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Old 02-13-2008, 11:20 AM   #1
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so i've had Leo for only 5 days and already wanna take him back.He is a loving puppy.He whines everytime i put him in his pen.Today is the first day that i left him home alone in the pen.He will be alone for 7hrs each day.He had few accidents inside the house.I try to take him out after his feedings and naps.I dont know why i feel like this.I couldnt wait to get him and now i want to take him back.My husband is so attached to Leo,he loves him.He takes care of him most of the time.He takes him out in the am and before bedtime.The breeder said i would have to take him back this fr so i can get the refund back.I dont know what to do.She has been very helpful with potty training tips and everything else.
My hubby doesn't want to take Leo back.He said we made a decision to have this puppy and we are keeping him.
I know this is only a puppy phase and it will get better once he is older.I never had a small dog.Always had a bigger dog.Not used to this.It makes me sad that i dont feel a connection with him.I feel like a bad person now
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Don't beat yourself up. Maybe this is what it took for you to decide that this is not the right thing for you. Consider yourself lucky that the breeder is willing to take him back and offer a refund.
YOu must be honest w/yourself, you dont want to regret this forever.
Good luck w/whatever you decide!
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Sorry to hear your having second thoughts. I know this stage can be frustrating at times but believe me, I have 2 that are fully trained.....and now a puppy again and going thru it all over again....sometimes it feels like there's no end in sight but there is. Please don't beat yourself up over it though. I know you said you had larger dogs before but did you get them as puppies or were they arlready trained. Maybe you and your hubby need to sit down and discuss this between today and tomorrow and hopefully decide what is best for you right now...you definitely want all members of the family to be in agreeance...believe it or not, puppies can sense the emotions we feel so just do what's right for him. At least you have the option to get your money back.

Would you be happier getting a dog that's a little older? Maybe you can try a yorkie rescue.

Good Luck to you in whatever you decide.
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Old 02-13-2008, 11:39 AM   #4
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Hi there, I'm sorry you feel this way- I can relate 100%. In Oct. of 06 we rescued a fantastic golden retriever, Lila. We absoluately adore her. In the spring of 07, we decided to get another one, and drove the five hours to Salt Lake to rescue another from the GR rescue down there. We met Cooper, and my hubby fell in love instantly. I didn't feel "it" for him, but agreed b/c hubby liked him so much. We brought him home and it was the worst three weeks ever. I had no connection to him, and worst of all, just didn't like him- I can't tell you the guilt I felt. Plus he had horrible allergies and try dealing with health problems on top of a dog you don't adore. Even though hubby liked him, we sat down and had a long talk, and decided to take him back. It just wasn't fair to him.

I am sorry to hijack your thread, but just wanted you to know that sometimes it just doesn't work out. Yorkies are HIGH maintenance, HIGH energy, and all in all, terriers. How will you feel if he has health problems later in his life? Or takes a year to potty train?

The whole family needs to be on board. Maybe you and your husband should go to the pound an adopt something grown up, that needs a good home. There are so many out there. Good luck, and please don't be so hard on yourself!
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I'm so sorry this hasn't been the experience you expected! I can relate a bit. I desperately wanted a second Yorkie and was so thrilled to bring Riley home. We had so many issues in the beginning, from having to keep her separate from Penny due to a health issue with Penny, to Riley's constant diarrhea, hypoglycemic episodes, refusal to eat leading to force feeding, kennel issues, etc. It was so frustrating, and I wondered if I would ever bond with her... and I wondered what was wrong with me.

It did get better, though. And she is now my heart.

So, if you and hubby decide to stick it out, know that things will improve with time, love, and patience.

If not, I think it's very kind of your breeder to offer to take him back. It sounds as if the breeder has the puppy's best interests at heart.
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the problem is my hubby doesnt want to take him back.Its like my opinion doesnt even matter.
I will sit down with him again and talk tonite
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the problem is my hubby doesnt want to take him back.Its like my opinion doesnt even matter.
I will sit down with him again and talk tonite

Hey, I'm only about 20 mins from wash dc...do you want me to come beat him on the head?? Seriously though, I hope when he sees how serious you are about this , he will take everything you tell him into consideration...best of luck. Please keep us posted.
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Are you just maybe tired & frustrated? The first week we had logan I was very emotional I was getting no sleep & when I would take him out to potty all he would do is bite my feet. I came inside & told my husband to take the puppy away from me & sat & cried. My husband said we could take him back if I couldn't handle it, so I slept on it & the next morning realized that I wanted logan & everything was fine. It takes a lot of patience in this stage, they are frustrating & exhausting just like a child. I would just make sure you're taking him back for the right reason. If you truely feel this isn't the dog for you & your not going to bond with it then by all means return it. But if it's just that you're frustrated & tired & not used to the constant attention these dogs need, these are things that will change in time.
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the problem is my hubby doesnt want to take him back.Its like my opinion doesnt even matter.
I will sit down with him again and talk tonite
I'm so sorry, I wish you can find a connection with this baby.. but... its obvious your husband has, why don't you keep him for a while since your husband is already attached and maybe you'll start to feel a bond too.
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I just want to let you know that alot of people understand how you are feeling. Though I've never wanted to take Jamie back to his breeder there are moments when he makes me want to scream. But thats nothing new. People feel like that with skin babies. Its easy to get overwhelmed. There are several things that will help you. First of all belly bands are great! While they aren't a full time training tool sometimes they really do save your sanity. Secondly (and this is where the belly band will come in), you MUST wear him out. Playing with Jamie is the one this that has made things easier on me. He can only go soooo long before he needs to lay down and rest. Heck if you put a belly band on him and put him on the floor he'll probably tire himself out running zoomies around the house. Then put his favorite treat in his crate and put him in there for a little nap. Be sure and put a blanket or towel over the top of his crate to help him relax and sleep.

Also I don't know how old he is. But from the time we got Jamie til he was almost 5 months old he was in a Graco PackandPlay with his blankets and toys on one end and his potty pad on the other. Because from what I've learned our babies can't learn to hold it until they are around 16 weeks. Now matter what you decide, good luck!
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Awww, I'm sorry you're feeling like that and of course it doesn't make you an awful person. The first few weeks can be pretty rough. It is a tough situation since your hubby has bonded with him.
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so i've had Leo for only 5 days and already wanna take him back.He is a loving puppy.He whines everytime i put him in his pen.Today is the first day that i left him home alone in the pen.He will be alone for 7hrs each day.He had few accidents inside the house.I try to take him out after his feedings and naps.I dont know why i feel like this.I couldnt wait to get him and now i want to take him back.My husband is so attached to Leo,he loves him.He takes care of him most of the time.He takes him out in the am and before bedtime.The breeder said i would have to take him back this fr so i can get the refund back.I dont know what to do.She has been very helpful with potty training tips and everything else.
My hubby doesn't want to take Leo back.He said we made a decision to have this puppy and we are keeping him.
I know this is only a puppy phase and it will get better once he is older.I never had a small dog.Always had a bigger dog.Not used to this.It makes me sad that i dont feel a connection with him.I feel like a bad person now
5 days is really not enough of an adjustment time to expect that they won't cry in thier crate. 7 hours is a long time for a Yorkie puppy to be alone in thier crate too. If you really feel like you can't make a connection with this pup probably better to take him back. Good luck.
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I'm so sorry things haven't worked out like you hoped. Puppies, of any breed, are a lot of work, but the "puppy" in terriers seems to last longer, sometimes forever. Why don't you have your husband read some of the posts you are getting, hopefully, if he sees you have really thought about this to the point you have reached out for other Yorkie mom's and dad's opinions he will see this is hard for you but you are really trying to do the right thing, especially for the puppy. Unfortunately, you don't have a lot of time to decide because of the refund, and Yorkies are so expensive that certainly enters into it. I started with 1, went to 2 and now have 3 and it gets really hectic at times, but wouldn't trade it for the world. Considering your short time to decide, might be best all around to take the puppy back and consider going with an older Yorkie or even a different, calmer breed. Good luck to you. I'm in MD, so I'm close, hmmmm.....maybe I could do 4!
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I agree with what everyone else had said. If you really don't feel right about it, then I'd suggest voicing your concerns to your husband taking him back to the breeder.

However.. there is hope. The second day we had Franklin, I realized how much of my time would be taken up and how much less freedom I had to do what I wanted and I started second guessing my decision. They grow on you, though.. and then they capture your heart and you couldn't let them go even if you wanted to. It does get better with time. You get used to having him around and they do eventually calm down once their older. Everybody has those moments and every now and then I still have them.. but then I think about how sweet he is when he's cuddling on my lap and everything gets better.

Hang in there.
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I wish you the best of luck. I hope you make the right decision for the pups sake.

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