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10-18-2015, 08:55 AM | #1 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2015 Location: Murrells Inlet SC
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| Frustrated!!! Hi all, I am extremely frustrated with my MIL. She just moved to SC 3 months ago, she was 7 hours away. Long story short we are the only family she has here and no friends, so I can't not be around her...BUT the struggle is REAL when it comes to her dog and my two. She has a poodle that she feeds anything and everything to, he is a PICKY eater with dog food, so 2-3 times a week she is picking up another bag of kibble of ANY brand. He gets Bologna everyday, sausage, cake batter (when she is baking), bacon, hot dogs, bits of candy bars, ice cream etc. etc. etc. he also has a host of treats of all kinds and chews small rawhide sticks that has dehydrated chicken on it... She does not get why I do not do all this and thinks I am being a snob because I refuse to allow none of what she does. I free feed kibble, and probably 4 times a week I give them either boiled chicken (no salt or seasoning) or I split the small cans or royal canine or wellness wet food. For snacks I occasionally give Cheerios, carrots, sweet peas, green beans. How often do you all give snacks? Do you have any other snack ideas? She makes me feel like an neglectful Mama...I worry about everything that goes in their mouths and keeping them healthy, they are both excellent weights, her poodle (toy breed) is overweight. Again please share the healthy snacks you use and how often you feed snacks? I am trying my best to show her healthy alternatives to Charlie's diet, and I need all the info I can get! Thanks! Btw thanks for letting me rant too, I am very aggravated if it's not obvious!
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10-18-2015, 09:23 AM | #2 |
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| One of our dogs rarely ever get snacks. He hates and will not touch human food. He does get a few dog biscuits maybe once a week. Our other dog is in service dog training training, so he gets treats almost day as training tools. As a service dog trainee, Mario never gets human food. He has strict rules he must obey and he must behave a specific way. Yet, he is the happiest dog I know and the best trained in our entire family. We went to a party last night, and 8 adults postponed a game they were playing for 30 minutes simply to watch the playful antics of Mario engaging the four other dogs there into playing with him, even the one that did not want to play ended up playing. HOWEVER, you need work on becoming secure in your choices and ignore what everyone else does. Your dogs are not comparing notes with other dogs and they are not feeling resentful about treats. If they are healthy and happy, you should be happy. If your routine works for you, then good for you and better for them. As for your MIL, she has created the environment she can live with which includes a picky eating dog. Likely her feeding habits have a huge contribution to that situation. If you do not want what she has feeding environment wise, and are happy with the environment you already have, sit back and enjoy what you have. There is no reason to stress over this. Let what she says roll off since you are confident (work on this ) with the choices you have made and the outcome those choices have lead to which include happy, healthy, well adjusted dogs
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10-18-2015, 09:28 AM | #3 |
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| I am very cautious when it comes to food and treats. Max and Teddy probably wish they could adopt themselves out to another home , but I worry about making them sick with the wrong foods. I also watch their weight, especially Max's. Do what you want to do and don't feel pressured. If your dog is around your MIL, supervise closely. Your list of food and treats is sufficient.
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10-18-2015, 09:45 AM | #4 |
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| Don't feel bad for not serving your furbabies unhealthy treats. Chloe didn't not receive treats at all unless it was scrambled egg or chicken meat. That was it. I was too nervous she get sick if I feed her anything else! |
10-18-2015, 11:12 AM | #5 |
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| [QUOTE=Mayzoo;4598216]One of our dogs rarely ever get snacks. He hates and will not touch human food. He does get a few dog biscuits maybe once a week. Our other dog is in service dog training training, so he gets treats almost day as training tools. As a service dog trainee, Mario never gets human food. He has strict rules he must obey and he must behave a specific way. Yet, he is the happiest dog I know and the best trained in our entire family. We went to a party last night, and 8 adults postponed a game they were playing for 30 minutes simply to watch the playful antics of Mario engaging the four other dogs there into playing with him, even the one that did not want to play ended up playing. HOWEVER, you need work on becoming secure in your choices and ignore what everyone else does. Your dogs are not comparing notes with other dogs and they are not feeling resentful about treats. If they are healthy and happy, you should be happy. If your routine works for you, then good for you and better for them. As for your MIL, she has created the environment she can live with which is a picky eating dog. Likely her feeding habits have a huge contribution to that situation. If you do not want what she has feeding environment wise, and are happy with the environment you already have, sit back and enjoy what you have. There is no reason to stress over this. Let what she says roll off since you are confident (work on this ) with the choices you have made and the outcome those choices have lead to which include happy, healthy, well adjusted dogs[/QUOTE] When I first started reading this response, and got to the part addressing your issues, I rejoiced! Excellent advice!! "She has created the environment she can live with".....SO VERY TRUE!!!!! She is doing what she thinks is best for her baby and she loves doing it for her baby! My mother used to feed her Chihuahua boiled chicken, mixed with rice and green peas or green beans or that veggi medley from a can, pup got cream of wheat for breakfast (or oatmeal) and scrambled eggs, pup got "a bite" of whatever momma or daddy were eating between meals or at bedtime snack, and she was thrilled to be taking care of another living thing that was dependent on her to care for it! That chi never ate one bite of any kind of dog food and it lived to be 12 years old.....when that baby died, momma was lost...she was an "empty nester" and it was traumatic for her....let her take care of her little dog any way that fulfills her....you could encourage more veggies for weight control......it may kill you to see it happening, but you are wasting your time and breath trying to change her....it is creating turmoil and discord, and fortunately she is not living with you or even within easy driving distance, so your exposure to this feeding behavior will be limited! |
10-18-2015, 07:18 PM | #6 | |
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10-18-2015, 07:24 PM | #7 | |
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You are right on with feeling pressure, but I won't cave, I can be stubborn as a mule if I must, it just gets old...They are around her daily and I have to watch her like a hawk, I have caught her numerous times and we have had words about it but she thinks she is right and totally disregards what I say- that is the fuel to the fire so to speak
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10-18-2015, 07:30 PM | #8 |
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| We give Bella treats quite a bit. But they are banana chips, baby carrots or her favorite, Fruitables chewy treats. Two calories per treat and she will break down walls to get one. I would NEVER feed my little girl some of the stuff that your MIL feeds her dog. She may not realize it, but she is taking time off of their life every single time she gives that type of food.
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10-18-2015, 07:31 PM | #9 |
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| Make a deal with her, you won't feed her dog healthy food if she doesn't feed your dog crap. I'm being naughty here and sarcastic. Both needs to respect each other's territory which I feel you are more appt to do. I honestly don't know how or if you can get her to respect your opinion. I like what Yorkiemom1 said so reread her post, she's one smart lady. Me, I'm just starting to be a Yorkie mom.
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10-18-2015, 07:36 PM | #10 | |
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| [quote=Yorkiemom1;4598240] Quote:
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10-18-2015, 07:38 PM | #11 | |
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I am the same way thanks for replying!
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10-18-2015, 07:44 PM | #12 | |
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10-18-2015, 07:48 PM | #13 | |
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Lol I seriously may have to try to strike that deal with her! I did re-read, she is one smart lady and I appreciate hers and everyone's suggestions and replies, it does help to vent and get others perspectives!
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10-18-2015, 07:59 PM | #14 |
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| I am not above lying if it concerns the health of my dogs....tell her your VET has said your yorkie absolutely can not have (fill in the blanks here with what ever you want!), and if your baby does get that food, it will probably cause serious gastric/pancreatic/bowel issues and you dont want your baby to die on you so she is on a strict diet of.....(whatever you want your pup to have!).....VETS ORDERS!!!! |
10-18-2015, 08:05 PM | #15 | |
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I hate to lie BUT I am with you when it comes to my babies health. Whatever it takes! This actually could work! Thank you for this suggestion! And while I'm lying I could give her a list of healthy foods per the "vet" haha! If your going to do it do it big! Lol! Thanks again!
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