How to tell your family about new pup???

[RachelandSadie]

I'm having a hard time coming up with the right things to say in order to tell my parents we're getting a new yorkie puppy. I know my mom will have a cow, even though i'm married and have my own home, i'm afraid she will be upset at us because everyone thinks we don't have the money, but in all actuality we make a lot more than the small town environment that i came from and grew up in. They all still look at me like i'm poor like they all are, but we're doing fine and have plenty saved up and ready for this puppy. Plus, most of her stuff we got from my aunt and also we have a plan for her vet/spaying fees from Pet Smart. We're really ready for her, responsible, and it's not costing us much at all.

So, how do I tell my money tight mommy that we're making this decision.


P.S. my granny reacted a little negative towards this at first, but i talked her into being accepting of my choices. (she's the one i always tell everything to)

[RoscoesMommy42]

Well if you are on your own with your own family, I wouldn't worry too much. My mom is the exact same way and she got a little huffy when I got Roscoe and I just nodded when she fussed and went on my way. It is my life and he makes it a whole lot brighter. My husband and I make the decisions for my family, not my mom. (Although sometimes the nagging gets really annoying!)

[RachelGenson]

I agree with RoscoesMommy42. It is your life and you know if you are ready or not, and like most things, people just have to get over it. You are grown and have your own life. I would just tell your mom the things that you told us, about having money saved and a plan for future vet bills and things like that. She may disagree at first, but I would just reassure her that things are going to be fine!

[kristy47]

I'm married (have been for 7 years) and I still get nervous telling my dad things, too. We already have 3 cats and he got us a dog. He didn't like it at first when we got our 2nd cat but by the time we rescued the 3rd he didn't mind. I told him we were going to get a yorkie (tomorrow actually!) and he was fine. I never had house pets when I was little. I had dogs and cats but they were outside all the time. We don't have kids and don't know if we can so the furbabies are our "children" and he's come around to seeing it that way. He knows that we take care of them as that and if it is between us going without food just so we can feed them, they would come first. So he's their "granddad" and is pretty happy with that right now. So my advice is to give it time. Eventually they come around.

[RachelandSadie]

hopefully it will be a short tongue lashing...the main concern here is that i guess they don't realize that we make good money and everyone from the small town i'm from are simple folks, with low paying jobs, and they live in small homes, and they aren't used to having nice things, so my mom and dad sometimes struggle and i'm worried that they don't realize that i don't struggle anymore, we have plenty of money to do this and we're not paying outrageous amounts of money to have her.

[Precious Bella]

I'm a mother. grandmother and great-grandmother. If you have your own home and do not depend on your parents to pay your bills.....go for it. Tell your family in a matter-of-fact way and leave it like that. Parents have a way of saying things because they are just that.....parents. Sometimes it is hard for us to keep our mouths shut because we have had YEARS of opening it. Just do your thing and try not to get upset if a little flack comes your way. Try to be patient because they mean well and love you. I find myself putting words in places where they do not belong, so I try to measure the situation before I rant. hehehehe

PS. Your family will LOVE your new baby as soon as they see him/her. Good luck

[RachelandSadie]

i sure hope they love her...i know my dad loves my aunt Karrie's dog Bailey. I'm just hoping that when it's his own daughter's pup, he feels the same way. She'll be a blast to have, and it's not like i plan to let her roam free untrained on their carpet either, i'll bring the baby gates and the carriers and the x pen if i have to so she'll be on the inside back porch tile or something...


what if they oppose me having a pup in their house???

[Precious Bella]

I can't speak for them, but if you respect their home, I can't see how they would not accept her, and soon LOVE her. Do you have a stroller? That would be good in the house. Also, take her outside often. Good luck.

[Buster Bailey]

Originally Posted by RachelandSadie

i sure hope they love her...i know my dad loves my aunt Karrie's dog Bailey. I'm just hoping that when it's his own daughter's pup, he feels the same way. She'll be a blast to have, and it's not like i plan to let her roam free untrained on their carpet either, i'll bring the baby gates and the carriers and the x pen if i have to so she'll be on the inside back porch tile or something...


what if they oppose me having a pup in their house???

I would say that you should respect what others feel about pets in their homes. For the longest time, I wouldn't allow any pets in my house - mainly due to my allergies (I'm allergic to a lot of outdoor things & dogs would bring it in on their hair & make me siick). Now that I have 2 yorkies, I am a little more relaxed about other pets coming into our home (although I still don't let "outdoor" dogs come in because they shed and are usually stinky!). My in-laws let their dog in one spot of their house, but he's an outdoor dog most of the time. My babies get to go wherever they want at their house now, but they're always within my eyesight. Remember to bring carpet cleaner & a rag when you're visiting others just in case there is an accident! If your parents don't let your little one in their house, maybe see if they will let the puppy stay in their garage, basement, or bathroom in its kennel or something while you're there? I would guess that if they know your baby is a little thing that is clean and doesn't shed, they will warm up to the idea of letting it be in their house. Good luck!!

[coolbar]

I am a Father to two lovely girls
Marie 29 and Claire 19
They both have a son
Howie and Kieran

I would not dare tell them how to run their homes

we love each other and the respect comes from an unwritten rule

help when needed and keep your nose out when not invited

I know this does not work for everyone, but for us it is a perfect rule

[RachelandSadie]

the hardest part is that we don't have a garage at my parents house, only outside hot dirty sheds, no basement and no other good places for her. the back porch is the best i can think of due to the tiled floor and the easy access to the outside from the door and it's a pantry area with nothing she could mess with, all the cabinets are high and tall...baby gate her there she'll be good, i can krate her too, so the mess would be on her bedding if there was one, hopefully by the time we go on this trip she'll be used to krated up over night and be able to hold is, but who knows she's jsut a baby...she'll only be 10-11 weeks old when we go on our trip up to stay overnight with them.

[coolbar]

hey I had an apartment, with a balcony and trained my dogs ok
walks three times a day and the dogs were fine

It can be done , just find your walk route to make it work

[coolbar]

my dogs never messed in the house or balcony, they saved it for the walk, just take some poo bags with you and clean up

[coolbar]

also I have never crated a dog, mine are always free

[RachelandSadie]

But she was a golden retriever, free, and she stayed outside in kennel...well anyways, i have to tell them Sunday somehow, wish me luck with the tongue lashing part and hopefully they'll get used to her and let her stay on the inside back porch of their house if i let her out plenty.