When is it time to call it an end? - YorkieTalk.com Forums

cheryl19 · 08-17-2008, 03:58 AM

I know that the time would come that I would have to make the call to the vet, but how do you know for sure? Queenie my border collie has cancer and today when Ivy and I went for our am walk she just stood on the porch she didn't come and she didn't want to eat

I see she has more blood in her drool but I'm having a hard time with this. She looks at me like I can still go on, but am I just to weak

Thanks I know that all of you would understand sometime others just don't get it (it's only a dog)

ladyj · 08-17-2008, 04:11 AM

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Originally Posted by cheryl19

I know that the time would come that I would have to make the call to the vet, but how do you know for sure? Queenie my border collie has cancer and today when Ivy and I went for our am walk she just stood on the porch she didn't come and she didn't want to eat

I see she has more blood in her drool but I'm having a hard time with this. She looks at me like I can still go on, but am I just to weak

Thanks I know that all of you would understand sometime others just don't get it (it's only a dog)

I think you will know when it's time to call it an end. From your post, I think you know the time has come to let Queenie rest and be free from pain. They let you know and she seems to be telling you. My heart hurts for you. I just went through this with my little ferret and it is very hard, but you will know, even in your pain, that you did the best thing for your friend and loved her through it all. God bless and give you strength and comfort and give your Queenie gentle passage to the Rainbow Bridge.

shirlblack · 08-17-2008, 04:16 AM

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Originally Posted by cheryl19

I know that the time would come that I would have to make the call to the vet, but how do you know for sure? Queenie my border collie has cancer and today when Ivy and I went for our am walk she just stood on the porch she didn't come and she didn't want to eat

I see she has more blood in her drool but I'm having a hard time with this. She looks at me like I can still go on, but am I just to weak

Thanks I know that all of you would understand sometime others just don't get it (it's only a dog)

Please, please think of the horrible pain she's going through and let her go. Don't prolong her suffering any longer and don't listen to these that are telling you that she's only a dog!!! No one can imagine the pain this poor dog is in and she can't keep going on. Prayers for both you and Queenie.

tjdmom · 08-17-2008, 04:43 AM

I just want to express my sympathies. I'm sure this is a difficult time and a difficult decision for you to make. I can't tell you when or how but just know that we are all here for you.

nudiva37 · 08-17-2008, 04:50 AM

You will see it in her eyes. You will give you last kiss and hug and you will know

it is time.
my heart goes out to you today.

Doggy Bear · 08-17-2008, 04:52 AM

Cheryl19 I know that it is s a hard decision to took.

As a therapist in Pet loss what I am saying to my clients is they also have to think about the quality of live of their pets. Your vet will be able to tell you if there is anything possible to at least have Queenie not suffering.

It will be the bigger proof of love to be able to let go your love Queenie if there's is anything else to do to get her better.

Take care of her and after take care of you.

Bon courage.
France

shirlblack · 08-17-2008, 06:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Doggy Bear

Cheryl19 I know that it is s a hard decision to took.

As a therapist in Pet loss what I am saying to my clients is they also have to think about the quality of live of their pets. Your vet will be able to tell you if there is anything possible to at least have Queenie not suffering.

It will be the bigger proof of love to be able to let go your love Queenie if there's is anything else to do to get her better.

Take care of her and after take care of you.

Bon courage.
France

Grizzley Bear · 08-17-2008, 07:07 AM

Cheryl19....My heart goes out to you. I will keep you and Queenie in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs to you and her.

Mary

leipshen · 08-17-2008, 07:21 AM

Cheryl

My heart is breaking for you today. I know the pain and confusion you must be going through along with your precious friend. I too am drawing closer to this day with my beloved "Leipshen". She is almost 13 yrs old. She is completely blind. Although she is still happy, and does not appear to be in any pain, life has changed drastically for both of us since she went blind. She has been housbroken since she was a small puppy, now she doesn't seem to be able wait until she can get outside. she doesn't even try anymore. It is so sad.

I believe what everyone else has said so far is the best advise of all. Your heart will tell you when the time has come. Perhaps if you take one whole day and spend it with her. sit and talk to her, tell her about Rainbow Bridge, go over your many memories together. Tell her over and over how much you love her. I am sure she knows this already, however, these precious moments together may help you to then let. I plan to do this with Leipshen when her time has come.

May God be with you and give you strength and peace

Patti

megansmomma · 08-17-2008, 08:38 AM

I have not been around YT very long but whenever I see a post like yours it always brings tears. I too had to make this decision for my Lab Abby. She was my loving and wonderful companion for 12 years and suffered from cancer as well. Making the decision to stop her suffering was the hardest decision that I ever had to make but I realized that her suffereing needed to end. I was unable to say the word to the vet when I arrived on that sad day but look at her and I he knew my decision.

In your head you know it will make the pain and suffering end but heart will make you want just one more day. Follow you head, your heart will heal with time. Remeber all the love that has been shared and hold that love close to you heart. Big hugs~~~

txshopper73 · 08-17-2008, 10:00 AM

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Originally Posted by ladyj

I think you will know when it's time to call it an end. From your post, I think you know the time has come to let Queenie rest and be free from pain. They let you know and she seems to be telling you. My heart hurts for you. I just went through this with my little ferret and it is very hard, but you will know, even in your pain, that you did the best thing for your friend and loved her through it all. God bless and give you strength and comfort and give your Queenie gentle passage to the Rainbow Bridge.

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Originally Posted by nudiva37

You will see it in her eyes. You will give your last kiss and hug and you will know

it is time.
my heart goes out to you today.

Two very good posts. No one wants to make that decision but for the comfort of our beloved pets, it is one that needs to be made.

When quality of life is no longer there or our pets suffer, the decision needs to be made to let them go with their dignity. We must learn to put aside our own selfish reasons and think of our pets that have blessed our lives.

God be with you and your decision.

Nancy1999 · 08-17-2008, 10:16 AM

I am so sorry you are going through this; I think this is one of the many reasons people need to find a good veterinarians, someone who they really feel like they can trust. Some vets might suggest unnecessary treatments when the outcome might not be favorable just to increase their money. However, if you found a vet you can trust than I would listen to them and take their advice at this terribly emotional time, when it's hard to decide what's really best for the pet. My heart goes out to you.

To those people who don't get it, "it's just a dog", my heart goes out to them as well because this means that they have never known the love of a dog.

meeker · 08-17-2008, 10:25 AM

I think this is when we show are real love to our babies. It is the most difficult thing I ever have had to do. But I agree with the others I think you know it is time now. You need to give yourself time with her. But make sure you call the vet and do it for both your sakes. You will need to be brave for her and then you can break down later. The best kiss I ever got from my Cookie was right before she went down after the injection. It was like her thank you for letting her go.
I am always here just email if want to talk

cheryl19 · 08-17-2008, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Nancy1999

I am so sorry you are going through this; I think this is one of the many reasons people need to find a good veterinarians, someone who they really feel like they can trust. Some vets might suggest unnecessary treatments when the outcome might not be favorable just to increase their money. However, if you found a vet you can trust than I would listen to them and take their advice at this terribly emotional time, when it's hard to decide what's really best for the pet. My heart goes out to you.

To those people who don't get it, "it's just a dog", my heart goes out to them as well because this means that they have never known the love of a dog.

Thank you Nancy, Yes I'm lucky that my vet cares about animals, not just his wallet. He and I are working together, but I find it hard to know when it's time. Also I'm the person in my family that will have to go and do this

sometimes it's so hard being the strongest that is way I'm turning to YT to help me. Thank you all for helping through this

Philly · 08-17-2008, 12:23 PM

I think you know that the time has come to put an end to her suffering. That's why you posted the question. Please ignore the folks with stupid comments like "its only a dog". Dog lovers here and all over share your pain and understand how hard it is to say goodbye.

One vet who helped me release one of my dear ones, said to me "PLEASE REMEMBER WHAT A GREAT LIFE YOUR PET HAD WITH YOU - HOW HAPPY AND HEALTHY SHE WAS AND LUCKY TO HAVE LIVED SUCH A LONG LIFE WITH YOU. YOU MADE IT HAPPEN.

My thoughts are with you at this difficult time and I know you will make the right decision for your pet.

08-17-2008, 03:58 AM	#1
cheryl19 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: NY USA Posts: 1,749	When is it time to call it an end? I know that the time would come that I would have to make the call to the vet, but how do you know for sure? Queenie my border collie has cancer and today when Ivy and I went for our am walk she just stood on the porch she didn't come and she didn't want to eat I see she has more blood in her drool but I'm having a hard time with this. She looks at me like I can still go on, but am I just to weak Thanks I know that all of you would understand sometime others just don't get it (it's only a dog) __________________ Ivy, Max, Reggie & Cheryl

08-17-2008, 04:50 AM	#5
nudiva37 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Ocean Springs Posts: 168	eyes You will see it in her eyes. You will give you last kiss and hug and you will know it is time. my heart goes out to you today. __________________ "My babies make my life happier. They love me unconditionally as long as I provide great viddles"

08-17-2008, 04:52 AM	#6
Doggy Bear Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Montreal, Quebec, Canada Posts: 109	Cheryl19 I know that it is s a hard decision to took. As a therapist in Pet loss what I am saying to my clients is they also have to think about the quality of live of their pets. Your vet will be able to tell you if there is anything possible to at least have Queenie not suffering. It will be the bigger proof of love to be able to let go your love Queenie if there's is anything else to do to get her better. Take care of her and after take care of you. Bon courage. France __________________ N'Stein - male, 5 years old.....5 pds. Small but adorable and sometimes stubborn has a Yorkie can be.

08-17-2008, 07:07 AM	#8
Grizzley Bear MY HEART AND SOUL Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Sacramento Posts: 566	Cheryl19....My heart goes out to you. I will keep you and Queenie in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs to you and her. Mary __________________ A + = My Grizzley Bear 10/12/95 to 10/10/2007:

08-17-2008, 08:38 AM	#10
megansmomma Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: S. W. Suburbs of Chicago, IL Posts: 12,235	I have not been around YT very long but whenever I see a post like yours it always brings tears. I too had to make this decision for my Lab Abby. She was my loving and wonderful companion for 12 years and suffered from cancer as well. Making the decision to stop her suffering was the hardest decision that I ever had to make but I realized that her suffereing needed to end. I was unable to say the word to the vet when I arrived on that sad day but look at her and I he knew my decision. In your head you know it will make the pain and suffering end but heart will make you want just one more day. Follow you head, your heart will heal with time. Remeber all the love that has been shared and hold that love close to you heart. Big hugs~~~ __________________ “Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference.” Mark Twain Last edited by megansmomma; 08-17-2008 at 08:39 AM.

08-17-2008, 04:43 AM	#4
tjdmom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: upstate ny Posts: 5,847	I just want to express my sympathies. I'm sure this is a difficult time and a difficult decision for you to make. I can't tell you when or how but just know that we are all here for you.

08-17-2008, 07:21 AM	#9
leipshen Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: arizona Posts: 77	Cheryl My heart is breaking for you today. I know the pain and confusion you must be going through along with your precious friend. I too am drawing closer to this day with my beloved "Leipshen". She is almost 13 yrs old. She is completely blind. Although she is still happy, and does not appear to be in any pain, life has changed drastically for both of us since she went blind. She has been housbroken since she was a small puppy, now she doesn't seem to be able wait until she can get outside. she doesn't even try anymore. It is so sad. I believe what everyone else has said so far is the best advise of all. Your heart will tell you when the time has come. Perhaps if you take one whole day and spend it with her. sit and talk to her, tell her about Rainbow Bridge, go over your many memories together. Tell her over and over how much you love her. I am sure she knows this already, however, these precious moments together may help you to then let. I plan to do this with Leipshen when her time has come. May God be with you and give you strength and peace Patti

08-17-2008, 10:16 AM	#12
Nancy1999 I ♥ Joey & Ralphie! Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Arizona Posts: 25,396 Blog Entries: 2	I am so sorry you are going through this; I think this is one of the many reasons people need to find a good veterinarians, someone who they really feel like they can trust. Some vets might suggest unnecessary treatments when the outcome might not be favorable just to increase their money. However, if you found a vet you can trust than I would listen to them and take their advice at this terribly emotional time, when it's hard to decide what's really best for the pet. My heart goes out to you. To those people who don't get it, "it's just a dog", my heart goes out to them as well because this means that they have never known the love of a dog. __________________ NancyJoey Proud members of the CrAzYcLuB and YAP! ** Just Say No to Puppymills – Join YAP! Yorkshire Terrier Club of America – Breeder Referrals Last edited by Nancy1999; 08-17-2008 at 10:20 AM.

08-17-2008, 10:25 AM	#13
meeker Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Fairmont Mn Usa Posts: 156	Real love I think this is when we show are real love to our babies. It is the most difficult thing I ever have had to do. But I agree with the others I think you know it is time now. You need to give yourself time with her. But make sure you call the vet and do it for both your sakes. You will need to be brave for her and then you can break down later. The best kiss I ever got from my Cookie was right before she went down after the injection. It was like her thank you for letting her go. I am always here just email if want to talk

08-17-2008, 12:23 PM	#15
Philly Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Pa Posts: 108	I think you know that the time has come to put an end to her suffering. That's why you posted the question. Please ignore the folks with stupid comments like "its only a dog". Dog lovers here and all over share your pain and understand how hard it is to say goodbye. One vet who helped me release one of my dear ones, said to me "PLEASE REMEMBER WHAT A GREAT LIFE YOUR PET HAD WITH YOU - HOW HAPPY AND HEALTHY SHE WAS AND LUCKY TO HAVE LIVED SUCH A LONG LIFE WITH YOU. YOU MADE IT HAPPEN. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time and I know you will make the right decision for your pet.