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blueeyes_jd · 10-12-2008, 03:13 PM

Im really sorry about what i had said about the "re-homing..." I didnt mean people that really cared about their babies... and cared about where they went... I was mostly just talking about someone I know personally... she has a little puppy and wants to re-home because this person cannot train her puppy...

and I in NO WAY meant it towards people who actually give a crap and want their babies to go to a better home... Im soooooooooooooooooo sorry it came out that way... I was so tired and only meant it towards this person I know... and people who are just like her... so I apologize to all of you who I offended that was not my intentions...

MyPeanutAbbyGra · 10-12-2008, 03:44 PM

I knew exactly what you meant.

delisa2850 · 10-12-2008, 04:09 PM

I read that thread. I didn't take it that you meant anything offensive. That being said, maybe this will help explain why some people reacted as strongly as they did.

After my divorce I had 2 kids and 3 poms and had to move. The choices were not good. Anything that would fit into my budget that would allow my poms were not a place I would have my kids live in. The places that were acceptabe to have my kids live in would not allow my poms. It was truly the poms or the kids. I found wonderful, loving homes for them (for the poms - I kept the kids!). I advertised free poms in the paper, got dozens of responses and interviewed each of them. Even so, it tore me apart to let them go. I swore I would never have another pet. Over five years later, I couldn't stand it anymore and got Roxy. I had to move to do it, but my kids are grown, so the options were better.

The point of that long story is this - even though things were truly beyond my control, and I did the best I could by all involved, even today the guilt of rehoming those 3 is overwhelming. I took them in as my family and I failed them.

When we have feelings of guilt or other strong emotions sometimes we take things personally where there was nothing personal intended. You didn't offend me at all with your posting. But hopefully others will see your kind-hearted apology and realize there was no personal attack intended.

I hope you have a great day - it was kind of you to apologize to people for any possible misunderstanding!

Nancy1999 · 10-12-2008, 04:50 PM

I knew exactly what you meant, and feel the same way. However, you get two types of people who rehome, and some people who choose this are truly looking after the best interest of their dogs, and are extremely loving, and they're the ones who read these threads and feel bad, and they are the ones who should be congratulated, because this is not an easy choice.

The others don't give a darn anyway; their dog simply didn't live up to their expectations, and they think of the animal more like an inanimate object. I get frustrated when I read of someone rehoming because the dog is a pound bigger than expected, or potty training is taking longer than expected, but then I think, maybe the dog is better off in a different home. Why is it we never can offend the right people?

chattiesmom · 10-12-2008, 05:06 PM

Jessica, it takes a "big" person to make a public apology. While I wasn't offended, I was surprised, because it didn't seem like a post you would make - I could "feel" your frustration. I hate to read re-homing threads because I feel that when someone gets to the point where they are seriously talking about re-homing then it is generally better for the furkid and human alike. It is just so very sad.

luvnmymax · 10-12-2008, 06:24 PM

HI. I was the first one who responded to your thread. While I didn't take your thread as a personal attack, I wanted anyone considering rehoming thier babies to know not everyone felt that way. I did recently rehome my Junie B. I honestly feel like she is in a better home (for her) now. She has more one on one time and she is a dog that Really needs that. I have 3 other dogs one "skin kid" and run my own business. I know you weren't talking about people in my situation. BUT..... when I was still making my decision as to what to do I brought it to this forum. I was scared to death that people would think terribly of me for even considering this. I recieved an overwhelming outpouring of love and understanding from the members here. I just wanted to make sure anyone in the position that I was in knew that. It is very big of you to make a public apology and I want you to know there is no hard feelings from me..... we "jessica's" have to stick together!!!!

Jessica

zenzele · 10-12-2008, 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by blueeyes_jd

Im really sorry about what i had said about the "re-homing..." I didnt mean people that really cared about their babies... and cared about where they went... I was mostly just talking about someone I know personally... she has a little puppy and wants to re-home because this person cannot train her puppy...

and I in NO WAY meant it towards people who actually give a crap and want their babies to go to a better home... Im soooooooooooooooooo sorry it came out that way... I was so tired and only meant it towards this person I know... and people who are just like her... so I apologize to all of you who I offended that was not my intentions...

God Bless you for the ability to apologize. Do you know how many people who judge and criticize you don't have the character to apologize when they offended someone? I always remind myself to not let offense be my first reaction because I have found that those who react to being offended have in the course of their day offended someone. So just as I have in the course of a day felt offense, in the course of that same day I too could inevitably have offended someone.

SaraAlexine00 · 10-12-2008, 07:20 PM

I knew you meant well with your post, and thats why I stuck up for you.

Lovely05 · 10-12-2008, 08:27 PM

I responded to your post. I am not upset about your comments. I just had a different opinion. I do not think people should be judge for giving up their pet. If you cannot potty train your dog, then give him to somebody who can potty train your dog. All dogs deserve a loving home. I am sorry if my post upset you. I just hate judging other people, because nobody is perfect.

Lovely05 · 10-12-2008, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Lovely05

I responded to your post. I am not upset about your comments. I just had a different opinion. I do not think people should be judge for giving up their pet. If you cannot potty train your dog, then give him to somebody who can potty train your dog. All dogs deserve a loving home. I am sorry if my post upset you. I just hate judging other people, because nobody is perfect.

I was not trying to attack you. I commented on your post, because I wanted to offer another perspective for why people rehome their pets. Some dogs' personalities do not mesh well with the owner's lifestyle. The owner needs to do what is best for the dog and owner, which might include rehoming the dog.

SumosMommy · 10-12-2008, 08:50 PM

I never responded to your first post. I remember reading it and feeling bad for owners who HAD to rehome. I also felt bad for you cause i knew people misunderstood what you were trying to say. (thats happens a lot over things written like computer or text)

But I would just like to say that It takes a lot of courage and self ownership to apologize, especially for something that you didnt intend for. Dont feel bad, everyone has had a moment where they are misunderstood or accidentally offend someone. Be proud of yourself for being a person who cares enough to apologize.

In all of this, I translated that you are very passionate about pets as well as our responsibility as pet owners, which is something I think everyone here at YT is.

good apology

Go you

ladyj · 10-13-2008, 04:43 AM

Been there, done that! Many years ago, I divorced and had to make a decision between my four dogs (one was a show collie who later became a champion) and my kids and their welfare. My husband gave away two of the dogs before I could get them new homes and there wasn't anything I could do about it. He turned my show collie loose and luckily, I got him back. I went and got the last dog and found her a good home. That was 34 years ago and I still feel bad for the dogs caught in my divorce. I've had to re-home two dogs over the years that I intended to keep for life and it's a very hard decision. Situations change and I did what was best for the dogs. I will always wish it had been different and I will always remember them with love and regret that circumstances made it necessary to re-home them. Ah, the tears are flowing just talking about them.

xxmxaxrxyxx · 10-13-2008, 09:50 AM

i didn't take offense to it because i read your post and knew what you meant...rehoming is a touchy issue and some people just read things wrong or miss a the point of it...don't feel bad...

blueeyes_jd · 10-13-2008, 04:24 PM

thank you all for taking time to read my apology... I guess I want to thank all of you that did become the bigger person and re-homed their baby... I know that it takes a bigger person to realize that they need to rehome their beloved pet to a good home... once again Im sooooooooooooo sorry for all the heart ache I have caused...

MeganS · 10-13-2008, 05:26 PM

OK so twice I have typed up a long post and both times my computer has died just as I was finishing it. Very irritating haha.

Anyway. So I didn't take any offense to your post. about a year ago, we had to rehome my 2 babies - Rusty and Maddie. I'd had Rusty since I was 6, and Maddie was the little girl I'd always wanted. Broke my heart in 2. We had to rehome them because we lost our house when my mom retired on dissability and so on and so forth. It makes me angry when people make blanket statements about those who rehome their dogs when they have no idea what we go through. I still have bad days and I still get teary when I talk about them, but I know it was best for them (and they're even better off in their new homes than they were with us!

) The only people who bother me are those who judge me when they have no idea at all what it was like (and is still like).

BUT I share your frustration with people who rehome their dogs for unnecessary reasons. It makes me sad because they have no clue how lucky they are to be able to have dogs at all. Though truth be told, in a situation like that, the dog would probably be better off in a new home, anyway.

But anywho, I didn't take any offense to your post and I agree with you.

10-12-2008, 03:13 PM	#1
blueeyes_jd YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Utah Posts: 1,111	I need to apologize.. Im really sorry about what i had said about the "re-homing..." I didnt mean people that really cared about their babies... and cared about where they went... I was mostly just talking about someone I know personally... she has a little puppy and wants to re-home because this person cannot train her puppy... and I in NO WAY meant it towards people who actually give a crap and want their babies to go to a better home... Im soooooooooooooooooo sorry it came out that way... I was so tired and only meant it towards this person I know... and people who are just like her... so I apologize to all of you who I offended that was not my intentions... __________________ Jessica, Gracie's mommy PROUD MEMBER OF THE SPOILED ROTTEN CLUB!

10-12-2008, 03:44 PM	#2
MyPeanutAbbyGra I love my baby girls! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Indiana Posts: 2,541	I knew exactly what you meant. __________________ Tammy, Mama to Abby Grace Daisy Mae RIP Peanut & Chloe, ABBY 's WINSTON Within the heart of every stray Lies the singular desire to be loved

10-12-2008, 04:09 PM	#3
delisa2850 YT Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Pocatello, ID, USA Posts: 378	I read that thread. I didn't take it that you meant anything offensive. That being said, maybe this will help explain why some people reacted as strongly as they did. After my divorce I had 2 kids and 3 poms and had to move. The choices were not good. Anything that would fit into my budget that would allow my poms were not a place I would have my kids live in. The places that were acceptabe to have my kids live in would not allow my poms. It was truly the poms or the kids. I found wonderful, loving homes for them (for the poms - I kept the kids!). I advertised free poms in the paper, got dozens of responses and interviewed each of them. Even so, it tore me apart to let them go. I swore I would never have another pet. Over five years later, I couldn't stand it anymore and got Roxy. I had to move to do it, but my kids are grown, so the options were better. The point of that long story is this - even though things were truly beyond my control, and I did the best I could by all involved, even today the guilt of rehoming those 3 is overwhelming. I took them in as my family and I failed them. When we have feelings of guilt or other strong emotions sometimes we take things personally where there was nothing personal intended. You didn't offend me at all with your posting. But hopefully others will see your kind-hearted apology and realize there was no personal attack intended. I hope you have a great day - it was kind of you to apologize to people for any possible misunderstanding! __________________ DeLisa Roxy

10-12-2008, 04:50 PM	#4
Nancy1999 Joey's Mom Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Chandler, Arizona Posts: 4,935 Blog Entries: 1	I knew exactly what you meant, and feel the same way. However, you get two types of people who rehome, and some people who choose this are truly looking after the best interest of their dogs, and are extremely loving, and they're the ones who read these threads and feel bad, and they are the ones who should be congratulated, because this is not an easy choice. The others don't give a darn anyway; their dog simply didn't live up to their expectations, and they think of the animal more like an inanimate object. I get frustrated when I read of someone rehoming because the dog is a pound bigger than expected, or potty training is taking longer than expected, but then I think, maybe the dog is better off in a different home. Why is it we never can offend the right people? __________________ NancyJoey . Proud members of the CrAzYcLuB .and YAP - Join YAP Here! Please Sign this Petition – Help Stop Puppymill Abuse! . YorkieTalk Thread On Petition

10-12-2008, 05:06 PM	#5
chattiesmom Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Georgia Posts: 10,873	Jessica, it takes a "big" person to make a public apology. While I wasn't offended, I was surprised, because it didn't seem like a post you would make - I could "feel" your frustration. I hate to read re-homing threads because I feel that when someone gets to the point where they are seriously talking about re-homing then it is generally better for the furkid and human alike. It is just so very sad. __________________ *Yorkie Yummies Silk Step-In Harnesses * NapSaks Click on the links above for order information!**

10-12-2008, 06:24 PM	#6
luvnmymax Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Alabama Posts: 277	HI. I was the first one who responded to your thread. While I didn't take your thread as a personal attack, I wanted anyone considering rehoming thier babies to know not everyone felt that way. I did recently rehome my Junie B. I honestly feel like she is in a better home (for her) now. She has more one on one time and she is a dog that Really needs that. I have 3 other dogs one "skin kid" and run my own business. I know you weren't talking about people in my situation. BUT..... when I was still making my decision as to what to do I brought it to this forum. I was scared to death that people would think terribly of me for even considering this. I recieved an overwhelming outpouring of love and understanding from the members here. I just wanted to make sure anyone in the position that I was in knew that. It is very big of you to make a public apology and I want you to know there is no hard feelings from me..... we "jessica's" have to stick together!!!! Jessica __________________ It's Captain Jack Sparrow mate.....savvy???

10-12-2008, 07:20 PM	#8
SaraAlexine00 Love my lil' Stinker <3 Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Central Coast, CA Posts: 610	I knew you meant well with your post, and thats why I stuck up for you. __________________ Owned by Miss Mia

10-12-2008, 08:27 PM	#9
Lovely05 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: USA Posts: 104	I responded to your post. I am not upset about your comments. I just had a different opinion. I do not think people should be judge for giving up their pet. If you cannot potty train your dog, then give him to somebody who can potty train your dog. All dogs deserve a loving home. I am sorry if my post upset you. I just hate judging other people, because nobody is perfect. Last edited by Lovely05; 10-12-2008 at 08:29 PM.

10-12-2008, 08:50 PM	#11
SumosMommy Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 122	I never responded to your first post. I remember reading it and feeling bad for owners who HAD to rehome. I also felt bad for you cause i knew people misunderstood what you were trying to say. (thats happens a lot over things written like computer or text) But I would just like to say that It takes a lot of courage and self ownership to apologize, especially for something that you didnt intend for. Dont feel bad, everyone has had a moment where they are misunderstood or accidentally offend someone. Be proud of yourself for being a person who cares enough to apologize. In all of this, I translated that you are very passionate about pets as well as our responsibility as pet owners, which is something I think everyone here at YT is. good apology Go you

10-13-2008, 04:43 AM	#12
ladyj No Longer a Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Oliver Springs, TN Posts: 683	Been there, done that! Many years ago, I divorced and had to make a decision between my four dogs (one was a show collie who later became a champion) and my kids and their welfare. My husband gave away two of the dogs before I could get them new homes and there wasn't anything I could do about it. He turned my show collie loose and luckily, I got him back. I went and got the last dog and found her a good home. That was 34 years ago and I still feel bad for the dogs caught in my divorce. I've had to re-home two dogs over the years that I intended to keep for life and it's a very hard decision. Situations change and I did what was best for the dogs. I will always wish it had been different and I will always remember them with love and regret that circumstances made it necessary to re-home them. Ah, the tears are flowing just talking about them.

10-13-2008, 09:50 AM	#13
xxmxaxrxyxx BANNED FROM SHOPPING!! Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Wichita, KS Posts: 11,166 Blog Entries: 6	i didn't take offense to it because i read your post and knew what you meant...rehoming is a touchy issue and some people just read things wrong or miss a the point of it...don't feel bad... __________________ Kaine Kandie Tootsie Yoshiko MeiLing Kioko Tootsie Smokey \|\| Yoshi Mochi \|\| MeiLing Kacy \|\| Kioko is still searching for his Cinderella.

10-13-2008, 04:24 PM	#14
blueeyes_jd YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Utah Posts: 1,111	thank you all for taking time to read my apology... I guess I want to thank all of you that did become the bigger person and re-homed their baby... I know that it takes a bigger person to realize that they need to rehome their beloved pet to a good home... once again Im sooooooooooooo sorry for all the heart ache I have caused... __________________ Jessica, Gracie's mommy PROUD MEMBER OF THE SPOILED ROTTEN CLUB!

10-13-2008, 05:26 PM	#15
MeganS Donating YT 7000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: New Jersey Posts: 10,381 Blog Entries: 1	OK so twice I have typed up a long post and both times my computer has died just as I was finishing it. Very irritating haha. Anyway. So I didn't take any offense to your post. about a year ago, we had to rehome my 2 babies - Rusty and Maddie. I'd had Rusty since I was 6, and Maddie was the little girl I'd always wanted. Broke my heart in 2. We had to rehome them because we lost our house when my mom retired on dissability and so on and so forth. It makes me angry when people make blanket statements about those who rehome their dogs when they have no idea what we go through. I still have bad days and I still get teary when I talk about them, but I know it was best for them (and they're even better off in their new homes than they were with us! ) The only people who bother me are those who judge me when they have no idea at all what it was like (and is still like). BUT I share your frustration with people who rehome their dogs for unnecessary reasons. It makes me sad because they have no clue how lucky they are to be able to have dogs at all. Though truth be told, in a situation like that, the dog would probably be better off in a new home, anyway. But anywho, I didn't take any offense to your post and I agree with you. __________________ Megan"Take a chance that's worth the taking" - 9 to 5 the musical Obama/Biden '08! ~ Yes we CAN! Change is coming!