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12-23-2010, 09:51 AM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Bellevue, TN
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| Should I introduce Aiko to the family? OKay so at first glance the answer is an obvious YES!!! I would love to, however, Aiko will be about 10.5 weeks at Christmas. My schedule is very crazy for Christmas. I get off work at 3 today and take him to the vet for his shots. Then I need to go to my grandparents and help my mom cook Christmas Eve dinner. I will be over there all day tomorrow as well, until late at night. My boyfriend will be in and out tomorrow going to work around 8:30 and running home to change close quickly prior to lunch from 2-4 for lunch with his family and then back to work until Christmas Eve dinner at my grandparents at night. So I don't want to leave Aiko at home all that time. My grandparents live 20 min from me so I could come home a couple of times through the day I guess. The problem is, when I was growing up they did not allow animals in the house. However, they have gotten better about that since my mom got her rat terrier that she takes everywhere and I got Tocho (my pomeranian) that I take over there all the time. They love Tocho even though sometimes he has accidents in the house. All in all he is pretty good. He just doenst tell me when he needs to go out and sometimes there are little accidents in between. My grandparents like dogs, but they see them as money pits, and are not going to see why my boyfriend got me ANOTHER one for Christmas. They think each person should really only have 1. I want to be respectful of them, but I also just don't think it is right to leave Aiko home alone all dat today and all day tommorow. He's just a baby. Any suggestions on how to break the puppy news to the family? |
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12-23-2010, 10:09 AM | #2 |
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| When I got our Boston Terrier I did not tell anyone. We were having a celebration for my parent's birthdays. (They were both born 10.8 but a year apart) and when they came in she was sitting on my lap. Dad kept asking if I had bought her for my mom who always wanted one. We finally rehomed her with my parents due to personal issues and my mom is thrilled. So a surprise meeting worked well for me.
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12-23-2010, 10:11 AM | #3 |
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| If he were my baby, I'd have a little sling to keep him in while your busy at your grandparents. Then just take him outside to potty, have a drink and run around a little, about every hour. Take along a small crate to put him in while you sit down with family to eat. Give him something he can safely chew on while he's crated. Let them see he's your "baby", and they will think differently. I'm not only a grandmother, but a great-grandmother as well. When one of my sons and their fiance or wives came to visit the first time they had new dogs, I was very concerned about the dogs potty habits or how the adults would be as parents. Have to tell you I was more than impressed. They treated those dogs like their kids and had the dogs with them at all times. Now I love when they visit. I get to see my "grand-dogs" who have grown up to be a big part of this family and they love coming here to grandma and grandpas. Their parents say that when they get within a mile from our home, the dogs start crying and panting. They "know" where they are going. Now the dogs have free roam of the house and never a problem.
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12-23-2010, 10:20 AM | #4 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | Rather than leave Aiko for a long time I would bring a little crate to keep her safe. Maybe even put her in a bedroom to nap so she doesn't get over tired especially just having shots that day. I would use a potty pad so she doesn't have to go outside if she hasn't had all her shots.
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12-23-2010, 10:52 AM | #5 |
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| Thank you all for your input. I told my mom in the middle of my sisters college graduation that way I knew she couldn't yell at me...haha. I know she will accept Aiko (she already got him a christmas gift) but she told me that she only has one grandpuppy and thats Tocho. It just makes me feel like my little boy is the family reject.
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12-23-2010, 11:39 AM | #6 | |
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12-23-2010, 12:14 PM | #7 |
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| You are all so kind. I just wanted to say thanks. I am on my own, and an adult I'm just the baby of the family, even though I'm 28, so the family is very controlling and judgemental, it makes me nervous. I don't want anything to be taken out on my baby. Merry Christmas
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12-23-2010, 12:19 PM | #8 | |
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12-23-2010, 12:40 PM | #9 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker | I was the baby of the family, too. I can't say that my immediate family was ever judgmental -- but some of my extended family were and I do understand the need to have everyone's approval. Good news is that you can get over it. You made (I assume) an informed decision and can take proper care of the new dog, can't you?So what if they don't approve of your choices? I remember that it took me a long time to get over the idea that I needed my parents' permission for every big decision I made. I was about your age and asked my dad to help me shop for a car. He sat me down and told me I didn't need his approval and that I needed to learn to make my own decisions because he wouldn't always be there to help me. Then I cried and he went car shopping with me but that's another story. The point is, that you are an adult and you are ALLOWED to make your own decisions - and, yes, your own mistakes. If you are confident about your decisions and don't let the critics rattle you, they will most likely choose a new target. It's only "fun" to criticize when you get a reaction from your victim. I hope you have a very happy holiday and enjoy that new little one! |
12-23-2010, 03:08 PM | #10 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | I bet your Mom will fall in love with him. WHen I got Pixie 4 years ago I already had 2 dogs and I knew my Mom would be upset if I told her I got another one so I never told her. Now I was 54 at the time but my Mom was elderly and not in great health so I didn't want to upset her. She passed away 6 weeks later never knowing I had Pixie. After she passed my daughter said "well Nana knows about Pixie now".
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12-23-2010, 03:25 PM | #11 |
Donating YT 4000 Club Member | I hid Rhett from my mom for about 3 days. I didn't want to hear it from her about bringing another dog in to my home. When I did take him over there to introduce them, it was love at first sight. So much so that she adopted Oliver about 2 weeks later. Isn't it funny that no matter how old we get, we are still afraid of what our parents are going to think?
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12-23-2010, 07:26 PM | #12 | |
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12-27-2010, 07:25 AM | #13 |
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| Thanks, everyone. It did become a big deal over the holiday. I took Aiko in for his shots on Thursday after work. He had an allergic reaction as soon as I got home with him. So I had to take him back to the vet. They gave him 2 more shots to calm the reaction down and told me to keep an eye on him for the night. So I had no choice but to take him to my grandparents with me. They threw a huge fit. I heard about it all weekend. It was horrible. The next day they told me leave both dogs at home or don't come. But I guess they will get over it.. I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas and Aiko is feeling better now.
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12-27-2010, 07:27 AM | #14 | |
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I am glad to hear that Aiko is feeling better!
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12-27-2010, 09:18 AM | #15 | |
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Your grandparents will get over it hun. I'm so sorry, I hope your holiday was still semi-cheery with your new baby. I'm very happy to hear Aiko is feeling better. Litte Sweetie pie...I love the names you chose for your pups!! Hugs- Snick & Viv
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