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08-17-2008, 10:47 AM | #1 |
YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: St. Louis, MO
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| Reinstating my role as pack leader Lucy is almost 3 years old now and I had her trained beautifully when she was a puppy. I've lived at home this whole time with my parents and younger sister. I told them the rules...no table scraps, outside to potty not play, etc. Well they went against everything I had to say. After a while I just gave up as finishing grad school was too much to train my FAMILY in addition to Lucy. Lucy is my dog, I have always paid vet bills, groomers, food, etc. I am getting married next weekend and will be moving into an apartment where Lucy will be going through some major adjustments. She currently thinks she rules the roost. She barks all day long. She will stand by the back door (which is a french door so she can see everything) and barks and jumps and they just let her out. Not to potty. My dad is actually the most guilty of this because he is always in the yard. Well when he wants her to come in he'll start with "Lucy, come inside. Lucy want a treat. LUCY GET IN THE HOUSE! LUCY! LUCY!" Drives me flipping insane! I tell him multiple times..she does not need to be in the yard that much. She has allergies and she puts everything in her mouth and it is impossible to see what she is doing at all times. My dad is home during the day because he works nights and that is how I lost control as pack leader. She actually is much better behaved when he is not around. She is extrememly hyper and loud when he is home. The same way he is. I've heard that dogs adapt to the people that are around, so when he is home she is loud and annoying just like he is. Anytime we are eating dinner does she come beg to me? No, because she knows better. She's at his side begging and this is where he puts on the show like "what? i don't feed her!" clearly ya do, because she knows who to go to. This really gets to me because there have been 2 different times that I have had to take her to the vet because she was sick and paid hundreds of dollars all because they refuse to respect my position and follow the rules I set for MY dog. To top it all off, they have had her sleep in their bed for almost a year! I finally gave up the battle as Lucy seemed to enjoy this. My dad gets home at like 2 am and she would jump from my bed and want out to see him. I've tried to do what is best for my dog and what would make her happy. This whole week I have made sure she goes to bed with ME. I took her to the apartment last night to sniff around and check it out. I plan on doing this throughout the week so when we get back from the honeymoon she will be familiar with her new home. I am trying to reinforce all of the commands and tricks I've taught her through the years. I am trying to get her barking under control by getting her attention and telling her a stern "No" and then praising her when she stops. The problem with this is she runs around so I can't look her in the eye to tell her no. Just a few minutes ago I told her to come and she just looked at me and walked away!!! Ahhhhhh. I am grateful for the fact that they have helped when I was at school and such, but I can't help but be a little resentful! Sorry for the ramble but it really has been something I've struggled with for a long time and it finally has to be resolved. P.S. Another thing, I heard my mom telling her friend their "plan" to keep Lucy. I don't effing think so! I didn't mention anything to her but that was when I decided to be more aggressive. Any help is greatly appreciated!
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08-17-2008, 10:58 AM | #2 |
YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: St. Louis, MO
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| I wanted to add that I think she sees them more as her "friends". They don't have to discipline her or take her to the places she hates (vet & groomers). When she is scared she comes to ME. The only one she listens to (when she wants) is ME. That's partially a good thing, right? She still has some respect.
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08-17-2008, 11:08 AM | #3 | |
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Secondly, I totally feel your pain here! We live with my father-in-law and his gf while our house is being renovated. We are CONSTANTLY telling them not to feed Tucker and yet, he's always begging them while they eat (he doesn't do this with us) AND I just had to spend 2 hours and $300 at the vet's on Friday because Tucker got pancreatitis from something they obviously fed him (although they 100% deny it). It can be sooo frustrating but you will be out soon and Lucy is your dog so there should be no argument over where she goes. It is definitely going to be a huge adjustment period for both you and Lucy especially since right before you move to a new place you will be on your honeymoon. The separation and move are going to be a lot for Lucy to handle but stay firm and hopefully all will go well. Good luck!
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08-17-2008, 11:29 AM | #4 |
YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: St. Louis, MO
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| It's crazy! I spent over $500 last summer and 2 trips to the vet for the same thing. But magically no one fed her anything but dog food. Riiight. My parents went so far as to say "jokingly" that they would buy me a new puppy if they could keep Lucy. Ha. Well I decided to buy my own puppy AND keep Lucy. They don't have the slightest idea about how to properly care for a yorkie.
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08-18-2008, 09:41 PM | #5 |
YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: St. Louis, MO
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| I just wanted to update..Lucy spent the night at the apartment last night and she did great! Was very at home and played and cuddled like she would normally do at our house. She even slept in her "big girl" bed that I bought for her a year ago and she never used! I put it by my bed so that she would have the option of sleeping with me or in her bed and I was so proud of her. She did bark a little bit when she heard noises but stopped when I told her "no". And she did not have any accidents! I thought it would be hard to transition her back to using a leash but she did so great that I just had to brag about her. What a smart little girl.
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08-19-2008, 04:00 AM | #6 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: NY USA
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| I think everything will be fine you know how to train your baby! (if only we could train our parents) Look out when you have children;
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