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Brooklyn-Miles · 05-02-2008, 09:03 PM

Hi everyone,

I'm Brooklyn-Miles mom. I am very sorry to bother you all with this topic, but I am in need of some support and I don't know who else could possibly understand but the members of YT!

I am crazy about my babies (one Yorkie-almost 2 yrs, one American Pitbull-almost 8 yrs). They are the only children that I have of my own and I spoil them as such.

I am in a relationship of almost 5yrs. and I am very happy...EXCEPT for one thing. The love of my life is not "dog crazy". I came into the relationship with only one of "my sons". And almost 2 years ago I finally got "my youngest son" Brooklyn.

Now don't get me wrong. Me & my babies are never mistreated or anything and I have explained how much my "boys" mean to me. But I still find myself trying to quiet down barking, keeping the "little guy" off the sofa and bed and pretty much keeping them out of "the way" so as not to annoy (things that really don't bother me)!

I could never imagine being with out my babies and this relationship is the nicest most peaceful union I have ever been in...

I guess I just wish my love were a dog fanatic like me. Is it possible for me to have the best of both worlds without one suffering?

Any adivce & verbal support from the members of YT would be appreciated.

Thanks for always being there.

labrown · 05-02-2008, 09:08 PM

Well, I don't have much advice because my BF is crazy about my pups. But I do understand about having your pets around people that aren't "dog people," and I think it is important to cater to their needs. I want my dogs to be respectful of others and not jump on them or get in their personal space without asking (even though it doesn't bother me when they jump on me and demand kisses and raspberries). I think more people come around to well behaved dogs than they do to misfits. I think if you just put some importance on keeping your dogs well mannered, you won't have a problem.

Best of luck. I love my man, and my dogs. I hope you all can learn to live together well! Plus, if him not being a "dog person" is your only relationship problem, then you are doing pretty well.

Brooklyn-Miles · 05-02-2008, 09:47 PM

Thank you soooooo much. Your response has truly given me something to think about. It has also put a smile on my face. You know what? Maybe you're right. That is the only complaint in my relationship and thanks to your advice I am feeling good about it already. A million thanks for taking the time to respond!

labrown · 05-02-2008, 09:57 PM

Anytime! Welcome to YT!!!!!!!

Mom to Hot Rod · 05-02-2008, 10:12 PM

While I like well mannered pets, I would hope that someone in my life would accept me and what is happening in my life. I've been a fanatic over animals forever and whoever comes into my life knew that about me so they had to adjust. I don't know if I could change that about myself just to make someone else happy because I wouldn't be able to be myself. JMO. Good luck, sounds like everything else is going good.

sammybear · 05-03-2008, 12:51 AM

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Originally Posted by labrown

Plus, if him not being a "dog person" is your only relationship problem, then you are doing pretty well.

I second that!!!

Peanutt · 05-03-2008, 07:10 AM

Well, if this is an otherwise great relationship, then I think it'd be silly not to try to cater to him as best as you can. Remember, a great relationship with a dog can last 15 years, but the relationship with a husband or wife can be a lifetime, and I'd argue that finding the perfect mate is way harder than finding the perfect pet.

Brooklyn-Miles · 05-03-2008, 07:13 AM

Thank you so much.

My problem is that I try too hard to make everything perfect. My sweet heart

just goes with the flow of life. The things that make them happy...makes them happy. I guess I need to realize that it is okay for the both of us to be happy with different things and that me & "my boys" are not loved any less.

You all just may have opened my eyes to something: Just because I am the only one that talks to "the boys" like they are my kids and I get excited when I pass a PetSmart or Petco or find the latest toy, collars, leashes, bones, clothes, sunglasses

, beds, etc. doesn't mean that WE are any less compatible with each other.

We already have at least 85% of our lives in common. I guess I just wanted for "my children" to be close to the both of us. But maybe my dreams of that are just unrealistic...and that is okay too!

I guess sometimes you just need to get other perspectives. And who has a better perspective on the love of Yorkies then the great members of YT!

linsvs · 05-03-2008, 07:16 AM

I hope you can be happy with both!!!! I would think it would be hard not to warm up to well behaved babies being around. But speaking for myself I would not give up my babies for anything or anyone.Especially if I had the babies first. It would have to be a package deal. I would avoid adding any new ones, but the originals would stay and be treated well.

Brooklyn-Miles · 05-03-2008, 07:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Peanutt

Well, if this is an otherwise great relationship, then I think it'd be silly not to try to cater to him as best as you can. Remember, a great relationship with a dog can last 15 years, but the relationship with a husband or wife can be a lifetime, and I'd argue that finding the perfect mate is way harder than finding the perfect pet.

Peanutt,
YOU MY FRIEND HAVE WHAT I CALL "EXTREME WISDOM"! Thank you, thank you, thank you! Wow, you make such an excellent point. I agree with you as well. My "son's" know that I love them and they mean everything to me and if I know them like I think I do, they are happy to see mommy happy.

They have their own unbarked unspoken tie with my sweet heart and that will have to be good enough for me!

Hugs & Yorkie Love

Brooklyn-Miles · 05-03-2008, 08:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sammybear

I second that!!!

Thanks Sammybear!

Brooklyn-Miles · 05-03-2008, 08:16 AM

Linsvs,
My mistake was adding one to the family, but I truly had a void in my heart where I knew only a little one could fill (I have no birth children). I did try to explain this to my sweet heart and there was some level of understanding, but just no level of excitement when it came to my new "baby".
Both of my boys get treated very well and are to some extent...spoiled. I know that if my older baby ever passes, I will not get another one. I will just live out the remaining years with my younger "son".

Xena'smommy · 05-03-2008, 09:48 AM

You have gotten great advice here!

My hubby is so not a dog person, but he actually gave me my puppy for Christmas and has fallen in love with her. She has even managed to get bed privileges and seems to try extra hard with him. Then today, he was holding someones Yorkie puppy at my sons baseball game - now that's progress!

Good luck to you all.

Epsilon · 05-03-2008, 09:53 AM

I can think of one positive thing of him not being a "dog-person"... you don't have to share your babies!! They are alllll yours! haha. I think all this advise given on here is wonderful.

jrsygal37 · 05-03-2008, 10:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brooklyn-Miles

Hi everyone,

I'm Brooklyn-Miles mom. I am very sorry to bother you all with this topic, but I am in need of some support and I don't know who else could possibly understand but the members of YT!

I am crazy about my babies (one Yorkie-almost 2 yrs, one American Pitbull-almost 8 yrs). They are the only children that I have of my own and I spoil them as such.

I am in a relationship of almost 5yrs. and I am very happy...EXCEPT for one thing. The love of my life is not "dog crazy". I came into the relationship with only one of "my sons". And almost 2 years ago I finally got "my youngest son" Brooklyn.

Now don't get me wrong. Me & my babies are never mistreated or anything and I have explained how much my "boys" mean to me. But I still find myself trying to quiet down barking, keeping the "little guy" off the sofa and bed and pretty much keeping them out of "the way" so as not to annoy (things that really don't bother me)!

I could never imagine being with out my babies and this relationship is the nicest most peaceful union I have ever been in...

I guess I just wish my love were a dog fanatic like me. Is it possible for me to have the best of both worlds without one suffering?

Any adivce & verbal support from the members of YT would be appreciated.

Thanks for always being there.

This may not be the advice you want but if you have to walk on egg shells when you're around someone you love then you are better off cutting your losses and finding someone that fits you better. Sometimes things can be worked out but in most cases later down the road these same small differences become big irritations. This is coming from someone that has been married 22 years. I love my husband but had I had the experience 22 years ago I would not have gotten married - small things we tend to overlook when we're in love tend to become harder and harder years later when reality sets in

Elaine

05-02-2008, 09:03 PM	#1
Brooklyn-Miles Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: New Jersey Posts: 24	Needing Verbal Support... Hi everyone, I'm Brooklyn-Miles mom. I am very sorry to bother you all with this topic, but I am in need of some support and I don't know who else could possibly understand but the members of YT! I am crazy about my babies (one Yorkie-almost 2 yrs, one American Pitbull-almost 8 yrs). They are the only children that I have of my own and I spoil them as such. I am in a relationship of almost 5yrs. and I am very happy...EXCEPT for one thing. The love of my life is not "dog crazy". I came into the relationship with only one of "my sons". And almost 2 years ago I finally got "my youngest son" Brooklyn. Now don't get me wrong. Me & my babies are never mistreated or anything and I have explained how much my "boys" mean to me. But I still find myself trying to quiet down barking, keeping the "little guy" off the sofa and bed and pretty much keeping them out of "the way" so as not to annoy (things that really don't bother me)! I could never imagine being with out my babies and this relationship is the nicest most peaceful union I have ever been in... I guess I just wish my love were a dog fanatic like me. Is it possible for me to have the best of both worlds without one suffering? Any adivce & verbal support from the members of YT would be appreciated. Thanks for always being there. __________________ Brooklyn-Miles & Mommy Steph

05-02-2008, 09:08 PM	#2
labrown T&T-DYNOMITE! Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 2,111	Well, I don't have much advice because my BF is crazy about my pups. But I do understand about having your pets around people that aren't "dog people," and I think it is important to cater to their needs. I want my dogs to be respectful of others and not jump on them or get in their personal space without asking (even though it doesn't bother me when they jump on me and demand kisses and raspberries). I think more people come around to well behaved dogs than they do to misfits. I think if you just put some importance on keeping your dogs well mannered, you won't have a problem. Best of luck. I love my man, and my dogs. I hope you all can learn to live together well! *Plus, if him not being a "dog person" is your only relationship problem, then you are doing pretty well.* __________________ TBone Tina & Lauren

05-02-2008, 09:47 PM	#3
Brooklyn-Miles Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: New Jersey Posts: 24	Thank you soooooo much. Your response has truly given me something to think about. It has also put a smile on my face. You know what? Maybe you're right. That is the only complaint in my relationship and thanks to your advice I am feeling good about it already. A million thanks for taking the time to respond! __________________ Brooklyn-Miles & Mommy Steph

05-02-2008, 09:57 PM	#4
labrown T&T-DYNOMITE! Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 2,111	Anytime! Welcome to YT!!!!!!! __________________ TBone Tina & Lauren

05-02-2008, 10:12 PM	#5
Mom to Hot Rod Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: MD Posts: 10,908	While I like well mannered pets, I would hope that someone in my life would accept me and what is happening in my life. I've been a fanatic over animals forever and whoever comes into my life knew that about me so they had to adjust. I don't know if I could change that about myself just to make someone else happy because I wouldn't be able to be myself. JMO. Good luck, sounds like everything else is going good. __________________ www.kissecollar.com Soft Cone Collars for Post-surgery and much more! 10% (non-food) - Discount code YT10

05-03-2008, 07:10 AM	#7
Peanutt BANNED! Join Date: May 2008 Location: Huntsville Posts: 43	Well, if this is an otherwise great relationship, then I think it'd be silly not to try to cater to him as best as you can. Remember, a great relationship with a dog can last 15 years, but the relationship with a husband or wife can be a lifetime, and I'd argue that finding the perfect mate is way harder than finding the perfect pet.

05-03-2008, 07:13 AM	#8
Brooklyn-Miles Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: New Jersey Posts: 24	You all have been great encouragement to me! Thank you so much. My problem is that I try too hard to make everything perfect. My sweet heart just goes with the flow of life. The things that make them happy...makes them happy. I guess I need to realize that it is okay for the both of us to be happy with different things and that me & "my boys" are not loved any less. You all just may have opened my eyes to something: Just because I am the only one that talks to "the boys" like they are my kids and I get excited when I pass a PetSmart or Petco or find the latest toy, collars, leashes, bones, clothes, sunglasses, beds, etc. doesn't mean that WE are any less compatible with each other. We already have at least 85% of our lives in common. I guess I just wanted for "my children" to be close to the both of us. But maybe my dreams of that are just unrealistic...and that is okay too! I guess sometimes you just need to get other perspectives. And who has a better perspective on the love of Yorkies then the great members of YT! __________________ Brooklyn-Miles & Mommy Steph

05-03-2008, 07:16 AM	#9
linsvs YT Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: maine Posts: 343	I hope you can be happy with both!!!! I would think it would be hard not to warm up to well behaved babies being around. But speaking for myself I would not give up my babies for anything or anyone.Especially if I had the babies first. It would have to be a package deal. I would avoid adding any new ones, but the originals would stay and be treated well.

05-03-2008, 08:16 AM	#12
Brooklyn-Miles Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: New Jersey Posts: 24	Linsvs, My mistake was adding one to the family, but I truly had a void in my heart where I knew only a little one could fill (I have no birth children). I did try to explain this to my sweet heart and there was some level of understanding, but just no level of excitement when it came to my new "baby". Both of my boys get treated very well and are to some extent...spoiled. I know that if my older baby ever passes, I will not get another one. I will just live out the remaining years with my younger "son". __________________ Brooklyn-Miles & Mommy Steph

05-03-2008, 09:48 AM	#13
Xena'smommy Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Telluride, CO Posts: 309	You have gotten great advice here! My hubby is so not a dog person, but he actually gave me my puppy for Christmas and has fallen in love with her. She has even managed to get bed privileges and seems to try extra hard with him. Then today, he was holding someones Yorkie puppy at my sons baseball game - now that's progress! Good luck to you all. __________________ The dog was created especially for children. He is the god of frolic.

05-03-2008, 09:53 AM	#14
Epsilon Donating YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Denver, CO Posts: 477	I can think of one positive thing of him not being a "dog-person"... you don't have to share your babies!! They are alllll yours! haha. I think all this advise given on here is wonderful. __________________ Leanna and Epsilon http://llofte.wordpress.com/