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09-26-2009, 09:32 AM | #1 |
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| What do I say without offending..... I work three days a week. Toby goes to my aunts house when I am away so that he isnt at home on his own. The other alternative is that he stays at home and my mum lets him out for a while at lunch time. Obviously it would be better for him to be at my aunts with her two dogs. The thing is, he is let out on his own too much. I went to collect him yesterday and she was working (she does reflexology in her own house), and my uncle didnt know where Toby was! Their two dogs were in the back garden, but it isnt enclosed, and Toby had ventured down to the school yard beside their house. Although school was over, their could still be traffic on the private road. I am so afraid of him getting knocked down by a car. The front of their house is on a busy road, and if he gets curious or adventurous and goes to the front of the house instead of the school I hate to think what would happen. My mum said one day last week she called in and them and their two dogs were in the house. She asked where Toby was and again they didnt know. He was outside in the garden, with the door closed. Now I have only had my first dog last year, and they have had dogs for about 25 years, so how do I say that I dont think my dog is safe there!
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09-26-2009, 09:36 AM | #2 |
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| Yikes! I would probably have your mom let him out at lunch time. I know its nice to have socialization with the other dogs, but it sounds a bit dangerous to me. It might be better to be around your puppy, when he is having play time with other dogs. |
09-26-2009, 09:40 AM | #3 |
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| I think I would tell them that he is old enough to stay home by himself now. You have to stop taking him there or something awful may happen to him.
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09-26-2009, 09:40 AM | #4 |
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| I would be very uncomfortable with this arrangement. I'd rather he be alone in a safe environment and left out at lunchtime. I don't know how your wildlife is in Ireland, but here in the states, even in very populated areas, we have frequent hawks that can carry our babies away. I would be afraid for not only him running into the road, but someone taking him - wildlife included!
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09-26-2009, 09:41 AM | #5 |
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| That is a touchy problem. Why don't you buy Toby an exercise pen and ask them to put Toby inside it with his toys and dishes when he goes outside. It would be safer. Just tell them you would feel better knowing he's not roaming around on his own. Toby might feel his freedom has been cut a little short but he would be safer in the long run . Jackie & my Sophie |
09-26-2009, 09:48 AM | #6 |
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| If it were my dog, I would rather have him home alone than anywhere that he is not safely contained. Supervised play dates would be ok, but I swear I never let my dogs out of sight if they are not in a safely fenced area. Just my opinion. Better to be safe than sorry.
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09-26-2009, 09:49 AM | #7 |
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| To be honest, I would prefer Toby stayed at home. But they are quite persistant and will do their own thing. I know they wouldnt keep him in a pen etc. even if I asked. But I just dont know how to say that he should stay at home without implying that they arent fit to look after him. They are just a lot more relaxed with their dogs than I am with Toby. Its a really awkward situation. I am going to get another pup mid November, and I will keep it at home for a while cos it will be too small etc, so hopefully I can stop it then, but I am not comfortable waiting til then. I think it would just look to them like I am overeacting - me who has had Toby for 4 months, or them who have had dogs for 25 - 30 years - I wonder who knows how to look after dogs better?
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09-26-2009, 09:51 AM | #8 | |
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09-26-2009, 09:54 AM | #9 |
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| Here in the states people steal yorkies. It is never a good idea to leave them out unattended. |
09-26-2009, 09:57 AM | #10 |
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| I wouldn't send my dog there for all the tea in China. It only takes a heartbeat for something bad to happen and if there were the slightest chance that Toby might get hit by a car because they leave him out unattended...well, I wouldn't do it. I would just tell them that he's big enough to stay at home now and thank you so much for all you did for him.
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09-26-2009, 09:57 AM | #11 |
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| Can anyone suggest a diplomatic or inoffensive way of saying that Toby needs to watched a bit closer until I can get the new pup, and then I will keep both at home and say that 4 dogs is too much for them to watch everyday.
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09-26-2009, 10:00 AM | #12 |
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| You are not being overly protective, you are being appropriately concerned for the safety of your beloved pet. They may have lucked out in their years of pet ownership, but you will never forgive yourself or them if something happens to your little one. It is just not right to let him roam. Keep him home, and soon enough he will have the company of your new pup.
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09-26-2009, 10:07 AM | #13 |
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| I understand. My mom & stepdad live out in the 'country' with 3 acres of their own land, and 90 acres of farmland behind us (you can see the big fields in my youtube videos) They always had their dog Carmen just out and loose, she was a "country" dog but two months ago... my stepdad accidentally ran her over with his car and she died. Now they realize how things can happen and are much more overprotective of Jackson than they used to be because of what happened to Carmen. Now I trust them to take care of Jackson but previously... they'd do the same thing, just let him out without watching. I will let him off leash when I'm there but I watch him like a hawk and I know nobody else watches him like I do. I think I would just tell your mom that Toby will be fine by himself during the day and you want him to get used to it since you may be getting a new pup soon.
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09-26-2009, 10:23 AM | #14 | |
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What if you spun it in another direction? Making it so that its you and not them? Focusing on how you worry that taking care of Toby takes away from her reflexology work, and you'd feel better if he just stayed home for a while because you feel like you're taking advantage of them? You could also interject that since you're looking to get another puppy who'd have to stay at home for a while, it would be nice if Toby got used to being in the house alone. This way when you do get your puppy Toby is already comfortable and he won't have anxiety while you're gone with a new puppy in the house... and that you'd like it if the puppy "wasn't alone" as well. | |
09-26-2009, 10:27 AM | #15 |
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| Just tell them that you would prefer your dog be an indoor dog. That's all.
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