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elle57 · 05-28-2008, 01:51 PM

hi everyone,
i really need your help on this topic.
my husband and i went away for 3 days and we left sammy with my daughter and her husband. it was a total disaster for them.
first of all he chewed the wood door, and scratched the paint off the bottom of it. ( something he has never done before )
they did not get any sleep cause he paced throughout the house all night. ( something he never does) he sleeps right through morning when he is with me.
he cried and barked all day and every waking minute.

i gave my daughter the rescue remedy ,to give him which did not help one bit.
so the question is - is there something that the vet can give me, like a valium in a very low dose, so when i do leave him, he is not a total basket case.
he probably has separation anxiety when i leave him.
i dont know what to do. i am very very upset about this and i dont like when sammy is upset.
i know i cant have the only yorkie that does this.
any advice is greatly appreciated.
thanks

Nancy1999 · 05-28-2008, 02:03 PM

Has your daughter been around him much before? It sounds like exposing him to her more might help. Was he left alone a lot, I know yorkies don't like this. I'm not a great believer in drugs unless all other methods of treatment have been exhausted. I think going to her house and leaving than returning after several minutes might help, and doing this repeatedly for several visits. You should also not pet or reward the dog until he calms down. She should also try to distract him play with him, take him for a walks etc. so that he thinks she's great to be around.

I also wanted to add that leaving something with your scent on it sometimes helps.

lopresm · 05-28-2008, 02:07 PM

Is your Yorkie crate trained? If not, I would start a whole training routine on this. If your pup were put in the crate at night, with a towel or light sheet over the crate, he would be quiet and comfortable.

Also, I would recommend an X-pen so that the pup could have freedom to play but not the freedom to roam around a strange room and chew things, especially if you or your daughter is not home or nearby to supervise.

Lots of good luck. I am sure you will be able to work this out.

LoveMyJake · 05-28-2008, 02:33 PM

Did they watch him at their house or yours? If theirs, is your baby used to your daughter's home and to your daughter?

Both my boys had terrible separation anxiety. The problem I had was that when I would go to work, Jake would get really sad and mope around all eve while I was at work, even though my hubby was here with him, and he plays with him and spends a lot of time with him. But, he's a mama's boy. He got used to it and was doing good. Then, I got sick and had to be off work for awhile, so I was always home with him. When I had to go into the hospital, he had a hard time. After I went back to work, I had to start over with his separation anxiety. Now I'm off work again, and I have two that are mama's boys.

Here's what I do: Everyday, even if I'm not going anywhere, I take my keys and purse (they associate that with me leaving), and I go outside for a little bit. I started out just going for a couple minutes at a time, and gradually increased the time. This helps a lot because it makes them realize I'm always going to come back. If I have to leave for an extended period (like if I'm in the hospital), I leave them each a shirt with my scent on it. My daughter stays at our house with them. They are very used to her because she is here a lot, although she has her own apt. She said they do sleep with my shirts, so I think it does help. She also sometimes takes them to her apt. for a few hours to play with them and so that they are familiar with it in case she couldn't come to our house to watch them in an emergency.

Maybe you could leave him with your daughter a couple times a week, just for short periods of time while you run an errand or something. Get him used to being left with her, and he will see that you are coming back to get him. I think correcting the problem to set his mind at ease would be much better than medicating him. Good luck to you!

elle57 · 05-28-2008, 02:39 PM

he knows my daughter very well, as i am always going over to her house with him to see my granddaughter who is 1 yr old. he makes sure that he does not leave my side for a minute, he just does not rest when i am there.
i bought his little bed when i left him, it is a bed which he sometimes uses, but it is more like a community bed which our 4 cats share with sammy. so it did have the scent on it.
she tried playing with him and taking him outside, but all he wants to do is escape and look for me.
she even held him upside down on his back and rocked him, i pay him alot of atttention, which she blamed on me, that i made him like this. but when i got him he was a very nervose dog. i bought him from a breeder at 14 months, he had never been in a car or walked on a leash. he just does not like to leave his home at all.
thats why i need something to calm him down, or no one will watch him, and i dont want to board him. i would feel very bad.
in sept we are taking a 2 week road trip driving from ny to vegas and i want him to be relaxed with her or else i will be a wreck worrying about him.

LoveMyJake · 05-28-2008, 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by elle57

he knows my daughter very well, as i am always going over to her house with him to see my granddaughter who is 1 yr old. he makes sure that he does not leave my side for a minute, he just does not rest when i am there.
i bought his little bed when i left him, it is a bed which he sometimes uses, but it is more like a community bed which our 4 cats share with sammy. so it did have the scent on it.
she tried playing with him and taking him outside, but all he wants to do is escape and look for me.
she even held him upside down on his back and rocked him, i pay him alot of atttention, which she blamed on me, that i made him like this. but when i got him he was a very nervose dog. i bought him from a breeder at 14 months, he had never been in a car or walked on a leash. he just does not like to leave his home at all.
thats why i need something to calm him down, or no one will watch him, and i dont want to board him. i would feel very bad.
in sept we are taking a 2 week road trip driving from ny to vegas and i want him to be relaxed with her or else i will be a wreck worrying about him.

When you go to visit your daughter, try leaving him for two minutes by going outside. Keep doing this, increasing the time you leave. Maybe take your granddaughter for an ice cream or something. Hopefully, he will see that you ARE coming back to get him.

elle57 · 05-28-2008, 03:15 PM

i have already tried this, by going outside and walking my granddaughter and then going back in.
i dont want him to go mental , by pacing around and not sleeping. i just thought that ( like people) who are anxious , they take a pill. it would never be forever, but just while i am away, so it takes the stress off of him and my daughter. mostly for sammy.

greyacresmom · 05-28-2008, 03:36 PM

Separation Anxiety. There are all kinds of things on the market. One of the best is a DAP. (or so I have heard)

elle57 · 05-28-2008, 04:47 PM

isnt this the same kind of thing as rescue remedy ? i know that rescue remedy does not work in the least little bit on sammy

elle57 · 05-29-2008, 02:26 PM

i just wanted to to tell everyone that sammy does not behave this way at home. it is only when i take him with me to visit my daughters. i only take him out with me to visit them and then i bring him home. but when i go away for a few days i leave him with one of them.
at home he does not have separation anxiety, he is just fine and very happy. i leave him a few times a week , sometimes for many hours and he never had any behavioral problems and never makes in the house or chews anything.
does anyone have this problem?
do you think he needs meds to help him cope? i need him to be be a good boy or else no one will watch him for me and i will have to board him, which will make me very upset.

greyacresmom · 05-29-2008, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by elle57

isnt this the same kind of thing as rescue remedy ? i know that rescue remedy does not work in the least little bit on sammy

I do not think so..it is a thing you plug into the wall..and it sends out something..(?) never had to use it myself but so many in the GH world use it and swear by it..remember GH are very seldom alone and most seem to have a little seperation anixety

05-28-2008, 01:51 PM	#1
elle57 YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: douglaston ny Posts: 498	i really need your help on this topic hi everyone, i really need your help on this topic. my husband and i went away for 3 days and we left sammy with my daughter and her husband. it was a total disaster for them. first of all he chewed the wood door, and scratched the paint off the bottom of it. ( something he has never done before ) they did not get any sleep cause he paced throughout the house all night. ( something he never does) he sleeps right through morning when he is with me. he cried and barked all day and every waking minute. i gave my daughter the rescue remedy ,to give him which did not help one bit. so the question is - is there something that the vet can give me, like a valium in a very low dose, so when i do leave him, he is not a total basket case. he probably has separation anxiety when i leave him. i dont know what to do. i am very very upset about this and i dont like when sammy is upset. i know i cant have the only yorkie that does this. any advice is greatly appreciated. thanks

05-28-2008, 02:03 PM	#2
Nancy1999 I ♥ Joey & Ralphie! Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Arizona Posts: 25,396 Blog Entries: 2	Has your daughter been around him much before? It sounds like exposing him to her more might help. Was he left alone a lot, I know yorkies don't like this. I'm not a great believer in drugs unless all other methods of treatment have been exhausted. I think going to her house and leaving than returning after several minutes might help, and doing this repeatedly for several visits. You should also not pet or reward the dog until he calms down. She should also try to distract him play with him, take him for a walks etc. so that he thinks she's great to be around. I also wanted to add that leaving something with your scent on it sometimes helps. __________________ NancyJoey Proud members of the CrAzYcLuB and YAP! ** Just Say No to Puppymills – Join YAP! Yorkshire Terrier Club of America – Breeder Referrals Last edited by Nancy1999; 05-28-2008 at 02:05 PM.

05-28-2008, 02:33 PM	#4
LoveMyJake I love Jackson too! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,905	Did they watch him at their house or yours? If theirs, is your baby used to your daughter's home and to your daughter? Both my boys had terrible separation anxiety. The problem I had was that when I would go to work, Jake would get really sad and mope around all eve while I was at work, even though my hubby was here with him, and he plays with him and spends a lot of time with him. But, he's a mama's boy. He got used to it and was doing good. Then, I got sick and had to be off work for awhile, so I was always home with him. When I had to go into the hospital, he had a hard time. After I went back to work, I had to start over with his separation anxiety. Now I'm off work again, and I have two that are mama's boys. Here's what I do: Everyday, even if I'm not going anywhere, I take my keys and purse (they associate that with me leaving), and I go outside for a little bit. I started out just going for a couple minutes at a time, and gradually increased the time. This helps a lot because it makes them realize I'm always going to come back. If I have to leave for an extended period (like if I'm in the hospital), I leave them each a shirt with my scent on it. My daughter stays at our house with them. They are very used to her because she is here a lot, although she has her own apt. She said they do sleep with my shirts, so I think it does help. She also sometimes takes them to her apt. for a few hours to play with them and so that they are familiar with it in case she couldn't come to our house to watch them in an emergency. Maybe you could leave him with your daughter a couple times a week, just for short periods of time while you run an errand or something. Get him used to being left with her, and he will see that you are coming back to get him. I think correcting the problem to set his mind at ease would be much better than medicating him. Good luck to you! __________________ Selina, mommy to Jake and Jackson. RIP baby Lily Coming soon: Gracie

05-28-2008, 03:36 PM	#8
greyacresmom YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: AZ Posts: 372	Separation Anxiety. There are all kinds of things on the market. One of the best is a DAP. (or so I have heard) __________________ Sheila and CO 6 Retired Racing Greyhounds: Max the Yorkie: Precious the JRT

05-28-2008, 02:07 PM	#3
lopresm YT Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Long Island, New York Posts: 328	Is your Yorkie crate trained? If not, I would start a whole training routine on this. If your pup were put in the crate at night, with a towel or light sheet over the crate, he would be quiet and comfortable. Also, I would recommend an X-pen so that the pup could have freedom to play but not the freedom to roam around a strange room and chew things, especially if you or your daughter is not home or nearby to supervise. Lots of good luck. I am sure you will be able to work this out.

05-28-2008, 02:39 PM	#5
elle57 YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: douglaston ny Posts: 498	he knows my daughter very well, as i am always going over to her house with him to see my granddaughter who is 1 yr old. he makes sure that he does not leave my side for a minute, he just does not rest when i am there. i bought his little bed when i left him, it is a bed which he sometimes uses, but it is more like a community bed which our 4 cats share with sammy. so it did have the scent on it. she tried playing with him and taking him outside, but all he wants to do is escape and look for me. she even held him upside down on his back and rocked him, i pay him alot of atttention, which she blamed on me, that i made him like this. but when i got him he was a very nervose dog. i bought him from a breeder at 14 months, he had never been in a car or walked on a leash. he just does not like to leave his home at all. thats why i need something to calm him down, or no one will watch him, and i dont want to board him. i would feel very bad. in sept we are taking a 2 week road trip driving from ny to vegas and i want him to be relaxed with her or else i will be a wreck worrying about him.

05-28-2008, 03:15 PM	#7
elle57 YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: douglaston ny Posts: 498	i have already tried this, by going outside and walking my granddaughter and then going back in. i dont want him to go mental , by pacing around and not sleeping. i just thought that ( like people) who are anxious , they take a pill. it would never be forever, but just while i am away, so it takes the stress off of him and my daughter. mostly for sammy.

05-28-2008, 04:47 PM	#9
elle57 YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: douglaston ny Posts: 498	isnt this the same kind of thing as rescue remedy ? i know that rescue remedy does not work in the least little bit on sammy

05-29-2008, 02:26 PM	#10
elle57 YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: douglaston ny Posts: 498	i just wanted to to tell everyone that sammy does not behave this way at home. it is only when i take him with me to visit my daughters. i only take him out with me to visit them and then i bring him home. but when i go away for a few days i leave him with one of them. at home he does not have separation anxiety, he is just fine and very happy. i leave him a few times a week , sometimes for many hours and he never had any behavioral problems and never makes in the house or chews anything. does anyone have this problem? do you think he needs meds to help him cope? i need him to be be a good boy or else no one will watch him for me and i will have to board him, which will make me very upset.