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07-31-2011, 04:23 PM | #1 |
Yorkie mom of 4 Donating YT Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: LaPlata, Md
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| My mom smacked Callie! So I am in shock right now. My parents come over to my grandparents (where I live) every sunday and they bring Sammy with them. Well Callie was trying to get Sammy to play with her and they were getting a little rough making some loud noises and we couldnt tell bad noises or not so my mom split them up put Sammy over with my dad and then turned back to Callie and held her mouth shut for a few seconds and told her no and then told her she was bad, then took her hand off of her mouth yelled at her again and smacked her across the nose and snout. I about lost my mind! I said you do not hit my dog EVER and she said I will too unless you start to discipline her well she got to them quicker then me and was closer to them that is why I didnt do it and had I known she was going to hit my dog I would have. Plus it wasn't just one dogs fault. She wanted to keep arguing with me and never once apologized! My dad picked Callie up and rubbed on her then they left. My mom was saying well she just wouldnt bring Sammy back down here anymore and such well I dont want Callie around her anymore right now at all unless she signs some kinda of contract or something. I told my grandma to please let me know when there where plans for my parents to come over here so me and Callie could go to my boyfriends house until they are not here anymore. I really dont know what to do I dont trust my mom with Callie anymore and I have to take care of the safety of my dog. I'm so angry and upset right now. Callie seems ok she seems more upset that I am upset then anything.
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07-31-2011, 04:27 PM | #2 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | I am sorry you and Callie had to go through that. I think it is a good idea to make sure Callie is not around your Mom from know on.
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07-31-2011, 04:28 PM | #3 |
Owned by Bella & Tibbs Donating Member | You have to do what is best for you and your baby! I would just tell her that that's not the way you chose to discipline your dog. I wish you the best in your situation.
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07-31-2011, 04:31 PM | #4 |
I ♥ Joey & Ralphie! Donating Member | I'm so sorry this happened, how old are you, is your mom still in charge of your life? I imagine your mom might be feeling bad about reacting like this, and perhaps theres a way to inform her that there's better ways of disiplining dogs. Also, are you even sure the dogs were fighting, sometime dogs play fight, is one of the dogs much bigger or more aggressive than the other. The problem with hitting a dog, is you are sure to make them aggressive. Your dog probably believes your mom bit him, and she taught him, that's okay behavior. Dog are leery of human hands because they think they are mouths. No pain should ever be assoicated with your hands, if Callie starts biting, you'll know why. I hope someone can give you better advice, I know you must feel awful. I would rather put Callie in a kennel than have her hit like this.
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07-31-2011, 04:31 PM | #5 |
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| you have every reason to be upset! Hitting is in no way teaching a dog anything at all, only fear. The 2 dogs were sizing each other up , not fighting or anything. It is never ok to hit a dog! I agree with you. My first reastion would be wanting to protect my dog too. Nobody has the right to hit a dog or even try to dicipline somebody else's . your mother has stepped over the line . Maybe after things calm down you can talk to her. Let her know that you are the only one to handle that kind of situation and to respect you and your Callie. I wonder how she would feel if it were her dog? I bet it is even harder because your living with grandma . this is so unfortunate. I don't know why she would hit little Callie and not her own dog? Your CAllie was not doing anything bad. And she is not a bad dog. I would be furious. Even if the dogs did get into a scuffle it does not mean it is ever ok to smack one of them.
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07-31-2011, 04:47 PM | #6 | |
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07-31-2011, 04:52 PM | #8 | |
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07-31-2011, 04:55 PM | #9 |
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| I'm sorry you are going through this. I wonder if your mother's reactions are more associated w her moods than really what the situation that just happened is. Does that make sense? Sometimes ppl's reactions to what they see are more bc of how they feel inside rather than what just happened. I think you are right to take Callie to see your bf when you mother is going to be bringing her dog. You have to provide a safe environment for Callie, and if you cannot predict someone else's moods, then you have to avoid a conflict as best you can. I think it is a great idea for your grandma to let you know if your mom is coming and bringing the dog, and then you and Callie can just go visit your boyfriend or perhaps stay in your bedroom w the dog - away from your mother and Sammy.
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07-31-2011, 04:57 PM | #10 |
Inactive Account | Awww poor Callie! I agree with not hitting dogs, imagine if it was you in there place, you wouldn't want to be hit. But I do wish you and Callie the best of luck with whatever is decided. I hope you mend things with your mom |
07-31-2011, 05:26 PM | #11 |
Yorkie mom of 4 Donating YT Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: LaPlata, Md
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| Thanks everyone I'm starting to calm down some. My stomach wont stop hurting though I feel like I'm going to throw up. But Callie is ok she is sleeping. I hate for her not to see Sammy any more because she loves him so much and gets so excited to see him but I cant have my mom smack her again either. I probably wont make any decisions to night probably still to emotional and unable to think clearly.
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07-31-2011, 05:37 PM | #12 |
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| I'm so so so sorry. I think that people get really really "protective" of their dogs and if they feel they are in danger, some can lash out. No excuse. It sounds like normal dog behavior and play to me. No reason to be disciplined in the first place! I once went to a dog park and the lady had a little Yorkie puppy and Jackson kept trying to play with him. He makes a lot of noises, grumbles, etc, when he plays and she kept saying "shoo! get away!" to him and it was really pissing me off but I never did say anything. Yes I would control my dog if he was being a jerk but the yorkie puppy was clearly LOVING it and kept trying to play back. But anyways, dogs will be dogs. And that really sucks that it happened because I know I wouldn't trust my mom with my dog again, not alone certainly.
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07-31-2011, 05:46 PM | #13 |
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| My dogs play fight all the time and it sounds like they are killing each other, but I just pull them apart if they get too aggressive, I would never hit any of my animals. They have bit me before when I tried to break them up from arguing, but I just put them on the floor. It sounds like your mom just over reacted and thought Callie was going to hurt Sammy. She probably feels bad about it now. Just cuddle up with Callie and rest.
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07-31-2011, 05:52 PM | #14 |
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| Aww, I'm sorry you had to go through that. I don't think your mom was thinking clearly. She just thought that her baby was getting hurt. She lacks education on training as many dog owners do. I'm sure she loves Callie and if you two work on something I'm sure everything will be fine.
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07-31-2011, 05:54 PM | #15 |
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| So sorry this happened to you and Callie. First we are all responsible for our actions/words - no excuses there. It is not wrong for you to set boundaries regarding how your dog is treated and to protect her, especially on your turf. Not being around when your mother comes over may be the best for safety. Perhaps you could set up some play dates with Sammy & Callie that do not involved your mother disciplining your dog and just let them play. She might agree to that if she trusts you to be kind to Sammy. If her moods are not stable it may not be safe for Callie to be around her at those times. Hope things get better for you. Sounds like you really care about Callie and are taking good care of her!
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