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MissTinkerbelle · 10-12-2008, 11:22 AM

Hi guys!

I have a little problem.

My husband is not taking the second dog thing so well.
I thought he would have understood, because all I have been through.

He said one dog is enough, but to me it is not.
Sure Buddy fills my void and stuff, but I feel like the other pup I am supposed to adopt will fill it all.

I didn't have a childhood. I didn't have many friends (and still don't), so it's hard. And I feel like Buddy has helped, but one more would do it all.

He doesn't understand at all.
How do you suggest that I get him to hear me or get him to see that I really feel like I need him.

I believe in fate a lot... and for this pup to just come to me for free is fate. And I know it would help with my health, fill the void I am missing and make up for a ton that I had lost as a child due to being ill.

And help or suggestions would help.
I am very upset because if I can't get this pup, I will be devastated.

Ashley V · 10-12-2008, 11:27 AM

Maybe ask him to at least MEET the dog and see how it goes. I'm sure he'll fall in love!!

Or you could just bring it home... better to ask for forgiveness than permission right!

bildio · 10-12-2008, 11:32 AM

What's his reason for saying no?

Maybe you could negotiate. Is there something he wants that you didn't agree to in the recent past? If so, you could let him get what he wants if you get the pup. This technique worked with my wife.

lovespandp · 10-12-2008, 11:43 AM

Yes I would maybe let him meet the pup and he will fall in love! it was my boyfriends choice to get our 2nd pup and he filled the missing hole we had. My other dog peanut LOVES him and they get along so good and play together all the time. When we leave we usually take them with us but when we go to dinner or something we dont feel so bad to leave them bc they have eachother! Or if worse comes to worse just bring him home!!! He will see it was a good choice!

janelles · 10-12-2008, 11:47 AM

Once you bring the puppy home, and hubby sees how much you love him, he probably wouldn't have the heart to tell you to take him back. Worth a try.

MissTinkerbelle · 10-12-2008, 11:52 AM

Isn't bringing him home without permission bad communication?
Or should I just risk it. I know it was fate for me to get this pup and I can't give it up. I just can't .

I was thinking of just bringing it home, what is the worse that could happen?

Yorkiedaze · 10-12-2008, 11:57 AM

I'm a firm believer in taking things over first........THEN get what you want hehe!!

J_is_my_initial · 10-12-2008, 12:04 PM

Sorry guys, I believe in talking things through first. I would never just spring another dog on hubby. I explained it was better for Gypsy to have a companion. Someone to run around with. I kept saying I would buy him a puppy of his own. (now he says it is Gypsy's puppy). He finally agreed and we got another baby.

Yorkieluv · 10-12-2008, 12:24 PM

What is his reasoning for not wanting another dog?

IndianaGirl · 10-12-2008, 12:29 PM

I would let him know your old doggie needs a companion, especially when your away. That way he wont get lonely

pea496 · 10-12-2008, 12:35 PM

I probably not get the other dog if my husband was so adament. I would love and spoil the dog you have now and go out and develop some interests in things where you will make friends. Maybe the time will be right at some other time when you both agree that another dog is welcome.

LDandPasquale · 10-12-2008, 12:40 PM

Id constantly complain everyday til i got what i wanted LoL..it works..how do u think i got Pasquale? Took two days...and then he said FINE! LOL

melanie daley · 10-12-2008, 12:58 PM

We both said we would never get a second dog, but after having Roxi 8 or 9 months we BOTH started to see that SHE needed a companion... And when I brought it up my b/f was all for it. HE was the one who did all the legwork to find Rocco!! I would just put it to him that a new puppy would be for your current dog, for companionship, not just for you!!

Good luck!!

chachi · 10-12-2008, 01:10 PM

I would just try to negotiate with your husband. I wouldnt just buy the pup and bring it home. If I did that to my Husband it would really p--- him off and he would just make me take the pup back. Thats just not the way to handle it but you know your Husband best

Gingergirlsmom · 10-12-2008, 01:18 PM

Well, we have a cat that I agreed to foster, oh 6 years ago or so. One day dh (who did not want anymore animals) looked at the cat sound asleep at his feet and said "this cat isn't leaving is he?"

I had never planned for him to.

Seriously though, I DON'T advocate that unless you know your hubby well enough that he won't still push the issue. This was after many years of marriage and I knew mine would cave once kitty was around for awhile. I wouldn't have risked it if I thought I'd have to find kitty a home down the road. It's not fair to animals to move them around too much. If it's not going to work with your hubby right now, let the new one go to a family who all want him and will keep him.

10-12-2008, 11:22 AM	#1
MissTinkerbelle Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Rhode Island, United States Posts: 114	Help me convince my hubby, PLEASE!!! Hi guys! I have a little problem. My husband is not taking the second dog thing so well. I thought he would have understood, because all I have been through. He said one dog is enough, but to me it is not. Sure Buddy fills my void and stuff, but I feel like the other pup I am supposed to adopt will fill it all. I didn't have a childhood. I didn't have many friends (and still don't), so it's hard. And I feel like Buddy has helped, but one more would do it all. He doesn't understand at all. How do you suggest that I get him to hear me or get him to see that I really feel like I need him. I believe in fate a lot... and for this pup to just come to me for free is fate. And I know it would help with my health, fill the void I am missing and make up for a ton that I had lost as a child due to being ill. And help or suggestions would help. I am very upset because if I can't get this pup, I will be devastated. __________________ Keri Momma to Buddy Benji

10-12-2008, 11:27 AM	#2
Ashley V YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Leesburg Posts: 1,471	Maybe ask him to at least MEET the dog and see how it goes. I'm sure he'll fall in love!! Or you could just bring it home... better to ask for forgiveness than permission right! __________________ ~~ Chip ~~ Smokey ~*~ My heart is wrapped around their little paws

10-12-2008, 11:43 AM	#4
lovespandp Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: corona ca usa Posts: 70	aww Yes I would maybe let him meet the pup and he will fall in love! it was my boyfriends choice to get our 2nd pup and he filled the missing hole we had. My other dog peanut LOVES him and they get along so good and play together all the time. When we leave we usually take them with us but when we go to dinner or something we dont feel so bad to leave them bc they have eachother! Or if worse comes to worse just bring him home!!! He will see it was a good choice! __________________ MOMMY& DADDY - AND THE BOYS PEANUT AND PIGPEN

10-12-2008, 11:52 AM	#6
MissTinkerbelle Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Rhode Island, United States Posts: 114	Isn't bringing him home without permission bad communication? Or should I just risk it. I know it was fate for me to get this pup and I can't give it up. I just can't . I was thinking of just bringing it home, what is the worse that could happen? __________________ Keri Momma to Buddy Benji

10-12-2008, 11:57 AM	#7
Yorkiedaze My hairy-legged girls Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: lompoc, ca. Posts: 7,101	I'm a firm believer in taking things over first........THEN get what you want hehe!! __________________ Trust no man in who's eye you do not see yourself reflected as an equal! Delsi, Zada Azrael Razael

10-12-2008, 11:32 AM	#3
bildio Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Oceanport, NJ Posts: 343	What's his reason for saying no? Maybe you could negotiate. Is there something he wants that you didn't agree to in the recent past? If so, you could let him get what he wants if you get the pup. This technique worked with my wife.

10-12-2008, 11:47 AM	#5
janelles YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 284	Once you bring the puppy home, and hubby sees how much you love him, he probably wouldn't have the heart to tell you to take him back. Worth a try.

10-12-2008, 12:04 PM	#8
J_is_my_initial YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Knoxville,Tennessee Posts: 1,635	Sorry guys, I believe in talking things through first. I would never just spring another dog on hubby. I explained it was better for Gypsy to have a companion. Someone to run around with. I kept saying I would buy him a puppy of his own. (now he says it is Gypsy's puppy). He finally agreed and we got another baby. __________________ Johnna, Mom to Gypsy and Puff. grandma to Gremlin and Robbie Proud Member of The Spoiled Rotten Yorkie Club

10-12-2008, 12:24 PM	#9
Yorkieluv Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 6,975	What is his reasoning for not wanting another dog? __________________ Miko 's his Mommy

10-12-2008, 12:29 PM	#10
IndianaGirl Little Pink Houses Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Burbank, California USA Posts: 893	I would let him know your old doggie needs a companion, especially when your away. That way he wont get lonely __________________ Etsy Shop--Just Me IndianaGirl Mary Jane~Mommy to Royal & Matilda...My Sunshines!! Join YAP Here! DONT SUPPORT PUPPY MILLS

10-12-2008, 12:35 PM	#11
pea496 Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Connecticut Posts: 1,361	I probably not get the other dog if my husband was so adament. I would love and spoil the dog you have now and go out and develop some interests in things where you will make friends. Maybe the time will be right at some other time when you both agree that another dog is welcome. __________________ Conner - my best buddy

10-12-2008, 12:40 PM	#12
LDandPasquale YT Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Massachusetts/Florida Posts: 408	Id constantly complain everyday til i got what i wanted LoL..it works..how do u think i got Pasquale? Took two days...and then he said FINE! LOL __________________ LD and Pasquale Hope you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving!!!

10-12-2008, 12:58 PM	#13
melanie daley Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Belmont Shore SoCal Posts: 820	We both said we would never get a second dog, but after having Roxi 8 or 9 months we BOTH started to see that SHE needed a companion... And when I brought it up my b/f was all for it. HE was the one who did all the legwork to find Rocco!! I would just put it to him that a new puppy would be for your current dog, for companionship, not just for you!! Good luck!! __________________ Melanie Roxi & Rocco

10-12-2008, 01:10 PM	#14
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 23,103	I would just try to negotiate with your husband. I wouldnt just buy the pup and bring it home. If I did that to my Husband it would really p--- him off and he would just make me take the pup back. Thats just not the way to handle it but you know your Husband best __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

10-12-2008, 01:18 PM	#15
Gingergirlsmom and Bernie's mom too!" Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 7,330	Well, we have a cat that I agreed to foster, oh 6 years ago or so. One day dh (who did not want anymore animals) looked at the cat sound asleep at his feet and said "this cat isn't leaving is he?" I had never planned for him to. Seriously though, I DON'T advocate that unless you know your hubby well enough that he won't still push the issue. This was after many years of marriage and I knew mine would cave once kitty was around for awhile. I wouldn't have risked it if I thought I'd have to find kitty a home down the road. It's not fair to animals to move them around too much. If it's not going to work with your hubby right now, let the new one go to a family who all want him and will keep him. __________________ Can't wait to meet you at.... the 2009 YorkieTalk Meetup in Alexandria