Julie Got Spanked Today!

[Starlette]

I was at my parents house today. And like any puppy, once the front door opened she took off across the street and pooped in someone else's yard. When she returned, Mom turned her around and spanked her in the behind once. I am NOT a happy camper!!! I have kindly and politely told my parents no yelling or spanking Julie. She tends to yell and spank her Shih Tzus, Tori and Pablo, when they leave the yard or disobey her. If she wants to do that to her own dogs that's her right, but I do not want her doing that to Julie. I've never done that to Julie. I told her kindly, "Please don't spank her." Mom's comeback to me was "She's got to learn"

What concerns me most is that June will be a very, very busy month for me and my husband. I would like to leave her at my parents' house when we will be gone, but I am not happy about leaving her there to get spanked or yelled at (once is too many times in my book). Next Monday, May 20, Julie will be going in to be spayed. Also, by that time, she will have had all her required shots to be allowed to go to doggy day care.

So, I'm asking you all what do I do? How am I to handle Mom?

Thank you.
Starlette

[nanahas3]

I would tell her if she wants to see your pup she needs to follow your rules on correction and they do not include spanking or yelling. If not then you will just have to let someone else watch her while you are away.

[Oddsock]

Does she spank them once they return? Does she realize she's teaching them that returning is wrong. I don't think you should leave your dog with anyone who yells or spanks them.

[Teresiana]

Since your mom says that Julie "has to learn", maybe you could actually show her the way you would handle the situation. That way, she can see & practice a new method. I'm not saying that your mother is like a child, but I know that TELLING my 9 year old what to do...and SHOWING him what to do, are two completely different things. If she's too set in her ways, day care is a great option. It's really difficult to unteach a dog when he/she has been trained incorrectly. It might be difficult for you in the long run to leave Julie at mom's. Honestly, I would also have a problem with Julie being allowed to run out the door & dash across the street. She could get seriously hurt. Then again, I don't know how the set up is at your mom's house. So sorry if I'm overstepping that one.

[Maximo]

Originally Posted by Teresiana

Since your mom says that Julie "has to learn", maybe you could actually show her the way you would handle the situation. That way, she can see & practice a new method. I'm not saying that your mother is like a child, but I know that TELLING my 9 year old what to do...and SHOWING him what to do, are two completely different things. If she's too set in her ways, day care is a great option. It's really difficult to unteach a dog when he/she has been trained incorrectly. It might be difficult for you in the long run to leave Julie at mom's. Honestly, I would also have a problem with Julie being allowed to run out the door & dash across the street. She could get seriously hurt. Then again, I don't know how the set up is at your mom's house. So sorry if I'm overstepping that one.

I'm sorry you are in this difficult position with your mom, but things will be worse if something happens to Julie running out the door or she has problems arising from being spanked and yelled at.

[chachi]

Dont leave her with your mom if shes going to spank her she could unintentionally hurt her since yorkies are so small

[MomtoJasper]

I don't think I would be able to leave Julie with your parents. If she knows how you feel and still spanked her in front of you, she will more than likely spank her when you aren't around. Do you have friends that would be willing and able to keep her while you are gone.

[lynzy420]

I'm concerned that she was able to run out the front door, cross the street and return back...luckily...

I'm thinking doggie daycare...I don't blame you for being upset either, spanking (and I'm sure it wasn't hard) is not how to handle a pup, ever...

[DBlain]

like a few others mentioned, I would be more concerned about her running out the door and into the street. sounds like she does not have fence, how does she let her dogs and yours go out to potty

[pstinard]

Originally Posted by Oddsock

Does she spank them once they return? Does she realize she's teaching them that returning is wrong. I don't think you should leave your dog with anyone who yells or spanks them.

I agree, your mother is sending your dog the wrong message. I think your mother needs some training in the art of Yorkie discipline .

[Teresa Ford]

Not acceptable. Your child your methods. If mom's not on board, find a different sitter.

[spiritwings1202]

I am so sorry your Mom did this to Julie....I don't believe in training a dog by raising a hand ever!!! You must be furious and rightfully so. Our hands are supposed to represent love and affection and security.

Honestly I would NEVER leave my dog with anyone that treats them like that.
Maybe you can find a pet sitter, puppy day care, or even a neighbor whom you trust to watch her.

[Magnus]

I'm with lynzy420... If I felt that comfortable, I'd take them to dog daycare. Another option would be pet sitters? Not sure about where you live but there are sitters that puppy sit in their own home where I am. I like the daycare since most of them (at least the nice ones) have webcams up so I can see how they're doing whenever.

[lovespandp]

Ehh I’m kind of on your Mom’s side -I don’t think it is right of her since it is not her dog. However I have been there. Peanut ran out of the garage door, ran down a couple houses- looking back at us- not coming when we called him. When I finally caught him I smacked his butt. He knew he was in trouble, and you know what he hasn't done that again. I have noticed when I open the doors he is like 2 feet away standing there.

[pstinard]

Originally Posted by lovespandp

Ehh I’m kind of on your Mom’s side -I don’t think it is right of her since it is not her dog. However I have been there. Peanut ran out of the garage door, ran down a couple houses- looking back at us- not coming when we called him. When I finally caught him I smacked his butt. He knew he was in trouble, and you know what he hasn't done that again. I have noticed when I open the doors he is like 2 feet away standing there.

There's a difference between punishing the dog right when you catch him doing something (you spanked him right when you caught him away from home, which is the correct time to discipline) and punishing the dog after it has returned home (the wrong time to discipline). Also, we don't know how hard the mother spanked the dog--whether it was a tap or a wallop. I would forgive someone else who knew what they were doing giving my Bella a corrective tap, but a wallop from someone who doesn't know what they are doing is just plain abusive. Plus, I wouldn't leave the dog in the care of someone who would let it run out in the street in the first place...