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12-02-2007, 05:41 PM | #1 |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Jersey Shore
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| Missing My Newman. I'm having such a tough time right now and couldn't think of anywhere to turn - where anyone would understand but here. As Christams is approaching I'm finding myself so down. I miss my Newman so much. Newman was my first Yorkie and I lost him back in July to cancer. When the cancer spread we couldn't do anymore for him and had to put him down. Our family was devestated but as my husband and sons have moved on and healed from the loss I'm finding it very difficult. My husband says he understands but I know he thinks I'm over reacting or just plain nuts. I just find that as I'm sitting there I just start to sob. We put the tree up today and I just couldn't stop crying and I'm crying now as I'm typing this. I have five Yorkies - Lilly came into our lives a month after we lost Newman. We weren't planning anymore but Lilly was a rescue - just 12 weeks and tiny. You hardly ever find a yorkie this young and this tiny and I felt like it was meant to be. Hubby says you have five to fill you're heart and you have to realize that animals don't last forever. I know he's right about that but it does not stop the loss and pain I'm feeling. This is our first Christmas without him and I just remember how much he loved it when the tree went up and how he'd know that a stocking full of goodies was on it's way for him. I just wish I could be happy and not so down. I miss him so much. Elaine |
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12-02-2007, 05:49 PM | #2 |
No Longer a Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Seneca, SC
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| I know how you're feeling, the thing is you can always miss them, and there is nothing wrong with that, but, you have to realize you did the humane thing by having him put down. We had a golden retriever that was had to have put down at 18 years. She also had cancer..When we took her in to the vets and he diagnosed it, I couldn't let them put her down at that time just yet..so, we brought her back home, but, 2 weeks later, she was getting worse, and I couldn't let her suffer anymore, so, I had my husband take her back to the vet, where we had them cremate her, and we buried her urn under her favorite tree..I cried for 2 days straight, but, then I just thought, you know, she had 18 long years, and she was very well taken care of, she brought us a lot of joy, and in the end, we stood by her by letting her go to where she woulnd't have to suffer anymore..All I can tell you, is you have to let go, you can't bring him back, and he's not in pain anymore... |
12-02-2007, 05:51 PM | #3 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Wisconsin
Posts: 128
| I'm sorry that you are feeling such sadness. Losing a pet is something that no one else can relate to- they give you nothing but love and positive emotions and that is hard, if not impossible, to replace. I can relate to how you are feeling. Newman was a lucky boy to be so loved! |
12-02-2007, 05:55 PM | #4 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Lancaster, PA
Posts: 4,327
| Elaine, I know how you feel. This is supposted to be a Happy time of the year, but for people who have lost pets or loved ones, it's sad. Because we can't help but think of them. I hope you feel better soon and can enjoy the Holidays. Take Care....
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12-02-2007, 06:35 PM | #5 |
Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida
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| I know how you feel, unfortunately Every holiday, their birthday, the day you got them, it all just hurts I miss my Starr every single day, too. Hang in there! Only time helps, though how much time is SO individual.
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12-02-2007, 06:38 PM | #6 |
All Dogs Go To Heaven Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: By The Lake
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| Elaine, prayers for your sadness, love & hugs for you.
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12-02-2007, 06:42 PM | #7 |
Lovin' My Mika-Monster Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: New Jersey
Posts: 1,462
| I'm so sorry I know exactly how you feel, I lost my Max 9 years ago this Valentine's Day, and I'm still not over it... I hate Valentine's day, because everyone's so happy and all I can think about is my little guy Be happy, and enjoy your babies now, it's the most you can do
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12-02-2007, 06:43 PM | #8 |
My Tiny Treasures Donating Member | Your def not alone and I know EXACTLY how you feel I'm so sorry for your loss and I know it hurts. I lost my Simon in June, after 15 years of being my companion, going thru many life changes with me, and just being there with me as my best friend, I held him in my arms as he had a stroke or heart attack and looked in my eyes as he took his last breath and I too am still struggling with this. I put my xmas tree up by myself and had lots of time to think and I just balled. EVERY year Simons favorite spot to sleep was under the tree he got soooooooo excited when I would put the skirt up. Well this year guess what. I won't be cleaning up all the long cat hair under the tree I so regret ever complaining I had to So I'm right here with you. I feel your pain and I hope yours heals real soon. Take care!!! |
12-02-2007, 06:47 PM | #9 |
Mommy Loves Koda & Kacy! Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Home of the NY Yankees
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| I understand your pain, Prayers are going you way!!! Hugs and More Hugs
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12-02-2007, 06:47 PM | #10 |
and Bernie's mom too!" Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Pennsylvania
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| Elaine, this is a hard time of year. I'm so sorry for your loss and understand completely what you're going through. In time the pain will lessen, but we never stop missing them. My heart goes out to you. Snuggle with your babies...they really can help.
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12-02-2007, 06:50 PM | #11 |
Donating YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Georgia
Posts: 6,234
| I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way. I've been there and it is hard to shake the sadness sometimes, especially around the holidays. It takes time to heal. (hug)
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12-02-2007, 09:51 PM | #12 |
YT Addict Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Alexandria, VA
Posts: 403
| my rusty I got a dog for my 5th birthday. It didn't die until I was 20. He was my whole life... good and bad. I still to this day.... many years later (well... not that many) cry for him now and then. Some take a part of our heart that we will never get back. |
12-03-2007, 05:27 AM | #13 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: upstate ny
Posts: 5,847
| Just give yourself time. You're still grieving and it really hasn't been that long. Things will get easier as time goes on but for now it's ok to just feel however it is you're feeling. Don't make yourself feel bad for how you "should" be feeling or others feel you "should" be feeling. Just allow yourself to feel whatever you're feeling. |
12-03-2007, 06:16 AM | #14 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Texas
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| my dogs are like my kids to me, i dont think your over reacting at all. i know i would be the same way, actually i kind of am right now. if you want to talk you can pm me
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12-03-2007, 06:27 AM | #15 |
AND Friday also! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Long Island
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| it must be so hard, Newman was such a huge part of your life. I wish I could reach out and help you ... a small hug, a smile, a day at the spa, a bar of chocolate??? Nothing can replace that void you feel. I am so sorry ... {{{{{BIG HUG}}}}}}}}}
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