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Care28 · 11-28-2005, 09:07 PM

My question is, is it TOO soon? We just lost Kelli last week, and we're not *actively* searching right now...just looking. We're thinking of going through a breeder this time, and looking for another little girl so Kelli can have a little sister. I'll still consider her to be that even though she's gone. I just don't want to rush this, no one can EVER replace our Kel, but we miss the pitter patter of little yorkie feet in this house....we may wait until after the holidays to really start looking. What do you guys think?

chewysmom · 11-28-2005, 09:15 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know your grief. I lost my pug at this time last year. It was devastating and after not having a dog in the house for a few weeks, it just seemed so empty. I was ready at the end of January! I waited until May and it was the longest 5 months of my life! You know that you will never replace Kelli, but a new puppy with its own personality and habits will probably bring you a lot of joy. When you get your new pup, I know it will be very loved

alaskayorkie · 11-28-2005, 09:18 PM

I waited almost 10 years from the time I lost my beloved lab until I opened my heart to another dog. It was a wasted 10 years in that sense, and I had a hole in my heart the entire time. I say get another pet as soon as you can. You've got to do something with all that love.

whispersmom2 · 11-28-2005, 09:21 PM

Not good to bring a puppy into a new home during the holidays. JMHO! There is stress, both eu and dis, and the puppy should not be subjected to that atmosphere...So, please wait til after the holidays if at all possible. If you are just going to be home alone without vivitors, then it might make no difference when you get it...When you feel you have done with your acute grief, then you are ready to start a new relationship....

YorkieShadow · 11-28-2005, 09:22 PM

I think that you all had so much love for Keli that yes you should go out and get you another Yorkie.

chewysmom · 11-28-2005, 09:22 PM

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Originally Posted by alaskayorkie

I waited almost 10 years from the time I lost my beloved lab until I opened my heart to another dog. It was a wasted 10 years in that sense, and I had a hole in my heart the entire time. I say get another pet as soon as you can. You've got to do something with all that love.

I agree 1000000% After I got Chewy and he was home with us for a day, my husband said - thank god you got him because I thought you were never gonna smile again! Chewy brought me so much joy and even that night, I just felt so happy - for the first time in 5 months!

lily's mom · 11-28-2005, 09:22 PM

I think if you are comfortable with having another yorkie now then you should. Kelli will always live in your heart and another will never replace her but will most certainly help your spirits. After all, how can you have a yorkie and not smile! Again, I am so sorry you lost your little girl!

yorkieusa · 11-28-2005, 09:27 PM

After the holidays, definitely. You do want to keep in mind, though, that no two puppies are alike. The new puppy won't have the same personality as Kelli. Don't compare the new puppy unfavorably to Kelli. Right now, she is sitting on a throne.

Care28 · 11-28-2005, 09:29 PM

Thanks guys! Whispersmom, thank you for your advice. That was my thinking too with waiting until after the holidays. None of the family functions are at our house, but the holidays are usually a crazy time either way, which is why I think we'll more actively start searching next year.

Care28 · 11-28-2005, 09:34 PM

Thank you, Yorkieusa, for that advice. There's no way I could compare another dog to Kel, I know that each dog is different. I also know that we need to work through our grief first, and get through this beginning stage of missing her, before we jump into anything...I just wanted to make sure that I was right in what I was feeling. I sometimes feel a little guilty thinking about getting a new puppy in here, it's just me being silly I know, but it's how I feel right now.

rnnw62 · 11-28-2005, 09:38 PM

I am so sorry for your loss of Kelli....I don't think it is
too soon and if anything it shows how very much her
company meant to you that you miss her so much.
Good Luck in your search! I do agree though if you
have a busy holiday season planned it may be better
to wait until after when things settle down.

yorkieusa · 11-28-2005, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Care28

Thank you, Yorkieusa, for that advice. There's no way I could compare another dog to Kel, I know that each dog is different. I also know that we need to work through our grief first, and get through this beginning stage of missing her, before we jump into anything...I just wanted to make sure that I was right in what I was feeling. I sometimes feel a little guilty thinking about getting a new puppy in here, it's just me being silly I know, but it's how I feel right now.

No, you aren't being silly at all. Those are just normal human emotions you are feeling. You loved her very much!

Kate · 11-29-2005, 01:22 AM

My heart certainly goes out to you.

I hurt so bad when I lost my little companion, that I swore I would never get another dog. Forty years later, I got my first Yorkie. I have had her for 8 mos. now, and she is 3 years young.

I love this dog with all my heart, and I say follow your heart. You have a lot of love to give, and all Yorkies need a loving parent, and a safe and warm place to live.

I would get another dog right away, but I really would wait until after the holidays. That is my 2 cents.

You are in my thoughts.

Kate

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Originally Posted by Care28

My question is, is it TOO soon? We just lost Kelli last week, and we're not *actively* searching right now...just looking. We're thinking of going through a breeder this time, and looking for another little girl so Kelli can have a little sister. I'll still consider her to be that even though she's gone. I just don't want to rush this, no one can EVER replace our Kel, but we miss the pitter patter of little yorkie feet in this house....we may wait until after the holidays to really start looking. What do you guys think?

Chelsey · 11-29-2005, 01:34 AM

In your heart you will know what to do, if you feel the time is right then go for it - i waited 18months before i could think of having another yorkie baby in my life again to love after the loss of my last one.

Good luck with your decision and keep us updated

wnalegria · 11-29-2005, 04:15 AM

Sometimes it is better to give yourself a little time to recover emotionally. It is a big loss. Just make sure that your heart has healed enough to accept the new baby for who and what they are a new individual.

I have clients who come to me after loosing a Yorkies and they want the new baby to be a carbon copy of the original. Unfortuantely that can not be. Do accept this new addition to be just what it is. A brand new start on life with it's own personality and the gift of love to give to you and your family.

You will always remember the baby that you lost in your heart and they have a way of smiling from above and helping you thru this time of hurt. They want you to remember the good times and to continue in their memory.

11-28-2005, 09:07 PM	#1
Care28 Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2005 Location: Missouri Posts: 248	We're thinking about getting a new YT soon.. My question is, is it TOO soon? We just lost Kelli last week, and we're not actively searching right now...just looking. We're thinking of going through a breeder this time, and looking for another little girl so Kelli can have a little sister. I'll still consider her to be that even though she's gone. I just don't want to rush this, no one can EVER replace our Kel, but we miss the pitter patter of little yorkie feet in this house....we may wait until after the holidays to really start looking. What do you guys think? __________________ Carrie & Isabella Kelli - 1995-2005 - Always in Our Hearts, Babygirl. Bella's Dogster Kelli's Dogster

11-28-2005, 09:18 PM	#3
alaskayorkie Banning Thread Dictator Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Anchorage Posts: 30,843 Blog Entries: 57	I waited almost 10 years from the time I lost my beloved lab until I opened my heart to another dog. It was a wasted 10 years in that sense, and I had a hole in my heart the entire time. I say get another pet as soon as you can. You've got to do something with all that love. __________________ Mike ~ Doting Dad to Jillie, Harper, Molly, Cooper, Eddie (RIP), Lucy (RIP), Rusty (RIP) and Jack (RIP). Check us out on YouTube

11-28-2005, 09:22 PM	#7
lily's mom Lily Loves Maximus Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Missouri Posts: 2,633	I think if you are comfortable with having another yorkie now then you should. Kelli will always live in your heart and another will never replace her but will most certainly help your spirits. After all, how can you have a yorkie and not smile! Again, I am so sorry you lost your little girl! __________________ Lily and Dawn

11-28-2005, 09:27 PM	#8
yorkieusa Crazy about Kacee! Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 21,173	After the holidays, definitely. You do want to keep in mind, though, that no two puppies are alike. The new puppy won't have the same personality as Kelli. Don't compare the new puppy unfavorably to Kelli. Right now, she is sitting on a throne. __________________ Karen Kacee Muffin 1991-2005 Rest in Peace My Little Angel

11-28-2005, 09:29 PM	#9
Care28 Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2005 Location: Missouri Posts: 248	Thanks guys! Whispersmom, thank you for your advice. That was my thinking too with waiting until after the holidays. None of the family functions are at our house, but the holidays are usually a crazy time either way, which is why I think we'll more actively start searching next year. __________________ Carrie & Isabella Kelli - 1995-2005 - Always in Our Hearts, Babygirl. Bella's Dogster Kelli's Dogster

11-28-2005, 09:15 PM	#2
chewysmom My Precious Pup Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: New York City Posts: 2,092	I'm so sorry for your loss. I know your grief. I lost my pug at this time last year. It was devastating and after not having a dog in the house for a few weeks, it just seemed so empty. I was ready at the end of January! I waited until May and it was the longest 5 months of my life! You know that you will never replace Kelli, but a new puppy with its own personality and habits will probably bring you a lot of joy. When you get your new pup, I know it will be very loved

11-28-2005, 09:21 PM	#4
whispersmom2 Inactive Account Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: MD Posts: 2,985	Not good to bring a puppy into a new home during the holidays. JMHO! There is stress, both eu and dis, and the puppy should not be subjected to that atmosphere...So, please wait til after the holidays if at all possible. If you are just going to be home alone without vivitors, then it might make no difference when you get it...When you feel you have done with your acute grief, then you are ready to start a new relationship....

11-28-2005, 09:22 PM	#5
YorkieShadow BANNED! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: USA Posts: 9,999	I think that you all had so much love for Keli that yes you should go out and get you another Yorkie.

11-28-2005, 09:34 PM	#10
Care28 Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2005 Location: Missouri Posts: 248	Thank you, Yorkieusa, for that advice. There's no way I could compare another dog to Kel, I know that each dog is different. I also know that we need to work through our grief first, and get through this beginning stage of missing her, before we jump into anything...I just wanted to make sure that I was right in what I was feeling. I sometimes feel a little guilty thinking about getting a new puppy in here, it's just me being silly I know, but it's how I feel right now. __________________ Carrie & Isabella Kelli - 1995-2005 - Always in Our Hearts, Babygirl. Bella's Dogster Kelli's Dogster

11-28-2005, 09:38 PM	#11
rnnw62 Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Gilbert, Arizona Posts: 1,610	I am so sorry for your loss of Kelli....I don't think it is too soon and if anything it shows how very much her company meant to you that you miss her so much. Good Luck in your search! I do agree though if you have a busy holiday season planned it may be better to wait until after when things settle down. __________________ Shelly, Teddy, Toby,Hanne & Indigo

11-29-2005, 01:34 AM	#14
Chelsey My2Pearls Chelsey & Chanel YT Donator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: N Posts: 4,097	In your heart you will know what to do, if you feel the time is right then go for it - i waited 18months before i could think of having another yorkie baby in my life again to love after the loss of my last one. Good luck with your decision and keep us updated __________________ Proud member of the crazy club

11-29-2005, 04:15 AM	#15
wnalegria Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Indianapolis Indiana Posts: 815	Sometimes it is better to give yourself a little time to recover emotionally. It is a big loss. Just make sure that your heart has healed enough to accept the new baby for who and what they are a new individual. I have clients who come to me after loosing a Yorkies and they want the new baby to be a carbon copy of the original. Unfortuantely that can not be. Do accept this new addition to be just what it is. A brand new start on life with it's own personality and the gift of love to give to you and your family. You will always remember the baby that you lost in your heart and they have a way of smiling from above and helping you thru this time of hurt. They want you to remember the good times and to continue in their memory.