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02-20-2014, 09:58 AM | #1 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Arlington, VA ,US
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| Help--Alpha girl died--2 rescues at a loss Can you give us some tips for how to best make the loss of our alpha dog Zoee (rehomed, here 5 years) bearable for Leeza and Darby (puppy mill rescues, Leeza here 3 years and Darby here 2 years)? Leeza and Darby are followers, not leaders they have always followed Zoee’s lead. Leeza is sticking close to me and Darby has been more off on his own. We are having a hard time getting Darby to eat—he only eating 1 meal a day, not two. We put the food bowls down and he scampers down stairs to the den. He come back up to go out to pee/poop after mealtime. We have always tried to do things with the dogs in a consistent manner: meals, treats, outside to pee/poop. My husband and I use the same terms for everything and say the exact same things to the dogs so it is easier for them to understand what is expected. Zoee was such a leader that she always demanded what was needed: time to go out, want food, time for a treat, and grrr you need to fill up the water bowls. I don’t think Leeza and Darby know how to ask for things because Zoee always asked for everything for everyone. What can we do to make it easier for Leeza and Darby? THX! Cara & Ben Tenuta |
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02-20-2014, 10:39 AM | #2 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: upstate ny
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| I think you are all still grieving and that's okay. It takes awhile to work through those feelings of grief and I actually think dogs are better at grieving than we humans are. In time things will get easier for you all…. Hugs…. |
02-21-2014, 06:24 AM | #3 |
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| I went through the same thing, I had 2 babies, my alpha girl asked for EVEVERYTHING, and the 2nd one did nothing but reaped the benefits of the alpha's hard work, in fact the 2nd one never talk, except to bark at a fly that flew over Alaska, if not for that barking I would have thought the 2nd one had no voice. The alpha passed, the other mourned for 7 months, asked for nothing, got NO TREATS (unless I thought of it) after 7 months of not getting treats on a reg. basis, she started the whining, the barking, pawing at where the treats were kept, she was relentless until she got what she wanted, she learned "if I don't ask, I don't get" Don't fret, it may take months like it did with my one, you have 2, it takes time, they will get back to normal and one my take the lead, perhaps both will or they may even take turns, (and this could even be enjoyable for you to see which "follower" will take the lead) BUT they will come around, Don't worry about Darley's eating habits, he WILL eat if he is hungry enough. You have to be STRONG on this, it was very hard on me to NOT GIVE, but my baby had to learn "you want, you ask". Yorkies bounce back, it my take time, they have to become independent, and you have to help them in that, it is us pet moms that love them so much, we are NOT THE STRONG ONES lol, but you just have to be STRONG, for the sake of these babies.
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02-21-2014, 07:17 AM | #4 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Arlington, VA ,US
Posts: 27
| Thank You! Our boy Darby kind of asked for a treat last night. He followed my husband into the laundry room where we keep the treats with his tail in the air and that little prance of "I might get a treat" and my husband got Bully Beef stick treats for Leeza and Darby. So maybe they will find their way. Thank you for advice. We appreciate the help. |
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