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02-16-2012, 11:39 AM | #1 |
Banning Queen Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Home of the Kalamazoo Wings, MI.
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| I've hurt Princess's feelings & I feel terrible. Long vent... Going through a heck of a time right now. The last couple of days have been hard. I've been very short with both my skin daughter & Princess. I've lost my temper & yelled out of frustration, slammed drawers shut, whatever. Never hurting anyone physically but sometimes it's just too much to hear her insist on playing when I am barely keeping my head above water. I just want to be left alone for one second. Quiet so I can at least acknowledge all that's going on inside my heart & mind. Well the need for quiet is really 'paying off'. Yesterday we all went to my parents so I could chill but mostly so Princess could play & get some extra attention. I know I've been neglecting some of her emotional needs. Not that I want to but just because I can't even tend to my own. It was pretty relaxed over there & she seemed to have fun with the four other dogs & my family. But last night she ignored me after we got home the entire night. She slept with dd- at about 2a.m. I climbed in bed with them just to have a few moments of closeness as I know I'll be in the hospital soon for a week+ or so if I can handle it until then. I got in bed and Princess left-she never came back. I worked & tried to prepare for my absence & when I came home Princess couldn't care less. I gave her a treat to soften her up & she ate it and that was it. We have a ritual for when I come home & it never fails. It did today. She still listens & came to me when called so I could give her kisses. Nope. She kept her head turned the entire time. Her tail didn't wag, she wanted down. Now I feel even more depressed. My dd understands what happens sometimes (she's 14 & sadly seen me in very dark times), but Princess must just think I'm an evil bitch. Will she forgive me? Will she miss me when I'm gone & even be happy to see me return? I feel so terrible. I'm a terrible yorkie mom. I wish she knew how much I love her & how one moment of her personality & love can get me through an entire day. It just sucks that she really can't know that. What also sucks is the drama someone must go through to really get help. No wonder people don't even make it that far, there are so many hoops & so much bs I just can't believe it. And at the moment I have TWO forms of insurance-everything done with a doctor or in a hospital would be covered 100%. It's so frustrating to climb out of a pit when there are no walls to begin to scale. Sorry for sounding like a ridiculous cry baby & drama queen. My stuff I can handle, but hurting Princess is almost too much.
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02-16-2012, 11:45 AM | #2 |
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| Im sorry your going through such a difficult time. She will forgive you I really dont think shes mad at you anyway she just doesnt know what to think of the situation. I have yelled at mine or been short too so dont feel bad for being human
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02-16-2012, 11:48 AM | #3 |
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| Sorry that you are under so much stress and of course she will forgive you. We all need to vent every now and then. I don't know about your health issues but will keep you in my ts' and p's.
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02-16-2012, 12:57 PM | #4 |
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| Hold her and talk to her like she's human... and tell her you are sorry and that you love her. Say the words out loud. Then give her some space... mine usually come around in less than 24 hours and act like nothing happened.
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02-16-2012, 01:08 PM | #5 |
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| I am so sorry that you are going through such a tuff personal time. Your baby doesnt understand you being upset with her, because she is just a little child (with fur). Extra cuddles would be good for the both of you. You need her and she needs you. You need to tell her what is going on. I personally believe that our furbabys know our heart and if you explain it to her she will get it. I had an older lady tell me,when I got my yorkie,to never leave her and not explain it to her. So even if I am going to be absent for just a few hours or a day or two,I explain it to Mina. I even tell her who will be caring for her. I know it may sound silly but the one time I didnt tell her,she was so hurt. I will keep you,your daughter and your princess in my thoughts and prayers. I hope that there will be peace in your home. |
02-16-2012, 01:22 PM | #6 |
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| It's okay don't beat yourself up, furkids have no way of understanding what you are going through. I'm sure if she understood spoken words she would be more sympathetic. IMO I would give it some time. When you are out of the pit and in better light Princess will feed off of that positive energy and come around in no time. Our fluffs have a keen sense and can sniff out my bad days and know when to stay away. Tessa is my emo-child and will run to her dad to get her diva fix. Daisy, my maltese, on the other hand loves me through and through, even when I'm off putting and no fun to be around. Love her to pieces. I come to accept that both my girls have different personalities and no 2 fluffs are the same, which makes them unique and interesting. I accepted the fact that Tessa is a daddy's girl and I still treat her the same as I would Daisy. I don't question her love and affections for me because she really is a bit of a sassy girl that does things on her own terms. Her attitude really humors me and sweetie always joke that Tessa is only taking after her mommy lol. Anyway I hope you feel better. Don't force or expect affection from your little girl, it only makes matter worse, rather let her come around when she's ready. But most importantly please try to remain positive, we all have our dark times. No one's perfect I know I'm not. |
02-16-2012, 01:26 PM | #7 | |
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02-16-2012, 06:43 PM | #8 |
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| Just wanted to offer you some love and support. She will come around...it sounds like she is very sensitive to your emotions. Forgive yourself and do better. That is all anyone can expect of themselves.
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02-16-2012, 07:10 PM | #9 | |
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So...it's not just me, then. I tell my babies where I am going and when I'll be back....and that I love them. When I get back, I tell them I love them and missed them. Going to work it is "little while" and/or "back soon" but going to the kitchen for a drink, it is "1 second" or 1 minute" and laundry is "2 minutes" etc. I tell them I need them to be still "few minutes" so I can pay bills, etc. They may not understand the words, but they 'read' faces and emotions and understand 'telepathically'. I treat all my animals with the same respect I would bestow on any other living being. Your baby may be confused and not understand at the moment, but she loves you and all you need do is love her back and treat her like any other 'human'...same respect. She may be giving you the space she thinks you want, but you can 'invite' her back into it with you. The difficulties you are facing will end. I am sorry you are having them, and hope all goes well for you. {{{hugs}}}
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02-16-2012, 07:26 PM | #10 |
YT 2000 Club Member | I don't know exactly what you're going through, but it sounds like you're pretty stressed. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. As for your furbaby, of course she'll forgive you, our furbabies love us even on our worst days. Hang in there, it'll get better.
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02-23-2012, 08:25 PM | #11 |
Banning Queen Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Home of the Kalamazoo Wings, MI.
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| Well after a much needed 'break' & some major life adjustments I'm back. Certainly feel entirely different than when I created this thread, that's for sure. While I was gone dd stayed some where different than Princess did & when dd came to visit her she said Princess went to the door after she greeted her & kept jumping & jumping waiting for me. At night she would go to the door & bark a whiney bark at the door asking to leave. Awe, almost brings tears to my eyes! I guess this puppy really does love me and I sure love her. It was funny, in my hospital room I had pics of dd & Princess on my desk. My nurse came in and said awe, "is this your dog", etc. "is she wearing fur!?" I said "yeah, she's kinda spoiled". She said "ya think?! you have a whole shrine of her & two pics of your dd, I kinda got that she's spoiled!" Made me LOL. Btw, there were an even amount of pics, I made sure.
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02-23-2012, 09:19 PM | #12 | |
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02-24-2012, 06:02 AM | #13 |
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| So glad that things are better for you and Princess....
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02-24-2012, 09:36 AM | #14 |
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| I'm so happy to hear that you are feeling better
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02-24-2012, 09:41 AM | #15 |
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| Glad t hear that you are feeling better and that Princess is back to her normal self!
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