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Old 02-07-2013, 05:53 PM   #1
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Animal Smiley 036 Yorkie with Extreme Jealousy Issues

My sweet little angel is becoming aggressive. She can't not stand for me to play with our other animals. She is also is being aggressive toward children. I can't have anyone over that has children because if I hold the child Lilly tries to attack them.

So I need advice. How can I help my sweet girl. A: I don't want her to feel as though others are taking her place. B: I'm afraid she is going to hurt someone or get hurt by making one of our other dogs angry.


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Don't have much time right now but one thing is to leash your dog to prevent an attack and have visitors not look at the dog, especially children, as they tend to stare at dogs and unsettle them. Have the child ignore the dog, toss high value treats to your dog in the front yard for a while, then go in the house dropping a treat or two, then go inside, you and the dog following, and then sit down with the bag of treats, tossing one out every so often and giving the dog enough lead on the leash to get them. No eye contact and no attempts to talk to the dog - just a "meet/meat-and-eat". A few visits of just that will help to start to show the dog a child visitor means fresh boiled chicken!
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Don't have much time right now but one thing is to leash your dog to prevent an attack and have visitors not look at the dog, especially children, as they tend to stare at dogs and unsettle them. Have the child ignore the dog, toss high value treats to your dog in the front yard for a while, then go in the house dropping a treat or two, then go inside, you and the dog following, and then sit down with the bag of treats, tossing one out every so often and giving the dog enough lead on the leash to get them. No eye contact and no attempts to talk to the dog - just a "meet/meat-and-eat". A few visits of just that will help to start to show the dog a child visitor means fresh boiled chicken!

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My Fletcher had some aggression towards kids and jealousy. When he showed any signs of aggression towards my nephews I put him in our room with the door closed for 5 mins. When he's jealous (he'll bark at me when Im talking to people in our house, and he has peed on my foot, marking his territory if Im not giving him attention) I will gate him into the living room for 5 mins. I let him out after 5 mins. If he does it again I put him back for another 5 mins.
This has worked VERY well. You may want to try to separate her from what is upsetting her, it also gives her a few mins to calm down and realize she'd rather be with you then locked in a room alone.
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My Fletcher had some aggression towards kids and jealousy. When he showed any signs of aggression towards my nephews I put him in our room with the door closed for 5 mins. When he's jealous (he'll bark at me when Im talking to people in our house, and he has peed on my foot, marking his territory if Im not giving him attention) I will gate him into the living room for 5 mins. I let him out after 5 mins. If he does it again I put him back for another 5 mins.
This has worked VERY well. You may want to try to separate her from what is upsetting her, it also gives her a few mins to calm down and realize she'd rather be with you then locked in a room alone.
Also wonderful technique. Dogs hate being out of the picture. It can be wearing to keep removing a misbehaving dog into another room and then going to get it and most won't follow through past the first day of training but if someone will do it every single solitary time the dog misbehaves, it will get the message that misbehavior means being taken away from all the action and attention.

Dogs are wonderful readers of people and they sense that many children are unsure or too sure of themselves. They can sense they don't have governors - are often reckless and make sudden movements. Besides the staring some children do, others feign in fear and still others will grab at a dog, especially if it is little and cute. Dogs don't care for any of that. Mature dogs instantly read children and usually are weary of them so teaching them the child brings goodies, won't stare or touch, grab or run in fear, and removing him from the area when he misbehaves can work wonderfully to train an unsure dog that children are not bad or scary.

Later, when the dog is more assured around the child, she can desensitize the dog to being around her - hold the treat in her hand and feed it directly to the dog. Later, she can hold it in the closed fist so the dog can't actually get it and place the fist in her lap, so the dog gets near and even on her to sniff and try to get the treat. He'll stay there for a long time trying to get at that treat and, in the process, learn the child isn't that scary. Eventually, the child can look at, pet and cuddle a dog that once barked at her - but it can be a slow process and can be a lot to ask of the child if she is not that comfortable around a dog. So be patient and go slowly with both, stop if either get uncomfortable.
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My Fletcher had some aggression towards kids and jealousy. When he showed any signs of aggression towards my nephews I put him in our room with the door closed for 5 mins. When he's jealous (he'll bark at me when Im talking to people in our house, and he has peed on my foot, marking his territory if Im not giving him attention) I will gate him into the living room for 5 mins. I let him out after 5 mins. If he does it again I put him back for another 5 mins.
This has worked VERY well. You may want to try to separate her from what is upsetting her, it also gives her a few mins to calm down and realize she'd rather be with you then locked in a room alone.
It's amazing how quickly this can work if done consistently!
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Bella does that with the grands. If she's in my lap and one of the grands walk toward us, she will start to growl and act like she's gonna attack and sometimes she will rush at them before I realize. So I will put her down, and tell her no. After a few times she finally gives up. Persistance. I've also been teaching the Grands to tell her no, and be nice.
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Bella does that with the grands. If she's in my lap and one of the grands walk toward us, she will start to growl and act like she's gonna attack and sometimes she will rush at them before I realize. So I will put her down, and tell her no. After a few times she finally gives up. Persistance. I've also been teaching the Grands to tell her no, and be nice.
It's all socialization isn't it. Great ideas here!! I'm sure I'll have to use something at some point on Princess Sophie. Thanks for all the ideas!!
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Joel still gets jealous with the daycare kids even though he's grown up with kids around since he was a baby. Never aggresive but when I hold the baby he gets on me and wedges himself between me and the baby, haha. He also didn't like if I called a kid over, he would run in front of them but I got treats and called one of the kids and told them to give him a treat so now he likes it hehe.
He still gets jealous but nothing more than a sad look from him, like i'm replacing him with the kids
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It's amazing how quickly this can work if done consistently!
This & treats! LOL I did this with my 3 year old nephew because Fletcher REALLY didn't like him at all. It didn't take long, couple months, but he caught on and is warily ok with him now.

Now, my boys LOVE my 1 year old nephew, who is a lot calmer and quieter but also who always walks around with cheerios, which he spills and the dogs eat. This makes my boys LOVE LOVE LOVE him!!!! LOL They go up to him tails wagging, they kiss him, when he gets on my lap with them, they don't get up and run like they do with other kids. My nephew LOVES them, he lights up when he sees them and pets them so nice and gentle and constantly is covered in food, so it helps a lot too! They associate him with getting food!
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Tee hee! Sam decided my almost 3 year old was his bestie when she sat down in the kitchen floor with a bowl of dry HN Cheerios and started sharing. Now he wants to follow her every time she goes toward the kitchen.
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Great Advice Already !
We use the same type lesson plans to change unwanted behavior.
Another thing that is quite effective is when you have company is changing your normal seat. Instead of sitting on the sofa or favorite recliner that you always share with your Yorkie. Change to a kitchen chair or sit in that uncomfortable little chair no one likes.
Don't allow any guarding behavior at all. If your Yorkie starts guarding like give a warning cue word you use every time like, 'Enough" No, Stop It, or Be Good ! If a growl, or stalking behavior starts, Give your cue word and put him on the floor immediately. Never allow children (or silly adults) to tease the dog by patting your chair or you to get them to behave with jealously.
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Another story

Question: My Yorkie guardsmy shoes when I leave them by the door. My kids tease her with my shoes. She goes nuts barking and snapping atthem please help !



How to change mildguarding behavior
Maybe your kids think it is funny to see a small Yorkie act ferocious about your shoes. Like you I worry about guarding,and know it can snowball in to a real obsession and even transfer to more items. Talk to your children and tell them it would not be funny if a big Rottie acted that way, because their bite could really do damage. It is not agood way for a Yorkie to act either. She could bite someone while trying to protect the shoes and that would be very bad. Tell them everyone must work together to make her stop. #1. When she guards the shoes say a very firm'ENOUGH' and just ignore her and walk right by. If she is leaving the shoes and guarding the area around them go to #2. Say a firm 'Enough' and squeak her toy and toss it in the opposite direction, away from the shoes. If she leaves the shoes that is good, she is not too obsessed with them yet .Praise her when she goes to the toy, and say 'Good Toy' and you can even giveher a tiny treat or little bit of play time attention. #3. If she won't leave the shoes for a toy or treat, then you have to use aversion correction. Say the cue word, 'ENOUGH !" if she keeps guarding barking and so on, squirt her with one quick blast of water. That will break her obsessive trance. Also a rolled up pair of socks can be thrown at her from across the room, it is ok to hit her with the socks, they will not hurt her, only startle her. It is better if she doesn't see someone toss the socks, that way they seem to just appear and jump on her. Which is exactly what you want her to think. I know some trainers shake a noisy can of pennies but, with Yorkies I have found asquirt of water or rolled up socks works better. Noise seems to trigger more barking. #4. You can change your own habits. Don't leave the shoes where she can get to them. You could buy avery cheap plastic box/bowl with a snap shut lid and put the shoes in it. O rtoss them in a closet. #5. Give up the shoes, throw them away. From now on be quick to stop any guarding in the future.
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Great Advice Already !
We use the same type lesson plans to change unwanted behavior.
Another thing that is quite effective is when you have company is changing your normal seat. Instead of sitting on the sofa or favorite recliner that you always share with your Yorkie. Change to a kitchen chair or sit in that uncomfortable little chair no one likes.
Don't allow any guarding behavior at all. If your Yorkie starts guarding like give a warning cue word you use every time like, 'Enough" No, Stop It, or Be Good ! If a growl, or stalking behavior starts, Give your cue word and put him on the floor immediately. Never allow children (or silly adults) to tease the dog by patting your chair or you to get them to behave with jealously.
Absolutely agree!!! Excellent.
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Great Advice Already !
We use the same type lesson plans to change unwanted behavior.
Another thing that is quite effective is when you have company is changing your normal seat. Instead of sitting on the sofa or favorite recliner that you always share with your Yorkie. Change to a kitchen chair or sit in that uncomfortable little chair no one likes.
Don't allow any guarding behavior at all. If your Yorkie starts guarding like give a warning cue word you use every time like, 'Enough" No, Stop It, or Be Good ! If a growl, or stalking behavior starts, Give your cue word and put him on the floor immediately. Never allow children (or silly adults) to tease the dog by patting your chair or you to get them to behave with jealously.
I fight with my husband all the time with that. He's always patting me somewhere to get Bella going. So I'm having to treat him like a child. I've told him all that does is make it harder on the Grands. Makes me so mad.
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