Everyone Please Read: Going Forward, We Must Post With More Respect Toward Others

[maxdog]

Originally Posted by kitty23

Hello Everyone!

Hello Kitty!

You should start a new thread to introduce yourself. Sort of a coming of age party !

[Tupac2015]

Hello I am new to Yorkie Talk . I am having some issues with my pup and 2 vets . And I have read through some google searches on here wonderful info on the same situation I am in , Can some one please advise on how to post a thread and make it public for people to see and respond . Thank !!!

[Nancy1999]

Originally Posted by Tupac2015

Hello I am new to Yorkie Talk . I am having some issues with my pup and 2 vets . And I have read through some google searches on here wonderful info on the same situation I am in , Can some one please advise on how to post a thread and make it public for people to see and respond . Thank !!!

Hi, welcome to Yorkietalk. You can click on the index page, which lists the different forums for Yorkietalk. http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/index.php You can choose a forum that you think is best suited for your question, or if you have multiple questions and want to introduce yourself choose the "General Forum." Once you are in the forum you want, you'll see at the top left hand side of the page, it will say, "New thread." Click on that and type your question and a title and you're all set. See the picture and it will show you where the words New thread" are located.

[JeanPool]

Just dropping in to say hello to everyone! I just joined YT this morning and am excited to be a part of the Yorkietalk community! Two weeks ago we came home with our new furry bundle of joy! His name is Levi and is just purrrfect for our family. So I'm a new Mom!

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by JeanPool

Just dropping in to say hello to everyone! I just joined YT this morning and am excited to be a part of the Yorkietalk community! Two weeks ago we came home with our new furry bundle of joy! His name is Levi and is just purrrfect for our family. So I'm a new Mom!

Welcome to YT!

[Captainzing]

Welcome to the newbies

[Heartxxxxx]

You should always respect others, no matter what the circumstances

[addison45]

When I was young I thought I knew all the answers. We all have to accept responsibility for our posting styles. I reacted to a post yesterday and posted back and got a heated response. I had to own up to myself that my post contributed to the reply. We all are accountable for a actions and the resulting reactions.

[Buster Brown]

Originally Posted by addison45

When I was young I thought I knew all the answers. We all have to accept responsibility for our posting styles. I reacted to a post yesterday and posted back and got a heated response. I had to own up to myself that my post contributed to the reply. We all are accountable for a actions and the resulting reactions.

So very true. I think forums are a microcosm of what is going on in the world these days. We all should take responsibility for our actions/words and understand that sometimes they may cause an unintended reaction. It does not make what we say right or wrong and it does not make the other person's reaction right or wrong. I grew up in the 60's and have always tried to practice the golden rule but I am shocked these days by people demanding to be respected while showing no respect for anyone else. It is a lesson I am constantly having to learn, as I like most people sometimes reacts emotionally but I have to own up to my behavior and try to not react and attack and to understand that is only someones opinion and it has no weight in regards to my self esteem.

[softlyspeaks]

Originally Posted by addison45

When I was young I thought I knew all the answers. We all have to accept responsibility for our posting styles. I reacted to a post yesterday and posted back and got a heated response. I had to own up to myself that my post contributed to the reply. We all are accountable for a actions and the resulting reactions.

This thread is a year long. I have signed up on this forum at two separate seasons in my life because the first time I was completely judged incorrectly by people who absolutely assumed the worst and unimaginable of me. Completely ironic if they even knew me in person they'd never have written what they wrote.

This second time I signed in only to remember why I had left the first time years ago. Here this long thread with hundreds of posts for the very same reason. Recently, I figured no one ever spoke up and someone ought to only later to read in the same thread that this is an on going problem here. What a shame.

I post on a couple of other forums. One of which could be a lot of fun but because people DO know who I am, they are constantly attacking my faith, twisting and writing the most horrible things that I wished I had never read. Finally, this last weekend, after starting a thread about this Christmas, I was attacked about my belief in Jesus the Messiah only for mentioning that I decorated my Christmas tree and no more. I had to stop and think, what is it about forums? Why do the crush me so? I just don't get it because no one, not even the drunks in my town that may write awful things about me would act that way to me in person, to my face. In fact, they'd like to eat my cake and pizza. haha So why do forums bring out the worst in me? I can't even debate! My grammar sucks, I have dyslexia so often leave out words in my sentences, I love run-ons and misspell.

Here's the conclusion I made about myself and wrote my thoughts out to someone that sent me a pm telling me how they loved Christmas, thought it was sweet that I had decorated early and to ignore the negative ones. Maybe it will help someone else who finds it difficult to respond when feeling attacked and isn't thick skinned. I'm not thick skinned at all and will walk the other way if I think there will be a confrontation. I don't like complaining and I don't like stress.

With regards to paying attention to the negative ones, I think I finally realized something today. Although I'm extremely persistent I can be slow at catching on. Just a little! I'm not sure if you have ever heard of the 5 love languages which people generally have. They are the ways that people receive love. They are: 1. acts of service 2. words of affirmation 3. physical touch 4. gifts(receiving gifts) and 5. quality time
People will have a mix but generally there is one that is more prevalent than the other. I definitely am words of affirmation. What I realized is that for people whose love language are words of affirmation, online forums are not the place to hang out! lolol Because if there is a strong disapproval or put down, it really makes the person feel crushed. It makes a lot of sense to me. I suspect that those who enjoy bullying, their love language is anything but words of affirmation. I wonder what the bully hopes to prove by being a bully while doing it other than revealing that hurting people, hurt people. It's hard to love people that are hurting you but we have to look past it.

I wonder how many of us that have felt crushed and attacked on any forum, including this one, are people whose love language is strongly words of affirmation? Those who attack, well, I don't know what their love language is but it would not be words of affirmation cause they couldn't give a hoot about the response they may get to attacking, bullying or feeling that they have put someone in their place.

[ZacharyDY]

I don't think effort to be more respectful toward one another is succeeding in my opinion. Going to leave YorkieTalk soon, given the negative opinions and erroneous accusations, and the abuse. It's like being bullied in junior high school. Seriously.

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by ZacharyDY

I don't think effort to be more respectful toward one another is succeeding in my opinion. Going to leave YorkieTalk soon, given the negative opinions and erroneous accusations, and the abuse. It's like being bullied in junior high school. Seriously.

If you feel you are being bullied you can report it. Just go to the thread in question and click on the little triangle with the exclamation point in it...it is located on the bottom left side of each post.

[Wylie's Mom]

Originally Posted by ZacharyDY

I don't think effort to be more respectful toward one another is succeeding in my opinion. Going to leave YorkieTalk soon, given the negative opinions and erroneous accusations, and the abuse. It's like being bullied in junior high school. Seriously.

There is a tantamount difference between being held accountable and being bullied. If you aren't able to tolerate being held accountable here at YT, then yes, YT may not be a place that would feel good to you. You do have to be willing to be responsible for your actions and be honest, or it will almost always come through that you're not. People can be as transparent on the net as in real life in many cases. If you do need your account closed, you can PM me and I can take care of it for you.

Originally Posted by ladyjane

If you feel you are being bullied you can report it. Just go to the thread in question and click on the little triangle with the exclamation point in it...it is located on the bottom left side of each post.

Indeed - if you feel bullied, feel free to report those specific posts so they can be evaluated.

[MarkFromSea]

My drive by today was pleasant! Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!

[Captainzing]

I second that