My dog doesn't seem to like me? - YorkieTalk.com Forums

ashleylewis · 03-01-2008, 09:50 AM

I don't get the same responses from my puppy as everyone else seems to. I am his primary caretaker, I bought him, he sleeps with me, and I'm nearly always there with him. I'm nice to him, I play with him and feed him, his water bowl is clean, I take him for multiple walks a day (though he prefers running freely in our (gated and supervised) back yard to being confined to the leash, I'm affectionate with him, ect.

He seems to appreciate me, he cuddles with me at night and he comes when I call him, but he isn't affectionate with me like he is with everyone else. For examples: when my boyfriend comes over, he immediately runs to him and wants to play, his tail wags, he licks his face ect. I've had him for two weeks now and not only does he very rarely lick my face, but I've never seen his tail move even when I'm playing with him. He also gets far more excited to see my grandparents come home than me, and he even responds better to near strangers (like my aunt and mother) than to me.

I don't understand why he seems to prefer everyone else. I've never really had to punish him, I give him stern No's but I've never struck him, rubbed his nose in his mess, or anything of the sort. I've never hurt him even by accident, he has no reason to fear me.

I just want to feel like my puppy loves me.

PrincessDiana · 03-01-2008, 10:01 AM

I don't think your puppy necessarily doesn't like you. You have to remember that they are PUPPIES and so new people and new things are always very exciting to them. Just because he gets super excited to see other people doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Franklin is sometimes more affectionate with my boyfriend than me, but I know he loves me. There is a bond between you two because you are the one who takes care of him. Sometimes mommy isn't just quite as fun than other people. I think he'll get more affectionate with you over time. Stick it out.

Nancy1999 · 03-01-2008, 10:14 AM

You sound like a great mama, and he comes when you call him? . . . Wow . . . that proves he loves you!! I agree with the previous poster, he's excited about the new people and he's just welcoming them into the pack. Doesn't he act excited when you leave and come home? That's just one of the problems with being a mama, you love them even when they don't show their love for you, believe me, he loves you! Good mamas don't need to feel love from their babies, they give love!

Grannyb · 03-01-2008, 10:25 AM

Ah, don't feel bad. My Toto is the same way, and I have had him for almost 3 years. He loves to play, go for walks, and sleeps with me. When we have company or the grandchildren are here, he just goes wild. He loves everybody. He is just not a cuddle dog. There are times that he really likes to be petted etc. but he rarely licks me or gives me kisses. I guess he does love me because when I'm gone, he won't eat or drink water until I return. When I come in, it's like I have been gone for a month. He jumps all over me, but still, no kisses.

ashleylewis · 03-01-2008, 10:27 AM

idk he follows me around our house and stuff (except for when our other dog is playful, then he doesn't care where I am lol) but yesterday I was at work for ten hours (which is a very rare occurrence, I'm not usually at work for over three hours at a time) and when I came home at night, he acted more like I had been there all day.

He was sitting in my closet chewing on a sandal because I guess I forgot to shut the door before leaving, and when I came into the room he sat up, but he didn't wag his tail or come to me or anything. If it was anyone else, I'm pretty sure he would have darted right at them.

ali · 03-01-2008, 10:39 AM

I think he will come around. How old is he? When I first got Snickers he was 8 weeks old. I was expecting him to be up all night crying and wanting to be held all the time. From day one he slept through the night and never wanted to be held. He seemed to be happy sleeping on the floor or playing with my Boxer than being with me. He also would love other people when they came over. He is now 10 months old and will lay next to me and put his front paws on me for a little head rub. He has really warmed up to me over the last couple of month on his own time. I think it had to do with how he spent the first 8 weeks of his life. He only had 1 other sibling and a 6 weeks they were separated from their mother and each other and placed into their own crate. He learned to be on his own from an early age. It made me sad at first, he was a gift so I didn't know this. But, he has always been a great puppy , pretty much came paper trained and went to outside potty training in no time. I think your pup will come around on his own time. He knows that you are always there for him and just enjoys seeing the people who pop in and out of his life.

Nancy1999 · 03-01-2008, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by ashleylewis

idk he follows me around our house and stuff (except for when our other dog is playful, then he doesn't care where I am lol) but yesterday I was at work for ten hours (which is a very rare occurrence, I'm not usually at work for over three hours at a time) and when I came home at night, he acted more like I had been there all day.

He was sitting in my closet chewing on a sandal because I guess I forgot to shut the door before leaving, and when I came into the room he sat up, but he didn't wag his tail or come to me or anything. If it was anyone else, I'm pretty sure he would have darted right at them.

Ha, ha that's so funny, he knew he had been caught!! By the way, he was missing you, dogs chew on shoes to get your scent.

a2luckygirl · 03-01-2008, 11:23 AM

Banjo gets excited around new people- he loves new people, and to have some company come over!!! But I know he loves me! If I fall asleep on the couch- he is laying by the couch when I wake up! And I do get sweet kisses a lot! But even the vet gets kisses!!
Your Baby loves you!!!

bjh · 03-01-2008, 11:39 AM

I think your Yorkie loves you and he knows that you are the pack leader. He has respect for you. All Yorkies get excited when they see someone different and they try to win approval of those people. It sounds like you are doing a great job. I have a 5 1/2 month old female that was giving my husband kisses and she would not give me a kiss and it kind of hurt my feelings but last night when I was getting ready to go to bed I bend down to tell her good night and she kissed me on the nose. Some things just take a little time.

Tiggerwit · 03-01-2008, 12:06 PM

Ahh don't feel bad, Alphy does the same thing. I know he loves me, he cuddles me and follows me everywhere but doesn't give me kissies. Everyone else gets the kissess. Think it's my breath?

Maxi · 03-01-2008, 12:19 PM

Ah dont feel bad. I agree with others that your baby will come around. When they are puppies everything for them is new and exciting. When Maxi was a puppy he wasnt as affectionate as he is right now. He would get so excited with strangers when we would be outside. He would say hello with the wagging tail to everyone he sees. As the time passed by now he is so affectionate with me that he is always giving kisses. So dont worry he ll come around. Im sure he loves you, you are his mommy. I would also suggest playing different games because puppies love that. Challenge him with different games and maybe also start training him with different commands. Those are great examples of bonding with your pup.

lopresm · 03-01-2008, 12:21 PM

He loves you and feels most secure with you! Mothers can be taken for granted you know!

Your pup sounds wonderful. Enjoy him!

Charlene1963 · 03-01-2008, 12:23 PM

In our puppy class we were instructed to "wear our dogs" by tying their leash around your waist and getting him to accompany you as you do chores around the house. We were told that this would help the dog bond to the owner and get used to taking cues from the owner's actions. 20 minutes a day is what was recommended. I quite enjoyed doing this.

ginalynn · 03-01-2008, 12:28 PM

Otis is the same way he sleeps in my bed, he wants you to pet him only when he wants it, he does not like just sitting in my lap to cuddle but when I leave and come home he is so excited to see me, so I know he loves me. He is just not very affectionate. He will give me kisses every now and then.. That is just the way yorkies are, I guess......

Karrie · 03-01-2008, 07:22 PM

Bailey didn't become a "lap" dog until she was around 6 mos old. I was told that yorkies bond with men more than women (I've read it too) - but fortunately, Bailey bonded with me - whew! It took a while.

03-01-2008, 09:50 AM	#1
ashleylewis Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: florida Posts: 32	My dog doesn't seem to like me? I don't get the same responses from my puppy as everyone else seems to. I am his primary caretaker, I bought him, he sleeps with me, and I'm nearly always there with him. I'm nice to him, I play with him and feed him, his water bowl is clean, I take him for multiple walks a day (though he prefers running freely in our (gated and supervised) back yard to being confined to the leash, I'm affectionate with him, ect. He seems to appreciate me, he cuddles with me at night and he comes when I call him, but he isn't affectionate with me like he is with everyone else. For examples: when my boyfriend comes over, he immediately runs to him and wants to play, his tail wags, he licks his face ect. I've had him for two weeks now and not only does he very rarely lick my face, but I've never seen his tail move even when I'm playing with him. He also gets far more excited to see my grandparents come home than me, and he even responds better to near strangers (like my aunt and mother) than to me. I don't understand why he seems to prefer everyone else. I've never really had to punish him, I give him stern No's but I've never struck him, rubbed his nose in his mess, or anything of the sort. I've never hurt him even by accident, he has no reason to fear me. I just want to feel like my puppy loves me.

03-01-2008, 10:01 AM	#2
PrincessDiana I ♥ Franklin & Maggie Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 2,068	I don't think your puppy necessarily doesn't like you. You have to remember that they are PUPPIES and so new people and new things are always very exciting to them. Just because he gets super excited to see other people doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Franklin is sometimes more affectionate with my boyfriend than me, but I know he loves me. There is a bond between you two because you are the one who takes care of him. Sometimes mommy isn't just quite as fun than other people. I think he'll get more affectionate with you over time. Stick it out. __________________ Diana , Mommy to Franklin, Maggie, Oliver, and Millie - RIP Piper

03-01-2008, 10:14 AM	#3
Nancy1999 I ♥ Joey & Ralphie! Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Arizona Posts: 25,396 Blog Entries: 2	You sound like a great mama, and he comes when you call him? . . . Wow . . . that proves he loves you!! I agree with the previous poster, he's excited about the new people and he's just welcoming them into the pack. Doesn't he act excited when you leave and come home? That's just one of the problems with being a mama, you love them even when they don't show their love for you, believe me, he loves you! Good mamas don't need to feel love from their babies, they give love! __________________ NancyJoey Proud members of the CrAzYcLuB and YAP! ** Just Say No to Puppymills – Join YAP! Yorkshire Terrier Club of America – Breeder Referrals Last edited by Nancy1999; 03-01-2008 at 10:17 AM.

03-01-2008, 10:25 AM	#4
Grannyb YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Virginia Posts: 647	Ah, don't feel bad. My Toto is the same way, and I have had him for almost 3 years. He loves to play, go for walks, and sleeps with me. When we have company or the grandchildren are here, he just goes wild. He loves everybody. He is just not a cuddle dog. There are times that he really likes to be petted etc. but he rarely licks me or gives me kisses. I guess he does love me because when I'm gone, he won't eat or drink water until I return. When I come in, it's like I have been gone for a month. He jumps all over me, but still, no kisses. __________________ Proud Mommy of Toto and Prissy

03-01-2008, 10:39 AM	#6
ali Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Monrovia, Maryland Posts: 114	I think he will come around. How old is he? When I first got Snickers he was 8 weeks old. I was expecting him to be up all night crying and wanting to be held all the time. From day one he slept through the night and never wanted to be held. He seemed to be happy sleeping on the floor or playing with my Boxer than being with me. He also would love other people when they came over. He is now 10 months old and will lay next to me and put his front paws on me for a little head rub. He has really warmed up to me over the last couple of month on his own time. I think it had to do with how he spent the first 8 weeks of his life. He only had 1 other sibling and a 6 weeks they were separated from their mother and each other and placed into their own crate. He learned to be on his own from an early age. It made me sad at first, he was a gift so I didn't know this. But, he has always been a great puppy , pretty much came paper trained and went to outside potty training in no time. I think your pup will come around on his own time. He knows that you are always there for him and just enjoys seeing the people who pop in and out of his life. __________________ Alice's boys Snickers , and Seamus

03-01-2008, 10:27 AM	#5
ashleylewis Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: florida Posts: 32	idk he follows me around our house and stuff (except for when our other dog is playful, then he doesn't care where I am lol) but yesterday I was at work for ten hours (which is a very rare occurrence, I'm not usually at work for over three hours at a time) and when I came home at night, he acted more like I had been there all day. He was sitting in my closet chewing on a sandal because I guess I forgot to shut the door before leaving, and when I came into the room he sat up, but he didn't wag his tail or come to me or anything. If it was anyone else, I'm pretty sure he would have darted right at them.

03-01-2008, 11:23 AM	#8
a2luckygirl YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: HASTINGS, NE- 4 NOW!!! Posts: 2,208	Banjo gets excited around new people- he loves new people, and to have some company come over!!! But I know he loves me! If I fall asleep on the couch- he is laying by the couch when I wake up! And I do get sweet kisses a lot! But even the vet gets kisses!! Your Baby loves you!!! __________________ :I PLAYING....THE BANJO........ AND KISSING MY MOMMY:kiss3

03-01-2008, 11:39 AM	#9
bjh Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Southeast Texas Posts: 7,959	I think your Yorkie loves you and he knows that you are the pack leader. He has respect for you. All Yorkies get excited when they see someone different and they try to win approval of those people. It sounds like you are doing a great job. I have a 5 1/2 month old female that was giving my husband kisses and she would not give me a kiss and it kind of hurt my feelings but last night when I was getting ready to go to bed I bend down to tell her good night and she kissed me on the nose. Some things just take a little time. Last edited by bjh; 03-01-2008 at 11:40 AM.

03-01-2008, 12:06 PM	#10
Tiggerwit Just me 'n my boys Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Murphy, TX Posts: 4,596	Ahh don't feel bad, Alphy does the same thing. I know he loves me, he cuddles me and follows me everywhere but doesn't give me kissies. Everyone else gets the kissess. Think it's my breath? __________________ "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle." Alphy 's Roxy

03-01-2008, 12:19 PM	#11
Maxi My Little Man! Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: New York Posts: 2,189 Blog Entries: 1	Ah dont feel bad. I agree with others that your baby will come around. When they are puppies everything for them is new and exciting. When Maxi was a puppy he wasnt as affectionate as he is right now. He would get so excited with strangers when we would be outside. He would say hello with the wagging tail to everyone he sees. As the time passed by now he is so affectionate with me that he is always giving kisses. So dont worry he ll come around. Im sure he loves you, you are his mommy. I would also suggest playing different games because puppies love that. Challenge him with different games and maybe also start training him with different commands. Those are great examples of bonding with your pup. __________________ Watch Maxi on Youtube! By purchasing pet store or other puppy mill puppies, you support the abuse of innocent animals!

03-01-2008, 12:21 PM	#12
lopresm YT Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Long Island, New York Posts: 328	He loves you and feels most secure with you! Mothers can be taken for granted you know! Your pup sounds wonderful. Enjoy him!

03-01-2008, 12:23 PM	#13
Charlene1963 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Nova Scotia Posts: 166	In our puppy class we were instructed to "wear our dogs" by tying their leash around your waist and getting him to accompany you as you do chores around the house. We were told that this would help the dog bond to the owner and get used to taking cues from the owner's actions. 20 minutes a day is what was recommended. I quite enjoyed doing this. __________________ Charlene and Ziggy Member of the Little Gentleman's Club

03-01-2008, 12:28 PM	#14
ginalynn Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Prestonsburg Kentucky Posts: 167	Otis is the same way he sleeps in my bed, he wants you to pet him only when he wants it, he does not like just sitting in my lap to cuddle but when I leave and come home he is so excited to see me, so I know he loves me. He is just not very affectionate. He will give me kisses every now and then.. That is just the way yorkies are, I guess...... __________________ Gina and Otis We are members of Little Gentlemans Club and the Official TeaPot Club

03-01-2008, 07:22 PM	#15
Karrie Donating YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Missouri Posts: 903	Bailey didn't become a "lap" dog until she was around 6 mos old. I was told that yorkies bond with men more than women (I've read it too) - but fortunately, Bailey bonded with me - whew! It took a while.