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08-17-2010, 09:13 AM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Levering, MI, USA
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| Tough Dilemma, Need some advice.. So, here is my situation. I'm currently living in MI in a rural area and there are NO opportunities for employment here. I have a way to get out to Wyoming to stay with my dad to start out with, but his apartment doesn't allow dogs at all. I have to go out there where there is some potential for finding a job. My dilemma is this. I can either leave Boo in lower MI with my Mom until I get on my feet out west. She loves him like a gradpuppy and her little niece that lives with her is really good with him, and he loves playing with her. I know he will be happy there, but I won't be able to see him. Or, he can stay with my brother in Wyoming. They will take care of him, but aren't very warm and fuzzy when it comes to dogs, so he probably won't get loved on as much as he is used to. However, they are close to where I will be staying, so I will be able to see him every day and can go over there to take him for his daily walks and spend time with him. What would you do if you were in my position? I want to do what's best for my dog. It's breaking my heart that I can't have him live with me right away when we get there, but I have to make this move or else i won't be able to take care of him at all. |
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08-17-2010, 10:15 AM | #2 |
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| Definitely tough dilemma! But you said he will be happy with your mom, will he be happy with your brother? But you did say you will be able to see him daily, so that should help play a part in your decision. Would the apartment your dad lives in be willing to let you have Boo if you were to pay a damage deposit??
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08-17-2010, 10:24 AM | #3 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Levering, MI, USA
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| No, they said absolutely no pets. I offered an additional deposit, pet rent, and having the carpets cleaned when the dog and I leave, and they still said no. I'm thinking it will probably be a couple months, three at the most to find a job and a house to rent. After that I can fly Boo out with my mom, who is working on getting time off this fall to come out and visit anyway. |
08-17-2010, 11:07 AM | #4 |
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| I truly dont like your dilemma, this is really hard, I think if you are totally sure that it will only take three months to save for a place of your own, then my thoughts would be to leave him with your Mum, he loves her, she loves him and he would be happy for those month, yes you can see him at your brothers and you can see him on a daily basis, but that will be for only a fraction of the day and he would watch you leaving him in that place, the rest of the time he will be with them who are not fuzzy with dogs.
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08-17-2010, 11:13 AM | #5 | |
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08-17-2010, 11:18 AM | #6 |
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| Wow, really tough. If he is safe at your brother's house and you can see him daily, I would probably opt for that. If he sees you on a daily basis, it will probably be less of an upheaval in his life. Of course, if he can get lots of attention and loving with your mom, that could be ideal too. I guess the big question is which environment is better in terms of safety and overall care? For example, will your brother be totally unaware if he gets sick or something? Or would it be better to have Boo close to where you are so that if he gets sick or lonesome, you can intervene? Also, is there any chance you could stay with your brother during this time?
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08-17-2010, 11:25 AM | #7 |
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| IMHO I would leave him with your mom for the reason he knows and loves her and vice versa. You also will have a gzillion things to take care off on your new place and might not have the time you like to be with him... |
08-17-2010, 11:40 AM | #8 |
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| I really feel for you. What a hard decision to have to make. I think I would leave Boo with your Mom. I know it's hard to think that you'll not be able to see him but your Mom loves him and he loves her so he will be happy while he waits for his mommy. I think it would be tuff on Boo to see you everyday but not be with you. He won't understand why you go everyday and leave him with somebody that doesn't give him the attention and love he is use to and deserves. He'll be much happier during the next few months with somebody that loves him as much as you do.
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08-17-2010, 12:46 PM | #9 | |
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What a tough decision. I mean, I know Jackson is super loved on when at my dads house. My dad, stepmom, brother and their 2 dogs love him to pieces. He gets tons of treats, loving, exercise, good food, fenced backyard, etc. But after 5 or more days without me there, he begins waiting in the window every night for me to come home, and starts acting weird wondering when I'll be back. So for me personally, I'd feel more comfortable if I KNEW I'd still be seeing him every day and keep him with me. But that's just the decision I'd make. How often will you be able to see him every day?
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08-17-2010, 12:55 PM | #10 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Levering, MI, USA
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| Thanks for the advice everyone! I've decided to have Boo stay with his Nana until I get settled. She's very excited to get to keep her grandpuppy for a while. It's going to be tough, but my mom promised me that I can talk to him on the phone and my cousin is going to teach her how to use the webcam, so we can skype! I just feel so bad for leaving him. He's not going to understand that it's just temporary, he's going to wonder why his mom isn't there! But I know that this will be better for both of us in the long run! Thanks for the support! Now that I've heard from you guys I feel confident that I'm doing the right thing for my baby! |
08-17-2010, 01:15 PM | #11 |
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| There ya go! A 21st century doggie - using a webcam and skype. He'll be the envy of all his doggie friends
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08-17-2010, 02:10 PM | #12 | |
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Understand your logic, but I would have gone the other way. That is because your Yorkie will bond strongly with your Mom and it will be hard for both to not see each other on a daily basis after 3 months. Also, I would not speak to your Yorkie. I used to do that when I was away on business travel, and it just made mine crazy looking for me. Better off to just view him and not let him hear you IMO. Good luck! | |
08-17-2010, 03:17 PM | #13 |
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| Faced with this tough decision, I would put my feelings aside and do what I felt was best for my furbaby. If leaving your precious Boo behind would be in his best interests, then that's what I would recommend. |
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