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02-18-2010, 07:41 PM | #1 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | Rehome type question I have taken in a 13 year old male yorkie from an elderly woman that lives in the same senior building as my Dad. She had a stroke and she will most likely never be able to take him back. They moved her to an extended care/rehab part of the hospital and they said I could bring her dog in to visit. My concern is it will be so upsetting to Nikki to see her and not be able to stay. He is missing her pretty bad. I think it would also be hard on her to see him and then let him go. I really don't know what is best for both of them. Nikki is a rescue that was with the lady for 2 years so we don't know his past. Any advice is appreciated.
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02-18-2010, 08:26 PM | #2 |
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| I wrote a long reply and timed out and lost it!!! okay trying again: First off, I think its wonderful of you to provide Nikki a home. You wrote in your note, she is most likely not going to be able to take him back - if there is a possibility, I would maintain contact to maintain the relationship and alleviate separation anxiety for both. If you are able to, could you ask the lady what her wishes are? If you are willing to take Nikki in for occassional visits, then she could let you know if thats what she would like to see happen. I am trying to imagine never seeing my pup again if I couldn't care for her, and I would want to see her. But each person is different. Also, they use pups as therapy dogs in part because they bring happiness and positive effects on health, perhaps visits with Nikki would be really good for her? In terms of whats best for Nikki, I adopted a 5 yr old pup and have had her for a year now. When we return to her home of origin for visits she is all love, hugs, kisses and cuddles for her previous owners, but is happy to leave with me when the visit ends. It took her a while to attach to me, but she did over time. As Nikki becomes attached to you as his primary caregiver, he should be fine to visit with her and leave with you - best of both worlds, maybe? These are just my thoughts, I don't know what the answer is, best of luck with whatever you decide and I hope the little guy settles in soon!
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02-18-2010, 11:42 PM | #3 |
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| I agree w/ellabee. Nikki will attach herself to you. I'm sure the lady will be happy to see Nikki for visits. Otherwise she'll constantly be worrying & wondering how Nikki is doing. It's so wonderful that your adopting this little girl. It's good to know she'll have a good home for her remaining years. Bless you. |
02-19-2010, 12:13 AM | #4 | |
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02-19-2010, 06:42 AM | #5 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | Thanks all of you for your replies. I think that is the best thing to do. I will go see Carol today and verify he can come visit. I know when I saw her yesterday she smiled when I said I would see if I could bring him to see her. She just keeps saying my poor baby boy. I know I could not imagine not seeing my babies ever again. Nikki has attached himself to me already and cries when I am gone (my husband has been great with him). Fortutnately,I have known him for about 9 months and have taken him for walks and vet visits. Carol is not aware or will not accept that she can't walk and her kids (a whole other story) are cleaning out her apartment today and it hasn't even been a week. So according to the dtr the prognosis is not good but who knows when you get a determined person and rehab she may one day be able to have him with her. I just hope they keep her nearby so that I can take him often. It is so sad. The other problem I am having is since he s attached to my hip, my Roxie is upset and has gone after him, hopefully she will accept him in time. I appreciate your great input.
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02-19-2010, 06:58 AM | #6 |
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| When my mother was placed in a hospice after a severe stroke. We took her cat to go visit her. My mother's cat knew something was wrong. Even though my mother was unconscious, we wanted her to know that her cat will be taken care of and a chance for her to feel her cat one more time. My mother did passed away but she got a chance to feel (she never regained consciousness)her cat purring and licking her face one more time. My mother's cat did go through some emotional feelings because he would spend most of his days in my mothers bedroom. But just like humans, they do get over it and move on. My brother and neice now take care of my mother's cat getting on their nerves now. Rest in Peace Mom I love you! |
02-19-2010, 07:10 AM | #7 |
Mardelin Yorkshire Terriers Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: California
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| Two years ago I inherited my mother's yorkie. She had gone a trip for a few weeks and came home very ill and placed in the hospital, she never came home. The sad thing is that my step father had passed just 8 months before, so Maxine had that adjustment to go through. Then my mom passing in August, Maxine really grieved; she'd stand at the front gate and look down the street, waiting for her. It took Maxine awhile to come out of it, but she did attach herself to me and her adopted siblings.....It's been two years and Maxine is now a playful, happily adjusted 11 year old, that sleeps with us (something my mother never allowed her to do).
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02-19-2010, 07:16 AM | #8 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | Thank you for your experiences with this. Nikki does get to sleep next to me and he couldn't get up on his owners bed because she had a real high bed. He has caught on to potty treats pretty quickly and lines up with the others now. I have never done anything like this so it really is encouraging to hear other's experiences.
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02-19-2010, 07:23 AM | #9 |
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| By taking him to visit her, he will understand that she is ill. I believe, from my own experiences, that they understand far more than we give them credit for. I truly believe they "know" where their beloved person is after having seen them when they are in the hospital and "understand" better.
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02-19-2010, 07:24 AM | #10 | |
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The most difficult adjustment for Maxine was she was use to being an only dog. My mother had obtained her at 8 weeks of age, so she wasn't very socialized. It took time for her to learn where her position in the pack was. She was a bit aggressive, but with a bit of training, she got it. She still plays a bit aggressively but, since my dogs are always monitored, we correct very quickly. She does have a love/hate relationship with my Savannah...they pick on each other from time to time. But, sleep side by side. Go figure. Let me add because of losing my stepdad and mother it such a short period of time.....Maxine did have a fear of being left again by someone she loved. So, Maxine went everywhere with me....then I slowly tranisitioned her to every other trip and then occassional trips.....she finally figured out that when I didn't take her I would come home to her. When I come through the door she goes beserk.....but, she's figured out that I will come home.
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02-19-2010, 07:36 AM | #11 |
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| It all sounds fairly positive, I think Nikki will be less stressed by it all after a few visits, he'll realize he'll get to come back for another visit. It's great you're keeping him, as he is already familiar with you, that helps immensely. Roxi will come around, she's letting Nikki know who's in charge. My Peek A Boo still goes into attack mode when visitors come to the house, anything with 4 legs is fair game! I just stay close and snatch his little butt up when he goes off! Usually, when there's nothing going on, he's fine with everyone else... even around me and food...his favorite things!
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02-19-2010, 01:01 PM | #12 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | Thanks! I called and the vet is faxing his shot records to the rehab and then I can bring him. So I will be leaving in 30 minutes to take him. Mardelin, I am sorry for the loss of your Mom and stepdad. I lost my Mom 3 years ago. I think that is a great idea, I will take him with me a few times and gradually get him use to me coming and going. His owner was always with him. Luckily my DH just retired and his home most of the time and I am home quite a bit. I will update when we get back.
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02-19-2010, 01:23 PM | #13 |
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| My daughter-in-law is the activities director of an assisted living center/nursing home. They have two dogs and several cats in residence, and according to her, they really help the people who live there. Some of the residents don't have family or friends who visit, and often the animals are the only ones who give them love and affection. So I say, take the puppy as often as you can. |
02-19-2010, 03:50 PM | #14 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | I just got back from the nursing home with Nikki. He was very aloof towards Carol and didn't react to her at all. I don't know if he was scared of the environment or knew something was wrong with. He was the hit of the nursing home, we were stopped every few feet by residents wanting to pet him. The therapist asked if I could bring him often to help with her therapy so we will keep going and hopefully Nikki will get more comfortable.
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02-19-2010, 03:55 PM | #15 |
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| Nikki has moved over to you..which is great for him. I am glad the nursing home lets you take him in to visit and while he might be happy to see Carol I am sure he watches you very carefully..so as not to be left behind. I had many rescues do this..
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