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08-07-2009, 06:14 PM | #1 |
Loved by Layla Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada
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| Maybe I'm too polite? Ugh I hate when this happens and I know it has been written about a lot lately. I was in our chiropractors office in the Soo. I brought Layla in the waiting room like I always do and this women comes in and sees Layla. We talk about dogs and how she had one that she just had to put down- and she is kinda emotional or maybe just a bit off... anyways... all is well until she takes layla out of my arms told hold her.... and I'm just dumbfounded because this has NEVER happened to me... I did not want her to do this and had she asked if she could hold Layla I would have said no because she gets upset (lie- i just don't like strangers holding her) So- what should I have done once she took her out of my arms? i mean i think it was like a comfort for her lost dog to hold Layla- I don't know... I was very uncomfortable and just didn't know the polite thing to say. i don't want to be rude in my response but I do want my dog back.... |
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08-07-2009, 06:25 PM | #2 |
I ♥ Scooter Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Austin, Texas
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| I would hate it if someone did that to me with Scooter. While it may be comforting to the lady to see another dog, she should have asked you first. This may sound mean but I think it is important to be upfront. It is your dog and if you don't want others to hold your dog (or take them from your arms), just tell them you aren't comfortable with that. They should respect that. Let them pet your baby in your arms all they want but just tell them they can't hold your baby. Be strong and straightforward. They may not like it but you are telling the truth so they can't hold that against you.
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08-07-2009, 06:29 PM | #3 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Washington
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| This is a hard one, obviously that lady wasn't thinking at all... because what she did was rude. I don't know what I would have said I have had people pick mine up from the ground (which drives me crazy) I held my arms out while we were still talking and they usually just hand them back with out thinking or having to say anything it is like they are just reacting to my gesture to hand them back. I don't know if it makes sense how I explained it but basically they do not hold them for more than a second and get the point that I would like to hold my own dog but go ahead and ask me whatever you want about them. I find that being rude back doesn't really make me feel any better.
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08-07-2009, 06:36 PM | #4 |
Twins=double the fun! Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: California
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| If I don't want someone holding my pup I tell them... You can say they wiggle a lot, or she isn't feeling well today or just say you don't feel comfortable. Usually when someone goes to take a pup out of my hands, I back up and they get the hint.
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08-07-2009, 06:38 PM | #5 |
Loved by Layla Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada
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| Ya i really should have reacted faster i just couldn't believe what was happening... next time I will back up and say she doesn't' do well with other people holding her. |
08-07-2009, 06:51 PM | #6 |
YT Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: houston
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| Well we never ever let anyone pick ours up and I will tell you why. We have friend who HAD a yorkie and her son came(16yr.old) home from school, picked up the puppy as he always had and the pup wiggled right out of his hands and fell, hit his little head on the hardwood floor and died instantly So I tell everyone who want to pick mine up that we don't really want them to because they are very small and tend to be very wiggily. I would rather be safe than sorry. |
08-07-2009, 06:57 PM | #7 |
Phantom Queen Morrigan Donating Member | i've never had anyone try and take morgan from me without asking. I almost always have her in her carrier and no one ever tries to take her out of there. i don't know what i would have done in your situation. i probably would have felt bad for the lady and let her hold her. its weird that she just took her from you but maybe she just didn't realize what she was doing because she was sad thinking about her lost pet?
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08-07-2009, 07:01 PM | #8 |
♥I Luv my BaileyBlue♥ Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Illinois
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| It's too bad people are rude like this! Bailey would sqirm away from strangers and NOT let anyone take him away from me. He won't even let people he knows take him away from me. He's such a momma's boy!
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08-07-2009, 07:56 PM | #9 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Northern New York
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| I agree that the best thing to do is back away and wrap your arms around Layla more securely. Body language like that is pretty obvious.
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08-07-2009, 08:08 PM | #10 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: BC, Canada
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| This has happened to me twice. The first time I panicked, gasped, and said "Omg, you're holding my dog! I don't let anyone hold my dog", and I grabbed her back. An extreme reaction, I know...but I kinda freaked out. The second time, the person had only *just* started to pick Missy up and I said, "Please don't pick up my dog!". She set her right back down. I've learned first hand how easily these little dogs are broken. *I* broke Missy's leg by letting her pounce off of my hand 4 inches off of the floor. Plus (and this is the excuse that I give people who ask why they can't hold her), I don't allow my 3 children to hold her unless they are sitting down and she is in their lap, so I don't feel it's fair to them if other people get to hold Missy. And they are wiggly! Missy doesn't like being held by most other people. She will constantly be looking at me like, "Ok Mom, you're going to grab me now, right?". She's kind of a snob
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08-07-2009, 08:21 PM | #11 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: So Ca
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| I've had people ask all the time can they hold him. I just tell them no because he doesn't do well with strangers. I've never had anyone to abruptly take him out of my arms. They almost always pet him without asking though. She would have understood if you told her you are not comfortable with anyone holding your furbaby.
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08-08-2009, 05:36 AM | #12 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Houston, Texas USA
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| This has happened to me twice. The first time I panicked, gasped, and said "Omg, you're holding my dog! I don't let anyone hold my dog", and I grabbed her back. An extreme reaction, I know...but I kinda freaked out. Perfect Response lol!!! Let them think you're the one who can't handle them holding your dog, so they won't get offended...And who cares anyway, it's our babies and we make the rules for them; we don't make the rules for the rude people, they make them for themselves.... |
08-08-2009, 08:18 AM | #13 |
Twins=double the fun! Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: California
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| I know sometimes you just don't expect it. I don't mind people cuddling the pups and petting them but they must be sitting on the floor and let the puppy go to there lap. People tend to be grabby with these babies and that can also injure them.
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08-08-2009, 08:26 AM | #14 |
I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana
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| I would just tell her she doesnt like to be held by people that she doesnt know. I think that response is true without being rude. Im sure it meant alot to her to hold Layla and she did not think it through
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08-08-2009, 08:33 AM | #15 |
Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Connecticut
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| I probably would have said she gets nervous and might pee on you. I don't want that to happen to you, and I would have taken her back.
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