time, everything normalized. Give lots of attention and TLC to Beau, but don't overdo it either. Separate them when you're gone - that's normal for any puppy situation. __________________ ~ A friend told me I was delusional. I nearly fell off my unicorn. ~ °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨° Ann \| Pfeiffer \| Marcel Verdel Purcell \| Wylie \| Artie °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨°

05-30-2017, 03:45 AM	#6
matese Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: E.Stroudsburg, Pa. Posts: 67,952	I agree with above postings, I have gone through this numerous times with each new puppy I bought home with my older girls, although they did not show signs of aggression, they stayed away from the puppy, it took 6 to 8 weeks for them to accept the new kid, before they would stay on the floor with her. I kept the puppy in a safe gated area when I could not supervise them. It just takes time for most only child fur kids to accept a new kid, you will see, shortly they will become BFF. Show your boy more attention, make him first in everything, first to be greeted when you return home, first one to have his bowl of food, first one to get a treat. Congrats on your new baby Bella girl. __________________ Joan, mom to Cody RIP Matese Schnae Kajon Kia forever in my A House Is Not A Home Without A Dog

05-29-2017, 07:48 PM	#2
teasell YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Cherryville, North Carolina, US Posts: 371	Keep them separated this is pretty normal. He should get used to the new addition in a few weeks. Congrats on the new addition. Supervision when they are together is greatly advised....

05-30-2017, 06:13 AM	#7
Lovetodream88 Yorkie mom of 4 Donating YT Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: LaPlata, Md Posts: 23,247	It just takes some time. He needs to have a space away from her. You also need to make sure you still give him lots of attention. __________________ Taylor My babies Joey, Penny ,Ollie & Dixie Callie Mae, you will forever be in my heart!

05-30-2017, 08:35 AM	#8
BayleighL YT Addict Join Date: May 2017 Location: Wenatchee, WA USA Posts: 380	Adding new pets When we get new pets we have a special area for the new pet until the other pets quit "tracking" on the smell. This worked well when adding a cat to a dog house. It was harder bringing a puppy into a dog house. And yorkie babies really need their people. I would suggest having some time during the day that is just you and Beau with lots of exercise and using training techniques that work well for Beau to encourage good behavior. We also protected the older dog's toys, bedding and food bowls from intrusion at first. As soon as the new puppy knew what was "theirs" and what wasn't this became less of an issue. But you want to avoid developing guarding behaviors. We do this by letting the pets know that actually it's all OURS and we let them play with it, too! In the end, given that Beau is such a good pup, he'll help train Bella. So, happy you found a new companion for you and Beau.

05-30-2017, 10:00 AM	#9
RustysMom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Trinity, North Carolina Posts: 1,149	When we got Cheyenne, Rusty was 4 years old, and totally ignored her for a year! He would not even look at her! If she walked into a room, he walked out without looking at her. Funny now, but not funny then. Beau will get used to her, especially at treat and toy time. __________________ : *Rusty, Cheyenne, Bubbles, Chewie, Macayla, Samantha* *Every day is so much fun!*

06-01-2017, 03:11 PM	#11
scrapindee Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Redlands Posts: 4,842 Blog Entries: 2	How are things going now? __________________ Scrapindee--Team Furry & the Biewers www.houseofwags.com

06-03-2017, 10:19 AM	#12
Joedag1 YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Nov 2014 Location: NJ Posts: 5	Beau is starting to get a little better. He has not growled or tried to bite the puppy. He seems to be in the stand offish phase. I caught him half way into the pups crate sniffing and checking it out. I can see that this is going to be a process. Thank you for all the helpful replies from everyone. I will keep everyone posted on the progress, and try to post pics of the fur babies. Attached Thumbnails

06-03-2017, 04:07 PM	#13
JennaPenny YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2016 Location: Mesa, az Posts: 970	My daughter has a caption for your picture- this is for Beau. "When you've been stood up at your own wedding."

06-03-2017, 05:21 PM	#14
Shicks YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2015 Location: Friendsville Tn. Posts: 879 Blog Entries: 1	Both your babies are adorable. I only have one Yorkie, so no advice. Mine is 2 years and I have wanted another for a while. Just can't find a breeder. Best of luck. __________________ Yorkies makes us happy

06-04-2017, 01:02 PM	#15
Russpilot Donating 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2015 Location: Jacksonville, FL USA Posts: 881	Yorkie politics! As soon as they each know their "place" in the pack it will all blow over and then the fun begins! __________________ Russ, Denise, Bella and Bailey .