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02-19-2013, 04:11 PM | #1 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Hayden, ID
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| Dilemma, opinions please! There is a good chance that I will be transferring to a four-year college this fall, right now I'm taking generals at a community college, and I have a dilemma. Right now I'm having to decide whether or not to bring Henri, my first immediate thought was to bring him but now I'm not sure. If I take him I would have to find an apartment that allows pets and that could be expensive, plus he would be alone for a while in the day and he might get lonely. If I leave him with my parents he would be with the other dogs and someone is always home. I don't want to leave him, I would miss him so much and he would be devastated, but it might be better for him to stay with my parents who can take care of him and give him the attention he needs. My parents assured me that he always has a home with them, they will never get rid of him, he will always be my dog, and I can always come back for him. The colleges I'm considering are only about a 2 hour drive give or take, so I can visit on weekends and vacations. I'm really attached to him and he is my baby, I love him and the only reason I'm considering leaving him with my parents are for his sake. I'm crying writing this because it is such a hard decision to make, my parents and I are going to visit the colleges and check out housing possibilities to see whether or not taking him is a good idea sometime in March. Opinions would be very welcomed.
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02-19-2013, 04:49 PM | #2 |
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| This is simple. Take him you will figure out the money and apartment and he will adjust to you're schedule |
02-19-2013, 04:55 PM | #3 |
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| I say either which I know isn't very helpful...decide what you think will be best for Henri...make a list of the pros and cons. Two years ago I had to move for a job and I couldn't find housing that allowed pets. My mom kept Lola who was my yorkie during the week and then I would pick her up on the weekends. It did work - for a year and a half. Lola was excited to see me every friday but she was also excited to see my mom every Sunday. The best part was that my mom was retired so Lola was never home alone.
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02-19-2013, 05:06 PM | #4 |
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| Yes, do a list of pros and cons. Do you already know where you're moving to? Look on Craigslist for available, pet-friendly apartments. Look for roommates. Look to see what doggy daycare would be. What kind of a social life do you have now and what do you want when you go to college? How far will you be moving? Is it driveable? Would you be able to visit weekends?
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02-19-2013, 05:09 PM | #5 |
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| Oh...so much to consider.... My kids are 22 (daughter) & 20 (son) and are both away at college on the other side of the state. Because I have ZoE & like to visit them, this year they both chose to live in places that small pets are allowed, that way I can go visit for a weekend & take ZoE with me & it's not an issue, and I don't have to sneak her or worry about her barking Do you already know the roomates you'll be living with or are you going in blind? Sometimes roomies don't want pets, or have severe allergies/asthma and that can cause a problem, so that might influence your decision. Also, are you all about school or do you have an active social life? I'd assume that if this is your first experience away at college, you'd want to experience all that college life has to offer, which means, you wouldn't just be gone during the day at classes, but that you'd also be out & about alot during evenings & weekends, too. Maybe you could find a place to live that allows small pets, but then leave Henri at home until you get settled in & see how your schedule is, and how much time you actually would have to hang out with your pup in your new home. You could always bring him at a later date to live with you, or you could chose to leave him at home with your parents, but still bring him to stay with you for an occasional week if you happen to have a time where your schedule is lighter (a week with no exams, major projects, etc.)
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02-19-2013, 05:35 PM | #6 |
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| That is really a tough call. There are a lot of pros and cons to think about. I think if I would have had a Yorkster with me at college, it could have actually helped me to study and concentrate in some respects. You cant party too much with the responsibility, and they are of course great company when you are studying. But you have to have the money to afford not only the food but medical expenses. And like a previous posted noted, they can bark a lot and that can turn roommates against you and your Yorkie. ALso if you end up in an apartment, the noise can get the neighbors upset too. I agree if you have the money, and know that you have responsible roommates who are also dog lovers it can work out. But if you dont have all that worked out yet maybe you should figure out your living situation and then bring Henri. |
02-19-2013, 08:58 PM | #7 |
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| my advice is to go there with the intention of bringing the dog eventually, find a place that allows pets and suits your needs like does you pup potty outside. After you are there and know your schedule and feel that you are settled in, then bring your dog for a visit and see how it goes. I live in a house with a yard, so both of us would have trouble if we had to move to an apartment with an elevator or stairs, plus she barks when I leave. This is not a problem in my house but it would be in an apartment. So keep all those things in mind when you search for a place to live. Good luck
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02-19-2013, 08:59 PM | #8 | |
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02-19-2013, 09:05 PM | #9 |
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| bf and I are both 21 and live in a college town. I can't imagine not having Luma with me. We are both gone from 10-5 and Luma has learned to deal. Lots of apartments are pet friendly but the pet deposits can be pretty crazy unfortunately it was $300 and now we have paid another $300 to bring in a second pup. Ridiculous. Idk...the selfless thing to do is leave him with your parents, but I know it would work out on the end if you do bring him. How far from home is the univ? You may be able to visit often...
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02-19-2013, 09:08 PM | #10 |
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| Oh, and I so feel for you, girl...please don't cry!!! It is such a hard decision. I'm sending you a great big (((HUG)))
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02-20-2013, 12:59 AM | #11 | ||
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The university is about 2 hours more or less a drive from my parents house, so I could probably visit on weekends when I'm not so busy and vacations. I would still miss my baby like crazy though
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02-20-2013, 01:04 AM | #12 |
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| Thanks everyone for the advice! You all have given great suggestions and support I will definitely make a list of pros and cons. My parents and I will be going to visit the university next month (when the weather is nicer) to get to know the town and look at housing options, if I can't find a pet-friendly apartment that I can afford my parents think I should live in the dorms. It is such a hard choice to make
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02-20-2013, 02:24 AM | #13 |
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| I am with the others. List the pros and cons. If I had had a yorkie with me in my college years, it might have kept me home more and my grades might have been better (although I can tell you now that I am an old lady of 47, I did not have the maturity to properly care for a yorkie at that age and am incredibly impressed with people like Carmen who are so mature beyond their years). I think the number one con I can think of in having a yorkie in a college environment is the other stupid, immature college kids who would love nothing more than to steal or "borrow" your dog without permission. Not only would you need to find an appropriate apartment that was secure, if you had a roommate, she would also have to be very carefully screened for appropriateness. The thought of something terrible happening to my dog because of my carelessness would be the absolute worst thing I can imagine
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