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Old 04-13-2009, 03:40 PM   #1
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Right now, I am laying across my bed on my laptop and Silvia is curled up under my chin and serving as a little pillow. Every once in a while, she will make that little sighing noise and lick my cheek.

I don't have any children, it's just me, DH, two cats, Silvia and several saltwater fish in my house. We have tried to have children for four years, but to no avail. And now, as I'm sitting here, I have finally come to the conclusion that..........I don't really care if I ever have skin kids, because I don't think I could ever love anything more than I do this little girl cuddled up to me. Maybe I'm a sucker, but I'm even tearing up right now just thinking about how much I love her...........it almost hurts, if that makes sense. Am I alone in this.......or possibly unstable? LOL
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Totally understandable! LOL. I've always had dogs growing up in the family but Jackson is truly MY first dog that is all ... mine. And I love him so much. As if he were my own child. My e-mails I send out to family & friends are usually weekly updated pics of Jackson, lol. I talk about him as if he's my own kid. I seriously love him so much! He can be SUCH a stinker sometimes but I love him nonetheless. He's the best thing that's happened to me in a while! I needed the responsbility that comes with caring for a dog and I couldn't be happier with him, he's so smart, learned tricks so fast, and is such a cool companion.
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You're not alone at all. I think people like us (who love our animals like our own children) are lucky. We feel a love that others can't. It just makes life that much better.
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Old 04-13-2009, 04:33 PM   #5
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I don’t think you can love them too much, as long as your life is balanced and you are not obsessive about it. I get so much joy when a yorkie is sitting on my lap and looking up at me, or just taking a nap on my shoulders while I type, or even going for a walk or playing fetch. What I hate is the way they wait at the door when you have to go away on travel for a few days, it's so sad!

Allow me the state the obvious; they are not kids. I don't like it when people refer to dogs as "furkids." They will not help you when you are too old to help yourself. They will not have grandchildren you can play with, and you will never be proud of them for getting into grad school. On the other hand, the most you can get upset about with a yorkie, is their incessant barking or maybe chewing something up - they won't smash the car or stay out all night! The worst thing about them, though, is they don't live long enough, and when they pass away, part of us goes with them. So go ahead and love your yorkie as much as you can, because they will still love you even more back
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I don’t think you can love them too much, as long as your life is balanced and you are not obsessive about it. I get so much joy when a yorkie is sitting on my lap and looking up at me, or just taking a nap on my shoulders while I type, or even going for a walk or playing fetch. What I hate is the way they wait at the door when you have to go away on travel for a few days, it's so sad!

Allow me the state the obvious; they are not kids. I don't like it when people refer to dogs as "furkids." They will not help you when you are too old to help yourself. They will not have grandchildren you can play with, and you will never be proud of them for getting into grad school. On the other hand, the most you can get upset about with a yorkie, is their incessant barking or maybe chewing something up - they won't smash the car or stay out all night! The worst thing about them, though, is they don't live long enough, and when they pass away, part of us goes with them. So go ahead and love your yorkie as much as you can, because they will still love you even more back
Oh yeah, I agree with the last sentence. Even though I TREAT Jackson like he's my child... I'm still in college and young and do not have children of my own. But I would never choose to have only a dog over real children. Nothing can top the love of a child. I think if you think you love your dog that much.... wait until you have your OWN kids.
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Allow me the state the obvious; they are not kids. I don't like it when people refer to dogs as "furkids." They will not help you when you are too old to help yourself. They will not have grandchildren you can play with, and you will never be proud of them for getting into grad school. On the other hand, the most you can get upset about with a yorkie, is their incessant barking or maybe chewing something up - they won't smash the car or stay out all night!
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I would never choose to have only a dog over real children. Nothing can top the love of a child. I think if you think you love your dog that much.... wait until you have your OWN kids.
Well, I'm glad I'm not a complete idiot! I don’t consider myself obsessive about it, and I do feel as if my life is balanced right where it is. And the hardest thing you mentioned, about them waiting at the door when you have to go away, being sad, Silvia's not that way. I guess she's like an independent version of that, cause she licks me goodbye and then goes and gets in one of her many beds around the house and goes to sleep, or aggravated the cats.

As far as real children are concerned, I see both of your points, that a puppy can never replace a child, but because I can never have children, I guess what I'm saying is that I am OK with just the love of a dog. I used to get depressed thinking about the things mentioned, such as who will take care of me when I'm old, having grandkids, etc. But, there's not much I can do about that, so I'm considering my great love for Silvia as a great consolation prize!
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Definitely not alone. I love Sasha pretty much more than I love anything and to be honest, I feel the same way about the "skin kid" situation as well. I'm young still of course, but Sasha is my everything in life right now.
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Oh girlie.. you are so not alone.. I have and love my furbutts.. and worry over them every bit as one worries over a child.. yes I had one child.. and I have lost yorkies also.. and call me silly.. but I have to have more to love so I never ever again in my life time am ever in a position to want to die also after losing a yorkie I so loved...
When you have many and lose one it is devestating..I was so broken and with him being 5.. it hurt worse and he was not to die so young.. my babies are my kids my life...


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You are definitely not alone. People who do not have the same love are missing out on something huge...

While I am sitting here, I cannot understand how I could ever love a child as much as my Couver. While I understand that people who have kids feel differently... I feel that my Couver is here with me no matter what, and my children will grow up and move away. But for as long as Couver lives, he will be right by my side- my loyal companion. I do not think you get the same feeling from a child. One is not better than the other, they are just different types of love
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I have a disabled teenaged son... And also a single parent since his birth nealy 16 years ago... AND I am also fully disabled. Suzi is my first Yorkie. She is now a yr old. I have had her since she was 8 weeks. She is my daughter Also my service dog, and my little treasure. My baby girl, and in my eyes a princeses , however, at times I will admit in disquise she can be a terror too, LOL. I adore her to pieces. LIfe has forever changed since Suzi has come home. She's funny, smart, and too cute! I am in love with her and miss her like crazy when I am not with her even for a short while, I wonder what she is doing, or if she is ok.
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Well, I'm glad I'm not a complete idiot! I don’t consider myself obsessive about it, and I do feel as if my life is balanced right where it is. And the hardest thing you mentioned, about them waiting at the door when you have to go away, being sad, Silvia's not that way. I guess she's like an independent version of that, cause she licks me goodbye and then goes and gets in one of her many beds around the house and goes to sleep, or aggravated the cats.

As far as real children are concerned, I see both of your points, that a puppy can never replace a child, but because I can never have children, I guess what I'm saying is that I am OK with just the love of a dog. I used to get depressed thinking about the things mentioned, such as who will take care of me when I'm old, having grandkids, etc. But, there's not much I can do about that, so I'm considering my great love for Silvia as a great consolation prize!
Thanks for the reply, I was not trying to be disrespectful in stating the obvious, I just don’t like it when people assume my dogs are psychological compensation for having no kids (to me they are in two entirely different categories of things you can love). My woman can't have kids either and it’s something I won't dwell on as well, what would be the point?

I think yorkies are the cutest most adorable things in the world, and I am a guy, incidentally (who has always played for the right team). When I was a kid, I loved little terriers but never got to own one since my parents were not pet people. I would always have to be the terrier in Monopoly, and Toto was my favorite character in Oz. Now I would never go back to having no dog (and Yorkies are the best, as I’m sure you’d agree)!!!
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You are definitely not alone. People who do not have the same love are missing out on something huge...

While I am sitting here, I cannot understand how I could ever love a child as much as my Couver. While I understand that people who have kids feel differently... I feel that my Couver is here with me no matter what, and my children will grow up and move away. But for as long as Couver lives, he will be right by my side- my loyal companion. I do not think you get the same feeling from a child. One is not better than the other, they are just different types of love
Should have read this before I last posted to this thread. Your last sentence makes a lot of sense to me (although I would not want to argue the point in mixed company - maybe I'm just repressed).
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Thanks for the reply, I was not trying to be disrespectful in stating the obvious, I just don’t like it when people assume my dogs are psychological compensation for having no kids (to me they are in two entirely different categories of things you can love).

Oh, I never took your comment as disrespectful in any way! I only responded to make my previous comment not seem so harsh. I didn't want people to think I was choosing to have a dog over a child, I just wanted to point out that I cannot have children and the choice is already made, and I'm quite content with it, cause I me some Silvia! LOL
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No, I don't think that you can love them too much. I sometimes just look at them and feel so blessed and loved that they are in my life. I could not imagine my life without them.
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