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09-06-2012, 04:53 AM | #1 |
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| How to tell my 3 children that our dog is sick and will no longer be with us?? Hi All, I have other posts about Myles who is 15 yrs old w/ renal failure and has gotten very bad within the past week. I am going to have to put him to rest. How do I tell my children? I would like to bring him home and bury him in our yard thanks denise |
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09-06-2012, 05:00 AM | #2 |
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| Do you have a grandpa or someone thats passed. Tell your children Myles is going to be with him in heaven. Children find it comforting that there pet is going to be with a loved one
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09-06-2012, 05:07 AM | #3 |
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| Another thing you can tell them is he went to rainbow bridge a special beautiful place that pets go to when they leave us. One thing you dont want to do is shelter them completely from death. If they need to cry let them cry and grieve then focus on the good memories
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09-06-2012, 05:12 AM | #4 |
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| Denise I am so sorry about Myles On August 1st we had to let our 13 year old Boxer go, it was the hardest thing my husband and I had to do. We told my son (who is almost 5) that Coco went to be with Grandma (my Mom passed away when I was a teenager) and God. We had a discussion about how Coco wasn't feeling well and had troubling walking and we told him she is now running and jumping in Heaven. While I don't think he fully understands I do know it has helped him. He mentioned the other day that Coco was in heaven getting belly rubs from Grandma. I will pray for you and your family during this difficult time. We are here for you.
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09-06-2012, 05:13 AM | #5 |
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| Another thing that you can do is buy a pet memorial to put someplace special out in your back yard. Toscano has a generic one that is nice but if you google pet memorials there are even ones you can put your pets name and picture on. I plan to do this as a memorial even though I plan to have mine cremated
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09-06-2012, 05:34 AM | #6 |
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| I am so sorry, I know you are hurting! Children look at death differently I think. From what I know they want to know they will be ok..let them know it is ok to be sad and to always remember their pet. You have also received other good advice.. Sending hugs and I hope you keep the good memories for ever
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09-06-2012, 07:46 AM | #7 |
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| Oh no, I am so sorry to hear you have to make that decision.. I have no advice for you, just wanted to give you a ((hug))
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09-06-2012, 08:07 AM | #8 |
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| Be factual. Kids can read through us better than adults. If you're religious will your religious leader do a ceremony for you? A Catholic preist here goea to ppls homes and does pet funerals for ppl. I'm direct with my kids heres the diagnosis heres the options and if its his time he will die. I dont do the they are asleep or anything like that personally I fibd it emotionally and psychologically damaging. I'd say our dog is sick he has this and then with whatever happens say ge died. Death is hard pets people but you are setting the stage for how they learn abd deal with it for the rest of their lives. I beleive honesty is the best policy.
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09-06-2012, 08:22 AM | #9 |
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| Be factual. Kids can read through us better than adults. If you're religious will your religious leader do a ceremony for you? A Catholic preist here goea to ppls homes and does pet funerals for ppl. I'm direct with my kids heres the diagnosis heres the options and if its his time he will die. I dont do the they are asleep or anything like that personally I fibd it emotionally and psychologically damaging. I'd say our dog is sick he has this and then with whatever happens say ge died. Death is hard pets people but you are setting the stage for how they learn abd deal with it for the rest of their lives. I beleive honesty is the best policy.
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09-06-2012, 08:30 AM | #10 | |
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09-06-2012, 08:34 AM | #11 |
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| When you do have to do this keep posting we are all here for you and we have big shoulders we will cry with you. Just know we are all thinking about you
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09-06-2012, 08:43 AM | #12 |
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| I feel they need to be a part of it. How old are you kids? When our beloved golden retriever died of cancer, he had no symptoms (only about 2 weeks of symptoms in hindsight) so it was very sudden when he collapsed. Within 2 days, he was on the verge of death. The vet actually came to our house to "help" him pass. My kids were 14 and 16 and had never experienced losing anyone close. In fact, neither had my husband or I. My husband was the only one who couldn't grasp that calling the vet wasn't "killing" him, it was helping him stop suffering as there was no hope of recovery. The kids begged him as they wanted to end our best friend's suffering. They understood better about letting go than my husband did. My husband did come around within a couple hours and we were all with him when he passed. I believe it helped all of them when their grandfather died suddenly a few years later. If you children are old enough to understand, make them a part of losing this important member of their family. It helps them prepare for future grieving and also raises them to understand that our pet are not disposable, they are valued, members of our family and we love them very much. |
09-06-2012, 08:57 AM | #13 |
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| I don't have any kids right now so I don't have any advise but I just wanted to let you know I am keeping you and your family in my prayers. It is so hard to have to put a loved family member to sleep.
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09-06-2012, 09:15 AM | #14 | |
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I am a very different kind of person in many aspects my parents have become reaclamated with the Catholic church my daughter attenda their church and is Catholic. My son is recently expressed interest in attending a Baptist church so I have taken him there. I let my children (within my own judgement of reasoning) choose which religion they want to be further exposed to. However I beleive for their overall betterment as members of society they should gain an understanding of multiple religions in the basics of beleif and social cultural impact. I replaced my daughters first pet about 10 times a beta fish, oh the adventures of going to pet store after pet store to find that specific color marjed fish...until the morning sge found the last one floating...I explained death. Since weather it ve person or pet I am completely honest with my children about medical issues and dying. When my daughters dear friend was tragically lost in a car accident my daughter found solice in knowing her friend was Catholic and it was her time to go to heaven. 2 years ago when my grandpa was dying in the hospital he was frank with my children he was being called home and they had the option of attendjng his Baptist wake. I keep it short and to the point this happened they died. The after part we discuss openly. I myself have taken more a role in the Native American Church and part of that is the allowance for understanding differing beleif systems. I was appauled my cousin (when our grandpa died) told his young daughter grandpa george is asleep now and you'll see him later. After the memorial and the Navy ceremony of his ashes spread over the ocean my cousins daughter was confused and vegan having fits vefore bed time...I thought gee no wonder... We gave seceral lost pets burries in our yard, fish chichilla hamsters a cat...I think having the graves by the roses helped my son especially to understand the concept of death and that the body is left behind. My children took part in all yhe burials
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09-06-2012, 09:19 AM | #15 | |
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I think everyone has given you wonderful suggestions. And, as I said in my e-mail, explain to your children that they know Myles has been very sick, and he will go to the Rainbow Bridge, or go to Heaven to be with Jesus, and he won't be sick and in pain, any longer. My heart aches for you. And it breaks for your children. (Gentle Hugs) Sheila | |
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