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carmen in nj · 04-07-2009, 08:12 AM

Well this is a LONG rant.. a little background.. last august my youngest son rescued a little Jack Rusell Girl from a Rescue group in PA, where I keep my doll store.. well to make a long story short, we were told she was spayed, since I have an intact AKC yorkie male at home.. three months later SURPRISED, she is in HEAT, For the whole story check out my BLOG...

I took her to the vet but he could not tell for sure if she was or not since she was supposed to be fixed, he thought it was a false pregnancy.. well last january 8 after xrays and a sonogram, we had 4 little puppies, they are the cutest things ever, My family went nuts and everyone wanted one.. well I gave them to my closest kins.. well this morning the last one was supposed to go home to my cousin, he has a 12 year old girl that is very close to my 22 year old daughter and she wanted one in the worse way, so we agreed that she could get the last boy. This morning her mom called me to check at what time she could come over to pick the baby and she blabber something that I ALMOST did not get but I DID.. they had PURCHASE A NEW PUPPY this past weekend at the MALL.. WHAT???? YOU DID WHAT????
and she wanted to know if she could bringh HER to meet my boys...

, I was speechles, I put myself together and in the best of my POLITE voice I told her that NO, she could not bring her just bought at the store puppy to my home since I am keeping ONE of the babies for ME and that NO she was no LONGER welcome to my other puppy either..
since they already have one, she told me that she thinks it would be easier to reaise the two puppies together and go thru potty training once instead of doing it twice, since SHE always wanted two a boy and a girl, but since I had already given away my only girl and she was getting a boy, they decided to get a little yorkie this past weekend.
Well.. I stuck to my guns and told her NO, my boy is not going to you now, we got into a bit of an argument and I hung up the phone on her.. she proceded to call my mom and get my mom involved in the dispute.. my mom is trying to keep the peace this holy week,,,, My mom thinks I am being WAY over protective of my pups and that I should let them have the puppy since I gave my word..

I VERY politely told my mom that I RAther keep the puppy myself but I am not letting him go, they never had a puppy before and all over sudden they want to have 2!! plus they live in an APARTMENT, no yard, they both work, it will be up to the 12 yd. to walk the puppies and clean and feed them she goes to school,..
Please do you guys think I am being SELFISH?, OVERPROTECTIVE? or doing something WRONG? i called my hubby and he told me to keep the puppy or find him another home.. but I don't want to hurt my mom's feelings over this either.. I already cancelled easter dinner over my aunt over this .. I am so thorn...

I will let it rest today and call my mom again tomorrow.. hopefully she can see it my way.. that is my only concern and the well being of my puppy..
I don't even ask what puppy store she got the yorkie from, I hope she did not get him from the local petpurry since is being a parvo outbreak there..
oh WELL, let me go back to make dolls for the store, I am so upset..
thanks, for reading if you got this far...

hugs,
CArmen in nj

cdawnfine · 04-07-2009, 08:41 AM

I would def take advantage of the Parvo outbreak regardless if they got the puppy at that store. Just explain to your mom and cousin that there is a Parvo outbreak in the area and in all good faith you can not release your puppy to be in an enviorment with a puppy from a pet store at this time. If they are truly interested in the puppys best interest they will understand send them info on Parvo,and if they don't care than that is not where you want your puppy anyway.

gkathleenw · 04-07-2009, 08:42 AM

I don't think you are being selfish or overprotective at all. You are doing what is best for your puppy. Finding the best possible home for him. Who's to say that puppy from the pet store doesn't have parvo and they both get very sick and possibly die. I totally understand where you are coming from and I would have made the same decision! They live in an apartment? are they even allowed to have more than one dog? They obviously have no idea what they would be getting them selves into.

Great job and very responsible on your part. IMO

roxies_mom · 04-07-2009, 08:50 AM

Stick to your guns, Keep your puppy!

carmen in nj · 04-07-2009, 08:51 AM

Well I just got off the phone with my aunt and she is very upset over this too.. I guess is going to be a very difficult easter around here this weekend. I have to work my store all weekend anyways I tried to explained to my aunt the parvo situation, but they don't understand..
so Puppy stays here and ME TOO...

Now to plan what I am going to make for easter dinner for me and my kids and hubby..

hugs,
Carmen in nj

Robin Lodal · 04-07-2009, 08:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by carmen in nj

Well I just got off the phone with my aunt and she is very upset over this too.. I guess is going to be a very difficult easter around here this weekend. I have to work my store all weekend anyways I tried to explained to my aunt the parvo situation, but they don't understand..
so Puppy stays here and ME TOO...

Now to plan what I am going to make for easter dinner for me and my kids and hubby..

hugs,
Carmen in nj

I'm sorry that you are having to go through this... that STINKS. I can't believe they went to a PET STORE and got a puppy! AHHH

Definitely use the parvo thing and stand your ground.

Can you post pictures of the puppies? I am curious as to what they look like.

Graleyne · 04-07-2009, 08:59 AM

I would definitely stand my ground as well. (((hugs))) I know this has to be hard for you.

I'd like to see pics of the puppies too!

PiePiper · 04-07-2009, 09:02 AM

I think you made the right decision in not letting her have your puppy. If she never had a puppy before she does not realize how much work one puppy is never mind two. Plus there is no way you would want your puppy any where near a puppy that has been bought from a pet store that might or might not have a parvo case. Who wants to take that chance. Years ago when my neighbor raised gray hounds for the race track she got Parvo in her kennel. She lost 22 puppies in a weeks time.

carmen in nj · 04-07-2009, 09:09 AM

Well the saddest part about all this is that THEY SHOULD KNOW BETTER, my oldest son is a VET Tech and a local animal clinic and we are always talking about the horrors of bad breeders and pet stores.. but I guess they DON'T want to learn. I hope the little yorkie girl is healthy and happy, but I would not put my money on it..
I am sticking to my guns , I just hope my Mom will come around and understand..
hugs,
cArmen in nj

carmen in nj · 04-07-2009, 09:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Graleyne

I would definitely stand my ground as well. (((hugs))) I know this has to be hard for you.

I'd like to see pics of the puppies too!

oh, if you click on the little number 23 under my name you will go to my blog and is LOTS of pictures of the puppies there..
hugs,
cArmen in nj

chandracz · 04-07-2009, 09:23 AM

I think you are following you heart and your right to your instints and opinions as a human being. I do not think you are being selfish at all! Their feelings are hurt, so they are lashing out at you because they didn't expect this response from you and your feelings are hurt because you are shocked that a family memeber purchased a puppy from a pet store. Perhaps let things calm down for a day or so and explain to your mom what the risk or parvo is to your pups and that you are going to stick to your guns on this one but that you are not trying to hurt anyone's feelings. I would also inform your family member of the parvo outbreak from the puppy store....

Good luck!

yorkie mad · 04-07-2009, 09:23 AM

I love the pics. Your doing the right thing, go on your instincts as a dog lover.

Robin Lodal · 04-07-2009, 09:24 AM

Oh they are SO cute! I LOVE the pictures! Thanks.

FlDebra · 04-07-2009, 10:45 AM

What if she had her mall puppy cleared by a vet as being in good health after a 2 week waiting period. I know we are not supposed to support the puppymills by buying at pet stores. But there are lots of folks here with pet store puppies, that take excellent care of them, and have made them like family members. I personally think if they are all gone all day, the puppies would be better off with company. I always feel so sorry for a puppy that has to stay alone for 8-10 hours a day.

What I am saying, is can you get past the big mistake she made, and maybe still see your way to letting her have the puppy? I don't think just because she got this other one she is going to be a bad pet parent. Besides there is the "peace in the family" issue too. I would not want to create such hard feeling with family if it could be avoided.

I guess I am alone in this, but I just think there is still a way to make it all work. I know you want to keep your puppy safe, but if you keep them apart for a couple of weeks and the mall puppy gets the clean bill of health, what is it going to hurt? I mean, is it really that different from your son bringing a rescue of uncertain background into the home with your male yorkie and a surprise litter of puppies happening? Things don't always work out the way we would choose --but if you can make it all work out, keep the puppies safe, and keep the family on good terms, I say try!

carmen in nj · 04-07-2009, 12:58 PM

Thank you, ladies, well she is making this VERY difficult, she is best friends with my SIL and got her involved too. but SIL just called me and told me is MY decision to make and she will support what I decide.. which I am greatful, but my mom still thinks I should give her the puppy for the sake of the little girl.. OH well I guess that is her opinion and that is that.. I am NOT giving her the puppy and that is MINE..I called her husband my cousin and talked to him, and I guess he is NOT happy but he said he understood my decission.
I called my kids and told them is up to them if they want to go over Aunties for easter but I will be coming home after I close the store on sunday.. I just feel is the best thing to do, she is going to be there WITH her store bought puppy and I really don't want to get into an argument on the day of the LORD..so I will be here with you guys after dinner that I will make when I come home from work..
I would had considered talking to them after dinner on sunday about the puppies and how is not fair to have 2 puppies one 9 weeks old and a 12 week old in a 2 bedroom apt, specially when my 12 week old lives in a house with a yard now, but after all she has done to me today.. NO WAY she is getting him..

maybe I been unfair but I can see a litter of puppies as soon as that girl is in heat coming now too, if I let her have my boy..

hugs,
Carmen in nj

04-07-2009, 08:12 AM	#1
carmen in nj Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Hopatcong, NJ, USA Posts: 4,615 Blog Entries: 74	oh GeZZ, WHY ME? Well this is a LONG rant.. a little background.. last august my youngest son rescued a little Jack Rusell Girl from a Rescue group in PA, where I keep my doll store.. well to make a long story short, we were told she was spayed, since I have an intact AKC yorkie male at home.. three months later SURPRISED, she is in HEAT, For the whole story check out my BLOG... I took her to the vet but he could not tell for sure if she was or not since she was supposed to be fixed, he thought it was a false pregnancy.. well last january 8 after xrays and a sonogram, we had 4 little puppies, they are the cutest things ever, My family went nuts and everyone wanted one.. well I gave them to my closest kins.. well this morning the last one was supposed to go home to my cousin, he has a 12 year old girl that is very close to my 22 year old daughter and she wanted one in the worse way, so we agreed that she could get the last boy. This morning her mom called me to check at what time she could come over to pick the baby and she blabber something that I ALMOST did not get but I DID.. they had PURCHASE A NEW PUPPY this past weekend at the MALL.. WHAT???? YOU DID WHAT???? and she wanted to know if she could bringh HER to meet my boys... , I was speechles, I put myself together and in the best of my POLITE voice I told her that NO, she could not bring her just bought at the store puppy to my home since I am keeping ONE of the babies for ME and that NO she was no LONGER welcome to my other puppy either.. since they already have one, she told me that she thinks it would be easier to reaise the two puppies together and go thru potty training once instead of doing it twice, since SHE always wanted two a boy and a girl, but since I had already given away my only girl and she was getting a boy, they decided to get a little yorkie this past weekend. Well.. I stuck to my guns and told her NO, my boy is not going to you now, we got into a bit of an argument and I hung up the phone on her.. she proceded to call my mom and get my mom involved in the dispute.. my mom is trying to keep the peace this holy week,,,, My mom thinks I am being WAY over protective of my pups and that I should let them have the puppy since I gave my word.. I VERY politely told my mom that I RAther keep the puppy myself but I am not letting him go, they never had a puppy before and all over sudden they want to have 2!! plus they live in an APARTMENT, no yard, they both work, it will be up to the 12 yd. to walk the puppies and clean and feed them she goes to school,.. Please do you guys think I am being SELFISH?, OVERPROTECTIVE? or doing something WRONG? i called my hubby and he told me to keep the puppy or find him another home.. but I don't want to hurt my mom's feelings over this either.. I already cancelled easter dinner over my aunt over this .. I am so thorn... I will let it rest today and call my mom again tomorrow.. hopefully she can see it my way.. that is my only concern and the well being of my puppy.. I don't even ask what puppy store she got the yorkie from, I hope she did not get him from the local petpurry since is being a parvo outbreak there.. oh WELL, let me go back to make dolls for the store, I am so upset.. thanks, for reading if you got this far... hugs, CArmen in nj __________________ My Etsy shop is OPEN... Carmen in nj

04-07-2009, 08:42 AM	#3
gkathleenw YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Illinois Posts: 261	I don't think you are being selfish or overprotective at all. You are doing what is best for your puppy. Finding the best possible home for him. Who's to say that puppy from the pet store doesn't have parvo and they both get very sick and possibly die. I totally understand where you are coming from and I would have made the same decision! They live in an apartment? are they even allowed to have more than one dog? They obviously have no idea what they would be getting them selves into. Great job and very responsible on your part. IMO __________________ Bailey Winston R.I.P. Daisy May

04-07-2009, 08:50 AM	#4
roxies_mom YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: central illinois Posts: 1,396 Blog Entries: 1	Stick to your guns, Keep your puppy! __________________ "My sunshine doesn't come from the skies, it comes from the love in my dogs eyes"

04-07-2009, 08:51 AM	#5
carmen in nj Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Hopatcong, NJ, USA Posts: 4,615 Blog Entries: 74	Well I just got off the phone with my aunt and she is very upset over this too.. I guess is going to be a very difficult easter around here this weekend. I have to work my store all weekend anyways I tried to explained to my aunt the parvo situation, but they don't understand.. so Puppy stays here and ME TOO... Now to plan what I am going to make for easter dinner for me and my kids and hubby.. hugs, Carmen in nj __________________ My Etsy shop is OPEN... Carmen in nj

04-07-2009, 08:59 AM	#7
Graleyne Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 2,563	I would definitely stand my ground as well. (((hugs))) I know this has to be hard for you. I'd like to see pics of the puppies too! __________________ Aerrica, and Norman RIP my sweet Poopanut

04-07-2009, 08:41 AM	#2
cdawnfine Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: nj Posts: 1,256	I would def take advantage of the Parvo outbreak regardless if they got the puppy at that store. Just explain to your mom and cousin that there is a Parvo outbreak in the area and in all good faith you can not release your puppy to be in an enviorment with a puppy from a pet store at this time. If they are truly interested in the puppys best interest they will understand send them info on Parvo,and if they don't care than that is not where you want your puppy anyway.

04-07-2009, 09:02 AM	#8
PiePiper Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Connecticut Posts: 759	I think you made the right decision in not letting her have your puppy. If she never had a puppy before she does not realize how much work one puppy is never mind two. Plus there is no way you would want your puppy any where near a puppy that has been bought from a pet store that might or might not have a parvo case. Who wants to take that chance. Years ago when my neighbor raised gray hounds for the race track she got Parvo in her kennel. She lost 22 puppies in a weeks time. __________________ Mom to Piper & Chipper

04-07-2009, 09:09 AM	#9
carmen in nj Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Hopatcong, NJ, USA Posts: 4,615 Blog Entries: 74	Well the saddest part about all this is that THEY SHOULD KNOW BETTER, my oldest son is a VET Tech and a local animal clinic and we are always talking about the horrors of bad breeders and pet stores.. but I guess they DON'T want to learn. I hope the little yorkie girl is healthy and happy, but I would not put my money on it.. I am sticking to my guns , I just hope my Mom will come around and understand.. hugs, cArmen in nj __________________ My Etsy shop is OPEN... Carmen in nj

04-07-2009, 09:23 AM	#11
chandracz ♥I Luv my BaileyBlue♥ Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Illinois Posts: 1,855	I think you are following you heart and your right to your instints and opinions as a human being. I do not think you are being selfish at all! Their feelings are hurt, so they are lashing out at you because they didn't expect this response from you and your feelings are hurt because you are shocked that a family memeber purchased a puppy from a pet store. Perhaps let things calm down for a day or so and explain to your mom what the risk or parvo is to your pups and that you are going to stick to your guns on this one but that you are not trying to hurt anyone's feelings. I would also inform your family member of the parvo outbreak from the puppy store.... Good luck! __________________ Chandra, Bailey Blue's mama

04-07-2009, 09:23 AM	#12
yorkie mad ♥Tiny Tia my Furbaby♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: portsmouth england Posts: 1,824 Blog Entries: 7	I love the pics. Your doing the right thing, go on your instincts as a dog lover. __________________ Lots of love from Julie , Olly &Tia's mummy. Yorkies leave paw prints on our hearts

04-07-2009, 09:24 AM	#13
Robin Lodal ♥ Love My Furbabies ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: East of the Mississippi River! ;) Posts: 2,183	Oh they are SO cute! I LOVE the pictures! Thanks. __________________ ~ Robin ,Max, Molly, Dozer& kitties, Toby & Lucy RIP - Ginger, Abby, Conway, &Simon

04-07-2009, 10:45 AM	#14
FlDebra Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: FL Posts: 7,651	What if she had her mall puppy cleared by a vet as being in good health after a 2 week waiting period. I know we are not supposed to support the puppymills by buying at pet stores. But there are lots of folks here with pet store puppies, that take excellent care of them, and have made them like family members. I personally think if they are all gone all day, the puppies would be better off with company. I always feel so sorry for a puppy that has to stay alone for 8-10 hours a day. What I am saying, is can you get past the big mistake she made, and maybe still see your way to letting her have the puppy? I don't think just because she got this other one she is going to be a bad pet parent. Besides there is the "peace in the family" issue too. I would not want to create such hard feeling with family if it could be avoided. I guess I am alone in this, but I just think there is still a way to make it all work. I know you want to keep your puppy safe, but if you keep them apart for a couple of weeks and the mall puppy gets the clean bill of health, what is it going to hurt? I mean, is it really that different from your son bringing a rescue of uncertain background into the home with your male yorkie and a surprise litter of puppies happening? Things don't always work out the way we would choose --but if you can make it all work out, keep the puppies safe, and keep the family on good terms, I say try! __________________ FlDebra and her ABCs Annie, Ben, Candy Promoting Healthy Breeding to the AKC Yorkshire Terrier Standard

04-07-2009, 12:58 PM	#15
carmen in nj Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Hopatcong, NJ, USA Posts: 4,615 Blog Entries: 74	Thank you, ladies, well she is making this VERY difficult, she is best friends with my SIL and got her involved too. but SIL just called me and told me is MY decision to make and she will support what I decide.. which I am greatful, but my mom still thinks I should give her the puppy for the sake of the little girl.. OH well I guess that is her opinion and that is that.. I am NOT giving her the puppy and that is MINE..I called her husband my cousin and talked to him, and I guess he is NOT happy but he said he understood my decission. I called my kids and told them is up to them if they want to go over Aunties for easter but I will be coming home after I close the store on sunday.. I just feel is the best thing to do, she is going to be there WITH her store bought puppy and I really don't want to get into an argument on the day of the LORD..so I will be here with you guys after dinner that I will make when I come home from work.. I would had considered talking to them after dinner on sunday about the puppies and how is not fair to have 2 puppies one 9 weeks old and a 12 week old in a 2 bedroom apt, specially when my 12 week old lives in a house with a yard now, but after all she has done to me today.. NO WAY she is getting him.. maybe I been unfair but I can see a litter of puppies as soon as that girl is in heat coming now too, if I let her have my boy.. hugs, Carmen in nj __________________ My Etsy shop is OPEN... Carmen in nj