Jaya loves new pup more than us! :(

[Jaya and Jenna]

Hi Everyone. My name is Pam and i'm new to this site!

We have a 6 month old yorkie (Jaya) who we have had for four months now. We just introduced another yorkie (Jenna) who is 11 weeks old now.

It feels as though we have lost Jaya to the new puppy, which is very.... sad because I miss her! I don't know if I'm overreacting, or the introduction of Jenna just happened to fall during Jaya's maturing, or not....... but the thing is, from the very first night Jenna came to live with us, Jaya changed over night. Jaya has become reserved...and much more "mature"..almost mother-like to the new pup...and she no longer plays with us. Now she still gets excited when we come into the room...... but she no longer plays with us, or nibbles on our slippers or the hem of our jeans or any of her usual play... It all stopped when Jenna came to live with us, and it feels as though we have lost Jaya to the new pup.

Now, she loves the new puppy...they play a lot...and fight a lot as well as she is still adjusting to sharing her things with Jenna and asserting dominance (she does get jealous... if the new pup comes near us, she'll growl and shove her away from us). And sometimes Jaya will be gazing at me or my husband ...with sadness? I don't know if I am over analyzing or what, but she has such soul in her eyes, and when she just sits there gazing at us, i sometimes wonder if she's upset with us for bringing the new puppy into the home. Yet that contradicts her behaviour because if i seperate the two of them, she gets very upset and instead of playing with us, she will be wandering around the room looking for Jenna. She acts like a mom to the new pup.


My question is, has anyone else experienced this? Jaya is just like our child, and we brought in the new pup so Jaya would have a playmate during the times we couldnt be with her to play, but its like she's totally forgotten about us. Do I just need to get over this? I just feel really sad because I miss the bond we had with Jaya before Jenna came! And I wonder if it was even worth it to get the new pup.

What are your feelings in regards to this?

[parker]

Aww I haven't really experienced this as I am getting ready to add a new girl to our family with Parker (he will be about 6 months as well). But what I think it could be is the transition, they have to get used to one another and her motherly like instinct coming into play. I wouldn't read into it too much and enjoy having the new baby around. I am sure others will suggest too is not take away any rights that she had before the new baby came into the house. Allow her to do the things she always did. Anyways, welcome to YT and congrats on the new baby!! I am sure you will get some great advise from YT!!

[sweetheartsok]

I know exactly what you are talking about. Mindy was about 6 months when we introduced Bear and she changed a lot too. She totally took over as mother to the Bear. Like yours she matured over night and was no longer our little baby. All she wants to do is play with Bear. I've gotten used to it now and slowly she is getting back to her old self and wanting to cuddle with me. Now Bear is my big momma suck and Mindy doesn't seem to mind that at all. I loved watching the two of them play together and especially when they play tug of war. I know it's hard at first to get used to the transition but everything will work out perfectly. Give it some time.

[Amy81]

Welcome to YT and congrats on your new baby!! Jenna is a beautiful name!

[Yorkiekids]

Welcome to YT. It may take your older pup time to get use to the baby.

[charly]

Welcome to yt. Some first in home furbabies can be territorial. But time and patience with working with both can be a great outcome.

[FL Tink]

Welcome to YT. We hope you stick around as your babies grow...and of course we hope you post pics!!!

[KathyinCali]

I had the same experience with my German Shepherds. When I brought Scout home Ranger changed overnight from being a real mama's boy to only having eyes for Scout. It did get better with time but in my case Ranger was never the same.

I know it's very selfish but as much as Lucy would probably enjoy a playmate she will not be getting a sister/brother in part for that reason (the other being I travel extensively with her and two would be too much for mein that respect). Pretty awful of me huh?

Looks like it really boils down to the individual dog

Oops - Forgot to add Welcome!

[Jaya and Jenna]

Hello Everyone, thank you for the welcome :-)

I am SO saddened to hear that...... I am expecting the same Kathy... i don't think Jaya will change back... we will never get her back

I should have sensed it before we got Jenna though... every time we went over to my sisterinlaw's (who has a maltese), she would go crazy for him. I know I'm just being selfish... i should be happy that we gave her a bestfriend, I just feel SO SAD cuz I miss her.

We have tried to make the adjustment as easy as possible for her... we did a lot of research before getting Jenna, and we give her more attention and try to keep things exactly as they were before. Family has even mentioned that we favor the older one, but we explain that its not favortism, but that its about making Jaya feel the same as she did before.

[littlewhip]

Welcome to yt, love her name it should get better, its a normal adjustment for them, as they get older i dont think they need us as much as a new playmate, witch is a great idea, all 5 of mine play together, leaving me out but i love to watch them play, its a blast

[Jaya and Jenna]

.......... i was thinking..... and it really is complete selfishness on my part. I have to let go of Jaya is all. I just miss her!

My husband and I don't have any children yet, and I'm sure Jaya and Jenna will experience the same thing we are right now, when we have our first child. I just gotta let go!

[kwaymon]

At least they don't hate each other

[KathyinCali]

Originally Posted by kwaymon

At least they don't hate each other

Amen to that!

[Brooklynn]

Just to add my two cents here lol...females do tend to be independent when they get older...not that they dont love you the same it's just it has to be their idea and not yours. I don't think it has anything to do with the addition of Jena...females are more prone to independence than males. Brookie is my second yorkie and she's my heart dog but she's independent that's just a yorkie female! My males are more loving than my females...don't take it personally Jaya loves you but she's a female yorkie and she's independent!
JMHO

Donna Bird
Brooklynn's Yorkshire Terriers

[Brookef18]

And I was so afraid Chewy would either hate the new pup or love her and not us ny more... But he loves her and loves us... he is a year and a half and maybe the age has something to do with it. He does get a sad look sometimes when we are paying attention to Sadie, but we pay so much attention to him and it;s been just about two weeks so he seems to be doing really good.

Maybe this is an age thing. Pay tons of attention to the older dog and give some treats when the pup isn't looking.... The way to their heart is through the stomach! Go on some walks with the older dog too to get some one on one bonding time!