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02-20-2006, 06:55 AM | #1 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Maryland
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| Help with Adopted Yorkie Hi! We adopted a 7 year old male Yorkie from Yorkie Rescue 2 weeks ago.. He was abused and is doing wonderfully with me and our other Yorkie however, he is scared to death of my husband and any males... I was told he was abused by a man so that explains it but how can we overcome this? My husband loves dogs and really feels bad that Charlie is so scared... it is really weird because if I am holding him he will let my husband pet him and give him treats. If I am sitting next to my husband Charlie will jump up and let him pet him then.. but if I am not in the room or every time my husband comes in the house - as soon as he comes in the door Charlie goes nuts and acts like he is a serial killer! When he does let my husband pet him it is like he cannot get enough attention and he will keep pawing his hand to make him keep petting him.. so why does he only act like this in certain situations.. and oh yeah if my husband does pick him up - Charlie is very still and lets him pet him (he is stiff as a board though) and when my husband goes to put him down Charlie immediately growls and spins around to face him - could someone have really hurt him or something? we tried this a few different times and each time as he is putting him back down Charlie does this -spins around growls and faces him. He is not a mean dog because he lets me brush him, give him baths, put sweaters on him, etc... without a fuss. also, how can I teach him to poop in the yard and not on my patio and sidewalk? is there something to entice them to go in a certain area? I hope someone can help me! Our other yorkie we got as a pup and of course he is the most loveable little rag doll - never stiff and very trusting.. |
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02-20-2006, 07:18 AM | #2 |
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| I will never understand why a stinking coward would abuse any animal. I think if your husband ignores him for a little while until the dog gets comfortable with him being in the same room it might help. Have your husband feed him so he connects your husband with a good thing..eating. Just be patient and he'll come around. As far as doing his business, pick him up and take him to the same spot that he last went. If and when he finishes praise him, pick him up and take him back into the house. He has to know the difference between going outside to play and going out to do his business. Patience there too is the key.. |
02-20-2006, 07:25 AM | #3 |
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| Your little one need more time to adjust to your husband . I am very confident that as time goes by Charlie will be well with him . I will never understand why peoples are so crual with animals . Those little ones have so much to give to this mixed up world ? |
02-20-2006, 10:17 AM | #4 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Maryland
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| thanks Jim - I know it is sad to think a man has to pick on a tiny dog.. my guess is the woman probably liked the dog better than him and he was jealous!! imagine that.. or he was cruel to the woman too so he tormented her and the dog.. we are going to be patient because I feel he deserves it.. I just can't wait until he can fully relax because we can really tell he wants so badly to feel safe. |
02-20-2006, 10:20 AM | #5 |
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| It has been said before......patience, patience, patience! I'll bet Charlie will come around when he learns your husband will not hurt him. I would suspect you are right about him being afraid because a man has hurt him. When he learns your husband won't hurt him, he will be fine. I'm no trainer, but have had some experience with all sorts of dogs. My Rowdy (Aus. Cattle Dog) was the same way with my son-in-law at first. Rowdy loves p-nut butter and p-nuts, so Steve fed him p-nuts and got his long lasting devotion from that. But it didn't happen over night. |
02-20-2006, 10:23 AM | #6 |
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| Gazou- I hope so. thanks! it is heartbreaking to know a dog can be terrorized every day- just watching his actions and I know he was always on alert.ready to defend himself.. that is so sad..well his life has changed now because we have a quiet home and our other little Yorkie is the happiest little dog! he has never had a hard day in his life.. he thinks Charlie is crazy when he sees him acting jumpy. |
02-20-2006, 11:16 AM | #7 |
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| Ah, that is so sad. God Bless you for helping him. I also think it will take time for him to learn that not ALL MEN are bad, I woud just take it slow, and easy, Maybe everytime your hubby comes home have him give him a treat, so eventually he starts to associate, man comes home= treat, and eventually he'll see it as a good thing.. It's worth a shot. Load hubby up with treats before he leaves for work, or have him keep some in his car. Keep us posted on Charlies progress.
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02-20-2006, 11:43 AM | #8 |
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| Lisasyorkies - From what I've read, you need to make your husband the keeper of all the goodies. Let your husband feed him. Let your husband give him the new toys. Let your husband give him lots of treats. Praise him heavily anytime he is close to your husband. If it was me, I'd have my husband carry treats in his pocket all the time. I'd tell my husband to give Charlie treats anytime Charlie comes close to him. Your husband can gradually expand his expectations of how close Charlie has to come OR for how long, before he gives a treat. As far as the going rigid and then turning and growling when put down, I think Charlie is clearly telling you guys that he isn't ready for your husband to pick him up. It doesn't matter why. It only matters that he's not ready. A dog has three options when he's frightened - he can flee (not possible when he's being held), he can fight (be glad he's not choosing that option) or he can freeze. Once he's put down, he's secure enough to choose the fighting back option. I'd tell your husband NOT to pick him up until Charlie acts like he's ready. It's okay to let Charlie set the pace on this one - HE's the one with bad background.
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02-20-2006, 11:47 AM | #9 |
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| PS I'm confident that Charlie WILL improve! It just may not be on your time table. The smarter he is, the longer he will remember that it was a male who was mean to him.
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02-20-2006, 12:51 PM | #10 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Maryland
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| thanks guys! you all are giving me good advice and I will have my husband give him lots of treats and be patient with him. I am tracking his progress in a journal so we can see just how long it takes for him to become trusting and "happy". I will post a picture soon if someone tells me how!! thanks |
02-20-2006, 08:27 PM | #11 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Yonkers, New York
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| I am no expert on the subject to be giving advice so I wish you alll the best of luck. Just show lots of love and attention which I am sure you will to this poor baby that needs it. Good Luck..............
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05-08-2006, 10:53 AM | #12 |
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| Good luck to both of you for the love you are showing that special yorkie. He will give you both all the love you can handle when he is confident he will not be hurt again. Hang in there. |
05-08-2006, 11:01 AM | #13 |
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| First, I'd like to say what a wonderful person you are for adopting this little guy and for giving him a second chance in life. I think everyone gave you awesome advice. I just wanted to add GOOD LUCK and please post some pictures of your 2 little angels!
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05-08-2006, 01:59 PM | #14 |
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| My Jolene was abused by a man before she came into our family. She initially was my mom's dog before I took her in and mom got her from the abusive situation. She was TERRIFIED of men...my dad, husband and brother in law...for a while but she is fine now. We just let her be and go to the men as she felt safe and never forced her into it. Now, she is my husband's baby girl although she loves me too. Now it is a different story when an unfamiliar man enters the house. You would believe she would eat their legs off in a second, but I never have to worry about a stranger being around!!
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05-08-2006, 02:59 PM | #15 | |
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| Omg!!!!!!!1 Quote:
That is so sad...I am so happy that u found each other and she is in a loving home...Great News!!!!!!!
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