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06-14-2009, 09:25 AM | #1 |
I ♥ my Furheathens Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: VAN ALSTYNE
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| How to help them grieve? I dont know if this is the right section or not but this is where I am sticking it. This is long but wanted to explain everything. On Friday, I had to let my 13yr Pom/Chi mix, Charlie, go to his final resting place. Since then Sam (my Yorkie) and Martin (my poodle) have been depressed. They are not really eating, they drink some, no playing and just kind of lay around. Sam ALWAYS goes with me, yesterday he wouldn't come near me when I grabbed the car keys. Same with today. I am afraid that he thinks if he leaves with me that he won't come back Sam and Martin are both laying with me but that is the extent of it. Yesterday Sam got into Charlie and Martin's crate (all bedding has been emptied and crate cleaned), he just laid there on the plastic lining. He goes to certain places where Charlie would lay, sniffs, rolls around then just falls out on his tummy there, all sprawled out with his head down. It is really breaking my heart because I dont know what to do for them. My nieces are having a hard time. For the first time EVER my baby wouldnt spend the night with me, its just to soon for her. But at least with them, we can talk about it and I can help them grieve. I dont know how to help Martin and Sam. Does anyone have any do's or don'ts that they can suggest?
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06-14-2009, 10:01 AM | #2 |
♥Tiny Tia my Furbaby♥ Donating Member | In Feb I went through this when my border collie had to be put down in our home. Tia was six months old then and even a couple of days before Jessie was put to sleep she wouldn't leave her side. (Jessie had her second stroke) I put a thread on 'Do dogs have a sixth sense.? The following days were painful for everyone in our house including Tia. At lunchtimes is usually our play and training times , but she didn't want to know. It just broke my heart over again thinking that she too is suffering. Even our walks wern't the same without Jessie. But there is hope and a know its an old cliche but time is a great healer and your baby will get over it. Show her extra love if thats possible.Sending hugs
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06-14-2009, 01:27 PM | #3 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Northern New York
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| My condolences on the loss of your beloved Charlie. Sending hugs and good wishes to you all.
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06-14-2009, 02:18 PM | #4 | |
I ♥ my Furheathens Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: VAN ALSTYNE
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Thank you, that is very sweet.
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06-14-2009, 03:19 PM | #5 |
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| Mourning You are all probably going to think I am crazy, but when a pet or human dies the existing animals need to smell and spend time with the dead body. They then understand what has happened and no longer look for that member to return to them. |
06-14-2009, 03:24 PM | #6 |
I ♥ my Furheathens Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: VAN ALSTYNE
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| I dont think you are crazy. I never thought about that or heard of it. It kinda makes sense tho.
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06-14-2009, 03:25 PM | #7 |
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| Twalla, change your routine up. If you go somewhere maybe get the car out of the garage first then come back in the house. Just do things different and they will come around. I mixed things up a little when I lost Angus. Mine all greived but when you change their routine will look at what you are doing. Believe me this worked for me. Did you bring back a blanket with Charlies scent. They need to smell that he is gone and even if you still have the shirt you wore let them smell. Good Luck I know it hurts for them and you. Im so sorry..... |
06-14-2009, 03:26 PM | #8 | |
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I am sorry for your loss. Sending you *hugs* Time will heal your wounds.
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06-14-2009, 03:30 PM | #9 |
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| It will just take time....I had to have my mastiff put down a couple of years ago, and the cat was soo depressed...they'd been together for 8 1/2 years...It took a couple of weeks...I also think they feel our sadness also, and, probably, when you are not quite so sad, they will sense that too...So sorry for your loss, and I really mean that...My heart ached for my dog, and I couldn't even get another one for a year and a half...I've got my Apple now, but I'm still feel sad, when I think of my Pebbles...I guess we just have to be thankful for the time we do have them....I'm sure your babies will be o.k. very soon.... |
06-14-2009, 03:50 PM | #10 |
Just Pawz Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Liverpool, NY
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| I first would like to offer my condolences, RIP Charlie I've only had 1 situation where I've had to deal with a grieving pet, we had 2 labs that were 2 years apart in age. We had to have the older of the 2 put down and the other was so depressed. I think she knew he wasn't coming back because she didn't seem to look for him, but she didn't want to play or anything. She acted that way for a long time, we did get another puppy after a little bit and it took her a while to even get near the new one, honestly she never really got to be very close and we ended up losing her less then a year after him.
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06-14-2009, 05:50 PM | #11 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | I am sorry for the loss of your baby. My Pom passed in February and Pixie was extremely attached to her and watched over her. The first week she would look to see if Maya was in my arms every time I came home, she would lay where Maya always laid and was very sad for a couple of weeks. Then she gradually changed into a different dog, she started playing with toys, became more cuddly with me and became very close to Roxie. I just let her grieve and tried not to mention Maya's name because she would get all excited thinking Maya was home.
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06-15-2009, 11:21 AM | #13 | ||
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06-15-2009, 11:24 AM | #14 |
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| I don't have any other advice, but I'm so sorry for your loss of Charlie. I know it has to be hard on the entire family. When my parents had two bullmastiffs, the female passed away in her sleep overnight from bloat. Ugh, I get sick just thinking of it. Both the male (who eventually became my dog) and female slept together in my parent's giant master bathroom, so he was with her when she passed, and he never looked for her. I suppose there must be some truth to animals understanding death.
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06-15-2009, 11:36 AM | #15 |
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| I'm sorry for your loss. Have you tried sitting down and talking to them and explaining what happened in detail. Have you told them that he is in a better place and doesn't hurt anymore? I have found that if I talk to my dogs like they are human, they tend to understand better. I know that some people think that it's silly, but I have found that it works great. I had a cat put down once, and I explained to everyone, the kids & the dogs, what was going on. Everyone had a rough time for about 2 weeks, and then things seemed to get better. They say that time heals and I truely believe that. |
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