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07-02-2012, 06:27 AM | #1 |
YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Billings, MT
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| Yorkie that was killed My 10 month year old yorkie got hit by a car a few days ago, and I am devastated. Didn't know that I would be this said. I see her everywhere and I just want her back so bad. She was such a sweet girl and loving little puppy. Any recommendations on how to cope? Been thinking of getting another, but what if I don't like the dog as much? How long does the hurting last? |
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07-02-2012, 06:35 AM | #2 |
YT Addict Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Florida
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| I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my cat after he turned a year old the same way and I raised him from a itty bitty baby, so I know what you mean. There is not a day that goes by that I do not miss Koda, but it does get easier with every passing day. I think you will know when it is time and you are ready to let another precious baby into your life. I will pray for you. |
07-02-2012, 07:24 AM | #4 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: WA,US
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| I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my maltese and for me I tried to replace her about a month later and I just couldn't get attached to the new pup, as a matter of fact I just didn't feel a connection to the new puppy at all because all I thought about was my lil girl. I ended up giving the new pup back to the original owners which worked out really well because they wanted him back really bad but it doesn't always end up that well and you end up with a pup that you may have to re-home and that can be really hard not only physically but emotionally. I'd say wait a little bit and grieve and then when your ready you'll know. |
07-02-2012, 07:44 AM | #5 |
Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Alabama
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| I am so very sorry for your loss. My healing prayers are with you. My best advice as to coping is to give yourself time to greive, but try to focus on the happy times rather than the tragic. In time the hole in your heart will begin to heal - you will know it is happening when you automatically smile when you think of your precious little one. You will be able to visit her in the special place in your heart reserved for her love. As far as liking another pup as much as the dear little one you lost - you CAN love another as much as you love(d) her, but a new pup will never replace the one you lost. |
07-02-2012, 08:26 AM | #6 |
♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas
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| Oh, there is nothing special I know to do but take the time to cry & grieve just as if you lost a dear family member. If you will look at books & articles on the great stressors of life, losing a pet is right up there with losing a job, sustaining a major injury or losing a dear friend, etc., in its ability to hurt & cause people so much grief. The loss is commensurate to the place that person, pet or job had in your life. Some people see pets as chattel or things and losing one doesn't cause a lot of pain. To another, that pet was their best friend or major support system in bad times & good, a loyal, constant companion & the loss is pretty catastrophic. As the others have said, get through your grief knowing that pain is a part of living and it does grow into smiles & fond remembrance with enough time. Getting another pet when the right time comes won't be showing disloyalty to your lost baby or a replacement but will give you another wonderful chance to love like that again. If at all possible, don't pass up that chance when it comes. ♥♥♥
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07-02-2012, 08:50 AM | #7 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Van Alstyne, TX
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| Sorry for your loss. It is very hard to lose a beloved pet and you will always think of her. This is just me, but I would probably get another as soon as possible. But like I said, that's just me. The new one would not replace the one I lost, but would give me something to love again. You will still grieve the loss of your baby and you need to do what feels right for you. None of us can really tell you how to grieve.
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07-02-2012, 10:47 AM | #8 | |
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Years ago I lost my little heartbeat Yorkie-Poo of about 12 years to a car, and although someone else let my dog out when I was not even home, I still blamed myself for not worrying sooner about where my baby was...but I hadn't seen him outside when I arrived and he would have come running when he heard my car, plus I had no reason to believe he was out front where there was not even so much as a fenced yard, and I was very busy getting dinner ready and taking care of a tired and hungry toddler and besides...he was NEVER allowed out front...never mind ALONE out front! I was inconsolable, as you might well imagine. If you have difficulties coping due to feelings of guilt, as I did, you may possibly need to try to 'forgive' yourself at some point in order to 'overcome' some of the grief. I have 'never' actually 'recovered' from his loss...I will always feel responsible...that I let him down. To think it may have been "the best thing" for him, since he was older...although he had nothing wrong with him at all except his 4 front teeth had been extracted...I couldn't say. We had to move to (West) Germany within a year and I wouldn't have been able to take him since they wouldn't have shipped him, but even that is still NO CONSOLATION for me. I don't know if this helps or not, but it is my feeling that things sometimes do happen for reasons we often do not understand...this may be such a time for you. If you feel so inclined to get another Yorkie baby, then I would encourage you to do so...if not, then wait...only you can decide when the time is right. My sincerest condolences...
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07-02-2012, 11:12 AM | #9 |
♥Love My Snuggle Bugs♥ Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Missouri
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| Years ago I lost my beautiful little Pom the same way and went through what you are. We got another 3 weeks later but I never could have the same attachment to her because ( I feel ) I got her way to soon and I was always comparing her to our little DeeDee. We had and loved her for 14 years but the feeling was never the same. When we lost our little Lolo we waited almost a year to get Kyra and the love I have for her is just as much as I had for Lolo. I think the difference is I waited long enough that I didn't feel I was just trying to replace the little one we lost.
__________________ CharleneMama to Laddy and Kyra and Always in our hearts Lolita |
07-02-2012, 12:43 PM | #10 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: uk
Posts: 43
| i am so sorry you lost your little girl in such a tragic way. i lost one of mine last september .i still cant think about her without getting sad . but felt ready in june to add a new baby to our family my girl was a chinese crested and couldnt think of the same breed cause i knew i would compare them ,so i decided on a yorkie boy and think the world of him he has brightened up our lives so much , i had to wait till i was ready which took around 9 months ,i know things will get better for you but it does take time |
07-02-2012, 12:59 PM | #11 |
YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: NY
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| To lose a beloved pet in such a tragic way is horrible. I don't know if you ever really get over it. I still get tears in my eyes thinking of my past pets that lived long lives and died at an old age. Life does go on though despite our grief. I was never going to have another dog after my 15 year old Shih Tzu died but after several months of life without a dog I just could not stand it anymore. I guess it will depend on how much you value your relationship with pets. I have always had dogs and cats in my life and I bond with them very easily so it is unnatural for me to be without them. It all depends on your personality as to how long you will be upset about this. |
07-02-2012, 01:50 PM | #12 |
YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Billings, MT
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| Thanks for all of the kinds words and advice, it has made me feel better. I just miss her so much, and keep on thinking I am going to see her. Never knew I could love a little yorkie so much. She was my first. |
07-02-2012, 02:35 PM | #13 |
♥Love My 3 Furrbutts♥ Donating Member | I'm so sorry you lost your little one in such a tragic way. Time is a healer. When and if you are ready to add another furbaby to your life you will know when the time is right. You will never replace her in your heart, she will hold that one special place...and she waits for you at the Rainbow Bridge. Take your time and grieve, we all handle grief in our own way. This forum is a wonderful place as we all truly care about you and your furbaby. RIP little one. Jacqui
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07-02-2012, 02:40 PM | #14 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Johannesburg, South Africa
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| how sad, all i can say is i am so sorry for your loss
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07-02-2012, 03:31 PM | #15 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Orangeburg SC
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| I am sorry to hear about the loss of your puppy. I hope time heals some of the pain you feel now. No other puppy will ever replace the one you lost. Each one is an individual. However, I hope you will consider getting another puppy in the future. I have two dogs . One is a yorkie and one is not. I can tell you even if they were both yorkies, I know they would have different personalities. My neighbor lost her poodle and she got another poodle (the same color but their personalities were totally different. Cherish the memories you have of your special little pup. |
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