Our yorkie is like our child, Doesnt that make me a mom??

[krysstall]

So, my fiance and I own a yorkie. We see our Yorkie as our child. Well my fiance likes to refer to me as Luckys mom. Mothers day is coming up as we all know.. and he asked what we were doing of course i got excited since this will be the mothersday that ill be spending with Lucky. But he let me down telling me what his mother wanted to do for mothers day. I asked him if mothers day didnt apply to me now, and all he said was you got to be kidding me..
I think I deserve a day to be recongized by him and lucky for everything I do..

Is there anyone whos in my shoes or think that im worng in a sense..

I mean like a nice little picknick in the park with him and Lucky would be soo nice for mothers day.

**And for my fiances birthday I made a card that was from lucky and cookies shaped as dog bones as a birthday treat.

[Gracie2006]

I'm with you. My fur kids are my children, I'm their mom. I care for them, clean them, feed them, dress them, play with them, love them and teach them manners. Yes, recognition would be nice. More than likely we will go out to the park on Sunday and enjoy our own company. The kisses I will get will be recognition enough.

[Breeze]

It really depends, if you are engaged then I would think mother's day with you and your family (you, him & furchild) would come first.

I think your fiance is still planning around his mom. Is he young or your relationship fairly new? Then maybe he is used to Mother's Day centering around his mom. Totally normal.


I would tell him how you feel and see if perhaps you could do both or maybe it's time he focus on your family also. I would tell him how you feel: Lucky is your child, you want to focus on your family.....

[Marilize]

My brother recently got married and when they went for counseling (with a priest), the advice was that they both needed to move away from their families. He says that the new couple should form their own family where friends and other family is outside of it. That doesn't mean that they need to neglect their family or friends, but just that they (my brother and his wife) should always come first for one another.

These babies are a lot of work and when you are in a couple, they really become like your (your and your fiance's) children. I think you should sit your fiance down and talk about it. It isn't good for a relationship when you keep these things inside. You need to tell him that you would like to do something special on Mother's Day, just you, the furbaby and him.

The biggest reason that you should tell him what you want is because men are totally clueless about what women want sometimes and they need to be told what you expect of them. Otherwise they will never get it.

[JoshieBoy]

I understand how you feel. We take care of our dogs' needs and see them has a part of the family. Even though my dogs are animals and I am their master, sometimes I feel like I am my dogs' mother too. If I were your fiancé, I would have center Mother's Day on my mother, because she is my mother. I would honor you on Mother's Day by giving you a gift. I agree with a previous poster that you should tell him how you feel. Maybe he will honor you on Mother's Day too.

[mscat]

I have been a single parent to a disabled son for nearly 16 years now. I also brought home my Baby Yorkie , girl Suzi, a year ago, this up coming , Saturday ! A day before Mother's Day
IMO, I think your Fiance needs to honor you and his mother too. Spend time with his mom, However, he needs to allow a LOT more time with you and your little puppy , and have a picnic in the park together, just the three of you. I think that is nice. He can't be hanging onto his mother all the time anymore !
I call Suzi my baby girl all the time . That is the way I feel about her. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. However, he needs to feel the same way> If he doesn't then it is going to be hard to convince him otherwise . But, maybe he definately will want to spent time with the both of you! He's a grown man, and for sure , I'd tink he'd want to spend it with you then his mom all day....

[FlDebra]

I am in a unique position to be all three, Momma to two grown sons who are married and have families of their own, Momma to one son still at home and in high school, and Mom to not only 3 grown dogs but a litter of 5 puppies who I had to bottle and syringe feed from the 3rd day of their lives.

My grown sons will call me, tell me Happy Mother's Day and that they love me but usually spend the day with their own wives as they should. One lives out of state and the other out of town. My son that is still at home needs to give me a big hug, tell me Happy Mother's Day and how much he loves me! Then he can go off with his friends and spend some time at the beach. He usually has a surprise for me as well. Each of them will do something to recognize the day and give me a little extra loving attention. They are great sons! I am proud of them and love them to pieces!

As far as all my canine kids -- they will spend the whole day with me! They won't take me to dinner, and won't get me a card, but I will undoubtedly get lots of puppy kisses! I will probably take my mother out to eat the day before Mother's Day as neither of us likes the long wait times at restaurants on Mother's Day. I already have her presents wrapped and ready. For me, it has never been a question, any time I have lived in the same town as my mom, I always spend some time with her on Mother's Day or the day before (and I am in my 50's!).

As much as I love my dogs, as much as we include them as part of the family, they are not anything close to being like my real kids or my own Mother. On Mother's Day, I want to be recognized for my 3 human sons not my pets. So, I would say a picnic in the park is fine, but not as a Mother's Day present -- just in recognition of wanting to spend time with each other. Let him still spend a little time with his mom too. I remember some years where I would take my mom and dad out to Brunch and then my boys would take me out to dinner later in the evening. Sometimes we all go to dinner together (my personal favorite -- especially when my older boys are in town too.) So, you can have your time and he can still spend some with his mother too.

Until you and your fiance do have real kids together, I think he should spend at least some time with his mother every Mother's Day and if it was me, even after you two have kids, I would still think it very appropriate for him to do a little something for his Mother on Mother's Day. There should always be a way to BOTH "cleave unto another" and still honor your mother. IMHO. Try not to make it a competition.

[LilMissy]

Hmmm, the thought had never crossed my mind that I should be honoured on Mothers Day because of my furbabies. I didn't think about Mothers Day until I had my skinkids. If you feel that you deserve special recognition on Mothers Day, then I really think that you should have another talk with your Fiancee. It sounds like it's very important to you. At the same time, I think it's important to him that he celebrates with his Mom too. Hopefully you two can find a way to make everyone happy. Good Luck!

[JoshieBoy]

Originally Posted by FlDebra

I am in a unique position to be all three, Momma to two grown sons who are married and have families of their own, Momma to one son still at home and in high school, and Mom to not only 3 grown dogs but a litter of 5 puppies who I had to bottle and syringe feed from the 3rd day of their lives.

My grown sons will call me, tell me Happy Mother's Day and that they love me but usually spend the day with their own wives as they should. One lives out of state and the other out of town. My son that is still at home needs to give me a big hug, tell me Happy Mother's Day and how much he loves me! Then he can go off with his friends and spend some time at the beach. He usually has a surprise for me as well. Each of them will do something to recognize the day and give me a little extra loving attention. They are great sons! I am proud of them and love them to pieces!

As far as all my canine kids -- they will spend the whole day with me! They won't take me to dinner, and won't get me a card, but I will undoubtedly get lots of puppy kisses! I will probably take my mother out to eat the day before Mother's Day as neither of us likes the long wait times at restaurants on Mother's Day. I already have her presents wrapped and ready. For me, it has never been a question, any time I have lived in the same town as my mom, I always spend some time with her on Mother's Day or the day before (and I am in my 50's!).

As much as I love my dogs, as much as we include them as part of the family, they are not anything close to being like my real kids or my own Mother. On Mother's Day, I want to be recognized for my 3 human sons not my pets. So, I would say a picnic in the park is fine, but not as a Mother's Day present -- just in recognition of wanting to spend time with each other. Let him still spend a little time with his mom too. I remember some years where I would take my mom and dad out to Brunch and then my boys would take me out to dinner later in the evening. Sometimes we all go to dinner together (my personal favorite -- especially when my older boys are in town too.) So, you can have your time and he can still spend some with his mother too.

Until you and your fiance do have real kids together, I think he should spend at least some time with his mother every Mother's Day and if it was me, even after you two have kids, I would still think it very appropriate for him to do a little something for his Mother on Mother's Day. There should always be a way to BOTH "cleave unto another" and still honor your mother. IMHO. Try not to make it a competition.

I agree with your post.

[AprilLynn]

I think that he should definately spend some time on Mothers Day with his mom. I would NEVER keep my husband from his mom on Mothers day, expecially for me and my Chloe (dog), that is HIS mother. When the day comes and we have children yes I will expect my fare share of attention on Mothers day but would never try to take that day from my husbands own mother who has made so many sacrifices for him.

[ladygotcoldfeet]

i'm with you, my hubby and i treat our little one like our child. mother's day or not, you deserve a compliment for doing a good job taking care of them both..i salute you and all the mommies here on yorkietalk

[QuickSilver]

There's no one right answer. I think it's good to honor all moms, so your fiance should do something nice for his mother (and it's a good sign that he respects his mom). If it's important to you to get acknowledgement, make sure that happens too.

[Lexi Rae]

im with you too.. i usually get something for mothers day from my b/f and i used to get something from my x husband.. all the time.. if i dont, i get
pissed off to no end.. they know better.. my mom usually sends me a card from lexi too..

[roxies_mom]

I'm a skin and fur kid mom. I can tell you that as much as we mom's do for both our skin and fur kids it does deserve to be recognized!! After all who watches them, feeds them, makes sure they have clean water and thinks of giving them treats? Who bathes them and worries about getting home to let them out? Who makes sure they're ok when you know they're having an off day or nurses their owies? Who takes them to the vet and the groomers? Who takes notice that FurDad has probably let them out and left them out there or who reminds FurDad to watch over them while your not in the room or the house? Who cuddles them and strokes their fur and belly till they fall asleep? It almost takes just as much to watch over the fur kids as it does the skin kids. You deserve to at least have a card and some flowers or at the very least to hear Happy Mother's Day!! Happy Mother's Day to all the mom's to skin and fur kids alike!!

[roxies_mom]

Originally Posted by FlDebra

I am in a unique position to be all three, Momma to two grown sons who are married and have families of their own, Momma to one son still at home and in high school, and Mom to not only 3 grown dogs but a litter of 5 puppies who I had to bottle and syringe feed from the 3rd day of their lives.

My grown sons will call me, tell me Happy Mother's Day and that they love me but usually spend the day with their own wives as they should. One lives out of state and the other out of town. My son that is still at home needs to give me a big hug, tell me Happy Mother's Day and how much he loves me! Then he can go off with his friends and spend some time at the beach. He usually has a surprise for me as well. Each of them will do something to recognize the day and give me a little extra loving attention. They are great sons! I am proud of them and love them to pieces!

As far as all my canine kids -- they will spend the whole day with me! They won't take me to dinner, and won't get me a card, but I will undoubtedly get lots of puppy kisses! I will probably take my mother out to eat the day before Mother's Day as neither of us likes the long wait times at restaurants on Mother's Day. I already have her presents wrapped and ready. For me, it has never been a question, any time I have lived in the same town as my mom, I always spend some time with her on Mother's Day or the day before (and I am in my 50's!).

As much as I love my dogs, as much as we include them as part of the family, they are not anything close to being like my real kids or my own Mother. On Mother's Day, I want to be recognized for my 3 human sons not my pets. So, I would say a picnic in the park is fine, but not as a Mother's Day present -- just in recognition of wanting to spend time with each other. Let him still spend a little time with his mom too. I remember some years where I would take my mom and dad out to Brunch and then my boys would take me out to dinner later in the evening. Sometimes we all go to dinner together (my personal favorite -- especially when my older boys are in town too.) So, you can have your time and he can still spend some with his mother too.

Until you and your fiance do have real kids together, I think he should spend at least some time with his mother every Mother's Day and if it was me, even after you two have kids, I would still think it very appropriate for him to do a little something for his Mother on Mother's Day. There should always be a way to BOTH "cleave unto another" and still honor your mother. IMHO. Try not to make it a competition.

I would love for my DH to be able to spend time with his mom on Mother's Day. She passed away a few years ago as result of a bad car accident. Life is way to short to let a moment of opprotunity pass to let someone know how much you appreciate and love them. Now my kids and DH (3 of mine are grown too and one still in Jr. High) always do something special for me. I don't worry about things, I'm just happy to have a little time being with them or hearing from them.