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06-21-2010, 09:55 AM | #1 |
YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Lawton, Oklahoma
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| Are yorkies one owner dogs? So my husband has his own dog (a lab boxer mix) and so I decided to get a dog too. I got Chaz my yorkie back in March. (This is the first dog I've ever had) Even though I try to spend as much time possible with Chaz, he gets SO excited when he sees my husband, and always goes and sits on my husband's lap, instead of mine whenever we are on the couch. I will pull him back over to me, but within a minute or so, he just moves back away from me. Maybe I just don't know how to relate to him since this is my first dog. My husband tells me I have to treat him differently then I do my cats- like play with him instead of just petting him like I do my cats. I'm just getting frustrated because I don't even think my dog likes me. I don't want to give up on our relationship, but I don't want to have a dog that acts like he isn't mine. What do I need to do to make a connection with him? I don't punish him anymore for peeing in the house (which I mentioned in an earlier post and I won't flick him or yell anymore). I don't know if maybe I should get another puppy and start over. (give Chaz to my husband)What's the point of having a dog that doesn't even like me? I've never been a dog person so I don't even know if I will be good at this. (even though I love Chaz to death) Any advice? |
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06-21-2010, 11:19 AM | #2 |
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| I went and read your other posts and you have gotten some really good advice. The only thing that can add is to remember that you, in comparison to your pup are about 50x his size. Just remember this. to him you are gigantic. If he sees you as a threat, he will never learn to trust you or to want to. I too had been a cat person all of my life. Hot Rod was my very first pup of my own. I'd lived with others who had dogs so I guess I kinda had some idea of the attention needed and what not. I also disciplined by cats...they were not allowed on counters, tables or beds--well, when hubby would leave for work,one of my kitties would also join me. lol Seriously, they are 2 different animals, no pun intended. Cats will let you know when they want lovings and only give you love when they have decided you are worthy of their affections, lol, where dogs just want to give it to you all day long! I am assuming that you do all the necessary things for him such as feed, walking, bathing, brushing? Have you tried to just getting down to his level and play with him? Dogs will kneel on the front legs with their butt in the air when the are being playful...try this to get your little to see you in a different way. When he realizes that you want to be his friend, he may start to treat you differently and may start to trust you. Do you pull away when he tries to show you any affection? Do you look/stare at him eye to eye? Some dogs may see this as a threat. Try scratching him on the front of his chest lovingly when you come into the room and say something in a calm high pitched voice. Don't try to force him to be with you, he will need to decide when he is ready. It sounds as though you are trying to do the right things...it will take some time. But boy will it all be worth it. Best of luck to the 2 of you.
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06-21-2010, 11:45 AM | #3 |
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| I am not a dog trainer, nor do I play one on TV, but logically it seems to me that if the goal is to get him to want to come to you willingly and spontaneously then you need to train him to come to you. I think you need to first find out if he is food (treat) or toy motivated. Which of those two things inspires him to do what you want. I think more dogs are inspired by treats than toys but you need to find out for sure and then carry his inspiration on you at all times. If it's Cheerios or teeny tiny pieces of cooked chicken in a little training waist pack, so be it. Everytime he comes to you when you call, praise and treat. Everytime he comes to you on his own, praise and treat. Everytime he cuddles with you for any length of time, praise and treat. Everytime he asks you to play with him, praise and treat. Everytime he gives you kisses, praise and treat. After a while as with any training regimen you will treat less often but always use praise. I also think that you shouldn't let your husband have anything to do with him as far as feeding, watering, walking, changing his bedding, anything. He needs to know that all his love and care, for right now, comes from you. You can share him later. After he has learned to depend on you. Maybe I'm way off base, and others with way more knowledge will jump in and let me know, if I am. But, logically I think this may be the way to go.
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06-21-2010, 05:01 PM | #5 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2009 Location: Pewee Valley, KY
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| I have always done all the care taking for my dogs. Baths, food, nails, vet visits, everything they need. They do greet me when I get home, but if we are watching tv, 90% of the time they are laying with my husband instead of me. He's the one that gives them treats, I'm the one that restricts their treats! They know I am the caretaker, but they want their daddy. I think it's because when we are home, my husband is the one on the couch most of the time while I am up and about. They are still my babies cause, when it comes down to it, they will choose me over him every time. |
06-21-2010, 09:31 PM | #6 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: ohio
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| some dogs do tend to gravitate to a certain kind of person. some dogs may seem as though they like men more or children more, etc. what does your husband do when he's interacting with the dog? try to mimic his behavior for a bit and see if he comes around. i have never seen a socialized dog turn down a nice belly rub or a behind the ear scratch. yorkies were also bred to catch rats so they have a pretty good prey drive which means they're usually find a game of tug-of-war to be a fun activity. you can also call him to you and when he comes give him a treat and let him get distracted. call him again and then stroke his head and scratch him at the base of the tail. doing this exercise at least once a day will usually make your dog more than happy to hang out with you. |
06-22-2010, 05:34 AM | #7 |
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06-22-2010, 07:34 AM | #8 |
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| Aww I'd probably feel the same way as you if my baby gravitated towards my BF! I got my puppy 2 weeks ago (he was a present from my BF) and although we spend around the same amount of time with Oliver, he is COMPLETELY attached to me...it happened within a few days of getting him. I do everything though, take him out to pee, feed him, play with him, etc. The best bonding thing I can tell you is to get some of his food (or Cheerios which my pup loves) and spend 45 min to an hour just sitting down with him teaching him to sit, lay down, etc. and give him his rewards. My Oliver LOVES to do that and its helped us bond soo much. I do it during his dinner time because not only does it ensure that he is eating enough but he thinks its playtime too and loves it Best of luck to you!! |
06-22-2010, 07:51 AM | #9 |
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| I agree with the other posting here. You have to have patients with your new puppy. When my Husband and I watch tv, my Pixie is always laying next to me. My Husband will come an pick her up and put her on his lap and 2 seconds later she is right back laying next to me. That is because I'm the one that feeds, takes her out, give treats, etc. However, my husband is the one that plays fetch with her. You'll make it, but it will take some time.
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06-22-2010, 08:05 AM | #10 |
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| My hubby is only home on weekends, he is a trucker. So when he comes home Merlin gets very excited and wants to play a lot with him. When we sit on the couch he switches laps so we both get his affection. Needless to say Merlin is my husbands dog when he does something cute, listens or does his business outside. But he is my dog when he needs to go to the vet, grooming, food and for sure if he leaves a present on the carpet...lol. Give it time, play a lot with him and maybe attend a doggie class. |
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