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06-12-2009, 10:36 AM | #1 |
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| What do you do… My Yorkie is 2½ year ago; I asked my sister-in-law if she would like to take Chelsea for the ½ day I worked was not problems. Last year I got another dog and asked my sister-in-law (Debbie) to come with me to pick her up. Debbie help picked a name, she picked Daisi and I added Mae. Also Debbie offered to pay ¾ of the money for DaisiMae, which like an idiot I took it. My brother won’t let Debbie have a dog because they travel so she has adopted mind. She takes both girls everyday that they are here. Well here’s the thing, I’ve been working with the girls on obedience and behavioral problems, walking etc. getting them to come to me on command, it was working great until there with Debbie they total ignore me won’t come just stay with Debbie. I want them to come to me as I’m their primarily owner or alpha. When it’s time to leave it’s a big fight, both girls won’t walk, they just sit there I don’t want to drag them I’ll stand turn my back then get excited start running and say rabbit they’ll run for a second than stop and sit. It a constant fight everyday. I don’t know what to do. It’s really starting to upset me, I’m their mommy and it seen they would prefer to be with Debbie. She just plays all day with the girls great, no real training. Am I being ridiculous, jealous that maybe the girls want to be with Debbie not me? Are we confusing them by who the alpha here. I’ve been trying to get them to play more together with each other I would play tug-a-war with both of them each with their own toy. Or one toy throw it and both girls get it and play together. Debbie tends to just play with Chelsea throw the glove and DaisiMae just sit with her. The whole theory of having two dogs for me was so they’re being more depended on each other and play together. Also I’ve been trying to get them more socialize with other dogs, I’ll bring other dogs up to Debbie’s place as they have a huge yard in hopes they’ll play, well Debbie with that stupid glove Chelsea will ignore the dogs and just what to play with the her. I’ve asked Debbie to put it away ignore Chelsea so she will play with others dogs. DaisiMae will play with them once I get them running and chasing. I actually feel that Chelsea is pulling away from me. She would always be around me, when I’m watching TV she would be with me now she’s elsewhere, I’ll have to go and get her. DaisiMae still hangs on to me thank goodness. I feel like I’m losing Chelsea.
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06-15-2009, 09:22 AM | #2 |
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| I know you must love them a lot. That's what being a good mommy is all about. But to love is also to let go. Dogs also go through an independent stage. Once they grow out of puppyhood, they may have settled into a routine. It's great that your dogs have developed the confidence to not feel the need to be "clingy" or glued to your side. It's sad for us, I know. I have a fairly independent girl too. It's not so much that she'd choose other humans over me, she's just more animal oriented first before 2 legged. Whereas, there are just some yorkies that are more people oriented than dogs and the "fun aunt" is just all a part of something "new" in their daily routine so it feels more exciting to them, probably. I spend all of my time with my girl but when Daddy comes home, she gets more excited greeting him than if it had been anyone else... except when I disappear for hours too and then come back, I get greeted pretty much about the same way--the longer I disappear for, the sweeter the greeting. Although when both her daddy and I disappear together while leaving her with family, she'd greet both of us happily, but probably obsess over her Daddy a little more. Some yorkies are more attached to the hip of the owners than others. That's just a breed and an individual thing. Just keep loving them anyway and always be there for them. They'll know it and know you're their mom. Give it some time. Your Chelsea might eventually become your lap dog again or she might still stay as Little Miss Independent, but she's just as cute and sweet as ever, isn't she? If you want more of a lap dog, I know my late Shih Tzu was a much better "lap dog" than my yorkie is though she also loved anyone and everyone so I'm sure she'd have happily gone home with anyone who lured her with food. |
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