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Old 03-01-2010, 12:34 PM   #1
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We have had our yorkie for a little over a year now. Before we bought her I really didn't research this particular breed. I just thought they were cute. We brought her home at 12 weeks like you are supposed to. She did whine and miss her litter mates so we gave her extra love and attention .
She pretty much picked me out of the family to cling to. I was her primary care-giver as my children are in school all day and I don't work outside the home. Now, i have this constant shadow ALL THE TIME! All she cares about is me and has to be next to me. When I leave to run errands she sits at the window and waits for me. My kids said she will not do ANYTHING but sit and wait for me.
I had to take me daughter out of town for a competition and my yorkie stopped eating and threw up yellow bile for two days. My husband finally got her to eat, but said she was completely depressed the whole 4 days I was gone. She started acting normal the minute I returned. The reason my whole family did not go is because we have no one to babysit her and just look how she acted when half of my family was STILL home with her! How could we expect a dog-sitter to deal with that? The problem is we really want a family vacation at the begining of May. I am sick of always splitting up to do things because of the dog! My Mom does not really like dogs, but said she would watch her for us at her house. She will just have to stay outside a lot because my Mom does not have a doggy door. My yorkie is trained to go outside and I have never introduced potty-pads. She never spends time outside except to potty, then runs right back in. I get the feeling she does not know she is a dog She thinks she is my baby and does not need to do normal dog things.
I know this is getting long, I just wish I had not spoiled her so much. Part of me wants to just leave her and make her get used to it, but I have heard that this breed never really does. Is it normal for them to attach themselves so heavily to one person? I really don't want to make her so sick again, but at the same time, she drives me crazy! I should not have to expect my mom to deal with her carrying on like she did and cleaning up her vomit and trying to get her to eat!
My sister told me that we should not have got a dog in the first place because we are busy people who are always here and there, but somehow it has always worked out that we could have her with us. I guess this is what I get? I just don't understand because we had dogs growing up and they just lived in a doghouse in the backyard. We left them all the time to vacation and they were always happy dogs! We never had problems with them! I guess I just picked the wrong breed? Is my yorkie normal? Is it too late to change her? Should I just quit complaining and just live how we have been? Thanks for any advice you could give me!!
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Old 03-01-2010, 12:48 PM   #2
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Yorkies shadow you. Most will move from room to room as you move. Usually, even to the bathroom as well. They become very, very attached to their people, but usually not to the extent that if one of the family is gone that they will not eat. Why not have other members of your family feed her instead of you and take her outside? This should help her attach herself to them instead of only to you.
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Yorkies shadow you. Most will move from room to room as you move. Usually, even to the bathroom as well. They become very, very attached to their people, but usually not to the extent that if one of the family is gone that they will not eat. Why not have other members of your family feed her instead of you and take her outside? This should help her attach herself to them instead of only to you.


I would have others help in her caretaking so she will be able to feel that she can count on others. She sounds as though she is just a dollbaby and just needs to feel more comfortable around others If you are looking to have your mom dog sit, you may want to intoduce her to your mom and have your mom take care of her now to get used to each other. This way they will not be complete and total strangers when you are on vacation. Is taking your little one on vacation an option?

I am sure that you are just frustrated and would not leave this poor baby outdoors at your mom's while you are gone; they are not suited to be outside all the time. I am not sure of where you live but they can be prey for a lot of animals. I have hawks, buzzards, fox and deer where I live and would not let mine run loose, much less leave outdoors for any length of time by themselves. Just have other members of your family start giving her attention and basic care, she will learn that she has a whole bunch of new humans to serve her.
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sounds like a serious case of separation anxiety. I would try having your Mom watch her an hour a day just to separation use to your mom.
My Yorkie Pixie follows me room to room but she also will sit with my husband at night. She cries when I leave as if I were killing her inside and I feel awful.
I am home all day as well except for going to the gym first thing in the morning and sometimes I run errands. I am concerned as well about Pixie bc my husband said that when I went to the store on Sunday she sat by the door and cried. It broke my heart. I have another dog Daisy who is 6 and has had separation anxiety and has gotten better. She just freaks out for the first few minutes that we leave.
I started with Daisy going places for maybe a 1 hr at a time and I hired someone to take her for a walk while I was gone.
That made a big difference. so maybe you could run errands and have your Mom come over and play with her or take her for a walk while you were gone that way when you leave she would have something to look forward to. good luck~
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Wow...I can't even imagine being that upset with something for loving me so much. You are the world to that little dog but it sounds like you don't want to be and that's a shame...I feel bad for your girl.

You would be doing even more damage by having your dog stay with your Mom and just stay outside a lot...she's not used to that and something could happen to her.

Is it possible for you to take her with you on your vacation? We take ours everytime we travel and it's really not a problem. Have you checked into boarding her when you go? What about your vet...do they do boarding or would someone in their office be willing to do that for you?

You do have options but please, don't be upset with her for loving you and for being bonded to you...that's what she was raised to be.
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So would it be better to board her? I thought that might be even sadder We have to go to Anaheim for a competition and will be spending time at Disneyland. Since she is not potty-pad trained, she couldn't just sit alone in the hotel the whole time. Is she still young enough to potty-pad train her? Much to what you think, I don't want to leave her and make her misrable! I love her to pieces but I am not going to keep dividing up our family vacations because of her! There has to be a happy medium! I am willing to try anything!
My kids do help take care of her, feed her, bathe her, they try to walk her, but if she can't see me she just runs back home! I just wish she was more independent. Any advise on how to reach that? If she does end up staying with my Mom, I would of coarse take her over there and get her used to it. I am just afraid that she will NEVER get "used to it". You know? I am already trying to leave her more and more and I really would like it if she could sleep with other family members. We try to tuck her in with my daughters and she just cries by the door to get out and find me. We just keep trying but it breaks my heart. I know I need to toughen up too!
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Have you checked with your hotel to see if they allow pets? More and more people travel with their pets nowadays and you might be surprised at the accomodations they may provide.

Rather than have your kids take her out of your sight why don't you try to include them in something with you and her...have your kids give her a treat for doing something instead of you giving it to her.

You may be able to train her to use potty pads at her age but that is something you should think about...some take to it and some don't. My girls will use potty pads and go outside...it does come in handy for travel and bad weather days. Is she crate trained or trained to a puppy pen or x-pen? If so you could easily train her to use pads by keeping her in a confined area and giving her the pads to go on...praise her for using them so she knows it's o.k. to go inside but only on the pads. You can also buy a tray that holds the pad down so it protects your floor...or...you can use the washable potty pads...it's just a matter of preference. However, when I used the washable pads my girls thought my rugs were fair game too so I went back to the paper pads and the tray. We now have a doggie door and fenced yard so I only use pads when we leave and I block the doggie door...or if we stay in a hotel on a trip.

My first Yorkie was totally bonded to me and I loved it...sure, he loved my husband too but only if I wasn't around! Try to include your family in as much as you can with her...mealtime, treats, laying down together at naptime, going for walks...etc...and maybe she will learn to trust and love them too.
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Our baby has seperation anxiety too..but shows it in a different way. ..nipping..barking..destroying!
I am certainly no expert but I would be more comfortable boarding her at the vet. That way if she doesnt eat and gets sick, she will be in the best place for it to be dealt with! Plus she is inside, and they walk her everyday.
Just my opinion..hope it works out for you
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I don't want to sound harsh here. And I am in no way judging you. But I do not think you are ready for a yorkie. They are higher maintenance, They are lap dogs, and they are basically your shadow. It is ok to admit that you are overwhelmed by all of this, As long as you keep the best interest of your pup at heart. It is alot different than owning other or bigger dogs. I am a new Yorkie owner myself my girl is almost 8months old now, And although I had Chows and German Sheppards in my household.. its a whole other ballpark with Yorkies. I know there allot of awesome members on here who would be happy to assist you in any help you need making decisions. And no matter what remember to not take any of the fustration out on the pup she will pick up on it.

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I agree completely with the ones who say to have someone else take over the caregiving for a while. Darwin is our first little dog I've ever owned and unfortunately for him, but fortunately for us, he is not overly spoiled. We had the honour of having an awesome Doberman named Josie for 13 1/2 years and we now have an 19 month 3/4 Great Pyrenees. We also are planning our first trip away from him, also in May. I am his main caregiver but he is left on his own, once in a while. I also don't work out of the house but when I leave he whines for a few minutes then he gets busy with his toys. Let other people take on some responsibility - life is meant to be enjoyed and if a dog stops you from going places you will be missing out on many things.

I'd suggest just leaving for 20 minutes or so a few times a week. Give your pup time to adjust. It sounds like she has a very loving home. I treat Darwin like a large dog and he has rules to follow. He's not allowed to be yappy; warnings are fine but he can't carry on, he has to sit after walks, etc. We love him in our home; he may not be perfect but he suits are life perfectly and fits in with us, not the other way. I feel very different then a lot of people who own smaller dogs but he is exactly what we want. Dogs, no matter what age or size are very trainable. Have fun with her and I hope you get things figured out soon so you can enjoy your trip!
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We are vacationing for a few weeks later this year and will be taking our furbabies with us. Jasmine is like your little one, she is my shadow and must go every where I go, very attached. We will go back to our hotel (or vacation rental house) several times throughout the day to let them out to relieve themselves. This will work good for us and them. We just don't want to be separated for that long. I don't know if it would work for you all to take your little one with you and just go back a few times to your hotel through out the day to let him out.
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Man oh man, can I relate to this post.

I think in my case, however, that I miss her just as much as she misses me.

My Yorkie definitely shadows me all day long, even following me to the bathroom.

My husband is going on a ski trip this weekend, and although we have taken vacations and left the cats with someone to look in on them, I don't think the Yorkie will be able to deal with it, so I'm not going along. I went on an overnight trip last weekend and worried about her the whole time.

I guess it's a small price to pay to have her and I wouldn't trade her for the world.

I hope you find a solution to your problem, and would highly recommend finding out if your hotel accommodates pets. It is the first thing I look at now, when planning a trip and it is very surprising how many hotels allow dogs nowadays.
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No expert, either. But leaving your furball with a professional boarding kennel sounds a better option to me. We have been lucky ourselves: even though our Pepper (9 months) is shadowing us, too, he is o.k. with us leaving to go to work during the day. (Watching all those Dog Whisperer episodes might have been useful after all) When we went overseas for 3 weeks this Christmas, Pepper boarded with his breeder. And he had a great time, running around and playing with his mates!!! Pepper will go back in about a month, for another week. I think it is doing him a lot of good, being able to interact with his canine friends. Would an arrangement like this be an option for you? Do you still have contact with the breeder, and would s/he take your baby for boarding? I do hope you find a happy solution. Good luck!
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Our baby has seperation anxiety too..but shows it in a different way. ..nipping..barking..destroying!
I am certainly no expert but I would be more comfortable boarding her at the vet. That way if she doesnt eat and gets sick, she will be in the best place for it to be dealt with! Plus she is inside, and they walk her everyday.
Just my opinion..hope it works out for you


This is what I was going to suggest. Board her at the vet. Any health problems arise from her separation anxiety they can handle it.
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Regarding keeping her in your hotel room, if you do that, be sure to have a crate to keep her in. Do not let her run loose in the room. When the maid comes to clean it, they can escape in a flash and would be difficult to catch. Especially if you are not there and she got out, she would not be likely to let any stranger chasing her get close enough to her to pick her up and get her back into the room -- she would likely be afraid and trying to run away from them.

Is it too late to get your puppy into puppy classes, to get her used to being around other dogs and people? My pup starts puppy classes next week, but my problem is the opposite of yours. She loves all people and all dogs, she just plays way too rough and needs to learn the proper way to greet, she almost goes into a frenzy.

After her spay (hopefully in 6 weeks, after we figure out what is going on with her baby teeth), I am going to take agility prep classes with her, and if she takes to it, we will go on to beginning agility. Actually, I am sure she will love it. She is so energetic and is a larger, sturdy girl. Even if she never competes and only does agility for fun, she is going to see the training/boarding facility as a place she loves to go to, so if I have to board her, she will be excited to be there and will already know everyone there.

See if there are any classes you can do with her to broaden her world.

ETA: play dates with other pups and doggie day care for a couple of hours might help her, too.
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