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08-17-2014, 05:40 AM | #1 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jul 2013 Location: St DAY
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| Loss It has been 15 weeks since my poor Ellie was put to sleep, she was over 16 years old but I loved her so much from the day I had her when she was eight weeks old I am finding life so empty without her she was my sole companion. My husband says no more dogs although he never talks about her, I just wanted to say love your dog for as long as you have them. |
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08-17-2014, 06:26 AM | #2 |
Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator | I'm so very sorry for your loss of your dear Ellie - it's clear you loved her so very much. It's so devastating to lose the unconditional love of a loved a pet. I hope your husband will change his mind over time, do you think it's possible?
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08-17-2014, 06:28 AM | #3 | |
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15 weeks is still a very, very short time - everything is still so very raw - but please know many of us have been there, and empathise completely with the pain you're going through. Love and a great big hug, Sally x
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08-17-2014, 06:36 AM | #4 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jul 2013 Location: St DAY
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| Thank you 15 weeks I know is only a short time but to me it has been like eternity, I have had 5 dogs before Ellie and they were all loved but now I am 70 years old maybe that makes it harder for me to accept I don't know, all I know i am lonely without her |
08-17-2014, 06:45 AM | #5 |
YT 2000 Club Donating Member | My heart goes out to you in your loss. I do hope that one day, you and your husband might consider adopting an older dog..... I hate to see any-one without that special love of a dog.
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08-17-2014, 06:49 AM | #6 | |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Chessington, Surrey, UK
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I DO think that, as we get older, things hit us harder. I hope, in time, that your husband is able to talk about the good times with you, to share your loneliness and therefore halve it. I'm thinking of you xx
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08-17-2014, 06:58 AM | #7 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jul 2013 Location: St DAY
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| Elliemae Thank you for your kindness I would love to give a dog from the second chance a home because they need a second chance and I have such a lot of love to give I know I will never have a dog like my beloved Ellie but all dogs have their love to give, I will keep you posted on what transpires, the biggest downfall is my husband says no more dogs but he is not me, I was brought up with animals my mother loved them, unfortunately my parents in law never had them so I think he has been generous letting me have the dogs that I have had. |
08-17-2014, 07:04 AM | #8 | |
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Please do keep us posted - love and hugs from Sunny Surrey xx
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08-17-2014, 07:09 AM | #9 |
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| I know how much you miss your baby girl. I would be very sad to know I could never have another fur baby. I hope that your husband softens and allows you to save another one's life. 70 is not too old to adopt a loving adult dog. Maybe he will see how sad you are and realize what he is denying you.
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08-17-2014, 07:17 AM | #10 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: E.Stroudsburg, Pa.
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| So very sorry for your loss, I had to put down my 17 y/o girl this past Oct. I have had and lost several babies in my life time, each one was painful, but loosing my 17 y/o was the worst for me. I am older now and the intense pain I had in my heart over loosing her was more then I could bear. I swore no more dogs, I am getting older and cannot take the pain of having to put them down, or loosing one while at the vet. It was 6 weeks without her, all I did was cry, my house felt so empty. I have had dogs in my life for over 40 years, I didn't know if I could go without having one, In between all the crying I was fighting with myself, to get or not to get, I kept trying to convince myself I needed time to adjust to being 100% alone, telling myself time will heal the pain in my heart, I knew it was better to not get another baby, I kept recalling the last hour I spent with my baby before having her put down. 6 weeks was like an eternity. Then I received a call from my vet, they just got in a 2 1/2 y/o surrendered boy, she told me "this is your dog" I gave her all the reasons why I didn't want another dog, besides if somehow I did convince myself to get another dog I would not want a male because of their marking, all my babies were females, My vet kept saying "just come to see the dog" so as not to hurt my vets feelings, because she thought of me when this dog was surrendered I knew it was safe to "just see the dog" I knew I would have a male dog. So, I went, I saw, and he came home with me that day. He rescued me, not me him, he made my house a HOME again, my friends call him the miracle boy, because he bought me back from a very dark place. He is my very special lil boy,he does not mark, he was neutered at a very young age. I take him all over with me. I love him more the words can express. I have not forgotten any of my past girls, and I still cry for them, but then Cody will cuddle closer to me, and I thank God and my vet for bringing this very special lil boy into my life, and giving me back my life. I pray your husband will change his mind and open his heart to another baby. I know the pain you are going through, keeping you in my prayers to help keep you strong.
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08-18-2014, 06:49 AM | #11 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member | I am so sorry for you loss. Rest in Peace little one
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08-18-2014, 08:36 AM | #12 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: Palm Harbor, FL
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| I am so sorry for your loss! It's always so hard to lose a furbaby! Maybe in time your husband will change his mind. Crossing my fingers.
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08-18-2014, 10:20 AM | #13 |
♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas
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| I don't understand why a man who purports to love you would want to keep another loving little companion from his wife, especially when you are still in so much pain from losing your long-time, beloved family member whom you'd grown so close to in 16 year's time. Trying to keep you from getting hurt again, if that's what he is doing, is also keeping you from the joy, fulfillment and love of another little dog who could help fill you life with joy again. You can't run away from the pain life doles out unless you give up on having a heart and close yourself off to more love. I'd sit that man down and have a very frank discussion with him that the choice of having another dog in the home is by no means solely his to make as he is not your legal guardian who directs your life, you have just as much a say in the matter as he does and if you want another dog and it's terribly important to you, you expect him to show his love and devotion to you by trying to understand your deep feelings and work with you on something as important to you as having and loving another dog. I know how you miss your baby and how empty your heart is right now, as well as likely do, having lost dear ones in the past. It's a terrible hurt that just keeps on going and going and you miss and ache for them. Try to just take it day by day and don't give up on knowing another love like you had for sweet little Ellie. When the time comes, another Yorkie could bring back your smile.
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