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Old 08-23-2011, 11:05 AM   #1
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Unlove Having a very hard day today

I have always had a lot of pets. I love animals with all my heart. My husband just returned from deployment (8 months). While he was away I gave birth to our 2nd son. We have now moved into a bigger house and I have been struggling to keep up with the babies, the house, my marriage, and our 4 animals. So yesterday I did something I thought I would never in a million years do. I gave up my parrot. I brought him to a parrot rescue. He is a double yellow headed amazon and he was very attached to me. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. For a while now I haven't had time for him and he was left in my room most of the day. I knew it was coming and I knew he would be happier. I know he will be. There are people there that are going to work with him and find him a good home. He gets to be around people all day and other birds instead of in my room. I know deep down I did the right thing but it hurts so bad bc I know that even though I explained it to him he will never truly understand and he will think I abandoned him. He will think I don't love him. I love him so much. Parrots are incredibly social animals and I was as close to him as he was me. I wokee up this morning and cried when I didn't see his cage and hear his noises he makes every morning. It is so much harder than I thought it would be. I was selfish for a few months in keeping him bc I knew how much I would miss him. His name is Echo but he thinks that's my name and calls me all the time. When I put him in a cage at the rescue I kissed his head and told him I loved him whille I cried. I can only hope that he felt that emotion. The stress I have been going through lately is so much at times that I simply do not know how I will continue to cope. I don't know when things got so hard. Echo, like all my pets, is like one of my babies. I had to do what was right for him but I wish the hurt and saddness I feel in my heart would listen to my brain telling me that. I know this has nothing to do with yorkies (other than that Bentley does feel how sad I am and hasn't left my side since yesterday) but I don't have anyone else to talk to. Even if no one reads this, it feels good to get my emotions out somewhere. I always knew military life would be difficult but I never expected to be alone so often. I never expected to feel so sad all the time. Its so hard to make friends when they all leave so often. I feel like all I do is say goodbye to the ones I love. Including Echo. Thanks for listening. Sorry for the pity party.
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I'm sorry. You must be in pain, to give up any animal is hard. You did the right thing by taking him to a rescue, I'm sure they will find him a good home! Don't be so hard on yourself, it will get better!
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It doesn't matter if they are covered in fur or feathers, we love our animals. You did what was best for Echo. You put his needs first. I'm proud of you. I know you have a heavy heart right now. I hope tomorrow is a brighter day.
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I am so sorry you had to give up one of your babies. I imagine just the stress from your husband being gone is hard enough without all the other things you have to deal with. I hope he finds a good home with someone to love him. Prayers and hugs are with you. Have you talked to a doctor about how overwhelmed you feel? Maybe he could give you medicine that would help.
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Old 08-23-2011, 11:14 AM   #5
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I'm so sorry you are going through this. He will always love you and i'm sure he will be grateful once he's settled in and enjoys all the attention he's getting. Sometimes life brings us to having to make decisions we might not want to or be ready to but everything happens for a reason. Enjoy your children as they need you now. Congrats on your husband's return. Stay strong and enjoy what life has brought to you!
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I am so sorry you are going thru such a difficult time - I think you did the best thing for your Echo - take care of yourself and hoping things will go easier - sending a hug.....
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I feel your pain, you did a very unselfish thing by putting Echo 1st. You have alot going on in your life give it some time and you will feel better knowing he has a better life then you can give at this time.
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I feel your pain on your words, my heart hurts for you. I know how hard it must of been to leave Echo, you did the right thing by giving him to a rescue that will work with him and give him the attention that he needs.

Hopefully things will be easier for you in the days ahead...HUGS
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I'm going to echo everyone's sentiments; I think you did the right thing for eveyone ~ and the unselfish thing.

I pray that things will get a little easier for you.
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You will never forget Echo, but you will also remember that you put him first. Be proud of yourself for doing that for him. Blessings.
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I am so sorry to hear you are having a bad day. I know it must have been hard giving him up. I pray that as the days go by things will become easier. I trust he will find a great home!
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im so sorry you had to give up one of your babies, fur feathers or scales, they are a part of our lives. you did the right thing.. *hugs*
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It is ok you did the right thing. I know alot about parrots. I worked at an Avian Rescue years ago. These birds are very smart, maybe even smarter than most dogs. They get very bonded and require a lot of time and attention. A hand tamed amazon will be adopted by some doating 'bird person'. My Friend got her bird from the rescue, and has had her African Gray for over 40 years now. Maybe like me, when your children are grown and you are retired, you can how ever many fur and feather, babies you want and will have plenty of time to give them. Hugs
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I am so sorry that your heart hurts so bad. Sometimes the right thing is also the hardest thing. When our first child was born I had a Lilac Crowned Amazon (Ceasar),he loved me so much and hated everyone else including our new child. So that he wouldn't spend the rest of his life in a cage I sent him to live with someone else. I know the sounds that you are missing at dawn and dusk.
I know that living the military life can be so hard. Continue to make new friends because you will always either bless their lives or they will bless yours for the time that you have together.
The people that suffer for our country are not only the ones that deploy but their loved ones that have to stay here and keep things going for the family.
Blessings to you and your loved ones.
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I too gave up my senegal parrot, Jelly, because I wasn't able to take her out due to her being scared of the kids and would fly or try to bite them. Plus I left her alone a lot in a room as well and it bothered me so much I gave her to my aunt. You did a loving act. Many people just leave their pets in their current situation even though their life quality is poor or not the best. You wanted her to be happy and be well taken care of.

Maybe you can find a support group or moms group to join and be with others. Even if your not making life time friends it feels good to be with others. Good luck and keep your chin up. Your a great person!!
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