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01-29-2016, 07:41 AM | #1 |
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| Help.. what can I do to keep, befor we give our yorkie away? Hello everyone, My wife has been really stressed with our yorkie over the last few months. She told me this morning that she doesn't want to be her mom anymore. We moved into a new apartment last August, and things were great for the first 2-3 months. In the last few months, several things have been happening that have wanted her to give up our dog. 1. She wakes up 4-5 time every night. She scratches at the door each time. The first few times we wake up and put her back on the bed, then about the 4th time she pees/poops on the floor. We take turns putting her back on the bed, but my wife is a light sleeper and wakes up every time. 2. She started going to the bathroom during the day. Like around 12:00 or 1:00. I have a lunch break, and come home somedays, but sometimes she goes before I get home. 3. Over the last few months, our dog has become extremely agressive to other dogs when we take her on walks. She will bark and go at them on her leash at full throttle. She wasn't always doing this. She goes beserk and makes my wife uncomfortable to walk her around other people walking their dogs. We have a 1 year old son, and live in a 2BR apartment. I feel like we have enough space for the dog. But it is frustrating our wife that our dog is now peeing all over our bedroom and the living room. 2 places that our son plays every night. She is good with our son though. She is a larger yorkie at 10lbs, so they play well together. Things that we do/don't do for our dog. 1. I take her for a jog every night, about 15-20 minutes 2. Feed her twice a day, 7:00am and 6:00pm 3. Keep her water up after 6:00pm for the night. 4. we're gone for a maximum 8 hours each day. 5. we do not keep our dog in a crate. I am not ready to give up on our dog. Do you have any suggestions for training that we could try, or things we could do to make our dog |
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01-30-2016, 04:48 AM | #2 |
Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator | Hi and welcome to YT . How old is this fur kiddo? And is this peeing all over thing new...? If it's new, and if there is copious amounts of pee, then there is something medical going on here which can be *solved*. She should possibly be checked for Cushings and Diabetes and have a urinalysis. Read about Cushings here: Cushing's Disease Summary | Long Beach Animal Hospital But I have to also ask...has your wife disconnected from this dog, emotionally? Bc it kind of sounds that way. If yes, I'd be asking/wondering why/how?
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01-30-2016, 07:56 AM | #3 |
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| Have you considered pee pads? I was adamant that my dog wouldn't use pee pads in my home, but now that I have him, it is really unrealistic to have him wait and hold it for so long. I mean, I go to the bathroom several times a day and will wake up at night too, so why would I not allow my pup to go too? I work from 8 to 5 and have a 40 min commute. That means I'm gone roughly from 7 to 6 everyday. It really is just too long between potty breaks. I set up one potty area just for him inside our home. Just one. I show him where it is, tell him what I expect with the potty command he knows, and hope he follows through. We're currently in the process or re-training since we just moved. New house, new setup. I can't expect him to get it right without some help. I don't crate either, but I do limit his space. Right now, he gets the master bath with piddle pads, bed, water, and toys. Once he gets use to that, and consistently goes on his piddle pad, I will allow him the bedroom as well. Once he shows me that he will always go to the piddle pad in the bathroom, I'll give him more space. We'll keep going until he earns free roam of the house. I've also used baby gates and exercise pens when we lived in an apartment to section off areas of the aprtment until we were able to trust him and slowly give him more access to our home. When I'm home, he asks to go out. So really, the piddle pads are just for when I'm not there to give him a potty break. Otherwise, he's really good about letting me or any person at home know he needs to go out. Also, I think you guys are actively ignoring her "I wanna potty" signal. Bringing her back to bed is not what she needed. She needed to go out. If you don't want to get up in the middle of the night, the last go out to potty walk needs to be right before bed.
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01-30-2016, 08:15 AM | #4 |
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| I use pee pads. One downstairs in an area where she is fed and can relieve herself whenever. The other is in our bedroom. If she has to go during the night then she just goes on the pad and comes back to bed. As far as the aggression to other dogs goes - someone else will have some thoughts on that. God luck.
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01-30-2016, 09:24 AM | #5 |
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| I wonder if this is coincidental, but sounds like around the time your son became mobile, your pup is acting up a bit and marking the two areas your son spends most his time? Could the pup be jealous? How long did you have her as an "only child" before your son was born? 1. First and foremost: Get a vet check to make sure there are no infections ie urinary or bladder infections. 2. I would suggest confining her to a specific, non carpeted area when you are not home. 3. Steam clean all carpeted areas professionally and/or with an enzymatic cleaner (or strong vinegar water solution) to remove the odors of past accidents. 4. If you cannot take her out during the night, maybe pee pad train her. Get stairs for the bed so she can get up and down off the bed on her own at night. 5. Spend time alone with her training/playing every single day or at least 5 days a week. The training serves two fold: It increases her bond and trust with her person, and it serves as one on one time with her.
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01-30-2016, 12:55 PM | #6 |
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| is it too late to crate her? That is how I trained our small dogs and it was the answer. |
01-30-2016, 08:19 PM | #7 |
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| Lots of good advise already given. I will second taking to the vet first to rule out UTI or any other condition. I also think the pup may be jealous. I don't think it's too late to crate train. Or at least put up baby gates to confine in the kitchen while you guys are gone during the day. Make sure she has a cozy warm house or bed in the kitchen though bc kitchens are colder than the rest of the house usually. I also agree that you guys are actively ignoring her requests to go out to pee during the night. If she needs to go, she's going to go. So when she wakes you up, take her out. If you don't want her going, then you must take her out right before bed. You say your wife is a light sleeper. so if she wakes up before you and doesn't want to or refuses to take her out, have her wake you up to take her out to go, otherwise she will go in the room. It does sound like your wife has already checked out on this dog, which is sad but I understand with a new baby, the focus has to be on the human. If you aren't ready to give up, but your wife already has, you must realize that this is now your responsibility to fix this. Could be a simple fix if she is somehow sick, and perhaps that is causing her to pee and to lash out at other dogs.
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01-30-2016, 10:24 PM | #8 |
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| Your wife said she doesn't want her anymore. Reason???? Because of the potty, walking thing, OR is she just on overload with a new baby????? Baby will take more and more time, puppy is going to get pushed aside.....meaning more frustrating to your wife as pup will get attention, good or bad.
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01-31-2016, 08:34 AM | #9 |
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| I read this post the day it was posted and have not been able to get it out of my mind. First I commend you for not giving up and seeking help. This pups behavior, I personally think, has to do with jealousy and lack of attention. Truthfully the jealousy has probably sparked because of the lack of attention. Others that have stated that their could be a small medical problem are spot on as well. When you get a puppy it is a life time commitment, it's not the latest fad and when you get tired of it you discard it, that seriously bothers me with people. You see it all the time, people get a pup and are all giddy for the first little while then next thing you know they have gotten rid of it, only to turn around a few months later and get another dog. This dog has feelings, this dog is probably heart broken, she was #1 then a new family member came in (which sounds like the pup openly accepted) but now Mom is not feeling it. I KNOW circumstances changes in people's lives, lord knows I have had many turns of events in my own life from time to time, but our dogs are our family, not to be discarded on a whimsy, it just aggravates me! I cannot ever imagine saying I do not feel like being Prelsey or Holly's mom anymore...no way, not ever! This baby needs attention because her life changed when the baby came home, if that cannot be done and you decide to give her up, please do not turn her to a kill shelter or place her in the first takers home, please seek out someone to help you place this baby in a FOREVER home, someone that will cherish this baby. This whole situation of bad behavior is not the fault of the furbaby. I know the feeling of being a new mother and loving my children, I know how exhausting a new baby can be, been there twice, I had a furbaby when both my kids were babies, in no reason is the behavior you listed a reason to give up the fur member of your family but if your wife has emotionally checked out, a loving home is what this furbaby needs...that being said, your wife might want to start preparing for teenage years with your skin children NOW, it's not walk in the park. The baby is cute and sweet and perfect right now, rest assured that WILL change. A dog peeing on the floor and barking is much easier to contend with compared to teenagers that know everything and try you on every turn. Good luck!
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01-31-2016, 09:05 AM | #10 |
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| I agree with Capt_Noonie, it's never too late to start over. In fact, when living or family situations change, we have to start over and set up new routines. Routines are essential for these little guys! Crating is one way, but I understand not everyone is comfortable crating. I'm one of those people. OP pick a plan, whether crate or confinement, and really stick to it. The jogs you take with her are a fantastic idea. Some pups are sniffers, mine is, and usually enjoys a short distance walk with lots of time to sniff and mark everything. It's especially helpful right before bed because it gives them a chance to empty their tank.
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01-31-2016, 10:09 AM | #11 |
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| Hi, Lots of great advice here! In addition, I would suggest finding a great trainer to work with, someone who really focuses on what is going on with the dog emotionally and is not just trying to teach him/her tricks. Our trainer has been great in helping us integrate our puppies into the lives of our extended family, their kids, and their pets. We just did a family vacation together in one house with 10 people and four dogs, ranging in size from 4.5lbs to 90llbs (the dogs that is) and thanks to the trainer, all went well! I know that living in a two bedroom apartment is not the same. When I was in that situation, pee pads literally saved my life. My dog used them perfectly almost straight away and potty training concerns were gone. Even though I am now in a house with a yard, pee pads are an excellent solution when I am at work, as we have lots of creatures in our area who would make going out into the yard through a doggy door unsafe for our dogs. Obviously with a child learning to walk, the placement of pee pads would be a big thing to think through. Finally, I don't think that any suggestions will work if your whole family is not committed to making life with your Yorkie and your baby work. Changes in the family, as we all know, can cause all sorts of issues. If you and your family end up realizing that the commitment is not there to make it work, there are some incredible rescue groups who will place your Yorkie in a loving foster home and then work their tales off to find a wonderful forever home. Like you, I would never want to give up on my dog and would move heaven and earth to make this work for the whole family. But if your wife is not committed to this, it may be in the best interest of your dog to work with one of the rescue groups. There are members of YT who are part of these and could provide more information, or I can share what I know, of course. Good luck. I am sorry that you are having to go through all of this. It sounds like you are a loving and wonderful dog parent and this must be really difficult for you!
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