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03-01-2009, 01:59 PM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker | what should i do!!! major problem so i live with my boyfriend...however we both feel like its just over and we no longer want to be together or live together...i know, this is kinda personally but it affects our yorkie! If one of us moves out, which one of us is going to take our baby??? We both payed for him however i do a majority of the care...feeding, taking him potty, spending time brushing him and playing with him...i mean i know the bf wont wanna wake up at 3 am to let him out to potty! he also is a night owl and likes to go out with his friends so i worry about who will watch him, plus when we are around the house, im the one keeping an eye on him if he wonders off or starts getting into something. I say that i keep him since im the one who takes CARE of him but he thinks we should "share" him....but that sounds like a reciepe for disaster if you ask me....what to do, what to do! how to i convince him that if we spilt up, that i take the dog?? HELP
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03-01-2009, 02:01 PM | #2 |
Senior Yorkie Talker | p.s. the dog loves his momma more than the bf...the dog sleeps with me and gets sad when i leave the room...this doesnt happen with the bf....another good reason why I should be the one to take him. our poor baby, i feel bad having to put him through this....
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03-01-2009, 02:49 PM | #3 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker | Have you two talked about who will take your yorkie? He may decide he doesnt want her... I would see if you two could work that part out, rather than fighting
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03-01-2009, 03:15 PM | #4 |
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| Sounds like you should get to get to keep him. What does your BF mean by "share"? Maybe you could get him interested in another dog, e.g., a rescue.
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03-01-2009, 03:19 PM | #5 |
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| Sounds like he wants a reason to stay in contact with you. Maybe he's not as done with the relationship as you are.
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03-01-2009, 03:24 PM | #6 |
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| you guys are just a bit bored with each other. soon enough, you will start calling each other to know how little yorkie is doing.
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03-01-2009, 04:33 PM | #7 | |
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im hoping everything will work out...i just need a vacation! lol
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03-01-2009, 04:36 PM | #8 |
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| I think you should get him since you are is caretaker.... |
03-01-2009, 04:37 PM | #9 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker | -hugs- i hope everything works out for all of you! Keep us updated
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03-01-2009, 04:45 PM | #10 |
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| Offer to buy him out. The "sharing" thing never works out. Dogs can't deal with that kind of instability in routine, especially puppies.
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03-01-2009, 04:45 PM | #11 |
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| I'm sorry you're in this situation! As if breaking up and that change in life isn't difficult enough for you already! Anyway, I think from what you've said it'd be better for your little one to stay with you. That said, I do get why (if he has become attached) that he'd still want contact with your little one. While "sharing" isn't really the best idea, you could at least entertain the idea. I'd think having him take care of the dog for one day a week or every other week. If what you say is true soon enough he'll be too busy to even do that and he'll take care of the situation all by himself! All the same I really hope everything works out well for you, as best as it can! -Vicky & Zoë P.S. I think the "buy out" idea is a good one too! Last edited by mblab; 03-01-2009 at 04:47 PM. |
03-01-2009, 04:45 PM | #12 |
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| Sorry you are going through this. I would make a list of everything that has to be done for the baby, as long as possible, and then give it to him. Say that you will keep her until he gets the routine down! |
03-01-2009, 04:47 PM | #13 |
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| ditto
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03-01-2009, 05:37 PM | #14 |
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| If it's a typical relationship, if you say you want her, he'll definitely want her too! Maybe you can go along with the "sharing" suggestion and chances are, as he moves on, visitation will get fewer and farther between. My experience is, don't dig your heels in and don't try to tell him you've done more than him! Let him think he's ahead on this one. Your baby is what counts.
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03-01-2009, 05:43 PM | #15 |
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