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romeos mommy · 03-12-2011, 07:29 PM

Hello. I have an 8 year old male yorkie. He has been completely spoiled with constant love and attention since he was a pup. I recently had a baby and my yorkie is devastated. I think he has major depression. He no longer sleeps with me and he actually looks like he is crying all the time. He poops in the baby's nursery, but is not aggressive towards the baby. It seems he has a broken heart and it's killing me. I walk him on his regular schedule and he still gets attention. Just not the same amount as before I had the baby. He was used to being on my lap and not sharing me. I never thought I would consider rehoming him , but I am thinking maybe he would be happier in another home. I never thought I would be the type of person that had a baby and got rid of their dog. I don't know what to do. I love him dearly and just want him to be happy. I am not sure I could even find a good home for a dog this age. YT is the only community I trust when it comes to yorkies.

Nico29 · 03-12-2011, 07:49 PM

Congratulations on your new baby! I think that your little cutie Romeo needs time to adjust to sharing his mommy. I am sure that he is feeling very sad but I don't think rehoming him would a good decision. Try to give him special one-on-one time as much as you can. This is a huge change in his life and in time he will be back to normal. Maybe you can buy him some new toys and treats and give them to him when you have the baby so he will associate your new little one with good things. I'm sure that things will work out.

kalina82 · 03-12-2011, 07:53 PM

Congrats on the new baby Bernadette!

I'm sorry Romeo is feeling depressed about the baby. How old is the baby now and has he been acting this way since you brought the baby home? Did you do anything to prepare him for the baby?

Romeo is a tough cookie. I wouldn't rehome him unless he starts acting out towards the baby. Try to spend time with him and the baby at the same time. Also, try to set aside some alone time with him every day. I know that's hard with a new baby but it might make him feel special again.

also, close the door to the baby room or put up a gate so he can't go in there.

chandracz · 03-12-2011, 07:54 PM

I agree with the last post that re-homing would only devastate him more. It's a change for everyone in the home. The one on one time is a great idea. Make sure he still feels like he has mommy time. He will adjust, he's just adapting to not being an only "child" anymore.

kkephart · 03-12-2011, 07:59 PM

Congratulations on your baby!! How long has your little one had to get used to the new addition?

jennzy · 03-12-2011, 08:06 PM

please please please do not rehome your dog!!!! that will only make things worse! and will feel abandonned by the family he loves.

poor little guy!

Kodak · 03-12-2011, 08:13 PM

Congratulations to you! I agree with everyone else to keep your dog as he just needs a little more time to adjust. He's acting out right now because mines acts similiar when my grandaughter arrived. I try to let them smell the baby and let them hear her and see us interact with her so it's getting better. Neither of mines have been aggressive but the run away when they hear her cry or make a noise. If I am around sitting on the couch with the baby, they will come closer now and have fallen asleep by her. I say just get him sometime but still get on him about bad behaviour so that won't continue. Good luck to you!

lovespandp · 03-12-2011, 08:18 PM

I would give Romeo more time to adjust. My friend just went thru the same thing and she was going to let me adpot her female yorkie. The day I was going to pick the female up she changed her mind.

Please give Romeo some time. You have to think where he is coming from. All of a sudden is isn't number one in your book so he is going to act upset. Just try to give him some special time, and love and I think he will adjust.

BUT, I honetly think:
If you give him some time and he still isn't showing any signs of getting better then maybe you should find him a new home, if you honestly- in your heart think he is depressed, and if you think he would be happier being the only dog with no human kids.

Thats something you would have to think about it, and think about it hard. My friend was set on giving her female to me, and the day of she couldn't do it. Now the female is doing a lot better, but her baby is 1. The yorkie gets a little more time and attention. It scares me now because my friend is preggers again and I think I will end up getting her yorkie..

Give him some time, and then reevaluate the situation.

Good Luck to you, and Congrats on the baby!

ArmaniMan · 03-12-2011, 08:21 PM

I am sure he would be more depressed if you sent him to a new home- let him adjust- continue to spend one on one time with him- also try to spend some time with him and the baby- when the weather gets nicer maybe you could include the baby in your daily walks- this way he will see the baby as part of your life together- not the thing that prevents him from spending time with you. Find really yummy treats that he likes and only give him those treats when the baby is around- this will help him associate baby with good things. You are lucky- since he is not acting out towards the baby you have time to work on this.

Mom to Hot Rod · 03-12-2011, 08:56 PM

Youve gotten some good advice already. Just sounds he needs some more time. After we got Maggie, I would take a day and spend it with hot rod running errands while hubby took care of Maggie. maybe you two could take a trip to the petstore and new get some new treats.

Congrats on your new addition.

Ringo1 · 03-12-2011, 09:06 PM

My little maltese was about 6 when my son was born. And yes, Casper, was my first 'baby'. He had so much adjusting to do; but he did it. He did still sleep with me though.

I would try to include Casper as much as I could. Throw the ball for him while the baby was in my lap and my son loooved to go for stroller rides so Casper still got his walk.

He'll adjust. You simply do not have the same amount of time to spend with him as you did before. Much as younger children have to adjust when the newest baby comes home . .

Best of Luck.

islstl · 03-13-2011, 06:36 AM

Yes, please give it ample time.

Things will work themselves out.

Jennxling · 03-13-2011, 06:57 AM

Please don't rehome him, then he'd be even sadder. Just give him time and I'm sure he will adjust. YT is a smart breed, I'm sure Romeo will learn to share

Congratz on your new baby! I hope things work out!

jojomima · 03-13-2011, 07:48 AM

I think he is acting just as a young sibling would act. My daughter is pregnant with her second child and her 4yr old is not happy with the thought of "sharing".

I think he'll soon know that you still love him and eventually will have another that will love him too.

Congratulations on the baby!!

Jinger · 03-13-2011, 08:03 AM

I would just give him lots of time.

When I had my first baby I had an American Eskimo. He loved me soooooo much and was always on my lap (barely), by my side, with me on a walk, and so on. We prepared him for the birth, brought clothes and blankets home to him while we were still in the hospital and I went in to see him when bringing her home BEFORE bringing her in.
It took him about 2 minutes to go over to the hearth, face the fireplace and lay down with his back to the room. He went there for 2 weeks straight. We were devastated. Over time he spent more and more time with my hubby and was always happy with my kids. While things were never exactly the same, he had a happy home he loved and was totally devoted to my hubby.

Have lots of patience and keep that little guy around. He will adjust in his own time and his own way.

03-12-2011, 07:29 PM	#1
romeos mommy YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Pennsauken , NJ Posts: 4,068	I need advice:( Hello. I have an 8 year old male yorkie. He has been completely spoiled with constant love and attention since he was a pup. I recently had a baby and my yorkie is devastated. I think he has major depression. He no longer sleeps with me and he actually looks like he is crying all the time. He poops in the baby's nursery, but is not aggressive towards the baby. It seems he has a broken heart and it's killing me. I walk him on his regular schedule and he still gets attention. Just not the same amount as before I had the baby. He was used to being on my lap and not sharing me. I never thought I would consider rehoming him , but I am thinking maybe he would be happier in another home. I never thought I would be the type of person that had a baby and got rid of their dog. I don't know what to do. I love him dearly and just want him to be happy. I am not sure I could even find a good home for a dog this age. YT is the only community I trust when it comes to yorkies. __________________ Bernadette & Romeo

03-12-2011, 07:49 PM	#2
Nico29 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: USA Posts: 734	Congratulations on your new baby! I think that your little cutie Romeo needs time to adjust to sharing his mommy. I am sure that he is feeling very sad but I don't think rehoming him would a good decision. Try to give him special one-on-one time as much as you can. This is a huge change in his life and in time he will be back to normal. Maybe you can buy him some new toys and treats and give them to him when you have the baby so he will associate your new little one with good things. I'm sure that things will work out. __________________ [CENTER][FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkorchid][B]

03-12-2011, 07:53 PM	#3
kalina82 Phantom Queen Morrigan Donating Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: with my yorkie baby Posts: 10,141 Blog Entries: 1	Congrats on the new baby Bernadette! I'm sorry Romeo is feeling depressed about the baby. How old is the baby now and has he been acting this way since you brought the baby home? Did you do anything to prepare him for the baby? Romeo is a tough cookie. I wouldn't rehome him unless he starts acting out towards the baby. Try to spend time with him and the baby at the same time. Also, try to set aside some alone time with him every day. I know that's hard with a new baby but it might make him feel special again. also, close the door to the baby room or put up a gate so he can't go in there. __________________ Kellie and Morgan

03-12-2011, 07:54 PM	#4
chandracz ♥I Luv my BaileyBlue♥ Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Illinois Posts: 1,855	I agree with the last post that re-homing would only devastate him more. It's a change for everyone in the home. The one on one time is a great idea. Make sure he still feels like he has mommy time. He will adjust, he's just adapting to not being an only "child" anymore. __________________ Chandra, Bailey Blue's mama

03-12-2011, 07:59 PM	#5
kkephart Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Murrells Inlet, SC Posts: 188	Congratulations on your baby!! How long has your little one had to get used to the new addition? __________________ Karla & Oliver RIP & Henry

03-12-2011, 08:06 PM	#6
jennzy YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: TOronto, Canada Posts: 804	please please please do not rehome your dog!!!! that will only make things worse! and will feel abandonned by the family he loves. poor little guy! __________________ <Mickey & Coco>

03-12-2011, 08:13 PM	#7
Kodak And Lil Sister Kamari Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Illinois Posts: 2,438	Congratulations to you! I agree with everyone else to keep your dog as he just needs a little more time to adjust. He's acting out right now because mines acts similiar when my grandaughter arrived. I try to let them smell the baby and let them hear her and see us interact with her so it's getting better. Neither of mines have been aggressive but the run away when they hear her cry or make a noise. If I am around sitting on the couch with the baby, they will come closer now and have fallen asleep by her. I say just get him sometime but still get on him about bad behaviour so that won't continue. Good luck to you! __________________ I'm In Love With 2 Yorkies! http://www.myspace.com/studkodak http://www.dogster.com/dogs/548996

03-12-2011, 08:18 PM	#8
lovespandp ♥Momma's Bambino♥ Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Ca Posts: 10,026	I would give Romeo more time to adjust. My friend just went thru the same thing and she was going to let me adpot her female yorkie. The day I was going to pick the female up she changed her mind. Please give Romeo some time. You have to think where he is coming from. All of a sudden is isn't number one in your book so he is going to act upset. Just try to give him some special time, and love and I think he will adjust. BUT, I honetly think: If you give him some time and he still isn't showing any signs of getting better then maybe you should find him a new home, if you honestly- in your heart think he is depressed, and if you think he would be happier being the only dog with no human kids. Thats something you would have to think about it, and think about it hard. My friend was set on giving her female to me, and the day of she couldn't do it. Now the female is doing a lot better, but her baby is 1. The yorkie gets a little more time and attention. It scares me now because my friend is preggers again and I think I will end up getting her yorkie.. Give him some time, and then reevaluate the situation. Good Luck to you, and Congrats on the baby!

03-12-2011, 08:21 PM	#9
ArmaniMan I ♥ Armani & Chloe Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 3,895	I am sure he would be more depressed if you sent him to a new home- let him adjust- continue to spend one on one time with him- also try to spend some time with him and the baby- when the weather gets nicer maybe you could include the baby in your daily walks- this way he will see the baby as part of your life together- not the thing that prevents him from spending time with you. Find really yummy treats that he likes and only give him those treats when the baby is around- this will help him associate baby with good things. You are lucky- since he is not acting out towards the baby you have time to work on this. __________________ Armani & Chloe

03-12-2011, 08:56 PM	#10
Mom to Hot Rod Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: MD Posts: 10,908	Youve gotten some good advice already. Just sounds he needs some more time. After we got Maggie, I would take a day and spend it with hot rod running errands while hubby took care of Maggie. maybe you two could take a trip to the petstore and new get some new treats. Congrats on your new addition. __________________ www.kissecollar.com Soft Cone Collars for Post-surgery and much more! 10% (non-food) - Discount code YT10

03-12-2011, 09:06 PM	#11
Ringo1 Ringo (1) and Lucy too! Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: On the Edge of Glory Posts: 3,447	My little maltese was about 6 when my son was born. And yes, Casper, was my first 'baby'. He had so much adjusting to do; but he did it. He did still sleep with me though. I would try to include Casper as much as I could. Throw the ball for him while the baby was in my lap and my son loooved to go for stroller rides so Casper still got his walk. He'll adjust. You simply do not have the same amount of time to spend with him as you did before. Much as younger children have to adjust when the newest baby comes home . . Best of Luck. __________________ Mommy to Lucy, Ringo, and Matthew

03-13-2011, 06:36 AM	#12
islstl Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Coconut Creek, FL Posts: 47	Yes, please give it ample time. Things will work themselves out.

03-13-2011, 06:57 AM	#13
Jennxling YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: ~CA~ Posts: 1,637	Please don't rehome him, then he'd be even sadder. Just give him time and I'm sure he will adjust. YT is a smart breed, I'm sure Romeo will learn to share Congratz on your new baby! I hope things work out! __________________ Jen, Carmel Bo & Emma Lynn I knew nothing about love until I met my yorkies!

03-13-2011, 07:48 AM	#14
jojomima Owned by Shadow Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Medford, NJ, USA Posts: 576	I think he is acting just as a young sibling would act. My daughter is pregnant with her second child and her 4yr old is not happy with the thought of "sharing". I think he'll soon know that you still love him and eventually will have another that will love him too. Congratulations on the baby!!

03-13-2011, 08:03 AM	#15
Jinger Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Dallas Posts: 2,213	I would just give him lots of time. When I had my first baby I had an American Eskimo. He loved me soooooo much and was always on my lap (barely), by my side, with me on a walk, and so on. We prepared him for the birth, brought clothes and blankets home to him while we were still in the hospital and I went in to see him when bringing her home BEFORE bringing her in. It took him about 2 minutes to go over to the hearth, face the fireplace and lay down with his back to the room. He went there for 2 weeks straight. We were devastated. Over time he spent more and more time with my hubby and was always happy with my kids. While things were never exactly the same, he had a happy home he loved and was totally devoted to my hubby. Have lots of patience and keep that little guy around. He will adjust in his own time and his own way. __________________ Jen and Zoe