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Suzetteb523 · 11-16-2009, 10:14 PM

I am a little worried. I probably shouldn't be but i am. I am picking Baxter up next Tuesday. I asked the owner of the litter to keep him until he is 11 weeks old. She only has Baxter and one of his sisters left (she is sold though and will be picked up next week as well). Baxter has bonded so much to her that I am afraid that when I pick him up he is going to be SO sad.

I visit him every week (tonight was my last visit until I bring him home next week-too unhappy to take new pictures).

My concern (she told me tonight) is that she lets him sleep on her chest every night. So, he listens to her heartbeat every night and has bonded so much to her. I didn't see it last week but I sure as heck saw it tonight. Every time she got off the couch he was trying to follow her and was almost jumping out of my arms. That makes me sad

. I have been visiting him so he gets use to me but it seems like he has already bonded and I don't want this to be a traumatic experience for him. I love him so much already. I don't want him to have any anxiety issues.

What can I do when I bring him home to make him more comfortable? He was taken from him mom and now his people mom and I don't want him to be sad when I bring him home.

Any advise would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.

(I remember with my daughter-her hearing my heartbeat made her feel secure-my heartbeat is totally foreign to Baxter...

)

CouversMom · 11-16-2009, 10:20 PM

I would not worry about this at all.

I got Couver when he was almost 5-months old, and he was completely attached to his previous owner. He did not even want to come visit me when I first met him. He wanted nothing to do with anyone but his 'mom' at that point.

He is now that way with me and my DH. He is completely and totally bonded with us, and I did not have him at 11 weeks.

Stop worrying, and get excited to bring your baby home!!

Suzetteb523 · 11-17-2009, 06:41 AM

Thank you! That makes me feel much better. I can't wait until next week!

Couver is so cute!! (and thank you for reminding me about dogster.com, I'll have to create a profile for Baxter when I bring him home)

Happy holidays!

sonnyr · 11-17-2009, 06:53 AM

Hi, Suzette, not to worry. We had to put off picking our little one off a week or two longer than the breeder wanted, after five minutes in to a five hour drive home she was all over us. I am sure yours will be yours quickly and forever.

Chrisann · 11-17-2009, 06:59 AM

Hi. First of all Congrats on shortly owning a Yorkie....Please don't worry too much...All pups will bond with the person or other pets that the live with..it is very natural. It sounds to me like he has a very loving nature..

Once you get him home start off straight away with where he will sleep etc.. He may whine a bit at first..but with lost os attention and little treats..it won't take him long to love you..I am sure.!!

If the owner has maybe a blanket or something that the pup is used to...to maye take away with you with their smell on..that would help too..!

But most of all have a positive attitude towards the pup...they do get any vibes from us..so right from the start let him know that you are now his new mum...they quickly forget...even a few hours on..

Chrisann xx

MirandaKay · 11-17-2009, 07:07 AM

This will not help you now but about two weeks before I was to get Tristan I bought him a bed and took it to him and left it there so it would be his constant once he got here. I worked wonders even when it was time to go to bed he already was use to sleeping on it and it smelt like his mother and sisters. Never once did he whine to get out of his crate. I do agree with everyone here he will love you just the same and now when we go see his breeder on regular occasions it takes him a while to warm up to her again. Good luck I am sure everything will be fine!!!

Mom to Hot Rod · 11-17-2009, 07:21 AM

Congrats. You've gotten some good advice. I agree, see if you can bring something home with the breeders scent. Can you drop something off now to him with your scent as well? This way at least he will have both and be comforted by both. The bed idea is a great one. Good luck and I am sure that you will be a great mommy to your little furball.

JeanieK · 11-17-2009, 07:30 AM

Congratulations, I agree with the others, he will turn his attention to you as soon as she is out of sight. Dogs live in the moment, they do not sit and think about the past.

Denzilla · 11-17-2009, 07:42 AM

I would'nt worry at all.You have to remember that dogs don't think the same way we do.Give it a couple of weeks and he'll be treating you the same way he did his previous owner.

Maximo · 11-17-2009, 08:24 AM

Max was very close to his brother, his extended Yorkie family, and the breeder. He and his brother left for their new homes on the same day.

Max adjusted to his new home (took over and claimed as his kingdom

) and bonded with us within 24 hours.

The breeder did give us a couple of toys with the scent of his first family/home -- Max kept those in his bed for a couple of weeks.

Congrats and enjoy your new baby!

carmen in nj · 11-17-2009, 08:29 AM

you don't have to worry your boy will be yours in no time, I do send home a little blanket with the scent of mom and litter , each puppy takes one home, and I do a follow up email and phone call to make sure puppy is adjusting to new parents. ask the breeder if she send anything home with puppy if not ask her if you can bring a blanket or toy that he can play with while there and then take home with the scent and that should be all is needed, plus a lOT of your love and patience..

jmdt · 11-17-2009, 08:41 AM

Sounds to me like you are going to be a great mom to this baby. Don't worry, I'm sure he will do the same thing to you after a day or so. You are going to be his mommy for life. Don't be sad. Be happy

Congratulations on your baby!!! We can't wait to see pictures

redvalaria · 11-17-2009, 09:04 AM

We have always had good luck with a scent article (can you tell we do search and rescue work?? LOL).

with Fergus, I left a used sock with my breeder for 3 weeks, and he played and slept with it (not as gross as it sounds). When I picked him up he was mine all mine.

Same breeder, sold me a dog for my Father. We were going to give it to him, but I had to keep Callum with me for 3 weeks first. I stole an undershirt out of my parents laundry hamper, put it in Callums crate and he slept with my father's scent for weeks. Even though he cuddled with me, he is ALL Dad's dog now.

Try sending her a piece of worn clothing. I promise this works.

chestermama · 11-17-2009, 06:38 PM

he will settle in in a few days after you have him, he will know that he is home with you, it wont take long for them to bond with you.

Suzetteb523 · 11-17-2009, 06:58 PM

Thank you to ALL of you!! I was so down last night when I got home but today after reading all of the words of encouragement and words of wisdom and advice, I feel soooo much better. I really can't wait to get him home!!!

I could pick him up now and my boss is okay with me bringing him to work as early as tomorrow (Baxter is fully paid for) but I really need to wait. I truly believe that it will be better for me to get him right before my mini vacation so I can find out what he likes/dislikes and get him settled in at home before introducing him to my work schedule and co-workers. It is VERY tempting but I am going to stick to my guns and wait to pick him up next Tuesday (only 7 days to go!!

)

I will post pictures next week, too!!

I really value your support. You are all awesome!!! Take care

11-16-2009, 10:14 PM	#1
Suzetteb523 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Livermore, CA, United States Posts: 65	A little worried I am a little worried. I probably shouldn't be but i am. I am picking Baxter up next Tuesday. I asked the owner of the litter to keep him until he is 11 weeks old. She only has Baxter and one of his sisters left (she is sold though and will be picked up next week as well). Baxter has bonded so much to her that I am afraid that when I pick him up he is going to be SO sad. I visit him every week (tonight was my last visit until I bring him home next week-too unhappy to take new pictures). My concern (she told me tonight) is that she lets him sleep on her chest every night. So, he listens to her heartbeat every night and has bonded so much to her. I didn't see it last week but I sure as heck saw it tonight. Every time she got off the couch he was trying to follow her and was almost jumping out of my arms. That makes me sad . I have been visiting him so he gets use to me but it seems like he has already bonded and I don't want this to be a traumatic experience for him. I love him so much already. I don't want him to have any anxiety issues. What can I do when I bring him home to make him more comfortable? He was taken from him mom and now his people mom and I don't want him to be sad when I bring him home. Any advise would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance. (I remember with my daughter-her hearing my heartbeat made her feel secure-my heartbeat is totally foreign to Baxter...)

11-16-2009, 10:20 PM	#2
CouversMom and Khloe Mae's too! Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Eastern Washington Posts: 14,732	I would not worry about this at all. I got Couver when he was almost 5-months old, and he was completely attached to his previous owner. He did not even want to come visit me when I first met him. He wanted nothing to do with anyone but his 'mom' at that point. He is now that way with me and my DH. He is completely and totally bonded with us, and I did not have him at 11 weeks. Stop worrying, and get excited to bring your baby home!! __________________ Michelle- mommy to Couver and Khloe Mae! http://yorkiehavenrescue.com/

11-17-2009, 06:59 AM	#5
Chrisann Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Midlands Posts: 162	Hi. First of all Congrats on shortly owning a Yorkie....Please don't worry too much...All pups will bond with the person or other pets that the live with..it is very natural. It sounds to me like he has a very loving nature.. Once you get him home start off straight away with where he will sleep etc.. He may whine a bit at first..but with lost os attention and little treats..it won't take him long to love you..I am sure.!! If the owner has maybe a blanket or something that the pup is used to...to maye take away with you with their smell on..that would help too..! But most of all have a positive attitude towards the pup...they do get any vibes from us..so right from the start let him know that you are now his new mum...they quickly forget...even a few hours on.. Chrisann xx __________________ Chrisann

11-17-2009, 07:07 AM	#6
MirandaKay Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Coolville, Oh Posts: 83	This will not help you now but about two weeks before I was to get Tristan I bought him a bed and took it to him and left it there so it would be his constant once he got here. I worked wonders even when it was time to go to bed he already was use to sleeping on it and it smelt like his mother and sisters. Never once did he whine to get out of his crate. I do agree with everyone here he will love you just the same and now when we go see his breeder on regular occasions it takes him a while to warm up to her again. Good luck I am sure everything will be fine!!! __________________ Have you hugged a furbaby today? We love our zoo! TristanMystic *X3X7

11-17-2009, 07:21 AM	#7
Mom to Hot Rod Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: MD Posts: 10,908	Congrats. You've gotten some good advice. I agree, see if you can bring something home with the breeders scent. Can you drop something off now to him with your scent as well? This way at least he will have both and be comforted by both. The bed idea is a great one. Good luck and I am sure that you will be a great mommy to your little furball. __________________ www.kissecollar.com Soft Cone Collars for Post-surgery and much more! 10% (non-food) - Discount code YT10

11-17-2009, 06:41 AM	#3
Suzetteb523 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Livermore, CA, United States Posts: 65	Thank you! That makes me feel much better. I can't wait until next week! Couver is so cute!! (and thank you for reminding me about dogster.com, I'll have to create a profile for Baxter when I bring him home) Happy holidays!

11-17-2009, 06:53 AM	#4
sonnyr YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Kansas City Missouri Posts: 6	Hi, Suzette, not to worry. We had to put off picking our little one off a week or two longer than the breeder wanted, after five minutes in to a five hour drive home she was all over us. I am sure yours will be yours quickly and forever.

11-17-2009, 07:30 AM	#8
JeanieK Donating YT 12K Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Council Bluffs Iowa Posts: 12,552	Congratulations, I agree with the others, he will turn his attention to you as soon as she is out of sight. Dogs live in the moment, they do not sit and think about the past.

11-17-2009, 07:42 AM	#9
Denzilla YT Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Kennesaw, GA. Posts: 261	I would'nt worry at all.You have to remember that dogs don't think the same way we do.Give it a couple of weeks and he'll be treating you the same way he did his previous owner. __________________ Dennis...Dad to Toby The Wonderdog: RIP Buddy Boo 1985-2008

11-17-2009, 08:24 AM	#10
Maximo ♥ Maximo and Teddy Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 25,041	Max was very close to his brother, his extended Yorkie family, and the breeder. He and his brother left for their new homes on the same day. Max adjusted to his new home (took over and claimed as his kingdom ) and bonded with us within 24 hours. The breeder did give us a couple of toys with the scent of his first family/home -- Max kept those in his bed for a couple of weeks. Congrats and enjoy your new baby!

11-17-2009, 08:29 AM	#11
carmen in nj Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Hopatcong, NJ, USA Posts: 4,615 Blog Entries: 74	you don't have to worry your boy will be yours in no time, I do send home a little blanket with the scent of mom and litter , each puppy takes one home, and I do a follow up email and phone call to make sure puppy is adjusting to new parents. ask the breeder if she send anything home with puppy if not ask her if you can bring a blanket or toy that he can play with while there and then take home with the scent and that should be all is needed, plus a lOT of your love and patience.. __________________ My Etsy shop is OPEN... Carmen in nj

11-17-2009, 08:41 AM	#12
jmdt YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Long Island, NY USA Posts: 3,498	Sounds to me like you are going to be a great mom to this baby. Don't worry, I'm sure he will do the same thing to you after a day or so. You are going to be his mommy for life. Don't be sad. Be happy Congratulations on your baby!!! We can't wait to see pictures __________________ Coco, Pebbles, Trixie, and Wally LOVE MY BABIES!!

11-17-2009, 09:04 AM	#13
redvalaria Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Raleigh, NC Posts: 153	We have always had good luck with a scent article (can you tell we do search and rescue work?? LOL). with Fergus, I left a used sock with my breeder for 3 weeks, and he played and slept with it (not as gross as it sounds). When I picked him up he was mine all mine. Same breeder, sold me a dog for my Father. We were going to give it to him, but I had to keep Callum with me for 3 weeks first. I stole an undershirt out of my parents laundry hamper, put it in Callums crate and he slept with my father's scent for weeks. Even though he cuddled with me, he is ALL Dad's dog now. Try sending her a piece of worn clothing. I promise this works. __________________ -------------------------------- Kate-Mom to: Dante, Hamish & Fergus

11-17-2009, 06:38 PM	#14
chestermama YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: washington Posts: 3,383 Blog Entries: 1	he will settle in in a few days after you have him, he will know that he is home with you, it wont take long for them to bond with you.

11-17-2009, 06:58 PM	#15
Suzetteb523 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Livermore, CA, United States Posts: 65	Thank you to ALL of you!! I was so down last night when I got home but today after reading all of the words of encouragement and words of wisdom and advice, I feel soooo much better. I really can't wait to get him home!!! I could pick him up now and my boss is okay with me bringing him to work as early as tomorrow (Baxter is fully paid for) but I really need to wait. I truly believe that it will be better for me to get him right before my mini vacation so I can find out what he likes/dislikes and get him settled in at home before introducing him to my work schedule and co-workers. It is VERY tempting but I am going to stick to my guns and wait to pick him up next Tuesday (only 7 days to go!! ) I will post pictures next week, too!! I really value your support. You are all awesome!!! Take care