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Old 09-05-2012, 10:20 AM   #1
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I just read the updated rules. They seem to me to be a bit more direct, that is good, some people don't understand diplomacy or subtlety.
I think the real purpose of Yorkie Talk is to create an on line community that educates, shares ideas and experiences about Yorkies. We can help each other. No one understands Yorkies as well, as another Yorkie lover.
One thing that jumps out to me is that new people are not always given advice with kindness. Over and over I see the same people blast new posters. Not just one or two times, they do it to most new comers, and they do it too often, for it to be accidental. It may be because they lack social skills, are bitter because they made a lot of mistakes, they are looking for someone to blame (like breeders in general) because their Yorkie has health problems, don't know how to express themselves in a nice way, or even a lack of writing skill. Maybe it is up to the rest of us, to keep the help and conversation going with the new poster. I know I have made some awful mistakes in the past. Once I knew more, I made better choices, hopefully the new poster will too.
I think I needed the reminder to choose my words a little more carefully. True there are trolls, pot stirrers, and stupid people but, name calling is simply not nice. Name calling certainly does not encourage a helpful exchange of ideas.
I think I am right all the time. I sometimes forget there are very few absolutes. I want to talk you into believing the way I do, and if I can't convince you, well you must be wrong, right ? um Opps! guilty of it.

I am thinking the new rules are pretty simple, they remind us of the golden rule, you know the one, do onto others....
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As a new member of the forum (who has only posted a few times), I was so happy to read what you wrote. It was very well said.
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I'll add to that...myself and my dd are members here, have learned soooo much and are everyday readers. We recently had a very upsetting experience involving our pups. After the drama died down, my first instinct was to find out what YT thought and knew about this. I said to DD - you've got to post this on YT and find out if anyone else has had this happen. Her response was - "I'm not gonna do that - they will tear me up!"

How sad. . . .AND. . . wasteful of the knowledge just waiting to be shared.
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I'll add to that...myself and my dd are members here, have learned soooo much and are everyday readers. We recently had a very upsetting experience involving our pups. After the drama died down, my first instinct was to find out what YT thought and knew about this. I said to DD - you've got to post this on YT and find out if anyone else has had this happen. Her response was - "I'm not gonna do that - they will tear me up!"

How sad. . . .AND. . . wasteful of the knowledge just waiting to be shared.
You could always PM a member or two to get a feeling about what you may want to post....
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I just read the updated rules. They seem to me to be a bit more direct, that is good, some people don't understand diplomacy or subtlety.
I think the real purpose of Yorkie Talk is to create an on line community that educates, shares ideas and experiences about Yorkies. We can help each other. No one understands Yorkies as well, as another Yorkie lover.
One thing that jumps out to me is that new people are not always given advice with kindness. Over and over I see the same people blast new posters. Not just one or two times, they do it to most new comers, and they do it too often, for it to be accidental. It may be because they lack social skills, are bitter because they made a lot of mistakes, they are looking for someone to blame (like breeders in general) because their Yorkie has health problems, don't know how to express themselves in a nice way, or even a lack of writing skill. Maybe it is up to the rest of us, to keep the help and conversation going with the new poster. I know I have made some awful mistakes in the past. Once I knew more, I made better choices, hopefully the new poster will too.
I think I needed the reminder to choose my words a little more carefully. True there are trolls, pot stirrers, and stupid people but, name calling is simply not nice. Name calling certainly does not encourage a helpful exchange of ideas.
I think I am right all the time. I sometimes forget there are very few absolutes. I want to talk you into believing the way I do, and if I can't convince you, well you must be wrong, right ? um Opps! guilty of it.

I am thinking the new rules are pretty simple, they remind us of the golden rule, you know the one, do onto others....
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I just read the updated rules. They seem to me to be a bit more direct, that is good, some people don't understand diplomacy or subtlety.
I think the real purpose of Yorkie Talk is to create an on line community that educates, shares ideas and experiences about Yorkies. We can help each other. No one understands Yorkies as well, as another Yorkie lover. One thing that jumps out to me is that new people are not always given advice with kindness. Over and over I see the same people blast new posters. Not just one or two times, they do it to most new comers, and they do it too often, for it to be accidental. It may be because they lack social skills, are bitter because they made a lot of mistakes, they are looking for someone to blame (like breeders in general) because their Yorkie has health problems, don't know how to express themselves in a nice way, or even a lack of writing skill. Maybe it is up to the rest of us, to keep the help and conversation going with the new poster. I know I have made some awful mistakes in the past. Once I knew more, I made better choices, hopefully the new poster will too.
I think I needed the reminder to choose my words a little more carefully. True there are trolls, pot stirrers, and stupid people but, name calling is simply not nice. Name calling certainly does not encourage a helpful exchange of ideas.
I think I am right all the time. I sometimes forget there are very few absolutes. I want to talk you into believing the way I do, and if I can't convince you, well you must be wrong, right ? um Opps! guilty of it.

I am thinking the new rules are pretty simple, they remind us of the golden rule, you know the one, do onto others....
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I have found myself having to come back and apologize a few times after failing to proofread my own posts before hitting submit. I completely agree we all need to think how we would feel if our posts were responded to in the same way we are responding to them.
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You said it Teresa.... I totally agree !

Thank goodness for the level headed members who dont have some warped sense of need to take a post to a whole nother level and start ripping into the new members just because they dont agree with them. I just dont know what it is about some people who do that. They also like to take your words and twist them into something it wasn't. Just irks me to no end!
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I just read the updated rules. They seem to me to be a bit more direct, that is good, some people don't understand diplomacy or subtlety.
I saw the thread, read the rules.....

maybe it's just me, but I would much prefer a ..."these were the rules....these highlighted sections are changes to the rules". How am I supposed to remember what the original rules were and take note of the distinctly new rules if they aren't made distinct in some manner. The gist of it seems the same as always.
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As a newcomer myself, I welcome your thoughtful comments. Fear of being blasted by criticism is very real.
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I saw the thread, read the rules.....

maybe it's just me, but I would much prefer a ..."these were the rules....these highlighted sections are changes to the rules". How am I supposed to remember what the original rules were and take note of the distinctly new rules if they aren't made distinct in some manner. The gist of it seems the same as always.
The main changes that can affect personal interactions are noted in red below. We did revamp the rules in their entirety (clarified, shortened, deleted, added words) which is mainly why I suggested reading them *all* again as a refresher. That said, the biggest changes were here:

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1. Please be civil and do not personally attack members, their opinions, their knowledge, or how they care for their dog. It is NOT acceptable to call any member a troll, a pot stirrer, or a bully. If you disagree with a member's post - you must reply respectfully; if unable to do so, you should not post. YT will not allow rude, snide, or disrespectful remarks towards fellow members. If you have only criticism and nothing constructive to add to a thread - then DO NOT POST. If you have ongoing conflict with a member, you may place them on your ignore list. It is not allowed to publicly declare whether a member is placed on 'ignore' - any posts stating such will be deleted and could result in consequences.

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It's very important for all of us to hear this, so thank you for posting this.
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