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11-24-2009, 05:31 PM | #1 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2008 Location: Dallas, North Carolina
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| New Daughter....Jealous Son....Help! Hi Yorkie Family, I have a yorkie son that is 2 years old and is spoiled to the core as most of the fur babies on here. He plays very well with other animals and is very friendly to everyone he meets. He is a major cuddle bug. My husband purchased me a yorkie daughter and my yorkie son played with her the first night. The next day, he figured out that she was here to stay and he became depressed. He runs away from her each time she comes near him and he growls at her. I have listed all of the things I have tried to do to get him to accept her and I would love other suggestions. 1- I introduce them daily to each other 2- I have spent "alone" time with him to show him he is still our baby too 3- I have tried to arrange play time with both of them together (never works) 4- I hold her and pet him while holding her 5- I hold each of them (one in each arm) and try to assure him it's okay 6- I tell him not to growl or bark at her when he does it 7- I show each of them attention 8- Bathed both of them in the same shampoo to try to get same scent I have no idea what else I can do. I am beginning to wonder if I can keep her. He doesn't try to bite her but he does growl and run away from her. She was crying this morning and he came to her but when she started trying to play with him he ran away again. He has sniffed her while she was sleeping but doesn't get too close when she is awake. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thanks! |
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11-24-2009, 05:36 PM | #2 |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Quincy, IL
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| I remember those days...LOL...it was always so cute! But as time goes on my Jackson figured out one was just not enough, neither was two or three....LOL I am sure your babies will get along just fine as time goes on, it takes time for the oldest, he isn't getting 110% of your time. Keep doing what you are doing and soon you will have one big happy family!
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11-24-2009, 05:38 PM | #3 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Largo, FL
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| i don't have any suggestions but it sure seems like you tried alot of different ways. I'll be keeping up with this thread as i am considering adding a second furkid to my home with a 16month boy too good luck, maybe it just takes time for him to come around and realize it's his sister. i thinks it's good that he goes to her when she cries and sniffs her
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11-24-2009, 05:38 PM | #4 |
Ringo (1) and Lucy too! Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: On the Edge of Glory
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| I just went through this only with a jealous male Westie (3 years old) and a new baby girl Yorkie (Lucy). Ringo is so much bigger than Lucy and when he growled or showed dominance . . . it was very scary. The thing that helped us the most was this - treat your old dog as if he is the 'king'. He gets noticed first, petted first, walked first; fed first. Everything first for your older dog. Ringo became much less jealous after this. Also, we were spending way too much time holding Lucy in front of him and paying attention to her (hey, it's a new puppy!) and not to him. We turned that around - even though it was very hard to do - and began paying Ringo more attention than the puppy. Yes, it's hard because puppies are so needy - but it can be done. I kept them separated using baby gates for a few days and only let them together in the yard; then we progressed to just being together in the living room; now all over the house. Feed them separately - that's a fight waiting to happen! Show your old dog that he's still top dog. He'll settle down. |
11-24-2009, 05:39 PM | #5 |
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| I think you just need to give it time and let them work it out. If you are interferring too much when he growls at her, it will make him not want to go near her. As long as he is not snapping at her, I think they will work it out. Do not leave them together unsupervised until you trust that he will not hurt her. Just try to be less involved in their interaction, and give each of them their own space to go to, to get away from the other one, such as a crate. When you are holding both of them, if he growls at her give him a warning and if he does it again put him down. Keep repeating this until he gets the message. Congratulations and good luck. |
11-24-2009, 05:40 PM | #6 |
Donating YT 10K Club Member | You need to lavish attention on the male and show him he has not lost his status. He gets greeted first, treated first, feed first, first out the door etc.
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11-24-2009, 05:45 PM | #7 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2008 Location: Dallas, North Carolina
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| Thanks so much for all of the suggestions. I am getting started tonight....I just can't wait to see them love on each other! I will let my son have his time to adjust. I know it's hard for him. Thanks again! I'll keep you posted. |
11-24-2009, 05:51 PM | #8 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Minnesota
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| Congrats on the new baby, I think you are doing the right things, it takes time for them to get to know each other, you have to remember he has had all of your attention for the past two years and now there is this little stranger in his space. I have heard of others keeping the new pup away most of the time and interduce them for longer periods each day. Otherwide time.
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11-24-2009, 05:51 PM | #9 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: nj
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| You have some great ideas the only thing I would add is that Dogs are pack animals. I would try to takie them on walks together one on each side of you once they get into the grove you can slowly move them closer together. |
11-24-2009, 06:00 PM | #10 |
LoveMy2 Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: East Tennessee
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| You have already gotten a lot of great advice from previous posts. We just went through this for the past 4 months! Here is what it took for us: 1. I always greeted, fed, touched, and addressed Maddie, the oldest, first. 2. I tried to take them out of the house together as often as possible. This was done for potty breaks and short walks around out property. I found once we were away from Maddie's house she was more accepting to the newbie. 3. I made sure to keep some traditions just for Maddie. She loves to go in the car and I take her as often as I can on short errands. I always took her alone, and have yet to introduce the new pup to this little tradition, but will one day soon. 4. Funny as it sounds, I recently posted about the breaking moment was taking them to the groomer's together. That was last Thurs. and they have been buddies ever since...go figure. 5. When Maddie would growl at Cooper I would not scold her. Puppies can be extremely aggravating and I wanted Cooper to respect Maddie. I would occasionally speak to her usually in my Mommy voice and she would stop on her own. They still have moments, but Cooper knows when she has pushed Maddie to far and she leaves her alone. Good Luck! I know how dis-heartening this can be. Keep me posted and let me know if you need to know anything else, glad to help. |
11-24-2009, 06:08 PM | #11 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | I think with the suggestions above and time they will become best friends. I have 3 all brought in seperately and they are all snuggle buddies. They do have their little tiffs but nothing serious and they work it out.
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11-25-2009, 03:43 AM | #12 |
Ringo (1) and Lucy too! Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: On the Edge of Glory
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| Like Maddie's Mom said - keep some traditions for your oldest that he can do with you - without the puppy. We do the same thing with car rides. Ringo loves to go with me to pick my son up from school . . . Lucy is too young to ride without her crate. So this is something special for Ringo that he still enjoys that he gets to do - alone. Walking them together (maybe with help at first) is a good bonding activity for them. This will help as well. Your puppy should be spending some time in her crate and your oldest can come up and smell her; get to know her slowly. Baby steps. I agree with the other poster that when they are together - try not to interfere too much and don't reprimand your oldest unless there is a real fight going on. Ringo would stand over top of Lucy and she would squeal - but if we left them alone - Lucy would come running back for more. (It sounded like he was ripping her throat out - he wasn't!) Don't reprimand your oldest for showing dominance over the puppy. IF it becomes more than that - then you can step in. That's a last resort. Take your oldest for a long walk with just the two of you sometimes. If there has been no real fighting up to now (no blood drawn only growling) - then I think things will settle down soon. Believe me, many times I wondered if I should give the puppy back. It WILL work out but perhaps not overnite. Takes time and patience. Good Luck and keep us posted! |
11-25-2009, 04:01 AM | #13 |
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| There is some good advice here, but I'm still dealing with a jealous son after one year. Maggie has been here for a year and Buster is still so very jealous. They get walked together and separately. If I take one somewhere (in the car or to walk) and don't take the other one, the one that gets left whimpers and cries. They have always gone to the groomer together. It is difficult at times but Maggie is here to stay and so is Buster. Maggie is bigger than Buster and she is the dominant pup. I think a lot of her biting and jumping on Buster is to get him to play and he wants no part of it. She will growl and nip at him when he is whining. They really get into a growling match when someone comes to the door, they both want to be the first to greet whoever is there. I am still waiting on them to get along, one year and counting.
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11-25-2009, 04:35 AM | #14 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: nj
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| She will growl and nip at him when he is whining. They really get into a growling match when someone comes to the door, they both want to be the first to greet whoever is there. I am still waiting on them to get along, one year and counting. __________________ A good thing to try for this is to practice with your husband and friends, have people come to the door and put the dogs in a sit stay use treats or what ever works with them have the person walk right past them whenever someone enters a room they are in the best thing to do is no touch no eye contact just ignore the dogs until they calm down. This is not a quick fix but with time it will fix the behavior. |
11-27-2009, 03:47 PM | #15 | |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2008 Location: Dallas, North Carolina
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