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Old 02-27-2011, 06:07 PM   #1
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Question Friend's Dogs Are Driving Me Crazy!

Just had to vent. I have a friend from work who visited yesterday with her half-Austrian, half-Lab dog. No worries, we are dog friendly. But my allergies have been driving me crazy ever since. Still, yesterday was fine. Today, she comes over with that dog and a Beagle mix that she got from someone giving away puppies in front of Wal-Mart. The puppy was only 5 weeks old, and puked worms up. So, I gave her some worm medicine to hold the dog over, but I wasn't crazy about the fact that she is exposing my dog and her older dog to this new dog without her even having her first round of shots.

I worry when her bigger dog and Khloe starts playing as well. The dog isn't vicious, but she doesn't realize how much bigger she is than Khloe. So I am in a constant nervous wreck when the dog comes over. The bigger dog destroys her apartment when she is left alone, so she brings her all the time. Is there anything that I can say that won't be rude or piss her off?
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Old 02-27-2011, 06:30 PM   #2
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I'm not sure if you can be anything but blunt about it to be honest.

A bigger dog can cause serious harm to our little one's and my mom ended up with a rescue boy years ago...because the people couldn't afford the surgery on his leg it needed pins etc and even then that was probably 2,000.00 worth of vet bills.

me being a germophobe seeing a strange dog vomit up worms I'd have lost it right there.

I took my rescue savannah in 4 weeks ago the first week I had her we had ice storms and she didnt' get into the vet.

the 2nd week we got her in had a wellness check...blood stool etc and she checked out fine.

Only then would I allow my daughter and her friends to bring their dogs over.

They have small dogs but dingo is a blue heeler and comes once in a while he's busy but very well behaved around the small dogs thank god for that.

If it was me though she'd not have to be told when my germ panic kicked in and I started steam cleaning and bleaching right in front of her.
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I think saying you have allergies to dogs that shed would be a non-offensive way to stop her bringing them over. Since Yorkies are hypoallergenic, it makes sense that you're allergic to her dogs and not your own.
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Dog dander...that's why I only have hypoallergenic dogs...I'm not allergic to dogs if I was it would be their saliva that was the real issue and I'd not be able to have a dog unless I stayed very allergy medicated out...but I do have allergies and not every dander dog bugs me but most do...

I had a similar hard time with a friend who's kids are not well trained and she didn't intervene in telling them to back off...so I did. I'm responsible for taking care of my dogs...period.

I'm a pretty straight forward person though from the get go...it's hard to establish boundaries or otherwise if you've already been imposed upon...so tell her your concerns-how you do so is up to you, but you have a voice for a reason.

5 weeks is way too young for that pup to be out anywhere it can't have vacs yet and she's risking its life! if your dogs have their vacs. they're basically fine...it's the pup at risk...but there are many illnesses that don't have vacs so all are at risk-she seems super uneducated! Educate her if you are her friend. Worms can also be spread to people!

Personally I just say things point blank...I find that less rude than beating around a bush or sugar coating...then again I tick a lot of ppl off too.

Is her dog too rough with your dog? Safety first-over worrying is one thing-my dogs all play with 110# American Staff she's super gentle it's their Chihuahua friend I worry about...but size does matter if they get too excited or aren't a play nice kind of dog-it's your job to protect your baby.
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I would tell her how you feel. You can do it in a way that will get your point across but without doing it to be mean. If she is a friend than she will at least listen to your concerns. If possible have different stories or articales ready to show her of the dangers so she can see you are really concerned but trying to help her also.
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I'm not sure if you can be anything but blunt about it to be honest.

A bigger dog can cause serious harm to our little one's and my mom ended up with a rescue boy years ago...because the people couldn't afford the surgery on his leg it needed pins etc and even then that was probably 2,000.00 worth of vet bills.

me being a germophobe seeing a strange dog vomit up worms I'd have lost it right there.

I took my rescue savannah in 4 weeks ago the first week I had her we had ice storms and she didnt' get into the vet.

the 2nd week we got her in had a wellness check...blood stool etc and she checked out fine.

Only then would I allow my daughter and her friends to bring their dogs over.

They have small dogs but dingo is a blue heeler and comes once in a while he's busy but very well behaved around the small dogs thank god for that.

If it was me though she'd not have to be told when my germ panic kicked in and I started steam cleaning and bleaching right in front of her.
When I grabbed the bleach and Lysol, she helped me to clean up. But dinner was ruined. It was by far the grossest thing I've ever seen. I told her it was a bad idea to adopt the beagle mix at such a young age, without it's first round of shots, and without consulting her BF first. They share a one bedroom apartment with a cat and these two dogs. It's crazy.
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Thank you guys. I'm going to stick with the allergy reason for now, and also try to make sure she takes care of this baby. Bless its heart.
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Cry Update: I hope this baby will be okay...

I hope the baby will be alright where ever it ends up. My friend texted me this AM to tell me that the dog wasn't working out, and it caused problems with her and her BF, so she is getting her BF's Mom to call the lady to see if she will take the little girl back. My guess is 'no', and if she does, she will either not care for it, just as she did before, or go to another parking lot and try to pawn the poor dog off. I told my friend that the dog is now her responsibility, and care for the dog should be her #1 priority. She needs to take it to the vet, and if she decides to adopt it to a forever home, she can charge the new family for the cost of the shots. My friend is 18, and it shows in her discretion sometimes. She is a sweet girl with bad judgment. Free puppies are a bad sign, and someone giving them away at 5 weeks is a red flag that they don't want to pay for the expenses of the litter. The owner's Beagle went off and got pregnant, and she doesn't know what they are mixed with. The little girl is full of worms and no first round of vacs. It breaks my heart; it really does. I may try to help her out with the vacs so that I at least know the puppy is healthy. ): My friend's company manners drive me crazy, but I still love all animals, and it kills me that this little girl is going to be an orphan again.
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How sad. I hope she does not take it to the pound. Maybe she can put an ad in the paper for it.
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Animal control, humane society, various rescues (why is everyone so negative about the pounds I have volunteered then until others do shush you assume and don't know what goes one) even an abandonded pup at a vets office is the best decision rather than a return to someone who didn't care....being 18 isn't an excuse I was a single mom working full time going to school full time volunteering at a rescue in my free time, and had rescue pets that depended on me....maturity doesn't always come with age either...
Either or I hope it all works out, but ye your friend seems to make really bad decisions.
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Animal control, humane society, various rescues (why is everyone so negative about the pounds I have volunteered then until others do shush you assume and don't know what goes one) even an abandonded pup at a vets office is the best decision rather than a return to someone who didn't care....being 18 isn't an excuse I was a single mom working full time going to school full time volunteering at a rescue in my free time, and had rescue pets that depended on me....maturity doesn't always come with age either...
Either or I hope it all works out, but ye your friend seems to make really bad decisions.
I agree, nothing wrong with taking her to a pound or even better, to a vet's office. Here in the southeast, a good bit of our pounds are kill shelters. That bothers me. The county next to ours had a 30% kill rate, so two summers ago, I fostered 22 dogs of all sorts, found them good families, and kept them from getting killed. It was a ton of work, but was worth it when they got to good families. I've gotten a lot of great pictures and reports from the families that adopted.
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I agree, nothing wrong with taking her to a pound or even better, to a vet's office. Here in the southeast, a good bit of our pounds are kill shelters. That bothers me. The county next to ours had a 30% kill rate, so two summers ago, I fostered 22 dogs of all sorts, found them good families, and kept them from getting killed. It was a ton of work, but was worth it when they got to good families. I've gotten a lot of great pictures and reports from the families that adopted.
I hear these horror stories about pounds and wonder if people are less than honest, exaggerating, or if outside of my area there is such a dramatic difference

My local animal control and the vast majority surrounding are also kill shelters technically, they put down dogs that do not pass behavioral testing, or have severe medical reasoning. Same as the SPCA is around the country...worldwide...it's a last resort.

When I volunteered at rescue, the pound constantly called when they were full asking who could foster this one or that one, or can this or that rescue take this breed etc...they don't just put dogs down over overcrowding...but they also didn't take owner surrenders...they advised a list of rescues...they take strays to reunite with owners, and otherwise abandoned dogs...I think people complain so much...perhaps they should volunteer, get involved and be the change they want to see...in rescue we also had to put down some dogs because of severe behavioral issues and severe illness...it was a last resort effort as it should always be...Humboldt County Animal Shelter, Sequoia Humane Society, I volunteered there years ago...I guess I assume it is the same everywhere, perhaps not though...they should all be "so bad" as ours here though.

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I hear these horror stories about pounds and wonder if people are less than honest, exaggerating, or if outside of my area there is such a dramatic difference

My local animal control and the vast majority surrounding are also kill shelters technically, they put down dogs that do not pass behavioral testing, or have severe medical reasoning. Same as the SPCA is around the country...worldwide...it's a last resort.

When I volunteered at rescue, the pound constantly called when they were full asking who could foster this one or that one, or can this or that rescue take this breed etc...they don't just put dogs down over overcrowding...but they also didn't take owner surrenders...they advised a list of rescues...they take strays to reunite with owners, and otherwise abandoned dogs...I think people complain so much...perhaps they should volunteer, get involved and be the change they want to see...in rescue we also had to put down some dogs because of severe behavioral issues and severe illness...it was a last resort effort as it should always be...Humboldt County Animal Shelter, Sequoia Humane Society, I volunteered there years ago...I guess I assume it is the same everywhere, perhaps not though...they should all be "so bad" as ours here though.
Our pounds accept surrenders, and the biggest issue that I saw was the amount of litters they received from owners that didn't spay or neuter their animals. I also had a lot of dogs that were diabetics, had hurt limbs, etc., but with proper care, they had a chance to thrive. I'm sure that there are public services around that offers spay/neutering services at a pro-rated price, but people don't prioritize it. I'm really sensitive when it comes to killing anything living, unless the animal is at the point of living in misery with pain or bad health conditions. In GA, the pounds worked closely with better funded organizations that could rehabilitate behavioral issues in dogs, and that made a huge difference too.
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My volunteer service at the pound mainly consisted of handing out free spay neuter vouchers...rescues here do it as well...low and no cost.
I completely agree with your points about euthanasia...all rescues, pounds etc here spay neuter at low or no cost and obviously all their dogs they adopt out too.

Apparently after talking to ppl on here about our "pounds" services we do as basic here, go way above and beyond in medical care than their animal controls do...I just can't fathom other pounds not being the same-I drove just over 200 miles to another pound to get my Scoobers, they run an even better program, they work in direct conjunction with their county rescue because they are just outside the city and specifically get so many pup mill dumpees like my Scoobers...they are a small animal control in a smaller city with limited resources and receive about 6x their compacity in animals at any given time-they found ways to get national organizations involved instead of facing euthanasia just due to overcrowding...that's how it should be. S a County Animal Wellness Center.

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I can't imagine why someone would EVER suggest a pound. Even one with a low kill rate (30%) is still 30% too high.

BTW- I HAVE volunteered at pounds, so I feel no need to shush and I think it's exceedingly rude to tell others to shush if they haven't. They are horrible places that NO do deserves to be dumped in. Like it or not, your friend took on the responsibility for that free dog when she picked it up from the wally world parking lot. It's her responsibility to place it in another home or with no kill rescue. The poor dog didn't ask to be in this mess, it shouldn't be the one who has to suffer.
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