could he have been abused?

[yorkie mad]

I brought an 11 month boy yorkie almost 2 weeks ago for a playmate for my little girl Tia. Anyways he has been fantastic in bonding with her and me however when my sons, 22 yr old, 19 yr old and my husband go to stroke him he starts to pee. He also cowers when any of the men approach him quickly.
im really starting to think that maybe the man and lady whom I brought him off of abused him , I hope not , but what do you guys think?

[Cerise]

I think you are probably right, especially since he does this with the men. That is so sad. Why did they rehome him? He will need time to adjust, training and lots of TLC.

[TresCutePiggies]

It does sound like he has a fearful response around men.

As horrible as it is that he might have been treated poorly by men in the past, he is so lucky to be somewhere better now. I'll bet with some time your husband and sons can gain his trust.

[Lee B]

That's classic submission.

He may have been abused and is just flat out scared of men. Or he may have had the fear of God instilled in him by a man and he's trying to show he's not challenging authority.

Either way, may I suggest that the males in your family shower a little extra attention on him so he understands he has nothing to fear? Extra treats? A head ruffling once in a while? Walks?

Hopefully, he will get over it, but it may take some time.

[yorkie mad]

Originally Posted by Cerise

I think you are probably right, especially since he does this with the men. That is so sad. Why did they rehome him? He will need time to adjust, training and lots of TLC.

They rehomed him because the lady and her boyfriend moved into a flat with no garden and they were locking him in the kitchen from 6 am till 6 or 7 in the evening because of their jobs.. They have had him from 12 weeks old and felt he needed a life. I got a feeling they may have hit him when he had a toilet in that kitchen because when he has had a little accident here he like crawls off to his bed when I find it. I don't want to judge people too much , but why bother getting the little guy in the first place, ill take that back , Im glad they did because now hes mine and Tia is in love with him.

I forgot to say when she put on his lead for me to take him he dragged me out of that flat and on the way out the couple said "at least now we won't feel guilty going to the gym in the evenings"

[poppys mummy]

oh julie , olly seems scared of men for some reason poor little mite , thank god he is now in the safety of your family hopefully as time goes by he will get better , just be patient , love jill n poppy xx

[yorkie_mama22]

Originally Posted by yorkie mad

They rehomed him because the lady and her boyfriend moved into a flat with no garden and they were locking him in the kitchen from 6 am till 6 or 7 in the evening because of their jobs.. They have had him from 12 weeks old and felt he needed a life. I got a feeling they may have hit him when he had a toilet in that kitchen because when he has had a little accident here he like crawls off to his bed when I find it. I don't want to judge people too much , but why bother getting the little guy in the first place, ill take that back , Im glad they did because now hes mine and Tia is in love with him.

I forgot to say when she put on his lead for me to take him he dragged me out of that flat and on the way out the couple said "at least now we won't feel guilty going to the gym in the evenings"

My Stormy was always afraid of men. She was just terrified of every male that came around. She was excellent with children and boys under 13.

[ARCHIE]

Thank heavens he's safe with you now. Yes, I would agree his fear of men
IMO would mean some man scared him. He's young and has to learn to trust
the men in your family. He will, with love, gentleness and lots of treats.
I would let the men in your family take over feeding him his meals.
Food is the most important commodity to a dog and those that feed them
are important to them. I am sure in time he will love them and trust them.
Good luck,

[yorkieusa]

I saw one that was submissive with men, but not with women. I suppose the key question would be: were there men at the previous home?

[yorkie mad]

Originally Posted by poppys mummy

oh julie , olly seems scared of men for some reason poor little mite , thank god he is now in the safety of your family hopefully as time goes by he will get better , just be patient , love jill n poppy xx

Thanks Jill , hes getting lots of loving here. Ive only started to notice this behaviour with my men because the boys are rarely here (at their girlfriends)and its mainly me here and my hubby in the evenings.My 19 yr old is off uni this week and said that he is concerned that every time he approaches him he cowers which is why Ive kept an eye on it these past 2 days and we have all noticed the wetting when he lays on his back. Even when I call him he will immediantly lay on his back instead of sitting or standing infront of you and anyone else he meets. Anyway we do a little training session every day during my dinner hour( i work 9-3) and he is doing brilliantly.This little guy will be just as spoilt as my little girl

[poppys mummy]

you will eventually take his fear away , its just so nice for him that he has found a loving home that he deserves you can see how spoilt he is already , well done julie , love jill n poppy xx

[yorkie mad]

thanks for all your tips I will start straight away thanks guys and heres a pic , Ollys the one on the left, Tia on the right

[Darlene68]

Awwww poor little thing I hope he comes around to trusting men again, I am sure he will with love, patience and time

[poppys mummy]

julie they are adorable , they look like they have been together for years i bet they have loads of good times to come love jill n poppy xx

[yorkie mad]

thanks again everyone, this may be corny but I just love yorkie talk ,I was stressed half an hour ago about this but now I know what I can do to make things better