Being loving or selfish?

[Maria85]

Hello all, I am in a very uncomfortable situation and I would like to have some insight from people who love their yorkies as much as I do.
Two weeks ago, we adopted the cutest yorkie ever, he was almost 8 weeks old and therefore very demanding and time consuming. I had a hard time even going to he bathroom, because the poor baby was so clingy he'd start crying whenever he couldn't see me, not to mention the late nights and early mornings taking him out for a pee pee etc.
All that aside, my husband and I were delighted with him, we don't have any children and chances are we won't be having any... We are a young couple and have the energy to keep up with the puppy.
However, we started getting very worried about leaving him alone in the flat when I start working. We felt it would be selfish to keep him here when we are both out from 8 to 5... We considered the possibility of hiring a puppysitter 3 days a week but we just could not get our heads around it. Bottomline, we gave him up for adoption two days ago and now he is living with a couple and their 2 year old son.
Now husband and I are missing the little creature like crazy, I feel frustrated I think we took the easy road and I want my puppy back. So does my husband. we never thought we'd get so attached to the puppy but somehow, he gave our household a homey feeling... The main issue remains the same, we will start working full time soon and although my husband can come during his lunch break for 20 mins or so, and we can hire a puppy sitter, we still feel like we are being a bit selfish... I am very tempted to call this family and ask if there is any chance we can get our baby back... we don't mind paying a lot more money. We don't want any other puppy...I'd love to hear some advice, I am not looking to read what I'd like to hear, I want a realistic perspective from people who know and love their puppies...
Thank you soooo much.

[yorkieisme]

Well since no one else has posted I will say no not being selfish. Sometimes people do things without even thinking it out first. I did this once with a GS. My kids were little, and we decided we wanted a puppy, GS. We lived on a military base. So it was hard to keep a 80lb dog in a small area, she did live in the house with us, but with 3 kids it became very hard. Everytime my husband left she would jump the fence and take off. Long story short, we gave the dog to a housing worker's father. Two days later we felt like crap, so we asked for her back. He did give her back to us. Well a week later I knew we did the wrong thing she was much happier being able to run and play something that I could not give at that time. We called him back up and she went back to him. The last I heard about 12 years ago, she was happy.

Moral of the story, we considered what the puppy needed not what we needed.

[chachi]

Alot of people work and have pups. I think the pup would have been fine I dont know if you should try to get that pup back though. Maybe later on you could buy another one

[red98vett]

I'd find out first how he adjusted before making another a rash decision and trying to get him back - they could very well be just as attached and he may be very happy in his new home. I agree with Chach - maybe down the road you could try again ???? Yorkies ARE very demanding and much like children - even at 6 and 4 mine still act very much how you described.

I do work fulltime now and they have each other for company but they sure are having a hard time adjusting to me gone all day after having me home before....

[ladyj]

Originally Posted by Maria85

Hello all, I am in a very uncomfortable situation and I would like to have some insight from people who love their yorkies as much as I do.
Two weeks ago, we adopted the cutest yorkie ever, he was almost 8 weeks old and therefore very demanding and time consuming. I had a hard time even going to he bathroom, because the poor baby was so clingy he'd start crying whenever he couldn't see me, not to mention the late nights and early mornings taking him out for a pee pee etc.
All that aside, my husband and I were delighted with him, we don't have any children and chances are we won't be having any... We are a young couple and have the energy to keep up with the puppy.
However, we started getting very worried about leaving him alone in the flat when I start working. We felt it would be selfish to keep him here when we are both out from 8 to 5... We considered the possibility of hiring a puppysitter 3 days a week but we just could not get our heads around it. Bottomline, we gave him up for adoption two days ago and now he is living with a couple and their 2 year old son.
Now husband and I are missing the little creature like crazy, I feel frustrated I think we took the easy road and I want my puppy back. So does my husband. we never thought we'd get so attached to the puppy but somehow, he gave our household a homey feeling... The main issue remains the same, we will start working full time soon and although my husband can come during his lunch break for 20 mins or so, and we can hire a puppy sitter, we still feel like we are being a bit selfish... I am very tempted to call this family and ask if there is any chance we can get our baby back... we don't mind paying a lot more money. We don't want any other puppy...I'd love to hear some advice, I am not looking to read what I'd like to hear, I want a realistic perspective from people who know and love their puppies...
Thank you soooo much.

Don't think I'd ask for the puppy back at this point. You seem very unsure about being able to handle a puppy. Perhaps you should consider a dog breed that is more independent than a Yorkie or maybe even consider a cat or other pet. I know how it is when you work and how demanding a puppy can be and how bad it can make you feel. You can always get another Yorkie somewhere down the line when you are better equipped to handle it. By the way, I've been there, done that. Found a great home for a dog I felt wasn't getting the attention it needed because I worked and then had regrets and wanted to get him back. I didn't get him back because I knew that he was better off with a stay-at-home mom and three kids than he was with me and being left alone all day while I was at work. I cried a lot of tears and missed sleep over the decision, but in the end, I knew I did the right thing. The right decision isn't always the thing we want!

[Maria85]

Hiya!
Just thought I'd share some news. The family who adopted my baby just called to ask if we'd take the puppy back, as they have a 2 year old and things are just not working out as they planned. I am getting my baby back!! I am sooooo happy and I am willing to make it work, he is such a good puppy!!
Thank you for your responses!

[TLC]

Originally Posted by Maria85

Hiya!
Just thought I'd share some news. The family who adopted my baby just called to ask if we'd take the puppy back, as they have a 2 year old and things are just not working out as they planned. I am getting my baby back!! I am sooooo happy and I am willing to make it work, he is such a good puppy!!
Thank you for your responses!

Great News

[JeanieK]

Originally Posted by Maria85

Hiya!
Just thought I'd share some news. The family who adopted my baby just called to ask if we'd take the puppy back, as they have a 2 year old and things are just not working out as they planned. I am getting my baby back!! I am sooooo happy and I am willing to make it work, he is such a good puppy!!
Thank you for your responses!

You are very fortunate that they wanted to give him back. Puppies and 2 year olds are never a good mix.

My suggestion is to get another yorkie or other small breed. They will keep each other company and become best friends. they will still both be delighted to see you and want your attention but they won't be lonely when you are at work.

Just a word of advice, try to get one that is 10 to 12 weeks old. puppies under that are still very much infants and too young to be taken away from their mother. they are very needy and can develope separation anxiety. plus an older one can help to calm and socialize the younger one.

Good luck and enjoy this marvelous breed.

[Lexi Rae]

omg!!! the hairs just stuck up on my arms... great!!!!!!! now dont worry
and do what u have to do..

[Jeri Cunningham]

I hope you can make it work this time as it really is hard on a puppy to go from place to place when they are at an age they need to bond and feel secure.

[chachi]

Oh that is great news!!!!

[ladyj]

Originally Posted by Maria85

Hiya!
Just thought I'd share some news. The family who adopted my baby just called to ask if we'd take the puppy back, as they have a 2 year old and things are just not working out as they planned. I am getting my baby back!! I am sooooo happy and I am willing to make it work, he is such a good puppy!!
Thank you for your responses!

So glad it worked out this way. Give that little one a big hug for me.

[spypeach]

I think I used to post her a long time ago, so maybe some of you will remember me. I have two Yorkie's; Gracie and Bella. We got Bella 3 years ago and things have never been that great between the two of them. But recently Gracie who is 6 has gotten more and more aggressive towards Bella. We cannot have any toys in the house because Gracie wants them all and will hurt Bella if she tries to get one. She also bites and goes after Bella if Bella barks to close to her. I think I have decided to surrender Gracie, but it's so hard because she is such a great dog in every other respect. But poor Bella is afraid of everything, she runs away from people including me and when she does try to show affection she seem real uneasy about it. I'm so torn. Does anyone know if this behavior can be stopped, or will it just get worse.

I would have started a different thread for this, but I don't know how

[JeanieK]

Originally Posted by spypeach

I think I used to post her a long time ago, so maybe some of you will remember me. I have two Yorkie's; Gracie and Bella. We got Bella 3 years ago and things have never been that great between the two of them. But recently Gracie who is 6 has gotten more and more aggressive towards Bella. We cannot have any toys in the house because Gracie wants them all and will hurt Bella if she tries to get one. She also bites and goes after Bella if Bella barks to close to her. I think I have decided to surrender Gracie, but it's so hard because she is such a great dog in every other respect. But poor Bella is afraid of everything, she runs away from people including me and when she does try to show affection she seem real uneasy about it. I'm so torn. Does anyone know if this behavior can be stopped, or will it just get worse.

I would have started a different thread for this, but I don't know how

The situation can be corrected. Gracie thinks she is the pack leader. You need to let her know that you are the boss and not her. i also have one that will try to steal and hoard toys. When i catch her doing this, I take the toy and lay it in front of me, if she goes for it, i snap at her just like she does to the other dogs. I show my teeth and i use my hand like a mouth to nip her on the neck. she is not allowed to have the toy until i hand it to her and then she has to take it very gently.

Doing that exercise will let her know that you are the boss and everything is yours.

Also, don't pick the other one up and comfort her when she is cowering, that only reinforces that behavior. Only give affection when the dog is calm.

[Jeri Cunningham]

Originally Posted by spypeach

I think I used to post her a long time ago, so maybe some of you will remember me. I have two Yorkie's; Gracie and Bella. We got Bella 3 years ago and things have never been that great between the two of them. But recently Gracie who is 6 has gotten more and more aggressive towards Bella. We cannot have any toys in the house because Gracie wants them all and will hurt Bella if she tries to get one. She also bites and goes after Bella if Bella barks to close to her. I think I have decided to surrender Gracie, but it's so hard because she is such a great dog in every other respect. But poor Bella is afraid of everything, she runs away from people including me and when she does try to show affection she seem real uneasy about it. I'm so torn. Does anyone know if this behavior can be stopped, or will it just get worse.

I would have started a different thread for this, but I don't know how

I have nine dogs ranging for 16 + lbs to 4.9 lbs. It takes a strong hand to be very ALPHA so they know they need to always get along. If one of the dogs showed any signs of agression towards another dog I would pick up the dog being picked on and say loudly MINE! then growl at the agressor. Even with the new Biewer we brought home our Teddy needed top be reminded how to act. A few tough MINE while I was holding Spanky and they are fine.

For toys if one has a toy and another one takes it away I take it back and again say MINE and give it to the dog that had it first. I can actually give only one dog a bone and the others will leave it alone.

It can be stopped and will get worse if it isn't. Be tough with the agressor and let then know you will NOT accept this behavior. It really does work.